The Soul's Work Podcast

We're kicking off Season 3 of the podcast by reconnecting with our souls! Janice and her guest Allyn Reid (founder of WooManity, a soul leadership development hub) discuss Allyn's work helping business leaders who have “tried everything” but hit a wall to shift toward running their business (and life) from a soul-led place. Allyn also shares how we all can begin the slow but transformative work of tuning into our soul so we can get out of autopilot mode and live with greater purpose and authenticity.

Show notes:

• 00:00: Kicking off Season 3 of the podcast!
• 01:28: What’s in store for Season 3
• 02:14: Support the podcast by reviewing and rating the podcast here: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/reviews/new/
• 02:40: How to connect with me
• 03:10: Allyn Reid’s bio
• 05:23: Introducing Allyn Reid
• 06:13: What is the soul?
• 07:39: Allyn’s soul-awakening (a near-death experience)
• 10:44: What it looks like when people aren’t living life from a soul-led place
• 15:04: Listening to the body to reconnect with the soul
• 18:12: When it gets challenging to be still and tune into our soul
• 22:25: Why business leaders work with Allyn in doing their own soul’s work
• 25:10: Phase 1 of the work: Resolving the ongoing patterns that aren’t working
• 29:34: Phase 2 of the work: Tapping into your own “medicine” and talents
• 31:03: Phase 3 of the work: Honing your “gateway drug” (your original gift)
• 35:11: How the pandemic has interrupted people running on autopilot
• 38:21: Why our greatest potential is not in our mind and “science”
• 43:33: Practice reconnecting with your soul: “Show me yes. Show me no.”
• 49:46: Allyn’s final words of wisdom
• 50:40: How to connect with Allyn

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Connect with Allyn Reid:

• Website: https://www.woomanity.com/ 
• Instagram: @woomanity | @thewomanbeing
• Facebook: @TheWooManity

Listen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

In this episode, Janice wraps up Season 2 of The Soul's Work Podcast with six of her biggest lessons learned from doing the soul's work over the past four years. 

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

In this episode, Janice closes out 2021 with a few of her big reflections on this big year – from reassessing and letting go of relationships, to exploring polyamory, to doing the vulnerable work of cultivating connection and community with others. She dives into practicing boundaries, exploring the unconventional path, doing the self-work, and of course tapping more into our authentic selves.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Thais Sky: https://www.thaissky.com/

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

In this episode, Janice gives a brief overview of attachment theory and the 4 attachment styles. Then she and her guest Mel share about their personal stories doing the work to move from anxiously attached tendencies to more secure attachment in relationships – including the heartbreaks, trauma-healing, deep inner reflection, and moments of self-empowerment along the journey.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

• @silvykhoucasian (Instagram) 
• Diane Poole Heller (Website)
• Power of Attachment (Diane Poole Heller)
• Healing Anxious Attachment Online Course (Heirloom Counseling) 
• Understanding Avoidant Attachment Online Course (Heirloom Counseling) 
• Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find–and Keep–Love (Amir Levine & Rachel Heller) 
• Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy (Jessica Fern)  
• "What Is Your Attachment Style? Attachment Theory, Explained" (mindbodygreen.com) 

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

In this episode, Janice shares her personal experiences navigating  boundaries – the good, the confusing, and the uncomfortable. First, she offers some personal examples to define what boundaries are and why they’re so important. Then, she shares three big lessons from her not-always-easy journey of navigating boundaries, including: 

• Tips for identifying our boundaries; 
• Learning how to sit in the discomfort of setting boundaries; and 
• Working on the deeper, underlying obstacles to practicing boundaries. 

CW: This episode includes some mention of childhood trauma (see show notes).

Show notes:

• 1:08: Quick Italy trip update
• 1:50: How to connect with me + leave a rating & review of the podcast here: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/reviews/new/
• 2:50: What are boundaries anyway? A definition of boundaries + 6 types of boundaries (with examples from my personal experience)
• 12:15: Why are practicing boundaries so important?
• 14:25: My challenges with having porous boundaries + what got me started with exploring how to have healthier boundaries (letting go of a relationship)
• 20:09: 3 big lessons I’ve learned about practicing boundaries 
• 20:39: Lesson 1: Identifying what my boundaries are – acknowledging it can be confusing + practical tips
• 24:27: The importance of distinguishing between a boundary and a wall
• 28:38: Lesson 2: Why practicing boundaries might feel harder before it feels good
• 32:05: Lesson 3: Intellectually knowing I “should” set a boundary is not the same thing as FEELING that I should set that boundary
• 34:19: Why being in touch with our anger is important for setting boundaries
• 36:08: How a shutdown of anger can happen with developmental trauma (*CW: Early childhood trauma) 
• 39:26: How I have reconnected with my repressed anger through Somatic Internal Family Systems therapy
• 44:20: How the “anxious-attachment style” and a low sense of self-worth can make it harder to set healthy boundaries
• 47:45: It’s not just about the inner work – who are we in relationship with?
• 49:36: How to connect with Janice

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Get the list of resources here: S2|EP14: Navigating Boundaries: The Good, the Confusing, and the Uncomfortable

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

In this episode, Janice and her guest Chris Lam (therapist at Ride the Waves Counselling Service) talk about how therapy can help clients heal in relationships, both with the therapist and in their other relationships. They also discuss some common reasons people go to therapy, how therapy can benefit clients, and both the luck and work involved matching with the “right” therapist.

Show notes:

• 00:01:34: How you can support the pod (rate + review!) and connect with me
• 00:02:24: Who is Chris Lam?
• 00:05:00: Chris’ analogy of “riding the waves” with how we navigate both “positive and negative” emotions
• 00:10:20: Chris’ path to becoming a therapist 
• 00:17:45: How developing a relationship vs “fixing” his clients helped Chris connect with youth in therapy
• 00:20:02: Chris’ experience working with adults in therapy + common reasons why people do therapy
• 00:23:17: What are some benefits of counselling?
• 00:26:18: How talking to a therapist can be different from sharing your “problems” with friends or family
• 00:32:26: How gaining knowledge of trauma psychoeducation can help with shame + our healing process
• 00:33:35: Differences and similarities working with youth vs adults in therapy
• 00:37:14: Chris’ experience working with “hard-to-serve” youth in the justice system
• 00:39:49: Some ways Chris has worked toward being a more trauma-informed therapist and doing “the least harm” with clients
• 00:44:21: How Chris navigates therapy conversations about healing childhood trauma and issues with parents
• 00:49:55: How youth can/usually access therapy + legislation on youth and therapy (at least in Toronto)
• 00:53:00: What can be involved in finding the right match with a therapist
• 00:56:52: Some red flags that Janice would consider for herself in finding the right therapist
• 00:58:53: Doing virtual therapy: yay or nay?
• 01:02:32: How you can connect with Chris

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Connect with Chris Lam:

• Website: www.ridethewavescs.com 
• Email: [email protected]
• Phone: (647) 456-7751

Connect with Janice:

• Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounselling

Listen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

In this episode, Janice discusses how the well-known saying "Life is short" might make us feel like we should be doing things better, bigger, and more of. Janice shares how she's taken an authentic, oftentimes brave approach to life that has involved big moves, but that sometimes going slow and feeling "cautious" about the things we desire doesn't necessarily mean we aren't living life to the fullest.

Janice gives personal examples, ranging from travel dreams to new relationships, of where the "Life is short" mantra can show up. She discusses how a lack of privilege or challenging life periods, balancing two authentic but conflicting needs, and being stuck in old patterns can bring a lot more nuance and complexity to our life decisions than simply following a sometimes inspirational but one-size-fits-all quote.

Show notes:

• 00:00: Quick life updates + doing the shadow work
• 02:15: The “life is short” approach (and what it means)
• 03:27: Please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!
• 04:53: How I live life like it’s both short and long AF
• 07:02: Two recent events that made me pause and reflect on why the “life is short” mantra isn’t enough
• 08:34: My big upcoming travel plans to Italy
• 09:22: Why long-term solo traveling has been a life-long dream of mine
• 11:51: Why I experienced a post-decision hangover after booking my flight
• 13:57: What does it actually mean to execute this abstract idea of “life is short”? When lack of privilege or challenging periods in life keeps us from thriving.
• 17:38: When we wrestling with two conflicting feelings that both come from an authentic place
• 20:49: How the way I approach my finances now has been part of my trauma-healing
• 24:15: Another great take – Thais Sky’s RECLAIM Podcast episode: “Ep. 160 Life Is Short, So Forgive Often Right? Wrong”
• 25:55: A dating example: my authentic self when experiencing an emotional attachment to someone
• 26:58: How my desire to express and be in connection can sometimes come from an unconscious trauma response
• 30:42: How being “cautious” doesn’t necessarily equate to not living life fully
• 31:14: An eye-opening conversation with my therapist around not feeling ready for a committed relationship
• 33:30: When ongoing old patterns and fears keep us stuck from living our life fully
• 36:10: How working through the root causes of those patterns can help us to more naturally choose the authentic decision  
• 38:50: Some of my biggest “self-development” lessons: holding complexity and nuance + tapping into my intuition as a guide
• 39:50: Living life like it’s short: doing + being (being present)
• 42:42: How to connect with me

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

• "Ep. 160 Life Is Short, So Forgive Often Right? Wrong." (Thais Sky, RECLAIM Podcast)

In this episode, Janice and her dear friend Lucy Duong chat about the trauma-healing journey Lucy took after her sister completed suicide. Lucy shares about how hypnosis helped to get rid of her triggers – and how she was so inspired that she learned how to do hypnosis (as well as neuro-linguistic programming, NLP) herself!

Janice and Lucy discuss why it's so important to be more aware and intentional about what's actually driving us (subconsciously) to live life in the ways we do. This convo is full of golden-nugget insights, hope, and laughs. Enjoy! 

CW: The topic of suicide is discussed in this episode. Please take care while you listen.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Lucy's Facebook Group: 'Organic Love' in Memory of Vivian Duong

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

In this episode, Janice opens up about her experiences online dating during the pandemic and shares about a recent, shitty sexual experience she had that left her feeling disgusted, ashamed, and devalued. Janice discuss how she worked through those difficult feelings (using Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy) and the lessons she's learned since then about how she wants to authentically show up for herself in sexual relationships moving forward.

Note: The term “heteronormative” was used when at least sometimes “heterosexual” was meant – hopefully you get the gist!

Show notes:

• 00:00:00: A new thing I’m trying for the podcast: raw, unscripted, real life
• 00:01:53: Getting back into dating after lockdown + why talking about sex is so important to me
• 00:05:12: How you can connect with me on social + please leave a review on Apple Podcast to support the pod!: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-souls-work-podcast/id1515042876 
• 00:06:35: The way I dated before the pandemic (+ my definition of casual relationships)
• 00:12:27: My first time trying online dating (during the pandemic)
• 00:15:57: My most recent round of online dating: coming out of a long, sexually frustrating period of lockdown
• 00:19:44: The story of my shitty sexual experience (Part 1): Matching with a new guy on Hinge
• 00:22:17: The story of my shitty sexual experience (Part 2): Meeting the new guy for the first time (“He’ll do”)
• 00:25:26: The story of my shitty sexual experience (Part 3): Planning the second date (obviously to hook up) + some safety notes
• 00:30:08: The story of my shitty sexual experience (Part 4): The actual sex (+ the orgasm gap, communicating your needs, slowing things down, when he isn’t sexually experienced, approaching new sexual partners and situations with curiosity)
• 00:45:51: The story of my shitty sexual experience (Part 5): Leaving the situation + the emotional aftermath
• 00:53:45: Using Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy to work through my feelings of shame and low self-worth
• 00:57:13: Lessons learned for going forward with sex: having clarity and transparency, gradually working up to sex, seeing my body as valuable, feeling psychologically/safe even in conversation, learning the language of my body/intuition
• 01:14:15: Unlearning long-standing toxic messages about sex (and power dynamics in heterosexual relationships) and learning new ways of being authentic to you in sex

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Get the resources mentioned here: S2|EP10: Navigating Online Dating and Sex After Lockdown

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

In this episode, Janice shares about her experiences doing therapy: 1) What compelled her to do therapy in the first place; 2) what it’s been like to work with the different therapists she's had, including the differences doing cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) versus trauma therapy with a mind-body approach; 3) what about certain therapists turned her off or made for a not-good fit; and 4) what has been helpful in therapy and even really critical in her healing journey. 

Throughout the episode, Janice shares some thoughts on both the stigma and privilege around doing therapy, and acknowledges how uncomfortable it can be to start talking to a therapist! She also shares some general things to consider when exploring therapy, including her thoughts on different types of talk therapy, a therapist’s effectiveness being impacted by their own personal therapy work, and building trust with a new therapist.

This episode is part 4 of an ongoing series on healing trauma.

*Please note that Janice is not a trauma expert or therapist, and that this series shares about her one personal experience of learning about and healing trauma.

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Get the show notes and resources mentioned here: S2|EP9: Healing Trauma (Part 4): Doing Therapy

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.