Confession: It is sometimes hard for me to allow Lane to express himself through his appearance, whether it’s coloring his hair, wearing goofy earrings, or sagging his pants.  However, I realize if I stifle this important teen outlet of creativity, the risk of rebelling increases exponentially.  I have no research or data to back this up.  It’s just my opinion. 

Included in this episode:

*summer activities for a 15 year old

*executive functioning skills class for teens

*his first day camp experience at 2 and 1/2 and what I realized

*Lane's questionable attire on day one of this week's day camp

*I love boobies! belt

*his love for wearing fancy clothes when he was little

*our car's google tells us a joke and sings to us every day

*Tesla's on the road- blegh!

SHOW NOTES:

Keep A Breast Foundation

Example of a rockabilly kids’ shirt

Example of a guayabera

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PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

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Confession: I secretly judge parents and caregivers who do not expect their child or teen to help out around the house with regular chores.  I don’t know how many of them are out there, but I certainly know a few personally.  I don’t typically judge others, however, I’m gonna get on my soapbox about this one.

Also included in this episode:

*my shift in perspective from the dreaded teen years to parenting a teen is fun!

*Lane's spot on application of a classic quote from the movie Elf

*Lane's household chores over the years

*allowance for chores?

*how I have motivated him through the years to help out around the house

*why chores are a good thing for kids and teens and why I'm secretly judging those who have no expectation for their children

*two things I said (and sang) to put a stop to whining, complaining, and begging when he was younger

SHOWNOTES:

Chores and Children

Love and Logic

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J Siegel

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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.

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Confession: I recently learned in a family therapy session that one cannot be angry and twerk at the same time. Fun fact! 

Also included in this episode:

*more valuable content from Daniel Siegel's book Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain

*the handy model of the brain

*why the ages of 12-24 are the most dangerous of our lives

*the importance of keeping open lines of communication with your teen and how to work toward it

*how Siegel recommends healing from a disorganized attachment model

*why Lane and I love the movie Instant Family

*another funny Lane story

SHOW NOTES: 

Dr. Dan Siegel’s Hand Model of the Brain

Dan Siegel - "Flipping Your Lid:" A Scientific Explanation

Instant Family Trailer

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PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.

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Confession: I have started referring to myself as Lane’s bumpers on a bowling lane.  I can guide and provide for him, keeping him out of the gutters in adolescence, while at the same time understanding he has free will.  I need to trust in his ability to make good choices in the teen years.  Lane needs to trust that I will be there for him, even when he doesn’t.

Also included in this episode:

*the sad reality of school lockdown drills

*school tours and how Lane chose his new school for 10th grade

*more about Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J. Siegel

*the importance of keeping the lines of communication open between you and your teen

*examples of showing no emotional reaction when my then-stepsons and Lane shared surprising things

*why I try to ask, "Do you want to be heard, hugged, or helped?" when Lane discloses things

*how I worked with Lane to understand why he was ditching school in 8th grade and what finally cured him of the bad habit

SHOW NOTES:

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J Seigel

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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.

- Call or text 988
- Chat at 988lifeline.org

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Confession: I used to think that the teenage years were something I had to suffer through before Lane grew up to be an adult.  But I just found a book that changed all that.  I now understand the massive changes the teen brain is undergoing and I look forward to helping Lane harness the power of his powerful new brain so he can thrive in his adolescence.

Included in this episode:

*my Mother's Day surprise!

*Overview of the book Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J Siegel

*two common symptoms questionnaires administered for mental health services

*funny Lane stories involving our favorite movie Nacho Libre

SHOW NOTES:

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J Siegel

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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.

- Call or text 988
- Chat at 988lifeline.org

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Confession: I have to let go of what I thought high school would be like for Lane and accept the fact that he needs more specialized and individualized attention that simply is not available in a traditional high school.  Luckily, there are lots of options out there for kids like mine.  The trick is figuring out which one will be the best for Lane.

SHOWNOTES:

What We Carry: A Memoir By Maya Shanbhag Lang

The Sixteenth of June By Maya Shanbhag Lang

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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.

- Call or text 988
- Chat at 988lifeline.org

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Confession: My best friend of over 30 years ghosted me two years ago.  Believe it or not, she shut me out of her life not once, not twice, but a total of three times over the course of our friendship.

Also included:

*how and when we met

*how we stayed close, despite the 1000s of miles between us

*our roadtrip to attend the 1996 Olympics in Atlanta

*a helpful article that helped me understand

*details about the first two times she dumped me

*my reflection on why I kept letting her back in, but this time I won't

SHOW NOTES:

My BFF Ghosted Me When I Needed Her Most By Aileen Weintraub

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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.

- Call or text 988
- Chat at 988lifeline.org

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Confession: I am constantly reminded that the more I learn, the less I know.  This week that lesson came in the form of videos on vestibular and proprioceptive systems.   What I learned in these videos was super informative and I wish I had learned about it when Lane was young.  I also reflect on the the joys and frustrations of my motherhood journey.  

Included in this episode:

*a sweet read aloud from Lane's adoption day

*Lane reading books to our dog

*what about the 99 out of 100 kids without a mother like me?

*videos on vestibular and proprioceptive systems

*what I wish more teachers knew about kids who need to move in order to pay attention and learn

SHOW NOTES:

I Love You So… By Marianne Richmond

Brain Highways: The Vestibular System

Brain Highways: The Proprioceptive System

Dear Teacher: Heartfelt Advice For Teachers From Students

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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.

- Call or text 988
- Chat at 988lifeline.org

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Confession: Before I was introduced to TBRI, I once had an epic meltdown, which included throwing all of my shoes on the floor of my bedroom in a rage.  I threw every single pair of my shoes as hard as I could onto the hardwood floor while screaming at the top of my lungs.  Not my finest moment, but I did apologize to Lane about it afterwards and we had a powerful heart-to-heart.

Included in this episode:

*why I believe anyone who works with vulnerable youth or in marginalized communities would benefit from TBRI training

*what I learned from the very first TBRI podcast about the brain, making a mental model shift from willful disobedience to fear-based behaviors, the biological effects of trauma on a person later in life, and a powerful parent story

*the TBRI mantra

*the story of my epic meltdown when Lane was in 8th grade

*how my current self feels empathy and compassion for my previous self when reflecting on the embarrassing incident

*trauma-informed classroom strategies and supports- also good for all kids!

SHOWNOTES:

A Front Porch Conversation with Daren Jones and Troy McPeak on the TBRI Podcast

A Front Porch Conversation with Daren Jones and Troy McPeak Part 2

Trauma, The Brain, and TBRI (podcast episode 1)

Relationship of Childhood Abuse and Household Dysfunction to Many Of the Leading Causes of Deaths in Adults

About the CDC-Kaiser ACES Study

Creating Trauma-Informed Classrooms article

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development website

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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.

- Call or text 988
- Chat at 988lifeline.org

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Confession: I wish I had found TBRI Trust Based Relational Interventions when Lane was in Kindergarten instead of 8th grade.  In my humble opinion, it is THE SINGLE MOST POWERFUL intervention program foster and adoptive families need to be trained in. 

Included in this episode:

*more on my high-functioning depression

*powerful activities from my IOP two years ago

*being authentic and vulnerable with friends and family

*grieving the motherhood I thought I would have

*how I found TBRI

*our positive experience with our in-home TBRI practitioner

*an overview of the TBRI principles and strategies 

*a few nuggets from my notes from a parent TBRI training

*two TBRI podcast episodes I found particularly helpful

*the IDEAL acronym to remind caregivers how to address behaviors

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Learning

The TBRI Podcast

TBRI Podcast Episode: TBRI Responsive Strategies Pt 1 9/4/24

TBRI Podcast Episode: TBRI Responsive Strategies Pt 2 (Teens) 9/11/24

Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel J Siegel, and Mary Hartzell

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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:

The TBRI Podcast

QUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION:

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish

Resources on suicide prevention:

Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.

- Call or text 988
- Chat at 988lifeline.org

Connect with a trained crisis cou...