The Soft Way

By Rachael Ebanks-Gold

This podcast is about creating change.

Not through force, pressure, or following a long list of ‘should’s.

But through the ongoing practice of returning to yourself. Knowing yo

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How many episodes does The Soft Way have?

The podcast currently has 32 episodes available.

The Soft Way episodes:

September 20, 2026 Remembering Your Capacity to Create With Life
Dissatisfaction can make life feel fixed, especially when we’ve been living with the same circumstances, thoughts or frustrations for a while.
In this episode, I explore our capacity to shape our lives: loosening the grip of what doesn’t feel good, getting clearer about what we want instead, and staying open to possibilities we can’t necessarily see yet.
I share a couple of times in my life when something I wanted felt far away, and how clarity, intention and action eventually led somewhere new.
I also touch on the role of spiritual practice in staying connected to yourself, so you can keep listening, choosing and responding as life unfolds.
A question to play with: What would you tell Life you wanted, if you trusted that somehow, at some point, it would meet you halfway?

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· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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30min
September 13, 2026 What Should I Be Doing?
What should I be doing with my life? What’s the right next step? Which path should I take?
When we don’t know, it can be tempting to try to think our way to an answer, researching, weighing up options, and putting tonnes of pressure on ourselves.
But what if ‘should’ is the wrong word?
In this episode, I explore the difference between what we think we should want and what a deeper part of us wants. From career choices to the way we spend an ordinary afternoon, what changes when we stop looking for the perfect answer and start paying attention to what makes us curious, what we desire and what gives us energy?
I also introduce three words I’ve been playing with: Ground · Open · Play. An approach to change that honours who you are and doesn’t require force.
I hope this brings relief.

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· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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27min
September 05, 2026 Guided Practice: From Reaction to Choice
We all have moments when strong emotions take hold, and we feel ourselves getting caught in familiar reactions.
In this guided meditation, I invite you to turn towards what’s happening within you, get curious about the patterns underneath the reaction, and create some space for a new response.
Find a quiet space, get comfortable, and join me when you’re ready.

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
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17min
August 30, 2026 Taking a Moment to Choose
What do you do when something comes up that you really don’t want to deal with?
Maybe you overthink it, avoid it, wish it would go away, or find yourself contracting around it before it’s even happened.
In this episode, I explore what can happen when we pause before falling into our usual patterns and take a moment to choose how we want to relate to what’s in front of us.
This episode also includes a short guided reflection to help you give space to your emotions and connect with your intentions.
A question to reflect on:
What if this is leading you to a new experience of yourself?

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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18min
August 23, 2026 The Conflict Between What You Want & What You Keep Doing
You know what you want to change, but somehow you continue to do the very things that keep you from it.
In this episode, I explore the inner push and pull that can arise when one part of us wants change while other parts seem invested in keeping things the same.
We’ll look at how the identities and patterns we develop can limit our sense of who we are, how less familiar parts of ourselves can reveal themselves, and how making space for more of who we are can create greater freedom and choice.
Something to reflect on...
At this moment, in this phase of your journey, what do you feel life is inviting you to step into?
How do you notice yourself resisting that?

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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30min
August 16, 2026 Finding Your Ground Again
When we get caught up in thinking, planning, doing and reaching for things outside ourselves, it can be surprisingly easy to slip back into self-doubt and worry.
In this episode, I share some reflections from my own experience and explore what it can mean to reconnect with the quieter, more spacious awareness beneath all the activity.
The second half of the episode is a guided practice to help you step out of the thinking, worrying, doing mind and reconnect with the grounded awareness that's always there.

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Something to reflect on...
Where in your life have you been caught in a momentum of doing, thinking or grasping? What might change if you allowed yourself to dip back into spacious presence more often?

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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20min
July 05, 2026In the Spirit of Keeping Going: Remember This
Life feels like a rollercoaster at times.
Hope to hopelessness.
Energy to exhaustion.
Confidence to doubt.
That movement alone can feel disorienting.
So in this episode, I offer you two gentle nudges to help you return to centre.
One is a way of seeing. The other is a way of being.
And as I often do, towards the end I guide you through a simple reflective practice to help you reconnect with the part of you that's feeling under pressure.
So if you’re feeling a bit depleted or over it, join me in today’s episode as we come back to what is true.
Questions to reflect on:
What part of you has been carrying the most right now?
How might you meet them where they are?

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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25min
June 21, 2026Inviting In What's Next For You
Is there something you're waiting for?
A new home.
A new relationship.
A new opportunity.
A deeper sense of confidence or purpose.
Something that's been calling to you for a while, but hasn't quite arrived yet.
In this episode, I explore ways to invite in what's next without forcing life to move faster than it wants to.
We begin with a mindful moment and a gentle reflection.
Then we explore:
The benefit of feeling "done" with a situation
The relationship between clarity, direction, and readiness
How creating space can help us reconnect with possibility
Ways to make room for what wants to emerge
A simple question that helped me explore sovereignty in a new way
Your energy as a form of evidence
What if you didn't need to force what's next?
What if you simply prepared the ground and let yourself be at peace?
With warmth,
Rachael

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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29min
June 14, 2026The Power & Discomfort of Letting Yourself Be Seen
There are moments in life when something in us wants to step forward.
To share an idea.
To express a feeling.
To start a new project.
And yet, alongside that desire, there may be fear.
In this episode, I explore the tension between these two energies: the part of us that longs to play, express, and expand, and the part that wants to protect us from discomfort, rejection, and uncertainty.
We explore:
Why visibility can feel so uncomfortable
The tension between expression and self-protection
Fear of rejection, judgement, and getting it wrong
What creating this podcast has taught me
The freedom that can emerge when we stop listening only to fear
Honouring both our need for safety and our desire to fully live
✧ Questions to Reflect On
What am I being invited to step forward into at this time?
Why is this important to me?
With warmth,
Rachael

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
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36min
June 08, 2026Trusting Your Own Evolution
There can be a tendency to think that change happens through force.
More effort. More discipline. More pressure.
But what if the deepest transformations unfold gently?
In this episode, I reflect on the subtle ways life seems to participate in our growth once an intention has been planted.
What if we allowed change to happen through relationship with life itself rather than pushing ourselves to instantly transform into a ‘better’ person?
We explore:
The difference between forcing change and participating in it
The unseen roots of change
How intention, attention, and action work together
A short practice at the end to help you connect with what wants to emerge from within you.
✧ Questions to Ponder
What quality of being is asking to take up more space in my life?
In what ways is this already happening?
With warmth,
Rachael
P.S. there are a few random electronic chirpy sounds I couldn’t edit out, thanks for your tolerance!

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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How to do it...
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25min

FAQs about The Soft Way:

How many episodes does The Soft Way have?

The podcast currently has 32 episodes available.