In this compelling episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala and guest host, Ila, dive deep into the nuanced art of negotiation, unveiling essential strategies for navigating salary discussions, counteroffers, and even securing better terms on rent.  The ladies break down the powerful tools every negotiator needs—like recognizing your true worth, conducting thorough market research, and mastering the impactful pause of silence.  Filled with actionable tips, insightful personal stories, and a touch of humor, this conversation blends practical advice with moments that resonate.  Listeners will leave inspired to embrace negotiation as a skill for every facet of life, from career advancement to housing decisions, all while staying anchored in confidence and clarity.  Whether you're stepping into the negotiation room for the first time or looking to refine your approach, this episode equips you to own the conversation and achieve your goals.

TAKEAWAYS

Negotiation is a skill that can be developed over time.

Always know your minimum and maximum before entering negotiations.

HR departments expect candidates to negotiate their salaries.

Silence can be a powerful tool in negotiations, allowing the other party to reveal more information.

When negotiating salary, consider the total compensation package, including benefits and bonuses.

Don't accept the first offer; always counter with your desired amount.

Negotiating rent can lead to significant savings, especially in a competitive market.

Entrepreneurs should negotiate with vendors and service providers to stay within budget.

Practice active listening to understand the other party's needs and concerns.

Focus on the value you bring to the table when negotiating.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Negotiation and Confidence

06:41 The Importance of Self-Reflection

07:20 Understanding Salary Negotiation

12:05 HR Expectations and Counter Offers

21:26 Creative Negotiation Strategies

30:16 Negotiating in the Housing Market

33:57 Understanding Rent Increases and Negotiation Strategies

39:43 The Power of Negotiation in Various Contexts

45:35 Leveraging Silence in Negotiations

49:24 Lighthearted Moments and Current Events

In this powerful episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, host Lala dives deep into financial wellness, offering a roadmap to crush debt and build lasting savings. 💸 She shares practical, no-nonsense advice on how to budget effectively, manage everyday expenses, and understand the critical differences between good and bad debt. From building an emergency fund to navigating the challenges of inflation, Lala equips listeners with strategies to secure their financial future in uncertain times.

But the conversation doesn't stop there. Lala shifts focus to an equally pressing issue: the erasure of history in education, with a spotlight on Texas. 📚 She explores the dangerous implications of rewriting or omitting key historical narratives, emphasizing the vital role of storytelling—and who gets to tell these stories—in shaping public education.

This episode is a blend of financial empowerment and social awareness, reminding us that our personal finances and collective histories are intertwined in the pursuit of true freedom.

TAKEAWAYS

Erasure of history in education is a concerning trend.

Storytelling is crucial in shaping narratives for future generations.

Financial wellness is essential in today's economic climate.

Budgeting helps in managing expenses effectively.

Understanding the difference between good and bad debt is vital.

Emergency funds are necessary for financial security.

Saving for the future should be treated like a bill.

Inflation impacts both debt and savings strategies.

Tracking expenses is key to financial management.

Being proactive about finances can lead to better outcomes.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

07:16 Financial Wellness: Crushing Debt and Building Savings

36:25 Lighthearted News and Cultural Commentary

41:33 Erasure of History in Education

44:35 The Importance of Storytelling and Education

47:20 Engagement and Community in Podcasting

50:04 Financial Awareness and Mindful Choices

In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, host Lala sits down with financial expert RaMece Quinn to dive into the intricate world of financial wellness. Together, they unpack the vital role self-awareness plays in managing finances, exploring how understanding one's relationship with money, shaped by upbringing and experiences, is key to making informed financial decisions. The conversation delves into setting clear financial goals and the power of establishing healthy boundaries, such as distinguishing between needs and wants and setting mindful spending limits.

RaMece sheds light on the process of credit restoration and underscores the importance of having a financial mentor to guide you on the path to stability. The ladies also stresses the significance of future-focused financial planning and the pitfalls of comparing your financial journey to others'. In a compassionate pivot, they touch on breast cancer awareness, emphasizing early detection and community support for those impacted. This episode seamlessly weaves together financial wisdom with a heart for holistic well-being.

**This episode is dedicated to honoring the memory of Yosha Li-Nieshawn Sibley (June 24, 1976 - July 17, 2010), whose spirit continues to inspire and remind us of the importance of living fully and with purpose.**

TAKEAWAYS

It's okay to embrace Life's spills and find purpose in them.

Having a finance person is essential for financial health.

Boundaries and capacity are crucial in managing finances.

Being late on payments can significantly impact credit.

Understanding the relationship with money is foundational to financial wellness.

Financial goals should be specific, measurable, and time-based.

Self-control is vital in making financial decisions.

It's important to distinguish between needs and wants in spending.

Generational wealth is about knowledge, not just money.

Healthy financial boundaries prevent exploitation and ensure sustainability. Establishing financial boundaries is crucial for personal well-being.

Understanding the difference between needs and wants can alleviate financial stress.

Setting spending limits helps maintain financial discipline.

Future thinking in financial decisions is essential for achieving long-term goals.

Avoiding financial comparisons can lead to better financial health.

Breast cancer awareness is vital; early detection can save lives.

Financial wellness requires a proactive approach to budgeting and saving.

It's important to prioritize self-care in financial matters.

Having a clear financial plan can prevent future setbacks.

Support systems are important in navigating financial challenges.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Welcome to The Spilled Milk Podcast

04:26 Introducing RaMece Quinn: Financial Expert

17:08 Understanding Our Relationship with Money

39:20 Defining Financial Goals and Values

47:50 Establishing Healthy Financial Boundaries

01:00:53 Navigating Financial Boundaries

01:12:20 Understanding Needs vs. Wants

01:21:19 Setting Spending Limits

01:27:20 Future Thinking in Financial Decisions

01:30:08 The Dangers of Financial Comparison

01:39:02 Breast Cancer Awareness Month

In this transformative episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala dives deep into the power of confidence through intentional disruption—learning to be the rebel in your own life by breaking old patterns, stepping out of comfort zones, and embracing the beauty of growth through discomfort.

Lala guides listeners through how micro-disruptions—small, intentional shifts—can spark monumental change in how we live, work, and connect with ourselves.  Whether it’s challenging your routines, unlearning limiting beliefs, or confronting the fear of stepping into the unknown, this episode is your blueprint for shaking things up and reclaiming your confidence. 

The host unpacks how choosing discomfort and creating disruption can lead to deeper alignment with GOD’s plan for your life, more joy, and long-lasting peace.  It’s about taking back control, not just waiting for change but creating it. 

Tune in to explore how YOU can start being the rebel in your own life, harnessing disruption as a catalyst for personal and spiritual evolution.  Because growth never happens in comfort zones—it’s time to shake things up and step into your fullest potential. 

TAKEAWAYS

Loving your environment can enhance your overall happiness.

Curiosity is essential for personal growth and self-discovery.

Discomfort often leads to significant growth and change.

Confidence is built through intentional disruptions in life.

Micro disruptions can lead to profound changes in perspective.

Self-reflection is crucial for understanding stagnation in life.

You are responsible for your own happiness and growth.

Living on autopilot can hinder personal development.

Embracing discomfort can lead to greater fulfillment.

Every disruption is an opportunity for new growth.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Welcome Back and New Orleans Vibes

10:57 Empower Milk Message: Curiosity and Self-Reflection

19:05 Confidence Through Disruption

48:32 Giggles and Cream: Current Events and Reflections

This episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast is going to push you into a place of real reflection. Lala takes us on a soul-stirring journey through the landscape of self-love, inviting each of us to peel back the layers and embrace radical acceptance. She reminds us that loving ourselves starts with owning the parts of our story that we’ve been afraid to acknowledge—the pain, the mistakes, the beauty. All of it. And through that acceptance, we get to redefine what it means to be worthy.

Lala drops some heavy truths in this episode, teaching us that our worth isn’t something we hustle for or earn. It’s ours simply because we are children of GOD, breathing and living. She gives us actionable steps that show how to cultivate that kind of love, not just on the easy days but on the tough days, too. She reminds us that loving yourself is a practice, not a one-time event. Each day, we’re called to show up for ourselves with grace and gentleness.

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve been running on empty, this episode is for you. Learn how to create daily moments that pour back into your soul, moments where you prioritize your self-care, not out of luxury, but out of necessity. This conversation is about understanding that you deserve love, not just from others, but most importantly from yourself.

TAKEAWAYS

Self-love is a journey, not a destination.

Radical acceptance involves owning your story, flaws and all.

You are worthy simply because you exist, not due to achievements.

Practice self-compassion by treating yourself like a best friend.

Create daily intentional moments for self-love and care.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

03:23 Supporting Yoli's Journey

04:50 Moving Back to New Orleans

07:54 Homeschooling and Transition Challenges

09:34 Embracing Self-Love: The Journey Begins

11:50 Radical Acceptance: Owning Your Story

17:54 Redefining Worth: You Are Enough

22:26 Self-Compassion: Treating Yourself Like a Best Friend

26:16 Creating Daily Space for Self-Love

31:26 Southwest Airlines and Airline Policies

34:30 23andMe's Challenges and Ethical Concerns

36:41 Marcellus Williams: A Call to Action

42:48 Ryder Napier: A Heartwarming Story

45:34 Podcast Wrap-Up and Self-Love Reflection

In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, hosts Lala and Yolie dive into a candid discussion about their recent challenges and the critical importance of self-love. The ladies reflect on the struggles of juggling multiple roles and the intense pressure to excel in every aspect of life, encouraging listeners to confront feelings of inadequacy and embrace their inner strength.

Drawing inspiration from the Disney Pixar movies Inside Out and Inside Out 2, the conversation explores the theme of conquering your inner critic. The hosts delve into the emotion of guilt, describing it as a persistent reminder of our inadequacies and past mistakes that can drain energy and impede forgiveness. They emphasize the importance of recognizing the signals of guilt, examining one's actions, and aligning them with personal values and visions. The conversation proposes replacing guilt with forgiveness, compassion, and patience towards oneself.

Lala and Yolie also discuss the various inner critics that can hinder personal growth, including the critics of comparison, minimization, and comfort zones. The ladies share personal stories and strategies for overcoming these critics to embrace self-worth and growth.

Additionally, the episode touches on several topical issues, including a controversial incident involving a judge in Detroit, the divorce of Judge Mathis, a tragic event at Wells Fargo, and a charming trend involving grandmothers at weddings.

In their final sips, Lala and Yolie underscore the importance of self-love, having a supportive network, and the role of therapy in combating negative self-talk.

TAKEAWAYS

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Focus on Self-Love

02:26 Challenges of Being a Creative and Balancing Roles

05:23 Questioning Self and Overcoming Giants

09:42 Acceptance and Embracing Inner Strength

13:53 Recognizing and Conquering Giants

19:15 Navigating Uncertainty and Observing

21:48 Inside Out: Conquering Your Inner Critic

44:14 Guilt: A Relentless Reminder of Inadequacies

45:14 Guilt's Impact on Personal Growth

46:09 Replacing Guilt with Forgiveness and Compassion

49:04 Recognizing Personal Growth and Wins

53:52 Overcoming the Inner Critic of Comparison

58:39 Releasing Guilt and Embracing the Positive

01:07:09 Conquering the Inner Critic of Minimization

01:11:16 Stepping Out of Comfort Zones for Growth

01:24:46 Judge in Detroit Puts Teen in Prison Garbs

01:27:42 Judge Mathis Faces Divorce and Cheating Allegations

01:33:19 Wells Fargo Employee Found Dead in Cubicle

01:42:00 Grandmothers as Flower Girls: A Heartwarming Trend

01:45:08 The Importance of Self-Love and Support Networks

In this transformative episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast Unhinged, Lala and Yolie dive into their recent decisions to cut their hair, exploring the deep emotional and symbolic meanings behind their choices. Both hosts share the sense of liberation and relief they felt after cutting their hair, discussing the powerful link between personal appearance and identity.

Lala highlights the importance of shedding aspects of our lives that no longer serve us, using her haircut as a metaphor for personal renewal and letting go. Yolie reflects on how hair can hold memories and signify major life changes, emphasizing the connection to her past and the step towards self-reinvention.

The conversation also touches on broader themes of transformation and authenticity, as both hosts reflect on their journeys toward self-acceptance. The ladies discuss the impact of these personal changes on their roles as mothers, aiming to raise kind, authentic children.

As the episode wraps up, Lala reflects on her 40th birthday and the spiritual purification she's undergone, likening her experience to cutting her locks as a form of release and renewal. Yolie shares her evolving struggles with trust and redefining her values.

The hosts express profound gratitude for each other's support through their transformations, thank their listeners for their engagement, and conclude with a light-hearted comparison of their new styles to iconic looks of Stephanie Mills and Jody Watley.

TAKEAWAYS

Sometimes, cutting off physical weight, such as hair, can bring a sense of liberation and freedom.

Letting go of things that no longer serve us can create space for new beginnings and growth.

Hair can hold memories and cutting it can be a symbolic act of releasing the past.

Spontaneity can lead to unexpected and exciting experiences.

Embracing change and trying new things can bring joy and a sense of empowerment. Cutting their hair had a transformative impact on Lala and Yolie, allowing them to embrace change and move forward in their lives.

They express gratitude for their hair and the role it played in their lives, acknowledging its emotional and symbolic significance.

The experience of cutting their hair symbolized a journey of self-acceptance and authenticity, allowing them to let go of past traumas and embrace their true selves.

They emphasize the importance of raising kind and authentic children, creating a space for them to express their feelings and be true to themselves.

The conversation highlights the themes of transformation, self-reinvention, and the power of embracing change.

Birthdays can be a time for reflection and setting intentions for the year ahead.

Testing and purification are part of the journey towards growth and transformation.

Trust can be challenging, especially when faced with uncertainty and past experiences.

It is important to redefine values and vision in times of change and transition.

Expressing gratitude and showing appreciation for others is essential in building strong relationships.

Sharing and engaging with the podcast can help create a supportive community.

Playfulness and humor can bring joy and lightness to challenging situations.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Spontaneous Decision

09:02 Feeling Weighted and the Urge to Cut Hair

14:46 Yolie's Hair Loss Journey

25:16 The Synchronicity of Cutting Hair

28:09 Surprising Each Other with Haircuts

32:00 Getting Hair Braided and the Genesis Connection

38:10 Checking in on Each Other's Safety

40:24 The Transformative Power of Cutting Hair

52:05 Gratitude for the Role of Hair in Our Lives

57:04 Embracing Self-Acceptance and Authenticity

01:04:36 Raising Kind and Authentic Children

01:08:15 The Journey of Transformation and Self-Reinvention

01:30:10 Reflections on Turning 40 and the Journey of Transformation

01:36:00 Struggles with Trust and Redefining Values

01:51:19 Building a Supportive Community through Sharing and Engagement

02:09:21 Finding Joy and Lightness in Challenging Situations

Dive into a transformative journey with Lala and Yolie on this episode of "The Spilled Milk Podcast." The hosts explore deeply personal and societal issues that impact our daily lives and long-term aspirations. From embracing self-love to confronting systemic challenges, this episode is a comprehensive guide to personal and collective empowerment.

Lala and Yolie kick off the episode by sharing their latest experiences with self-love and personal growth. The ladies discuss the importance of allowing each other the freedom to pursue individual dreams and trusting in divine timing. The power of positive thinking and overcoming fear and self-doubt are central themes, emphasizing the liberation that comes with true self-acceptance.

The conversation deepens as they tackle the pervasive impact of identity-based labels on self-perception. Exploring ageism, career-based identity, and body image, Lala and Yolie challenge listeners to question societal stereotypes and embrace their authentic selves. They highlight the significance of finding supportive communities that bolster self-belief across all ages, and urge listeners to redefine success on their own terms, free from external validation.

Shifting focus, Yolie and Lala discuss the detrimental effects of gender-specific labels and societal expectations on relationships and self-identity. Both ladies advocate for a journey of self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of defining personal values and desires. The hosts also address the unique challenges faced by parents in modern society, from managing societal pressures to prioritizing self-care and family wellness.

In a poignant segment, the episode addresses a tragic incident involving Sonia Massey, who was fatally shot by a police officer with a history of misconduct. This discussion broadens to the fear and mistrust prevalent in communities of color regarding law enforcement, underscoring the importance of civic engagement and informed voting.

To lighten the mood, Lala and Yolie introduce a new segment called 'Milk and Honey,' where they share what is referred to as a "podcast cleanse" wrapping the episode up on a high note.

The episode concludes with a look at their "Bigger Leaps of Faith" program, encouraging listeners to engage in self-reflection and commit to personal growth, setting the stage for a life filled with purpose and authenticity.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Month of Self-Love

03:08 Supporting Each Other's Dreams and Getting on Each Other's Nerves

05:17 God's Concern for the Things that Concern Us

08:22 Trusting in God's Timing and the Freedom to Go

09:08 Flipping Negative Thinking and Believing in the Best

11:33 Closing Thoughts and Empowerment

14:15 Unpacking Identity-Based Labels

16:37 Ageism: Overcoming Limitations and Redefining Worth

30:43 Career-Based Identity: Moving Beyond Titles and Status

43:07 Body Image: Embracing Self-Acceptance and Rejecting Unrealistic Standards

58:55 Curiosity and Avoiding Judgement

01:01:22 Challenging Gender-Specific Labels

01:05:42 Defining Identity and Values

01:10:24 Navigating Challenges of Motherhood and Fatherhood

01:19:53 Prioritizing Family, Legacy, Lifestyle, and Wellness

01:27:39 Detaching from Outside Opinions

01:33:17 Stewarding Children and Answering to God

01:44:39 Tragic Incident and the Need for Better Hiring Practices

01:55:48 The Importance of Voting and Being Informed

01:57:19 Lighthearted Story: Woman Releases Bats in Cheating Partner's House

01:58:42 Introducing 'Milk and Honey' Segment: Uplifting Stories

02:01:16 Discussion about '100 Days of Believing Bigger' Program

02:10:44 Embracing Self-Reflection and Personal Growth

In this insightful episode, Lala and Yolie tackle the crucial topic of unlearning toxic thinking patterns. They delve into how mind reading and filtering—focusing only on negative details and assuming others' thoughts—can distort our perceptions and interactions. Emphasizing the importance of open communication, they advocate for a curious approach that involves asking questions to achieve clarity.

The hosts stress the power of gratitude and the benefits of recognizing positive aspects in all situations. They discuss strategies for overcoming common destructive thought patterns like overgeneralization and catastrophizing, urging listeners to appreciate incremental progress and learn from setbacks.

Throughout the episode, Lala and Yolie explore the shift from fearing failure to embracing life's opportunities with kindness and an open heart. The ladies caution against polarized thinking and discuss the advantages of acknowledging life's nuances and complexities.

As the conversation widens, they touch on varied topics—from a humorous tooth fairy anecdote to more serious discussions about societal behaviors, such as a dating show contestant's disrespect and a case of nepotism at Burger King. They wrap up by promoting their "Bigger Leaps of Faith" program, encouraging listeners to prioritize well-being and maintain a positive outlook.

This episode is a blend of personal growth advice enriched with real-life examples and light-hearted stories, providing listeners with both profound insights and practical tips for fostering a healthier mindset.

Disclaimer:

We sincerely appreciate your tuning in to this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast. We experienced some technological and recording issues towards the end, and we kindly ask for your patience as we navigate these challenges. Our team is actively working to enhance the quality of our recordings to ensure a smoother listening experience in future episodes. Thank you for your understanding and continued support!

TAKEAWAYS

Unlearning toxic thinking patterns is crucial for holistic wellness.

Mind-reading and filtering are common distorted ways of thinking.

Open communication, curiosity, and asking questions can help overcome mind reading.

Practicing gratitude and focusing on the positive aspects of life can combat filtering.

Celebrating accomplishments and embracing a positive mindset can overcome perfectionism and victim mentality.

Focus on the positive and appreciate incremental achievements.

Shift mindset from fear of failure to embracing opportunities

Be kind to oneself and hold space for others

Avoid overgeneralization and embrace nuance and complexity

Trust in GOD's plan and find the deliciousness in every experience.

Don't tolerate disrespectful behavior, whether it's in dating or the workplace.

Stand up against unfair policies and practices, such as firing someone for nepotism when it's not actually a violation.

Find humor in everyday situations, like a child saving their teeth for a big tooth fairy payout.

Prioritize your well-being and practice positive thinking to overcome negative thought patterns.

Join the Bigger Leaps of Faith program to embark on a transformative journey of faith and personal growth.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

23:14 Unlearning Toxic Thinking Patterns

36:11 The Pitfalls of Mind Reading and Filtering

38:17 The Power of Open Communication and Curiosity

40:48 Celebrating Accomplishments and Overcoming Perfectionism

46:40 The Dangers of Polarized Thinking

51:46 Appreciating Nuance and Complexity

59:04 Overcoming Catastrophizing and Trusting in God

01:15:18 Finding the Deliciousness in Every Experience

01:28:27 Dealing with Disrespectful Contestants and Unfair Policies

01:33:18 The Funny Side of the Tooth Fairy

01:43:29 Some People Deserve the Circus

01:47:05 Prioritizing Well-being and Positive Thinking

01:55:33 Join the Bigger Leaps of Faith program for Personal Growth

In this enlightening episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, hosts Lala and Yolie dive deep into the concept of chrononutrition, a dietary approach that harmonizes eating patterns with the body’s circadian rhythms. They unpack the science behind how timing meals can significantly influence metabolism, hormone regulation, and overall health.

Throughout the discussion, Lala and Yolie explore the practical aspects of integrating chrononutrition into everyday life, addressing common challenges and effective strategies for adaptation. They emphasize the importance of personalized nutrition—understanding and respecting each individual’s unique physiological needs.

The conversation also delves into the broader implications of food choices, including the impact of food additives and design on health. Highlighting the critical role of self-awareness, the hosts encourage listeners to make informed, conscious dietary decisions aligned with their natural biological clocks.

Wrapping up, Lala and Yolie remind everyone about the value of incremental changes, advocating for a gradual approach to enhancing wellness through mindful eating and living in sync with natural bodily rhythms.

Disclaimer:

We sincerely appreciate your tuning in to this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast. We experienced some technological and recording issues towards the end, and we kindly ask for your patience as we navigate these challenges. Our team is actively working to enhance the quality of our recordings to ensure a smoother listening experience in future episodes. Thank you for your understanding and continued support!

TAKEAWAYS

Chrononutrition involves synchronizing meal times with the body's internal clock and circadian rhythm.

Eating heavier meals earlier in the day and lighter meals at night can optimize metabolism and energy levels.

Understanding one's own body and its unique needs is crucial in implementing chrononutrition.

Food design and additives can have a significant impact on overall health and should be considered when making dietary choices.

Know yourself and make conscious decisions about what you consume.

Understand the importance of aligning meal times with your body's natural rhythms.

Prioritize self-care and make incremental improvements every day.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Chrononutrition: Eating on the Clock

08:14 Optimizing Metabolism and Energy Levels

16:13 Understanding Women's Health and Eating Habits

21:50 The Impact of Food Design and Additives

32:19 Considerations for the Last Meal Before Sleep

37:05 Conscious Consumption

38:13 Aligning Meal Times with Your Body's Rhythms

39:08 Prioritizing Self-Care and Incremental Improvements

47:55 Stop Drinking Nestle Water

53:57 Shout Out to Firefighters and Newlyweds

55:30 Uber Eats Discount and Grandparent Sleepovers

01:03:12 Final Thoughts and Self-Reflection