The Superior Men Podcast

Matt and Jay discuss difficult neighbors, how to be a good neighbor, setting good boundaries and what to do when the guy next door turns out to be nuts.

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Intro: Living Near Other People

Hard to do. Many complications.

Everyone has bad neighbor stories

Why is it hard to live near other people?

People do better with space (but there’s not much nowadays)

Not everyone knows how to respect others 

MANY people are bad at conflict…and conflict is a requirement when neighbors have differences of opinion

Are People More Angry These Days? 

Maybe

How to Deal with Difficult Neighbors/co-workers/family members/etc

1. Be a Good Neighbor Yourself

Be polite 

Be respectful

Be positive 

Look for ways to help out 

Occasionally offer gifts (small, thoughtful, inexpensive)

Harbor no ill will

Remember important dates/facts/names that your neighbor cares about

Always be impeccable with your word…aka Don’t lie (show up when you say you will, do the things you commit to, don’t commit if you’re not going to do it, etc.)

2. Set Boundaries When Necessary

Politely but firmly confront them on issues that must be resolved 

Explain your side but listen to their side as well

Spend the time to work to a common goal

Compromise if you can’t agree on a solution (both sides sacrifice something)

3. Determine If You Truly Have Bad Neighbors 

If they’re REALLY difficult:

Go to landlord/HOA

Go to other authorities

Go to a lawyer / court

Consider moving?

If they’re DANGEROUS…

Go to police

Probably moving

If you find you have multiple bad neighbors

Definitely time to move

However…The truth is, you probably don’t want to be friends with your neighbors

Why don’t you want to be friends with your neighbors

Space is good

Like dating a co-worker, if it breaks up then you live next to someone you hate. Not fun.

Summary

Be a Good Neighbor Yourself

Set Boundaries When Necessary

Determine If You Truly Have Bad Neighbors

You probably Don’t Want To Be Friends With Your Neighbors

Conclusion

Your peace of mind is highly dependent on your relationship with your neighbors. Do the necessary work to make sure you can relax, feel safe and enjoy your neighborhood.

What If? Serious Scientific Answers to Absurd Hypothetical Questions (2014) by Randall Munroe

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Overview of “What If?”

A very brief description of “What If?”

Randall Munroe’s webcomic about science, technology, language, and love has a large and passionate following. Every week millions of fans of Munroe’s stick figures visit xkcd.com … and many of them ask him a lot of strange questions. For example, what if you tried to hit a baseball pitched at 90 percent the speed of light? How fast can you hit a speed bump while driving and live? If there was a robot apocalypse, how long would humanity last? This book is a compilation of his most popular questions and answers - complimented by his signature xkcd comics.

What Munroe sets out to do / Purpose of the book

In pursuit of answers to reader’s questions, Munroe runs computer simulations, pores over stacks of declassified military research memos, solves differential equations, and consults with nuclear reactor operators. His responses are masterpieces of clarity and hilarity. They often predict the complete annihilation of humankind, or at least a really big explosion. 

The intended audience of "What If?" / Who will benefit most

People who love science

People who love learning

People who enjoy thinking about how and why the world works

People who want to become better problem solvers

People who love comics

People who want to spend time listening to someone who is really smart and really cool

Who probably WON’T like this book?

People who think hypothetical questions are unnecessary

People who don’t care how or why the world works

People who hate science and math

People who don’t like stick figures

How does this book specifically benefit Men? 

As a man, people are always going to be asking us why things happen the way they do. The world is a complicated and challenging place and much of what is happening is overwhelming to people. Books like ‘What If?’ help Men to hone our problem solving skills and help us to make better choices. Plus Men need a good sense of humor and xkcd and Randall Munroe is hilarious!

Is this book Easy, Average or Difficult to read? / How long is it?

Easy to follow, but the math/physics/chemistry/etc can get very challenging when Munroe breaks down the science behind the answers. Thankfully, you can always skip over the dense math stuff and just read the summaries. And of course there’s always the comics! 

321 pages, Audiobook: 6 hrs, 36mins

What are the overall book reviews? Is the book well-known? Popular? Significant?

Amazon Books: 29,172 Ratings - 4.6 Stars

Kindle Ranking:

#7 in Science & Scientists Humor

#15 in Physics (Kindle Store)

#34 in Trivia (Books)

Audible: 13,396, 4.5 stars

Audible Ranking:

#123 in Physics 

#246 in Trivia

#320 in Biological Sciences

Book-To-Movie Translation 

It's probably a good thing a movie version of "What If?" doesn't exist. In pretty much every scenario the world ends!

Bio of Randall Munroe

Munroe is an American cartoonist, author, and engineer best known as the creator of the webcomic xkcd. 

Munroe was born in Easton, Pennsylvania, and his father has worked as an engineer and marketer.

He was a fan of comic strips in newspapers from an early age, starting off with Calvin and Hobbes (Jay’s personal fav comic)

Graduated in 2006 with a degree in physics.

Worked as a contract programmer and roboticist for NASA at the Langley Research Center, before and after his graduation with a physics d

Mastery (2012) by Robert Greene

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Overview of “Mastery”

A very brief description of “Mastery”

Through the stories of dozens of highly successful famous people in many different fields, Greene has put together a powerful program teaching us how to achieve mastery in one's life. Mastery can be thought of as the unique way each of us can fully actualize our potential for greatness and enjoy a fulfilling life.

What Greene sets out to do / Purpose of the book

Greene's overarching thesis is to challenge the conventional notion of "genius" as a genetic gift bestowed upon a handful of individuals. He believes "genius" is acquirable, and all masters, regardless of intrinsic ability, go through roughly the same process on their path towards mastery.

The intended audience of the book / Who will benefit most

People who love history

People who love stories of success and accomplishment

People who enjoy having their ass kicked (in a good way)

People who want to become more powerful, more successful and happier

People who want to hear a self-help book that shares truth - not fluff

Who probably WON’T like this book?

People who need to believe that all the great accomplishments in our history were from superhuman “geniuses”...so they don’t have to take responsibility for their own lives

People who want a easy, feel-good self-help book that won’t require them to make any real changes to their lives

Lazy people (seriously, 7 years to get good at something??? BS!)

Creationists

How does this book specifically benefit Men? 

In the modern era, regular men are at a disadvantage because they’re easy to control. If you don’t set yourself apart it’s easy to become manipulated and jerked around by the powerful influence of culture, industry, political groups, media, our employers, our neighbors and even our friends and family. Mastery provides a road map for men to find their individuality. As leaders in our families and our communities it’s critical for Men to know who we are, what we’re passionate about and where we’re going in our lives!

Is this book Easy, Average or Difficult to read? / How long is it?

Easy to read, but NOT easy to implement! Also it’s going to take some time to digest the material in the book. Think about this more like a textbook for a class and less like the traditional self-help book.

354 pages, Audiobook: 16 hrs, 9mins

What are the overall book reviews?Is the book well-known? Popular? Significant?

Amazon Books: 7385 Ratings - 4.7 Stars

Kindle Ranking:

#23 in Social Psychology & Interactions

#27 in Motivational Business Management

#99 in Motivational Self-Help

Audible: 12,154, 4.7 stars

Ranking:

#8 in Social Psychology

#16 in Business Motivation & Self-Improvement

#493 out of All Audible Books

Book-To-Movie Translation 

N/A

Bio of Robert Greene

Grew up in Los Angeles. Attended UC Berkeley and finished in University of Wisconsin with a degree in Classical Studies (aka Liberal Arts + English). 

He estimates he had “80 jobs before becoming an author,” including construction worker, translator, magazine editor, and Hollywood movie writer.

Influenced to write 48 Laws while working in Hollywood, watching the power plays at work around him every day.

Arguably the single most popular author for Rap Artists. He’s been endorsed by: Jay-Z, Kanye West, Busta Rhymes, Ludacris, Drake and many others. Jay-Z, Kanye and Busta Rhymes have written songs about the 48 Laws. 

Greene can speak five languages and is a stude

Matt and Jay discuss why learning the wrong lesson - or the right lesson - after we make a mistake will make all the difference between future successes or even greater failures.

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Intro: You’re Going To Lose. Again. And Again. And Again.

We discussed it last time. Yeah it sucks. Yeah it’s a fact. Gotta accept it if we’re going to live in the real world.

What We Tell Ourselves After We Fail

Post-failure self talk determines your direction

Are you a loser? Do you fundamentally not have what it takes? Are you not smart enough, talented enough, strong enough, courageous enough, creative enough - to actually get the W?

Are you really not cut out for this? Maybe you should give up…

Honestly, what shitty things do you tell yourself after you fail?

All the things…the horrible things…we say to ourselves

The wrong lessons

Why We’re So Hard On Ourselves After Failing

Often the wrong lessons come from our childhood

Parents can be harsh, manipulative or just plain mean to us when we fail

Teachers can crush our spirits and limit our belief in ourselves

Classmates can be abusive and bully us

Other family members and community can be snide, callous or even cruel

Can be from adult failures

So we slowly learn, over time, that whenever we fail, it’s really, really BAD.

May be from traumas

Divorce, injury, bad girlfriends, fired at work, 

BUT WE CAN REWRITE OUR SCRIPTS!

Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Lose Learn 

Question: When a highly successful person fails or makes a mistake, what do they do afterwards? How do they learn the right lesson instead of the wrong lesson?

Examples:

Temple Grandin

Growing up autistic, with overwhelming fear, constant sensory overload and problems interacting with people -> Becoming a world-class animal behaviorist, one of the leading authorities on cattle behavior and helping to create dozens of improvements to humanely raising and slaughtering cattle, and the most famous autistic scientist to study and research autism (that is to say, from “inside” the condition)

How did Grandin turn her failure into success?

Daniel Everett (with the Piraha people in Amazon)

Years spent with a dangerous Amazon tribe trying - and failing - to translate the most difficult language on earth -> Eventual success after transforming himself, his world view, his beliefs about culture (and even his belief in God)

How did Everett turn his failure into success?

Freddie Roach

Failure as a boxer - had some good bouts and a solid performance at the beginning of his career but started to fall apart physically and never became famous -> Tremendous success as one of the most winning boxing trainers in history - training superstars like: Manny Pacquiao (8 World titles), Julio Cesar Chavez Jr, Oscar De La and even Mike Tyson! - Also trained MMA greats Georges St. Pierre, Tito Ortiz and Anderson De Silva (among others)

How did Roach turn his failure into success?

How Do We Stop Learning the WRONG Lessons and Start Learning the RIGHT Lessons?

Step 1. Accept Your Failure (and the pain!)

Yeah you screwed up. It sucks. It hurts. That's okay. It's part of the process.

Step 2. Become Aware of Your Natural Negative Response To Failure

Pay attention to the negative tapes/stories/beliefs playing in your head after you fucked up

Step 3. Figure Out the Truth of the Situation

Don’t lie to yourself or others.

Step 4. Choose a Positive, Productive Response To Failure

Think of some positive, success-oriented tapes you could play instead that will help you to accomplish your goal

For example:

How can I use this experi

The Sea Wolf (1904) by Jack London

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Overview of “The Sea Wolf”

A very brief description of “The Sea Wolf”

Gentleman narrator, Humphrey Van Weyden is pitted against amoral sea captain, Wolf Larsen. The novel begins when Van Weyden is swept overboard into San Francisco Bay, and plucked from the sea by Larsen's seal-hunting vessel, the Ghost. Pressed into service as a cabin boy by the ruthless captain, Van Weyden becomes an unwilling participant in a brutal shipboard drama. Larsen's increasingly violent abuse of the crew fuels a mounting tension that ends in a battle to the death between two opposing philosophies: romantic idealism and cold, brutal materialism

What London sets out to do / Purpose of the book

Hailed by critics as one of the greatest sea stories ever written, this rousing adventure offers a fascinating combination of gritty realism and brilliant and beautiful writing. Jack London began his career at sea, and his shipboard experiences give The Sea-Wolf a powerful and magnetic authenticity.

The intended audience of the book / Who will benefit most

People who love adventure stories (esp old-time adventure)

People who love philosophy and intellectual challenge

People who enjoy the ocean and sailing

People who want beautiful writing

People - esp men - who have been raised as weak men and want to become stronger

Who probably WON’T like this book?

Anyone who needs a constant, driving plot (there’s lots of plot breaks for philosophical discussion and argumentation)

Anyone who doesn’t like the dictionary (seriously, you’re going to need to look up a LOT of words, esp maritime language like halyards, poop deck, mainstays, sheets, flying jib, etc, etc)

Anyone who has ADD (going to take some work to read this)

Matt

How does this book specifically benefit Men? 

The Sea Wolf is about how Humphrey Van Weyden, a rich gentleman who lived a life of ease, comfort and luxury, is thrust into the harsh reality of life at sea. Hump quickly learns that for the first time in his life he must develop his strength, skill and wits - or he will not survive.

Is this book Easy, Average or Difficult to read? / How long is it?

The story itself is easy enough to follow but the language is over 100 years old and reads like it. As we mentioned earlier, having a dictionary (and wikipedia) available nearby will be useful.

256 pages, Audiobook: 11 hrs, 21mins

What are the overall book reviews? Is the book well-known? Popular? Significant?

Amazon Books: Unknown ratings (Multiple versions over 100yrs), 4.5 stars avg

Ranking: N/A

Audible: 764, 4.6 stars

Ranking: N/A

Book-To-Movie Translation 

At least a dozen movie or TV versions of "The Sea Wolf" have been produced over the last 100 years.

Bio of Jack London

John Griffith London (1/12/1876 – 11/22/1916)

American novelist, journalist and social activist. 

A pioneer of commercial fiction and American magazines, he was one of the first American authors to become an international celebrity and earn a large fortune from writing.

At 13 years old he worked 12-18 hour days at a cannery. Soon after he left and became on oyster pirate and ended up earning his own boat. After his ship was disabled he signed on a Japanese sealing schooner for the next two years. Then he rode the rails as a hobo for a year and traveled back and forth across the US….All this before he was 20 years old!!

Sailed up to Alaska and worked in the Klondike as a miner where he got inspiration for his novels The Call of the Wild and White

Never Finished: Unshackle Your Mind and Win the War Within (2022) by David Goggins (with Adam Skolnick)

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Overview of “Never Finished”

A very brief description of “Never Finished”

Can’t Hurt Me, David Goggins’ hit memoir, demonstrated how much untapped ability we all have - but it was merely an introduction to the power of the mind. In Never Finished, Goggins takes you inside his Mental Lab, where he developed the philosophy, psychology, and strategies that enabled him to learn that what he thought was his limit was only his beginning and that the quest for greatness is unending.

What Goggins sets out to do / Purpose of the book

The stories and lessons in this memoir offer the listener a blueprint they can use to climb from the bottom of the barrel into a whole new stratosphere that once seemed unattainable. Whether you feel off-course in life, are looking to maximize your potential, or drain your soul to break through your so-called glass ceiling, this book will help you get there

The intended audience of the book / Who will benefit most

People who love “Can’t Hurt Me”

People who are fascinated with the creation of Navy SEALs

People who want to understand how normal people do “impossible” things

People who want a more humanized, complete version of David Goggins

People who want to turn their dark past into a beautiful future

Who probably WON’T like this book?

Anyone who can’t stand explicit language

How does this book specifically benefit Men? 

In Can’t Hurt Me, Goggins gave men a blueprint on how they can learn to accomplish spectacular things - but it sacrificed many elements of a more well-rounded life. In Never Finished Goggins teaches new lessons on how men can balance epic performance with leadership, family, compassion and inner peace

Is this book Easy, Average or Difficult to read? / How long is it?

The book is easy reading but content-wise it’s brutal and will trigger everyone who reads it (probably in multiple different ways)

299 pages, Audiobook is 11 hours

NOTE: Like ‘Cant Hurt Me,’ the audio version of ‘Never Finished’ adds 3 hours of live Podcast conversation (including an incredibly powerful interview with David and his mother). We HIGHLY recommend you get the audiobook version and then if you love it get the paperback/kindle as an addition so you can look at the photos and get other insider details on Goggin’s life.

What are the overall book reviews?Is the book well-known? Popular? Significant?

All Amazon Books: 2,790 ratings, 4.9 stars

Currently #3 in All Amazon Books

#5 in Motivational Self-Help (Kindle Store)

#5 in Personal Transformation

#12 in Memoirs (Kindle Store)

Audible: 17,533 ratings, 4.9 stars

Currently #4 in All Audible Books 

#1 in Motivational Self-Help (Books)

#2 in Personal Success

Book-To-Movie Translation 

N/A

Bio of David Goggins

David Goggins (born February 17, 1975) is an American ultramarathon runner, ultra-distance cyclist, triathlete, public speaker, and author. He is a retired United States Navy SEAL member who served in the Iraq War as well as an Army Ranger.

Grew up in home with an incredibly abusive father who regularly beat the entire family 

Lost over 100lbs in three months to get accepted into Navy SEAL training

Attempted Navy SEAL ‘Hell Week’ 3 times - first two times he failed before finally succeeding

Has competed in hundreds of ultra-endurance events - including Badwater 135, Moab 240, Furnace Creek 508, Ultraman and many others - and has won several.

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Matt and Jay discuss why we suck at losing, how to get better at it and why embracing failure will make you a bigger winner than ever!

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Intro: Losing Sucks!

Losing sucks - Failure sucks

And we’re not good at it. Esp as Americans.

Tom Brady falling apart this year

Which is sad

List of famous failures

Abraham Lincoln

Defeated in his run for state legislature (1832), failed in business (1833), had a nervous breakdown (1836), was defeated in his bid for congress (1843), defeated for US senator (1854), defeated as vice presidential candidate (1856) and defeated again as US senator (1858) before finally becoming president (1860) and then was murdered – but he also galvanized the country, abolished slavery and changed the course of US history!

Widely considered one of the - if not THE - best US president

Michael Jordan after switching to baseball (big failure in baseball)

Michael had won 3 NBA Championships with the Chicago Bulls, 3 league MVP titles and was considered the best player in the league…THEN he switched to baseball

Motivated by his father’s death and his dad’s dream for him to become a baseball player, Jordan joined the White Sox…and he was terrible. Never even played a major league game.

After two seasons Jordan sucked it up, admitted he was crap at baseball and went back to the NBA…

…and won 3 more championships! He is now considered the greatest basketball player of all time (Sorry you LeBron fans!)

Tiger Woods

Once considered to be the world's greatest golfer - winner of 14 majors titles in golf - Woods was involved in multiple scandals, major back injuries, family disintegration and a mental meltdown. Once #1 in the world, by 2017 Tiger had dropped to 1,199th. Starting the 2018 season, at age 42, after having gone through four back surgeries, including spinal fusion, the question was not whether Tiger could drive a golf ball 300+ yards, but whether he could ever again swing a club again without debilitating pain. He got off to a slow start in 2018, but then began to gather momentum. He almost won the 2018 PGA Championship, finishing second with his best-ever final round score in a major. Then, in what seems like a miracle, or perhaps a fairytale, Tiger did the impossible and came back to win the 2019 Masters for his 15th major title. 

Muhammad Ali

Ali had been on the top of the boxing world. In 1960 he won an Olympic gold medal and over the next few years he built his reputation and skill and in 1965 he won the heavyweight championship of the world, in a stunning upset over the seemingly invincible Sonny Liston. But in 1967, after refusing to serve in the US military due to his objections to the Vietnam War, Ali was stripped of his world championship belt and his boxing license. He was convicted of draft evasion, sentenced to five years in prison, and fined $10,000. Although Ali did not serve time, he would not be allowed to fight again until 1970. Ali had been robbed of his prime years and he lost his 1971 bid for the heavyweight crown to Joe Frazier. In 1973 he lost a fight to Ken Norton in which his jaw was broken. He appeared to be washed-up a has-been. But then in quick succession Ali won rematches with Norton and Frazier, earning him the "right" to be knocked out by the reigning heavyweight champion, the hulking George Foreman. But in the celebrated "Rumble in the Jungle" a middle-aged Ali rallied to defeat Foreman and suddenly he was back on top of the boxing world again. Ali would go undefeated until 1978. By the time he retired, Ali was not only the most famous boxer on the planet, but the most famous athlete and probably the most-recognized human being around the world.

The Terminal List (2018) by Jack Carr

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Overview of “The Terminal List”

A very brief description of “The Terminal List”(4 minutes) 00:00-04:00

On his last combat deployment, Navy Seal James Reece’s entire team was killed in a catastrophic ambush. When Reece discovers this was not an act of war by a foreign enemy but a conspiracy that runs to the highest levels of US government, he applies the lessons that he’s learned in over a decade of constant warfare to avenging the deaths of his family and teammates. 

What Carr sets out to do / Purpose of the book

This is a revenge tale, pure and simple. Reece becomes the angel of death and the tragedy that happens gives him just cause to transcend all laws and do whatever it takes to bring every corrupt individual to justice.

The intended audience of the book / Who will benefit most

People who love the military - esp. Navy SEALs

People who love details in their stories

People who love a good muscular thriller

People who enjoy blood and action

People who are angry and want some vicarious violence upon their enemies

Who probably WON’T like this book?

People who can’t handle a protagonist without mercy

People who have done bad things themselves and would be terrified of someone like Carr

People who don’t like strong, explicit violence

People who are triggered by the phrase “AR-15”

How does this book specifically benefit Men? 

As a man, you always need to think about how to protect your family and friends. This book will also challenge you to answer the question “What would you do if someone killed them”?

Is this book Easy, Average or Difficult to read? / How long is it? (1 minute) 04:00-05:00

The book is easy reading – assuming you’re okay with brutal violence

414 pages, Audiobook is 12 hours but you can definitely speed that up

What are the overall book reviews?Is the book well-known? Popular? Significant?

All Amazon Books: 22,572 ratings, 4.7 stars

 #3,885 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

#64 in Political Thrillers (Books)

#85 in Espionage Thrillers (Books)

Audible: 50,392 ratings, 4.8 stars

#1 in Espionage Thrillers (Audible Books & Originals)

#1 in Political Thrillers (Audible Books)

Book-To-Movie Translation 

Amazon show “The Terminal List” - Season 1 is out now and it’s good!

Bio of Jack Carr

Official Bio from his website:

Jack Carr led special operations teams as a Team Leader, Platoon Commander, Troop Commander and Task Unit Commander. Over his 20 years in Naval Special Warfare he transitioned from an enlisted SEAL sniper, to a junior officer leading assault and sniper teams in Iraq and Afghanistan, to a platoon commander practicing counterinsurgency in the southern Philippines, to commanding a Special Operations Task Unit in southern Iraq throughout the tumultuous drawdown of U.S. Forces.

HOWEVER…The truth is a little more interesting

Jack Carr is actually a pseudonym for TWO writers: Retired Navy Seal George Petersen and Keith Wood, a lawyer, novelist and journalist writes for Guns and Ammo, Forbes, American Rifleman, Shooting Illustrated, Fortune and more

As far as we can tell at least the first book in the series was co-written by Peterson and Wood and possibly several more, however Peterson has become the face of “Jack Carr” and conducts all media interviews with no mention of Wood

There is a 2019 lawsuit between the two men over ownership and credit of the “Jack Carr” brand

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Matt and Jay discuss why moving your home (and change in general) is so hard, why you should look forward to it, and how to do it the right way!

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Intro: Moving Your Home SUCKS

Of the 43 items on the Holmes and Rahe Stress test, moving your home includes at least 10 (and often many more) of the items on that list

The odds of you getting sick purely as a result of high levels of stress either during or after a move are very high!

Some studies show that more than 50% of people don’t move even though they’re unhappy where they are simply because it’s too stressful

One recent study shows that Moving Your Home is more stressful than

Relationship breakdown

Starting a new job 

Or even divorce! (Although that probably depends on how much you hate your spouse)

Reasons Why Moving Your Home Is So Hard

You have to move your whole life

You have to go through everything you own, one piece at a time

Then you have to pack it up, put in in the truck, drive it, take it out of the truck, take it up and down stairs, then unpack it (or have a mover do it all)

You’re hardwired to resist change

Habits are hard to make and then they’re hard to break

Moving your home requires breaking MANY habits in a very short period of time

You have to make lots and lots and LOTS of decisions

Where to live (price, amenities, neighborhood, neighbors, landlords for renters, escrow and negotiating for buyers, condition of house, how badly did they lie/conceal issues?, etc, etc)

Where to work (hopefully you have a job nearby already)

Saying goodbye to your old friends

The challenges of meeting new people

Where is all the new stuff you need to survive? (Grocery stores, supply stores, schools, restaurants, parks, good parts of town/bad parts of town, etc)

Moving your home is EXPENSIVE

Rent truck, packing, first & last month’s rent/deposit on new home, new furniture, things for the new place, storage, movers (or favors owed to friends), insurance, broken things, 

Feeling Out of Control

Lots of random things happen that you can’t control

Flat tires, movers quitting, weather is super hot/cold, your back goes out, 

Mistakes that you will make

Bad planning, missed details, things forgotten, 

Your timeline is at the mercy of other people and circumstances

People don’t return calls. People forget. You’re put “in a cue” in a computer somewhere. 

Shit WILL Go Sideways

Things will go wrong. Count on it.

Ie. In my case, my good buddy who was going to fly down to San Diego and help me move - his dad died just a couple days ago. Super Sad. His dad was a great guy. So not only will he not be able to help me move, I’ll be heading up to Northern California for the funeral instead of moving on the weekend I had scheduled and now I have to juggle a bunch of stuff around. That’s how things are when you move. Unforeseen problems WILL HAPPEN. That’s the nature of the beast.

How to Cope with the Difficult Parts of Moving Your Home

Expect they’ll be difficult

Save a bunch of money (much more than you think you’ll need)

Take a lot of extra time (schedule at least 2x what you think you’ll need)

Get help (friends, family, movers, other pros)

Take breaks

Keep your body loose and stretched out (most people get injured moving!)

The Hard-but-Great Things About Moving Your Home

New experiences

New, cool place to live (or, if it’s a fixer-upper, the opportunity to create one)

New friends

Opportunity to declutter!

The better you are at moving, the better you are at travel

And travel is one of the few things that ALWAYS improves your life

The unkn

Outliers: The Story of Success (2008) by Malcolm Gladwell

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Overview of “Outliers: The Story of Success”

A very brief description of “Outliers”Journalist and researcher Malcolm Gladwell takes us on an intellectual journey through the world of "outliers" - the best and the brightest, the most famous and the most successful - from software billionaires to soccer players to Asian math prodigies. His goal is to find the answer to the question: What makes high-achievers different from regular people?What Gladwell sets out to do / Purpose of the bookThe real meat of the book is Gladwell’s discussion of our misunderstanding of how highly successful people achieve their greatness. The modern media pays too much attention to what successful people are like, and too little attention to where they are from: that is, their culture, their family, their generation, and the idiosyncratic experiences of their upbringing.The intended audience of the book / Who will benefit mostPeople who love biographiesPeople who want to understand how to become successfulPeople who want to know that unspoken truth about great success - that it often requires great luck as well as great workPeople who want to become world famousPeople who like reality TV shows Who probably WON’T like this book?People who need deep, scientific analyses of case studiesPeople who believe in overnight successPeople who aren’t willing to commit 10,000 hours to their thingHow does this book specifically benefit Men? All Men aspire to greatness but most men do not understand everything that is required to achieve it. Outliers will help to fill in the gaps in a man’s education so he can realize the skills, the work, the creativity - and the serendipity that is required to rise to the highest level of achievement.Is this book Easy, Average or Difficult to read? / How long is it? The book is easy reading although it may be difficult to accept how much work is required to achieve greatness336 pages, Audiobook is 7 hours and 18 minutesWhat are the overall book reviews? Is the book well-known? Popular? Significant?Kindle: 22,667 ratings, 4.7 stars#5 in Business Decision-Making#5 in Social Psychology & Interactions#8 in Personal Success in BusinessAudible: 47,305 ratings, 4.8 stars#2 in Anthropology #4 in Medical Social Psychology & Interactions#5 in Social PsychologyBook-To-Movie Translation N/A

Bio of Malcolm Gladwell

Malcolm Gladwell is an English-born Canadian journalist, writer and speaker.Gladwell was born Sept 3, 1963 in Fareham. His mother is Joyce Gladwell, a Jamaican psychotherapist. His father, Graham Gladwell, was a mathematics professor from Kent, England.When he was six his family moved from Southampton to the Mennonite community of Elmira in Ontario, Canada.Gladwell's father noted Malcolm was an unusually single-minded and ambitious boy. When Malcolm was 11, his father, who was a professor of mathematics and engineering at the University of Waterloo, allowed him to wander around the offices at his university, which stoked the boy's interest in reading and libraries. The University of Waterloo granted Gladwell an honorary doctorate in 2007.He graduated with a bachelor's degree in history from Trinity College of the University of Toronto, in 1984 but although he wanted to attend graduate school his grades weren’t high enough so he decided to pursue advertising.After being rejected by every advertising agency he applied to, he accepted a journalism position at American Spectator and has spent almost 40 years to date writing and working in investigative jo