The Teenage Guide

In your busy day-to-day life, it can feel like another to-do to "take care of yourself" - especially if you think it needs to be a big production.

There are countless problems with this perspective - starting with the way it's marketed to our teens and framed within our society.

Inside this episode, I walk you through my proven, magical 3-step framework to show you how self-care is actually:

With 100% conviction, I want you to know that when you practice what I share in this episode, your lives will change for the better. I highly encourage you to remove distractions and soak this up. True self-care starts now.

In a few week's it will already be New Year's, and until then you're managing so much. Think ahead, and reserve time NOW to kick-off you and your teen's New Year 2025 with the confidence and connection you crave!

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Welcome to The Teenage Guide podcast!

In this episode, I share essential tips and tools in order to support your teen feeling successful to cap off this calendar year.

Whether they're in the midst of preparing for finals, big end-of-year projects, or they're looking ahead with dread and anxiety because of grades, stress, pressure, and expectations, this episode mixes mindset with strategy and it's designed to give parents the essential pre-during-and post tools that will empower you both to finish the school year 'strong'....on your own terms.

No more..."You have homework! I don't want to tell you again to get started!" The yelling / demanding cycle won't work and it creates resistance leading to breakdowns. Exactly what you don't want.

Listen in now to understand how to truly prepare and support them to feeling strong in school now and in the future.

Also, give your teen the gift of my coaching and supporting them now!

Don't Miss 50% OFF: The Teenage Guide to Finish the School Year Strong: my digital coaching guide that takes what's inside this episode deeper and makes it REAL for your teen! Imagine me coaching them through these intense periods...forever?

The holidays in the United States have arrived!

This means it's time for some duality in this 3-D world.

Joy and celebration mixed with extra pressure, to-do's, and expectations to meet. It's a time for connection and gratitude, but this season can often be mixed with many challenges for you and your adolescent.

So, this week inside the podcast I'm sharing my #1 practice that will make a huge difference in how you and your t(w)een experience any challenges that may arise this season.

It's simple, and the most effective practice there is. 

Get ready for more peace no matter what is happening around you and your family! 

As always, if you like this episode, please take 2 minutes to like, subscribe, rate, review, and share with a fellow parent. It means the world to me, and it creates a positive ripple effect in the world!

NEVER underestimate the power you have as the parent,

✨ Ashley 

The Teenage Guides are my 1-hour digital coaching guides infused with my 7-step Challenge Mountain framework addressing root causes and how to approach and work with your teen to solve some of the biggest challenges you face.

Step 6 is what I call Making Manifestation Real.

If you want to create a new reality as a human and with your teen you've got to identify who you want to be in 3-6 months, and start to believe as that version of yourself...now.

But, how?

Inside this episode, I share:

The teen years are challenging, yes, but NEVER underestimate the power you have as the parent

✨ Ashley 

There are specific patterns of thought and behavior that always lead to more confidence and connection for parents and teens. I've seen this repeatedly inside my coaching practice, and I'm spilling all the secrets inside this episode! 

Listen in to hear about:

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Imagine these results in motion for you and your teen by New Year's...

If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with a fellow parent to continue the ripple effect. 

The teen years are challenging, yes, but NEVER underestimate the power you have as the parent, 

Ashley

Welcome to The Teenage Guide podcast!

I often get asked...

"What do I say?"

"How do I say that?"

"When do I say it?"

And, I get it: when we want to talk to our teens about something important it can feel like approaching our crush in middle school. Awkward. And, where to even begin?!

In this week's episode, I share 3 must-have conversation topics to broach with your teen - and I challenge you to start them in the next 30 days or less!

Each conversation:

...And, they all might build discomfort inside you and require about 10 seconds of courage. You've got this.

The good news: these conversations DO NOT need to be one-and-done sit down tell-all's. They are sprinkled into weekly life.

As I coach parents around the world, I see universal patterns in simple tools to improve open communication with our teens, and why it matters so much. This episode is a portal into those patterns. Listen in NOW!

p.s. As always, if you like this episode, please take 2 minutes to like, subscribe, rate, review, and share with a fellow parent. It means the world to me, and it creates a positive ripple effect in the world!

BOUNDARIES...

What are they? & Why are they so important to you and your t(w)een thriving individually and together?

As I coach parents around the world, I see universal trends in how our challenges are often related to boundaries (or lack thereof).

Instead of thinking of them as this hard, cold, angry line, inside this episode I help you shift to seeing them as an essential (& loving) part of true wellness for you and your t(w)een from the inside out.

Inside this episode I share:

Listen in NOW!

p.s. As always, if you like this episode, please take 2 minutes to like, subscribe, rate, review, and share with a fellow parent. It means the world to me, and it creates a positive ripple effect in the world!

Time Codes

00:52 - Let’s Redefine Teen Parenting—It Doesn’t Have to Be Hard
04:54 - The Boundary Breakthrough That Changed Everything
05:36 - Boundaries: The Most Loving Gift You Can Give Your Teen
07:16 - How Codependency Held Me Back—and Boundaries Set Me Free
08:10 - When Boundaries Finally Hit Like a Freight Train
09:57 - Boundaries Aren’t Harsh—They’re a Love Language
11:00 - Unspoken Boundaries Show Up as Overreactions"
12:53 - What Puppy Training Taught Me About Boundaries
14:04 - Without Consistency, Boundaries Don’t Stick
15:30 - Your Teen Isn’t the Problem—Your Story Might Be
16:25 - When Fear Takes Over: Rewriting the Story Behind Teen Behaviors
17:27 - Teens Crave Boundaries—Just Not Around Preferences
18:42 - How One Teen Craved Boundaries More Than Freedom
20:44 - Building Trust Starts with Simple Daily Moments
21:20 - 3 Reasons Boundaries Fail—and What to Do Instead
23:16 - Boundaries Build Trust—Even When Your Teen Pushes Back

RESOURCES MENTIONED: 

➡️ THE TEENAGE GUIDES: Mini, digital video & workbook coaching guides that help you solve some of your greatest parenting challenges in under an hour >> (linked)

➡️ FREE Executive Function 101 for Parents of T(w)eens >> (linked)

➡️ FREE Grab a copy of The RELATE Method: the 6 Keys to an Unbreakable Bond with your T(w)een and Why it Matters So Much>> (linked)

✨ Ashley

You've got to take a different approach if you want them to develop the skills that foster self-drive.

Inside this episode I share the 3 things you must practice in order to get them to do what they need to do. These 3 things help you:

Here's to your best year yet with your t(w)een! 

Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share with a fellow parent to continue the ripple effect and paradigm shift.

Remember: NEVER underestimate the power you have as the parent. 

Time Codes

03:08 - Parenting Doesn’t Have to Be So Complicated
05:03 - When Everything Starts Cracking—And What to Look For
05:24 - The Real Reason Your Teen Won’t Listen or Cooperate
09:12 - Why ‘Nice’ Still Backfires When You’re Forcing a Fix
09:58 - How It Feels When Someone Tries to ‘Fix’ You—And Your Teen Feels It Too
10:55 - Your Teen Feels Your Energy—Even If You Don’t Say a Word
11:31 - Teens Listen After They Feel Heard—Not Before
12:02 - Control Backfires—Teens Want to Co-Create Solutions
12:25 - Three Keys to Getting Your Teen to Listen and Take Action

I'm grateful to be your Guide,

✨ Ashley

One of the best skills we can develop in parenting is to be able to effectively diagnose what's not working to get to the root of what's causing the challenge so we can solve it. So, that's why I'm excited to share this week's episode - so you can start to develop this skill yourself!    Inside this episode I share:   

This is a sneak peek into my approach in coaching parents - and I look forward to hearing what you take-away! Like, subscribe, and share with a fellow parent to continue the ripple effect and paradigm shift. Remember to NEVER underestimate the power you have as the parent. 

00:20 - Outdated Beliefs About Teen Parenting (And What to Do Instead)
02:14 - The Mid-Fall Dip: Why Teens Struggle Around October
03:02 - Why the School Year Falls Apart—and What Parents Can Do
04:30 - What Vertigo Taught Me About Parenting and Problem-Solving
07:03 - Why Parenting Advice Fails Without Root Cause Awareness
08:51 - Why Your Parenting Approach Must Evolve with Your Teen
12:10 - Tools and Planners Aren’t the First Step to Real Change
13:32 - Strengthening the Parent-Teen Bond Through Awareness
13:52 - Using the RELATE Method to Deepen Connection with Your Teen
15:05 - Helping Your Teen Starts with Managing Your Own Energy
15:59 - You’re the Best Expert for Your Teen—Not the Outside World
17:10 - The Two Foundations for Solving Any Parenting Challenge
18:38 - Everything You Want Starts with Relationships and Skill

🎧 Tune in, take notes, and then take action. You don’t need a parenting PhD to lead your teen—you just need a guide (and that’s what this episode is all about).

✨ Ashley

Expectations around parenting in today's culture can be really overwhelming.

So many 'should's', responsibilities, meetings, daily routines, to-do's, and more.

Maybe you feel like you're trying to keep your head above water with everything going on, and is it ever really enough? The to-do's are endless, and never really get to the heart and soul of what you and your t(w)een need.

Since I'm on a mission to change the way you relate to parenting a t(w)eenager, this also means changing the way you relate to yourself.

That's why I'm so excited for this week's episode.

the one thing you can practice immediately that will drastically improve your life when you're trying to 'do it all' this school year

how this practice impacts your relationship with your t(w)een and how they see and support themselves

01:44 - Parenting a Teen Doesn’t Have to Be a Nightmare
03:01 - The Health Scare That Reminded Me What Really Matters
04:45 - Gratitude, Peace, and the Urge to Live Deeper
05:18 - It Started with Gratitude—and Grew into Self-Kindness
06:17 - When Life Gets Heavy, We Default to Shame and Control
07:23 - The Real Self-Care Superpower: Self-Compassion
09:03 - When You’re Holding It All—Hold Yourself with Compassion Too
10:01 - Simple Phrases to Stay Grounded When Parenting Gets Hard
11:00 - Talk to Yourself Like You’d Talk to a Friend
12:11 - Ask Yourself: What’s the Most Compassionate Thing I Can Do Right Now?
13:16 - Self-Compassion Is the Bridge Back to Your Teen
14:43 - Self-Compassion Is the Path to Strength and Peace

It's simple, more sustainable, and more effective than one-off self-care practices. It's changed my life and my parenting for the better, and I can't wait to see what it does for you.

Enjoy!

✨ Ashley

p.s. If you enjoy this episode, please like, subscribe, and share to continue the ripple effect and reach as many parents and teens as possible! And, want to go deeper and find out how to get your t(w)een to listen to you and do what they need to do?