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Season 2 is here! This season, it’s all about examining the different types of journeys we all experience at some time or another in our lives. You know what? These episodes will be really meaningful because not only are the topics super relatable to all of our everyday lives but also because I’m bringing you some resources that you can use in your business and in your personal life. These are things that I think are really going to take your own life’s journey from GOOD to really GREAT.

This episode is actually the first of a two-part series on the power of forgiveness: Forgiveness: The Journey Back to Wholeness. Many disputes last so long both internally for those who hurt and externally for all who are involved; especially when the wounds are really deep and severe.

Now, if you’re an entrepreneur or a business leader and you listen to this podcast for success tips, business advice, and some legal info and hacks, you’re probably wondering…
Kelly, come on, what does forgiveness have to do with business?

I can tell you, the concept of forgiveness has a lot to do with business. In my 30 years of work as a mediator along with my trial practice you can bet that in those business disputes I’ve mediated, forgiveness was an element of successfully navigating and ending disputes every time.

Is that surprising to you? Well, it’s probably not as surprising as you think. Because if you think about it, forgiveness is not about letting people treat you badly, excusing them for it, and then letting them walk all over you again. No, that’s not what we’re talking about.

Forgiveness is all about letting go of resentment and untying the knots of bitterness and pain that tend to live in our hearts. Whether it’s personal or business for you, resentment is like cancer that grows inside of us if we feed it a steady diet of unforgiveness.

So what’s in store? Well, in this part one episode, we’re going to introduce this idea of embracing forgiveness. Why should we practice forgiveness? There are so many reasons but in this episode, I’m going to hit the big three.

Tweetables:
“You can bet that in those business disputes I’ve mediated, forgiveness was an element of successfully navigating and ending disputes just about every time.” — Kelly Bennett [0:03:10.8]

“Forgiveness is all about letting go of resentment. It’s all about untying the knots of bitterness and the knots of pain that tend to live in our own hearts.” — Kelly Bennett [0:03:56.3]
“When we refuse forgiveness, it means that we retain bitterness and resentment, it just does. It comes with the territory.” — Kelly Bennett [0:10:36.9]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
The Art of Forgiving – Lewis B. Smedes — https://amzn.to/2Tge2xV
Bennett & Bennett — https://bennettandbennettlaw.com

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Welcome back to the On Fire Empire Podcast. On today’s show we have our last ‘tweener episode before we kick off Season Two. It’s an encore presentation of a vlog we released on our YouTube channel, Law Love Life TV.

You know, in Kelly’s 30+ years of being a top-tier divorce attorney, she has helped many parties get through it all, and virtually every situation is different. The one thing you can count on being the same in every divorce involving children: it’s NOT easy.

Telling the kids that mom and dad are splitting up is life changing. It is something children will typically remember, forever. In this episode, Kelly shares 5 tips to help you get through it and have a positive outcome.

Tweetables:
“Even when your spouse is not taking the high road, if you’re in a very contentious situation, I want to encourage you to take the high road every time you’re talking to your children about this issue of divorce.” — Kelly Bennett [0:05:42.1]

“One of the biggest gifts you can give your kids is permission to love the other parent.” — Kelly Bennett [0:09:21.1]
“Sometimes, just having a professional to lean on and allowing them to guide the conversation is your best route to success.” — Kelly Bennett [0:17:18.1]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Bennett & Bennett — https://bennettandbennettlaw.com

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For the last month, we’ve been teeing up a new season, loaded with fascinating guests and super applicable life-topics for you. We’ll kick off Season 2 next week and I think you’re going to love what we’ve been cooking up. Today’s show is all about procrastination. Oh yes – that faaavorite subject! I’m throwin’ you into the deep end of the pool (and yes…I’m jumping in with you)… because today, we’re exploring the Power of Negative Motivation. That’s right – NEGATIVE motivation. Now I’m not a big fan of negative anything – and really…I think the phrase “negative motivation” is a bit of an oxy-moron. But I’ve discovered a few ways that negative consequences really do work to overcome procrastination. So in this show, I’ll share 3 negative motivation tools you can use today to combat procrastination…including the one that’s the most effective technique I’ve ever used! It’s my “secret weapon” when I’m REALLY feeling challenged by the procrastination monster… And you know what? I’ve battled procrastination ALL. MY. LIFE.

It’s a procrastination throw-down today.

Are you ready? Then gimme your hand, ‘cause we’re jumping into the deep end.

Tweetables:
“Perfectionism is the enemy of execution.” — Kelly Bennett [0:08:40.1]

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Let’s get real here – many folks just aren’t “feeling it”. The bright, shiny New Year vibe sometimes eludes us. A lot of times, feeling “stuck in the mud” happens when we’re living with unresolved conflict. Like living in a perpetually bad marriage. Or never-ending financial crises. Or a dead-end job.

The good news is, you don’t have to stay stuck.

On this episode of On Fire Empire podcast, I’m sharing 9 simple steps you can take today to get immediate traction over unresolved conflict.
It’s the beginning of a new year, chock full of possibilities.  You deserve to be in that place of hope and wonderment.

Tweetables:
“I also know that for a lot of people, the New Year brings on some forms of depression and often, some disappointments.” — Kelly Bennett [0:01:29.5]
“Whether it’s a bad marriage, a failing business or financial troubles, those situations can really make you feel stuck and it cast a really dark shadow over your life.” — Kelly Bennett [0:01:58.2]
 
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw

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Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast!

There are a lot of ways we build a positive, connected work-family culture. I think one of the biggest impacts has been our move from classic vacation days to a Predictable Time Off schedule. And oh baby…it’s different!

On this episode of On Fire Empire, my producer Jose Bono and I are talking about how this “radical” idea of Predictable Time Off has made a huge difference in our business.

We take a significant amount of time off.  We all have the same amount of time off.  And we all take time off at the same time…same days. The results are nothing short of ahhhh-mazing. Don’t think you can “afford” to implement something like Predictable Time Off in your business?  Well, you might be surprised – at Team Bennett, we now know that we can’t afford not to.

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Welcome to one of our special, ‘tweener episodes here at The On Fire Empire Podcast! While we are gearing up for the new, full season of the show, we will be bringing you four short episodes to tide you over. Great? We think so! In this episode, we are talking about the value of the female voice in any business or government organization.

We were invited to speak at the City of Corona at a special event called “Coffee with an Entrepreneur” – hosted by Kimberly Davidson (Corona’s Economic Development Manager) and the Corona Chamber of Commerce. In this interview, Kelly was asked by Kim about the special challenges of being the only woman professional or one of just a very few in a male-dominated industry. Kelly shares some stories with the audience and invites them to think about some of the positive elements that these ideas can foster. For all this and more, be sure to join us!

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Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast! Today we’re walking you through the three must do steps for approaching divorce the smarter way. For the next few minutes, we’re going to forget about what other people might say, forget about what they might think because this is about getting real about minimizing the negative impacts of divorce. You know, I developed this episode today because we’ve all got a really big problem going on in our society and that is when families are going through a divorce situation, they tend to let their emotions and their upset lead them around by the nose. They don’t plan and planning is the freedom piece. They fail to plan for their divorce and recognize what’s really going on.
Planning for college, planning for your wedding, planning for retirement, planning your annual goals, planning for final exams. We plan for trips, we plan our vacations, we even most of the time plan for children. Why wouldn’t you be smart and plan for one of life’s greatest challenges? Divorce. Well, today, we’re about to get really smart.

Tweetables:
“We see spouses who get served with divorce papers and they’re often aghast when they realize that their soon to be ex has been planning the divorce way in advance.” — Kelly Bennett  [0:02:44.9]

“Kids do best through divorce when they have a modicum of stability and so keeping them in their school and near their friends and doing the same types of activities they’ve always done can be very comforting to them” — Kelly Bennett [0:25:49.3]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
 
The Ultimate Divorce Planner Checklist — https://kellybennettesq.com/the-ultimate-divorce-planner-checklist/
How to Tell The Kids You’re Getting a Divorce — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m4GGnghYRyg

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Welcome back to another episode of On Fire Empire. In the very first episode, we spoke to my sister, Mindy, about the payoff of going all in at work and challenging the conventional wisdom that tells us not to get personally invested in our customers or our clients.

In this episode, we are going to talk about how we can have it all, how we can buck the system and go all in while creating healthy boundaries at the same time so that we can maintain our personal wellbeing without losing ourselves in the process.

Boundaries ensure that you’re giving safe solid advice while also exercising really good judgment. To do this, there are four simple techniques, which we will unpack in this episode to help you implement it into your own business. We also dive into the benefits of having a good system in place, the importance of empowering your clients, and why having extra margin in your schedule is paramount. So if you want to know how to get personally invested at work without losing all your marbles, stay tuned to today’s episode!

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