Why do some people pay others to teach them how to be sexual and intimate? Surrogate partners work with clients to learn their bodies and how to have consensual, boundaried, erotic contact with others. Brandon of AmpersandIntimacy expands on our previous episode about surrogate partner therapy, and the benefits and barriers to these treatments.

3:00 gaming and play, kink and sex

6:00 previously he was a clinician

9:00 on people who aren’t listening to my boundaries

13:00 who his clients typically are

16:00 on why people pay for sexual touch

22:00 not being distracted or disturbed

24:00 hygiene requests

27:00 scheduled sex for couples

29:00 on over-regulation

33:00 client-rejection 

37:00 being mean to push me away 

41:00 sex therapy is historically for white hetero men

46:00 what is Upnegotiating and how to avoid it?

48:00 some people test things

52:00 tell me your boundaries PLZ

58:00 sex tips 

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