Finding someone for intimacy straight after a breakup is bad for your health and the new partner. It is also a recipe for disaster as it’s just a mechanism to fill the void that is suddenly missing. You are not ready to move to a new relationship until you have learned to accept the last one is over, whatever circumstance it ended in.

As long as there is emotional attachment left that you carry over it will move into your new relationship that will prevent your new intimacy being formed. Many times, people end up going back to the old flame behind the backs of the new one, leading to infidelity. In this episode I provide the 4 stages you need to go through to get over and move on to new happy fulfilling relationships.

Religious fasting is not only a time to just fast externally. It is a time for internal fasting of the ego, mind, spirit and the heart. It requires you giving up internal thoughts and desires that feed the ego in all it’s negative forms and fasting from the love of worldly things. It is to disassociate with the need for worldly things and connect your heart to the source of love. Many people fasting go through most of the day fasting from food and water but all they achieve is hunger and no internal blessings. No growth in self-control, no growth in finding inner peace through disconnecting with worldly needs and no better off spiritually. If you’re not fasting internally as much as externally, it is a hollow fast.

Find out how fasting is directly linked to removing the veils of your inner self, your inner child to becoming your genuine self.

Too much details in thinking prevents enjoying the moment, creating the memory and being in the present of what is happening. It also deters overcoming problems and encourages procrastinating. Keep it simple by moving past the nitty gritty details that will not benefit you in enjoying what you’re doing. Stop beating around the bush and admire the bush in all its beauty.

Stop arguing with your spouse when you can be better loving them and creating new memories. Let the scientists and the professors waste time on the details. If we became obsessed with how a car works and focused on that, we wouldn’t be able to enjoy the ride and the simplicity of just driving.

We’ve got everything wrong way around when it comes to food and character. The standard in society and teaching should be to say ‘it doesn’t taste bad for unhealthy’ food or 'its not good to be bad'. The thinking has become altered so people perceive bad as good, are rewarded by the bending of rules and laws.

We should be making eating healthy the norm and instead of calling eating bad food ‘a treat’ we should label it ‘a punishment’. You don’t need to change the world to think like this, but you can start by changing your perception and your children to live a healthier, happier life. Find out how to break false paradigms of beliefs as I did in this episode.

Wisdom and wanting to look and sound smart are two different things. A wise person is full of experiences, good and bad that has taught them how to avoid the bad situations in the future. They essentially learn preventative measures to reduce the chances of problems and mistakes. Master chess players become masters after memorising move combinations and learning to think many steps ahead because they are already aware of the patterns and move combinations, which allows them to make quicker but wise moves. A person trying to sound and look smart by producing quick witty remarks often than not makes mistakes which needs to be covered by excuses and false information or interpretation to hide the aspect they may be wrong. Take time to understand before speaking so that you learn wisdom.

Find out why wisdom is the essential knowledge for this world on this episode!

People say don’t worry about what others think of you but what you think of yourself. That is true, you shouldn’t worry about it, BUT you should carefully consider how you come across to others and how you show your personal brand to others. If you decided to live your life in a cave in a mountain then that would be fine, if you didn’t care. However, if you intend to network, to build relationships and interact with people then your value is worth as much as how you are perceived. Therefore, you can choose to be an ass, not care and expect people to accept you as someone who is rude, obnoxious or unattractive but don’t be surprised if your love life and relationships don’t last very long.

Find out what it takes to calibrate yourself well with others to build great relationships and an approachable personality in this episode.

Stop wasting time trying to be the 2nd class version of someone else. You cannot be someone else no matter how much you try, that spot has already been taken. Instead focus on being the best version of yourself. You are unique in everything even though your makeup is the same as everyone else. Our mind, heart and spirit are uniquely different, these are the elements that make me, me and you, you.

Yes, we should learn and be inspired by others but we don’t need to replicate them, we take the best of each person we are inspired by and create ourselves into something great with out elements. Once you discover what makes you yourself, you’ll never want to be a copy of someone else. You’ll become a leader.

Contentment and gratefulness are foundations of happiness. People look everywhere and at what everyone has except what they already have. Its not until life hits them hard and they realise what they had before an accident, before they lost a loved one and before they became ill was far better than they thought. Gratefulness lets you appreciate what you have, no matter how little. Greed on the other hand stops you from appreciating everything that you have no matter how much. Learn to reduce your lifestyle down to your needs rather than what you desire and you’ll be happier. Stop the things that influence you and create desire in you to want more, TV advertising and social media marketing techniques. I stopped watching TV in 2003 but before that I started to mute adverts, my phone I have now is a cheap ZTE blade that does all the functions I need, it cost me £75. Learn the 3 secrets I used to become grateful and content with my life and myself in this episode.