The Soft Way

By Rachael Ebanks-Gold

This podcast is about creating change.

Not through force, pressure, or following a long list of ‘should’s.

But through the ongoing practice of returning to yourself. Knowing yo

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How many episodes does The Soft Way have?

The podcast currently has 32 episodes available.

The Soft Way episodes:

March 19, 2026 When Life Feels Heavy: A Practice in Self-Compassion
Sometimes life just feels like a lot.
In this episode, I reflect on a moment of feeling downtrodden, and share what helps me when the instinct is to push through.
✧ We explore
– Naming and normalising moments when everything feels like a lot
– A short guided practice to help you slow down in real time (6:17–9:38)
– The RAIN framework as a steady way to meet difficult emotions
– Building steadiness through self-compassion
✧ A question for you
What are you carrying right now?
What would it look like to respond to yourself with care?

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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19min
March 10, 2026 Making Space for Who You’re Becoming
Have you ever caught yourself thinking *“That’s just who I am”…*and it didn’t feel good?
In this episode, we explore the identity stories we internalise, and how anxiety, self-doubt, and early experiences can shape the way we see ourselves.
Sometimes what we call personality is actually adaptation. A pattern formed in a particular environment. And when safety shifts, internally and externally, identity can shift too.
We explore:
✨ How early experiences shape the way we see ourselves
✨ The difference between personality and context
✨ How feeling safer can soften rigid identities
✨ How replacing a full stop with an ellipsis opens space for growth
This episode includes a short reflective pause to help you notice the conclusions you may be carrying, and create a bit of breathing room around them.
🌀 A question for you
What’s a defining sentence you’ve been saying about yourself?
Is it truly fixed, or could there be more to the story…?

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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20min
March 04, 2026 The Power in How You Respond
When life pushes your buttons, it can feel automatic to spiral, justify, or resist.
But what if the very moments that feel like blocks are actually invitations to reclaim your authority?
In this episode, we explore:
✨ Why daily irritations aren't in the way — they are the way
✨ The “secret satisfaction” of getting swept up in reactivity
✨ The choice that’s available in moments of contraction
✨ How steady presence shifts the tone of your day
We conclude with a gentle guided practice to help you experience the shift into centered awareness in real time.
🌀 A question for you
Where in your life do you feel pulled into reactivity?
What would choosing your response look like?

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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17min
February 24, 2026 Letting Yourself Feel Good, Even When Life Isn’t Perfect
This episode explores the art of consciously letting life love you (also known as ‘savouring’).
The mind naturally clings to what feels wrong, so it’s easy to end up feeling like it's all an uphill battle. Savouring helps bring balance back to our emotional life, widening the lens so we can experience the gems of our existence more deeply.
In this episode, we explore:
✨ The 3 core steps of savouring: Have, Enrich, Absorb
✨ The feelings you’re really seeking, and how to experience them now
✨ How building energy through savouring makes action feel more natural
✨ The optional step of Linking — using positive moments to steady yourself during difficulty
This episode also includes a brief guided moment so you can practice in real time.
🌀 A question for you
What feelings are you hoping a current goal will give you?
Where are small moments of those feelings already present in your life?
ANOTHER RESOURCE
If you’d like to explore this practice more deeply, I created a short video series here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLESMxST7GMUNEgS0NfqpTe97RA-0ae2Ga

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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29min
February 17, 2026 Learning To Trust When Things Aren't Clear
This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re ‘in-between’ chapters, lost or finding it hard to make peace with uncertainty.
If you’ve been caught in the pressure of “I should know by now,” this is a gentle reminder that uncertainty isn’t failure.
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A Question For You
What would it feel like to listen to the deepest part of me instead of the ‘shoulds’?

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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21min
February 10, 2026 When You Feel Stuck
This episode is for anyone who’s feeling stuck or trapped in a job (or another situation) that isn’t easy to change right now.
WE EXPLORE ✨
Five gentle perspective shifts to help you protect your energy and stay empowered.
REFLECTION QUESTION 🌀
What inner strength could I embody to make this feel almost like a non-issue?
A NOTE TO REMEMBER 🤍
You don't have to figure out how to fix this right now. Just keep choosing peace again and again.

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
⭐ On Apple Podcasts
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30min
February 03, 2026Forward, Gently
A reflection on shedding old layers, trusting what’s unfolding, and moving forward without forcing clarity or certainty.
In this episode, we explore:
How noticing what felt heavy last year can lead to lightness
Trusting yourself in decision-making without needing guarantees or “right answers”
The sense of a new energy this year; one that invites trust, openness, and gentle forward movement
Reflection Questions
What feels lighter or clearer for me now?
What’s my personal intention for this year?
Note to Remember
You don’t need to know all the steps to move forward gently.

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
⭐ On Apple Podcasts
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21min
January 27, 2026Remembering Who You Are
Beyond The Scrunched-Up Self -
In this episode, we explore who we are beneath the habits, beliefs, and identities we’ve picked up over time.
This is a gentle invitation to soften, loosen identification with the reactive parts, and reconnect with the spacious, steady awareness that’s been here all along.
Key Points
When we forget who we are, we tend to live from a contracted, fear-based identity that makes change feel harder than it needs to be
You don’t need to fix or eliminate any part of yourself — freedom comes from noticing what you are beyond habits, thoughts, and emotions
Softening and presence help us dis-identify from old stories and reconnect with clarity, trust, and inner stability
Note to Remember
If a thought makes you feel hard and contracted, it’s not truth. Let it go. Come into stillness. That’s where you the true you lies.

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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29min
January 23, 2026Softening the Need to Control
In this episode of The Soft Way, we explore the subtle but powerful shift that happens when we soften our inner world.
So much of modern life is lived from effort, control, and resistance. In this episode, we begin to notice the quality of the energy we’re living from, and how tension and overdoing can be invitations to let go.
Key Points
How overdoing and inner rigidity often arise from resistance rather than inspiration
Why softness and presence can restore clarity, energy, and inner balance
Experiencing a quieter form of power that comes from being rather than forcing
Reflection Questions
What happens in my mind when I let my body be soft?
What happens in my body when I release the need to control?
Note to Remember
Presence and peace, and any actions that come from that place, is true power.
(Intro music: Butterflies in my head by Mountaineer - Source: Uppbeat)

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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27min
January 13, 2026Being a Friend to Yourself
How Self-Compassion Changes Everything -
In this episode, we explore what it really means to be on our own side.
Key Points
Why self-criticism is often a learned form of protection
How kindness and self-compassion create inner safety and strength
Simple ways to offer yourself support when things feel overwhelming
Reflection Question
How can I best support myself today?
Note to Remember
Being a true friend to yourself increases your capacity to thrive.
(Intro music: Butterflies in my head by Mountaineer - Source: Uppbeat)

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Thanks for listening!
· Ways to go deeper ·
GET MY FREE GUIDED VISUALISATION
Journey ‘Into Deep Trust’ to connect with an internal source of support and guidance as you move forward on your path. Begin here: https://rachaelebanksgold.myflodesk.com/intodeeptrust
EXPLORE WORKING TOGETHER
If you want a space to connect with more of who you are and move towards what lights you up, I offer 1:1 depth coaching. Learn more & book a Connection Call: https://www.rachaelebanksgold.com/working-together
JOIN ME ON YOUTUBE
I’m experimenting with sharing more on video! My latest vid is an invitation to join me in softening, letting go, and noticing what shifts in that space:
https://youtu.be/2zp1VRlVO9o

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If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating ❤️
How to do it...
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27min

FAQs about The Soft Way:

How many episodes does The Soft Way have?

The podcast currently has 32 episodes available.