The Squad Room

Dr. John Delony is a New York Times bestselling author, mental health and wellness expert, and host of the very popular podcast The Dr. John Delony Show. What is not as well known about this famous figure is that his father was a cop – a homicide detective in fact and John knows first hand how a career in law enforcement can impact an entire family – particularly how our jobs often create anxiety in our loved ones.

John holds two PhDs—one in counselor education and supervision, and another in higher education administration. John works with financial guru Dave Ramsey and before joining Ramsey Solution, John spent two decades working as a senior leader, researcher, and professor at multiple universities. He also spent years working in crisis and emergency response which he talks about during the interview.

John has written extensively about anxiety and how to navigate our ever-increasingly anxious lives. His new book, Building a Non-Anxious Life is a fantastic read that I highly recommend to everyone listening or watching. In this book, he breaks down six choices we have to make in order to break free from anxiety. In the interview, we go through his six choices and how they relate to us as cops.

As someone who has a constant low-hum of anxiety going on in my brain at all times, I found this book to be a huge resource for me and even if you feel like you’re not an anxious person, the book is full of actionable advice on how to create a mindset for success.

If you’re familiar with John, you know that he’s funny, sharp-witted and a fan of punk rock and he absolutely delivers in this interview with us. 

You can follow him on Instagram @johndelony  or follow his show on YouTube.

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During his 29-year career, Jeff McGreevy was an early pioneer in the concept of peer support in Southern California, having been involved in officer wellness since 2004 when he was recruited to be a founding member of his department’s trauma support team which later evolved into peer support. Jeff has extensive training and experience in debriefing personnel after traumatic events, Critical Incident Stress Management, coordinating peer support response after critical incidents, and was an instructor for Tactical Decision Making Under Stress training. Jeff leads the Ventura County Peer Support Coalition which brings together all Police, Fire, and EMS agencies together quarterly

Jeff has worked several challenging assignments including patrol, field training officer, community policing, Special Enforcement Unit, SWAT team member for 10 years, and he also worked as a K-9 handler with a cross-trained patrol/explosive detection K-9. He spent a short time on an FBI Gang Task Force and was a Detective working Gang investigations and Robbery & Violent crimes cases.

Since retirement, Jeff worked for a nonprofit that provided confidential trauma-informed counseling for first responders and their families prior to joining the team at First Responder Wellness as a Public Safety Advocate. 

Jeff and his wife Andrea have been married for over 35-years and have 2 children, and 2 grandchildren. In 2012, their lives were turned upside down when Jeff was nearly paralyzed in an accident and Andrea was diagnosed with stage-3 breast cancer. After nearly 2-years of treatment, Andrea was finally cancer-free and they have found ways to give back to try and help others in need and honor fallen first responders. 

Follow him on Instagram @tombstonecourage and learn more about First Responder Wellness here. 

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Shawn is the founder of 1st Responder Conferences and a retired deputy from the King County Sheriff’s Office in Seattle, WA. Shawn retired in 2022 after 25 years of service as a Wellness and Resiliency Detective and a therapy K9 handler.  During her career, Shawn worked patrol, as an undercover detective, a detective in the warrant unit, transit patrol and as an explosive K9 handler. She was also on the peer support team for 16 years and was a team leader for several years

At their conferences, they are dedicated to promoting awareness surrounding the difficulties of the profession and inspiring conversations that minimize the stigma associated with the layered stressors our first responders experience. They provide education, mental health tools, and resources for agencies, first responders, and their families. Their mission is to improve the quality of life for all who dedicate themselves to protecting and serving others.

Follow them on Instagram at @1st_responder_conferences or visit their website here to see a calendar of their events.

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On April 10, 2012, United States Army Staff Sergeant Travis Mills of the 82nd Airborne was critically injured on his third tour of duty in Afghanistan by an IED (improvised explosive device) while on patrol, losing portions of both legs and both arms. He is one of only five quadruple amputees from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan to survive his injuries. Travis describes himself as a recalibrated warrior and he’s also a motivational speaker, actor, author and an advocate for veterans and amputees. Travis is also the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir, Tough as They Come, and his new book Bounce Back: 12 Warrior Principles to Reclaim and Recalibrate Your Life.

In September 2013, Travis and his wife Kelsey founded the Travis Mills Foundation, a nonprofit organization, formed to benefit and assist post 9/11 veterans who have been injured in active duty or as a result of their service to our nation. The veteran and their families receive an all-inclusive, all-expenses paid, barrier-free vacation to Maine where they participate in adaptive activities, bond with other veteran families, and enjoy much-needed rest and relaxation in Maine’s great outdoors.

You can follow Travis on Instagram @ssgtravismills

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Travis Gribble is a 24-year law enforcement veteran and founder of My Arena. Travis spent 11 years at a Sheriff’s Office in Michigan before lateralling to a large agency in Arizona where he worked as a patrol officer, patrol sergeant, and as a SWAT assistant team leader and SWAT sergeant. 

In 2016, Travis experienced a call that would change his life forever. He shares the story of that call with us today. In 2021, Travis sought and was awarded a Post-Traumatic Stress Injury medical retirement. A short time later, he was asked to share about his experience and he hasn’t stopped sharing it since. 

You can follow Travis on Instagram @my_.arena 

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A special thanks to our sponsors for today’s episode.

TactiScan is a portable drug screening device designed to detect illicit narcotics onsite with no officer exposure. TactiScan is a reusable pocket-sized narcotics screening device designed to detect illicit narcotics onsite that connects by bluetooth and limits officer exposure to potentially dangerous substances. Learn more at tactiscan.com.

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Did you know that 15% of men say they have no close friends? None. 53% of women say they feel lonely at work. 17% of the general population say they routinely experience deep loneliness. What’s scary is loneliness is linked to our longevity and health. Going through life lonely is the equivalent of smoking nearly a pack a day. 

Now, that’s not specific to first responders. Add in rotating shifts, working weekends, the hypervigilance roller coaster, and our physiological reactions to job stress and I think it’s safe to say that many cops – whether they admit it or not – are very lonely. 

Dr. Jeremy Nobel, MD, MPH, is on the faculty of both the Harvard Medical School and the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health. His new book, “Project Unlonely: Healing Our Crisis of Disconnection” explores how loneliness takes root in our lives, how we as social creatures require deeper human connections than we’re currently getting, and what we can do to create more meaningful relationships. 

As creator of The Foundation for Art & Healing, Dr. Nobel has become a prominent advocate for creative engagement and how it improves our lives, integrating that work into traditional medical care, as a path to healing as he has revealed that an important component of the healing process is engaging in creativity. Dr. Nobel graduated magna cum laude from Princeton University within the Science and Human Affairs program. He received his medical education at the University of Pennsylvania and completed his internal medicine residency at the Beth Israel Hospital, Boston. Board-certified in both Preventive Medicine and Internal Medicine, Dr. Nobel also holds Master’s Degrees in Epidemiology and Health Policy from the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health. 

Loneliness seems to be an inevitable result of our modern world, and it is perhaps one of the harder things for us to admit we’re struggling with. 

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Sabrina Reich is a 19-year police leader of a large university police department in California. She’s also a wife, and mom of two, focused on sharing leadership tips and lessons learned for a better life. Sabrina is building a movement of courageous leaders through enabling strong trust and partnerships because communities deserve to be safe.

In this episode, Sabrina shares her journey towards becoming anti-fragile by facing fear head on in her own personal development. It began when she was 10 years old and her home was broken into while the family slept. As the catalyst towards her career in law enforcement, it began a journey for Sabrina as she’s learned to use the stressors of the job to create a more resilient person for herself and her family. That’s being anti-fragile. 

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A special thanks to our sponsors for today’s episode.

Want to make it difficult for criminals to discover your home address? I use OfficerPrivacy and you should, too. Check out the special deal at OfficerPrivacy.com/thesquadroom where you’ll get two free months of monitoring and data removal plus a FREE Cell Phone Privacy Device when you sign up.

TactiScan is a portable drug screening device designed to detect illicit narcotics onsite with no officer exposure. TactiScan is a reusable pocket-sized narcotics screening device designed to detect illicit narcotics onsite that connects by bluetooth and limits officer exposure to potentially dangerous substances. Learn more at tactiscan.com.

On October 1, 2017, Sergeant Josh Bitsko found himself on the 32nd floor of the Mandalay Bay Hotel, about to confront the deadliest killer in U.S. history. Through a weird combination of fate and initiative, Josh found himself leading the assault team of only four officers against a heavily fortified and well-organized murderer. Only six weeks later, a suspect held a gun to his head during a fight. Soon after that, his wife told him she wanted a divorce, his brother committed suicide and he lost his dad to cancer. 

But Josh’s story isn’t a sob story. It isn’t a depressing story. It isn’t a trauma story. 

It’s a resilience story. 

On today’s episode, we’re fortunate enough to have Josh walk us through his early career up to that fateful night of the Route 91 Harvest Music Festival and the aftermath of personal tragedy that awaited him. Josh shares how he mismanaged the trauma and stress, and how he was able to dig himself out of the rubble of his personal life and use the lessons he’s learned to help other cops avoid making the same mistakes. 

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A special thanks to our sponsors for today’s episode.

TactiScan is a portable drug screening device designed to detect illicit narcotics onsite with no officer exposure. TactiScan is a reusable pocket-sized narcotics screening device designed to detect illicit narcotics onsite that connects by bluetooth and limits officer exposure to potentially dangerous substances. Learn more at tactiscan.com.

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Zac Miller served a combined eight years as a firefighter/EMT, 911 dispatcher and a police officer. Zac is currently the Director of ManPower at UNcivilized Inc, a Certified UNcivilized Coach, and a Breathwork Facilitator. Zac is also a husband, and a dad to four kids.

Since leaving public service, Zac completed a certificate in Traumatic Stress Studies – from the Trauma Research Foundation, founded by Bessel van der Kolk – and is dedicated to mentoring others on their path of Post Traumatic Growth. Through his continued self-excavation and exploration, he has collected a metaphorical backpack full of tools to continue serving others.

Zac is also one of my co-facilitators for The Uncivilized Heroes Journey retreat we have coming up November 9 – 12th in the mountains outside Denver, Colorado. It’s a special four day men’s retreat for first responders and military personnel (active, former and retired). 

For four days 

✅ You’ll have time to prioritize your personal growth so you can dive deep into the work we’ll be doing which means you’ll be ready to tackle 2024 and beyond. 

✅ You’ll be invited to challenge yourself, your current beliefs and your habitual patterns so you can gain clarity about what’s holding you back, which means you’ll finally be able to make the progress you want but can’t seem to get. 

✅ You’ll learn deep – even hidden – truths about how the job has affected your life so you can stop wondering if you’re the only one which means you can finally begin to make sense of it all. 

✅ There won’t be any “civilians” attending so you can feel welcomed and amongst true brothers, safe from special interests and anti-cop attitudes which means you can relax and have fun while doing the work. 

✅ You’ll learn strategies to reclaim your life outside of public service so you can reconnect with the people who are the most important to you. 

✅ You’ll leave with new friends who are committed to their personal growth like you are. Men who are in your corner to cheer you on which means you’re not alone. 

If you have any questions, please let me know. I’m happy to jump on a call or simply answer questions by email. Just reply to this. 

You can learn more at manuncivilized.com/heroesjourney

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TactiScan is a portable drug screening device designed to detect illicit narcotics onsite with no officer exposure. TactiScan is a reusable pocket-sized narcotics screening device designed to detect illicit narcotics onsite that connects by bluetooth and limits officer exposure to potentially dangerous substances. Learn more at tactiscan.com.

Oftentimes, it’s the minor things that can set us off and send us spiraling out of control, handing over our sovereignty to anxiety and anger. Getting cut off in traffic, waiting in long lines…

A bad haircut can be one of those things. 

In this episode I share the story of how a hair stylist (that’s being generous) took to my head as if storming the beaches of Normandy, and how it gave me the opportunity to practice the BADGES model of self-awareness to keep me calm, centered, and here laughing about it. 

Are you struggling with losing control over something as simple as a haircut? Have you been surprised by your emotional reactions to seemingly simple things in your life? Do you find that you’re struggling with feelings of being overwhelmed by daily life? 

Join us in the mountains outside Denver, Colorado November 9 – 12th for a special four day men’s retreat for first responders and veterans. Any current, former, or retired cop, firefighter, dispatcher, or custody professional can join us along with any current or former military personnel. 

For four days 

✅ You’ll have time to prioritize your personal growth so you can dive deep into the work we’ll be doing which means you’ll be ready to tackle 2024 and beyond. 

✅ You’ll be invited to challenge yourself, your current beliefs and your habitual patterns so you can gain clarity about what’s holding you back, which means you’ll finally be able to make the progress you want but can’t seem to get. 

✅ You’ll learn deep – even hidden – truths about how the job has affected your life so you can stop wondering if you’re the only one which means you can finally begin to make sense of it all. 

✅ There won’t be any “civilians” attending so you can feel welcomed and amongst true brothers, safe from special interests and anti-cop attitudes which means you can relax and have fun while doing the work. 

✅ You’ll learn strategies to reclaim your life outside of public service so you can reconnect with the people who are the most important to you. 

✅ You’ll leave with new friends who are committed to their personal growth like you are. Men who are in your corner to cheer you on which means you’re not alone. 

If you have any questions, please let me know. I’m happy to jump on a call or simply answer questions by email. Just reply to this. 

You can learn more at manuncivilized.com/heroesjourney

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