The Survivor's Guide To Thriving

As you're kicking off 2019 (hopefully on the right foot!), consider: what are the only acceptable outcomes for your year? In this episode of The Survivor's Guide to Thriving Podcast, Mark Jewell digs into how powerful a focus on outcomes can be. He'll share how outcomes are different from goals, the importance of raising your standards, and why you need to be aware of the triggers that throw you off base.

Episode Resources:

• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)

We've made it! The end of 2018 is near! In this episode, Amanda is sharing her top takeaways from the year, ranging from habit-building to everyday bravery to supportive people. Before we get to our resolutions, let's make some time for reflection. Enjoy!

Episode Resources:

• Stick With It: A Scientifically Proven Process for Changing Your Life...For Good by Sean Young
• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)

There's no question about it: negotiating can be hard. Whether you're asking for a raise, negotiating a job offer, or buying a car, it can be challenging to ask for what you want. But it's not just money where this shows up. Negotiating is a form of self-advocacy – standing up for what you want and need – and shows up for us personally, professionally and beyond. In this episode, Amanda shares her thoughts on:

• Why it's so important to learn how to negotiate or advocate for yourself
• How failing to do so lands us squarely in survival or suffering mode
• Things that get in the way of standing up for our needs
• How to approach negotiation and self-advocacy in an effective way

And more!

We train others how to treat us. And the treatment we accept heavily determines our outcomes. That's why it's so important to set standards for yourself that lead to outcomes you are worthy of receiving – and that starts with self-advocacy. Enjoy!

Episode Resources:

• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)

"Tell me how to get over my fear of confrontation!"

We've heard some version of that request several times in the last month alone – so we're digging into it! In this episode, Amanda shares her thoughts on:

• Why most fear of confrontation isn't about confrontation at all
• Where this fear fits into The Survivor's Guide to Thriving process
• How you can use The Story Framework to get a better handle on where this fear is coming from
• Practical ways to push through fear when hard conversations are necessary

And more!

Our brains do a really good job of making hard or confrontational conversations seem even scarier than they have to be. With these tips, you can practice the scary thing and start taking back control of some of your fears. Enjoy!

Episode Resources:

• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)

Delegation is hard. It can feel like you're losing control over what and how things get done. Many times, instead of facing that uncertainty, we hoard projects and tasks because "it's just easier if I do it myself."

But that's no way to lead.

In this episode, Wade Johannes joins Amanda to talk about delegation – why we don't do it (and why we should), how to know what to hand off, and how to give directions that increase the chances of success. Their conversation includes:

• Some signs you may not be delegating well
• Why the success of any leader depends on their ability to delegate to and coach up their team
• Tools to decide what should and shouldn't be delegated
• How to set clear expectations when a project is delegated
• ...and more!

Don't let your fear of letting things go hold you (and your team) back. Apply these tips to see just how much you can grow.

Episode Resources:

• Wade Johannes on Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram and Snapchat (user: wadejohannes)
• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)

Amanda recently had the chance to visit Minnesota for the wedding of a former coworker and it got her thinking about all the things she learned in that first job – and how much she still appreciates those lessons today. In this episode, she shares some of the experiences she's most grateful for having as she entered the professional world, including:

• Pushing through the scariness of standing up or negotiating for yourself
• The importance of peers and mentors
• How valuable it can be to live away from home

And more!

Whether you're a young professional navigating the transition from college to work or a manager trying to support your early career employees, Amanda sheds light on what you might want to be thinking about (and the questions you've been afraid to ask). Enjoy!

Episode Resources:

• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)

What is daring, authentic leadership? Who is a "leader"? How can we show up for our teams and organizations with a greater level of courage and vulnerability – and thereby create more trust along the way?

Brene Brown's latest book, Dare to Lead, dives into all of these questions!

In this episode, self-described Brene Brown fans Amanda, Wade and Staci share their biggest takeaways from Dare to Lead, including:

• Where we let titles and hierarchy get in the way of relationship-building
• Why courage, vulnerability and trust should take precedence over tactical skills of leadership
• The role of empathy in company culture

And more!

Whether you've read the book or not, there are some great nuggets in here to help leaders and organizations thrive. This is not a paid advertisement and we don't know Brene (although, if she wants to come hang with us, we'd totally be game!). We're just big fans of her work and think there's a lot of application from Dare to Lead to the work we do in training and coaching. Enjoy!

Episode Resources:

• The Power of Vulnerability – Brene Brown's first TED Talk
• Self-Awareness Can Help Leaders More Than an MBA Can – Harvard Business Review
• Brene Brown's books
• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)

We've all had experiences with self-criticism – the voice in our head tells us how we screwed up or how we should have shown up better or how much "less than" we are than the people around us. For some of us, that critical voice can push us to the point of being afraid to take action or we might even turn it outward – sending negativity at others to avoid how much we're tearing ourselves apart.

But what if we could shift that negativity into a more productive energy level?

In this episode, Mark and Amanda dig into criticism and its roots in shame, guilt and fear – and what it might look like to move toward a place of awareness instead. Their discussion includes:

• A recent experience Amanda had involving shame triggers, "gremlins" and self-criticism
• Why the word "should" is a red flag for shame and criticism self-talk
• The emotional scale between shame and awareness
• How we can re-evaluate our use of shame in self-evaluation and communication with others

And more!

Criticism is deep in the mental/emotional hardwiring for many of us. As we learn more and reconsider our approach, though, we can transform that negativity into something more productive and useful – self-awareness and growth.

Episode Resources:

• Power vs. Force by Richard Hawkins
• Brene Brown's books
• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)

At the beginning of every training program, we ask participants what they would like help with. And, it never fails, "time management" always shows up on the list!

Seeing as how Mark frequently refers to Amanda as the "chief of getting stuff done" here at MJST, she decided to take a stab at sharing some of her favorite time management and organization tips. In this episode, Amanda digs into:

• Why better time management and organization often starts with a mindset shift
• The importance of turning your to-do list into baby steps
• Using your calendar to move your to-do list forward
• The idea of "big rocks" and the importance of priorities
• Why you might need to call in backup

And more!

Whether you're a productivity junkie or sometimes feel like a disorganized hot mess (hey, we've all been there!), there are practical tips in this episode for you. Enjoy!

Episode Resources:

• Rising Strong by Brene Brown
• Stick With It by Sean Young
• The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins
• To-Do List Got You Overwhelmed? Simplify Things With the 1-3-5 Rule by Haley Goldberg
• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)

Each of us has a basic human need for certainty – "the need for security, stability and reliability" – and safety is a very important component of that. If I don't feel safe at home, in my community or (as we're focusing on today) at work, it's very hard to feel like you can truly thrive.

In this episode, Amanda and Mark sit down with Staci Martin – agribusiness professional and owner of Martin+Co – to talk about employee safety and, in particular, safety for women in business. Whether you're a man or woman, this conversation sheds light on an important topic that affects us all. Amanda, Mark and Staci dig into:

• Why organizations, leaders and employees may not be initiating conversations about female safety in the workplace
• Experiences Staci, Mark and Amanda have had that opened their eyes to the importance of talking about safety for women
• Practical approaches to staying safe while traveling or being out on the road
• How male leaders can initiate a conversation about this topic or support their female employees most effectively

Plus much more!

This is one of the most important topics we've talked about so far on this show and one we hope everyone can spend a little more time thinking about as it relates to your organization or team.

Episode Resources:

• Connect with Staci Martin on LinkedIn
• Mark Jewell Speaking & Training on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram
• Mark Jewell on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: markjamesjewell)
• Amanda Sollman on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and Snapchat (user: sollmana)