Are you a control freak? Do you coerce, threaten, use scare tactics, or manipulate in order to get people to "behave?" If so, you are fighting a losing battle. Control tactics may work for a while, but eventually, people will do what they will do, and all you've done is prolong the inevitable. Control isn't really about other people, it's about you, because if they're okay, then I'm okay. It's time to get rid of the illusion of control because the only person you are required to control is ... you.