Trust yourself
As we are in a time during the year, where many folks are putting in applications, and getting job offers to new jobs, I think this is a perfect time to talk about one specific topic which is trust.
As you may also be thinking about applying for new roles, I would question do you trust yourself? The reason that I ask this question is because I know for myself and for many of my clients there is this feeling that pops up. For you it may be a nagging very persistent feeling, or something that just shows up occasionally. Inside of that trust is a feeling of am I enough? Have you felt that way? Has ever shown up just when you are getting ready to accept a job offer, or even think about a role that might feel bigger to you. That not enough Ness, it's not the truth. It's not based in reality.
Let's really break that down. If the nagging voice in your head is asking, are you enough, what are you enough or not enough for? Are you enough for yourself? Is it that you may not be enough for your boss, for your peers, for your clients? Are these people looking you in the eye and telling you that you're not enough?
I've wager to guess if they are not. So then what is the root of that question? You may not like the answer. But you can certainly find it if you look in the mirror. The root of that question leads back to you. The truth is the not enough. Ness isn't true it's a lie. It's a story that you tell yourself consciously or subconsciously so often in your lifetime, but it probably feels true.
If nobody has told you today, this week, this month, this year, you are more than enough. Hard stop the end that's it. You are enough.
The moment you start to believe that you are enough, it unlocks a whole new world. Queue Ariel and the little mermaid. No I'm not gonna sing for you today and for that you're welcome. But real talk. It's a whole New World.
Years ago, I read a book by Oprah Winfrey. The book is called what I know for sure. And at some point in the book she's talking about you got no like you know like you know like you know. It sounds really funny to say out loud, but when she said that I knew exactly what she was talking about and I bet you that you do too. That knowing that, knowing of what you're capable of what you can do, what is coming what is possible. When you know that deep in your gut, how fast do things move into place to make it possible? Even when they may have been hazy at best before that.
This is where the trust comes in. This is where you get the opportunity to practice trusting yourself. This is where you get to know like you know without a doubt.
So let's lean into that. What do you want but feel like you don't deserve? When you think about that thing is something that you don't deserve what feeling does that stir up for you? Close your eyes and think about that thing maybe it's a job maybe it is a conversation maybe it is project maybe it is something else that you want in your life, but what is that feel like if you know beyond the shadow of a doubt that it is already yours?
You can get hours of coaching pay thousands, tens of thousands of dollars to become what you want. Real talk you don't become what you want. You can have the greatest desire, but if you don't believe that you are really truly worthy, if you don't know, deep in your gut that you are worthy, and may never come.
Now we talk about a lot of career things here go inspire, but I would entertain that. I have been put here and you are listening to me and my voice for more than just career things. Your internal self worth, shows up at work. If at any level, you are feeling like you are not enough or not worthy, it will show up in your leadership and your decision-making. If you're a boss and you have a team, there is nothing better that you can do for your team, then practicing your internal monologue and reinforcing self-worth. Your team and your business and you will be better for it.
A few ways that you can lean into that feeling and develop that worthiness muscle:
Do less be more
Practice, practice, practice.
Know like you know like you know (Oprah)
What you accept in the way people treat you is an outward reflection of your internal state. Use it to guide yourself and practice.
