The Thrive Forever Fit Show with Jay Nixon

Don’t Step In The Dog Sh*t

Today show is designed to help you stay sane amid our current toxic social media-driven madness.

I'm going to start with this little thought that will help you the next time you get thoroughly pissed off and write a 27-page response or rebuttal to something you read online.

"Getting offended by something posted on social media is like choosing to step in dog shit instead of walking around it."

I have a meme saved on my phone. It's a picture of Will Ferrell with a smirk on his face. The caption reads: "Admit it, you sometimes listen to stranger's conversations and think to yourself, "You are a stupid motherf@&ker."

This same thought process applies to life on social media.

First of all, my goal is NOT to consume nonsense, so I try to stay away from all forms of media, including social. But occasionally, I find myself captivated by the circus that is Facebook.

And every time this happens, I leave thinking that exact quote from the Will Ferrell meme and my hope from a better world diminish a little with each post I read.

I've decided to do this podcast today because I know so many of you feel the same way that I do, and we need to be better at how we handle these trips to the circus.

I call it the "Move Along Mentality" ~ meaning if you find yourself in the middle of the three-ring social media circus, take a pause, don't step in the dog shit, and get out of the tent as fast as possible.

This will save your sanity and stop you from feeling anxious, depressed, or pissed off.

I remind myself of this every time I hear or read something that registers on my WTF did you say meter.

People can only think, act, and speak from their level of evolvement and their position of perspective.

There is a line in a country song that says: "You Can't Change A Made Up Mind."

Remember that the next time you think you're ranting is going to convert someone from their way of thinking to yours.

Here is the current state of the world if you disagree with someone.

Disagreement or even a slightly varying opinion equals I hate you, and you're the dumbest person on the planet. And now I must try to destroy you.

Social media isn't a place for intelligent conversation. It's a place for grandiose, shock level statements that incite emotion and overreaction. Don't get caught up in the keyboard warrior life of bullying, shaming, and saying shit you'd NEVER say to someone's face.

Avoid the dog shit and live a happy life.

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4 Steps To Regaining Your Lost Momentum

In the week's episode, I discuss why it's 100% normal that you have lost momentum. Plus, I give you a proven four-step strategy for creating positive momentum. You're going to love it.

First, let's touch on the four common reasons people lose momentum.

1. Broken Promises: Breaking promises to yourself destroys self-belief and builds negative momentum

Chapter 8 of The Overweight Mind is titled "What You Do In The Dark" ~ What you do when no-one is watching either builds or destroys momentum.

2. Lack of Accountability: Who will ever know? You WILL and truth be told that is all that matters because that is what destroys your belief that the process will work.

3. You Don't Believe In Yourself: You've broken promises to yourself so many times that you no longer believe your on BS.

4. It's Too Hard: You have convinced yourself it will be hard, and humans avoid things that we perceive as difficult or hard.

Now onto the four-step strategy.

4 Steps To Creating Positive Momentum:

1. Public Declaration: You need to tell everyone, and I mean everyone what you are doing. The more people you tell what you're doing, the less likely you will be to quit.

2. Accountability: This can't be your friends. Your friends are just as lazy and unmotivated as you are. Let's face it. We are who we hang around. If your friends were strong enough to motivate, inspire, or lead you, they would have already done it, and you wouldn't be where you are.

3. The Decision: Decided you're with it!

4. Action: You must take simple and consistent actions that build positive momentum. When you defer action, the likelihood of you actually doing what you said you were going to do drops by 87.36% because you stay on the someday hamster wheel. I" ll start tomorrow, I'll start after July 4th, I'll begin after my vacation, I'll start after C19 ends, and the truth is you won't. START NOW.

And the best place you can start is by joining my FREE Facebook groups. The Wellness Lab Launch Pad: https://www.facebook.com/groups/wellnesslablaunchpad

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Booby-Trapped

In war, this is when you end up dead.

All of the above will leave you broke and jobless.

All of the above will leave you broke, alone, and living in your mom's spare bedroom when you're 40.

Average players want to be left alone.

Good players want to be coached.

Great players want to be told the truth.

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Eight Lessons I've Learned

8. Striving for balance is admirable, but don't be surprised when your progress is eclipsed by those who don't give a shit about balance.

Happy Father's Day Mom

One Yard Short 

It was 29 years ago, and I remember it like it was yesterday.

I remember the exact spot of the field. We are going into the East end zone. 

I can still smell that unique odor that you'll only know if you've worn a helmet and shoulder pads. It's more of the smells that to the average person is gross, but to those that know, it's the smell of hard work and dedication. 

Cisco 20 ~ Merkel 21

The excitement was building as our coach decided to go for the win instead of the tie. 

"We are going for two boys. Let's win this thing."

I was excited as I had just scored my third touchdown of the game to bring us one play away from the victory. 

I can hear the band firing up the fight song. 

 I know it's all come down to me. 

I can hear Coach Evatt call the play as we all gathered on the sidelines, ready to win. 

"36 Belly G Keep"

Wait. WHAT did he say keep. Keep meant that they would fake the handoff to me, and Jeff, the QB, would keep the ball and go around the end. 

I remember thinking. NO, give the ball, and we will win. I had run all over these guys all game, and there was no way they were going to stop me from getting in the end zone. NO CHANCE

I can still feel the deflation from not having my number called. 

As we trotted from the sidelines to the line of scrimmage, I keep thinking Jeff just give me the ball. Let's run 36 Belly G and we will win…..but you didn't do that kind of thing in 1991. Your coach was like a god, and Coach Evatt was like a father to me. So I didn't say a word. 

Jeff approaches the center ~ the ball is hiked ~ Jeff fakes the handoff ~ I blast through the hole pretty much-untouched landing in the end zone ~ Jeff heads around the end and is tackled before he can get in the end zone. 

#1 Always run your best play. Don't try to get fancy.

#2 Always bet on yourself. To this day, I know if Coach had called my number on that play, the outcome would have been different. We would have won 22 to 21.

#3 Use your voice. Hindsight is 20/20, but if I had it all to do again, I would have looked Coach Evatt directly in the eyes and said. "Give me the ball, and we win."

#4 When the game is on the line, want the ball. Demand the ball.

#5 Use your past as fuel for your future. Not a day goes by that I don't think about that one play, that one yard. I use that moment to make sure I never miss success by one yard every again.

Power Chat With Tommy Baker

TO DAMN MANY TO LIST!

The Damage of Deprivation

The Ultimate Hack

Temptation ~ Gratification ~ Regret ~ Repeat

And of course, I’m going to show you how to correct the problem.

The answers: It’s your brain's fault!

Gratification: pleasure, especially when gained from the satisfaction of a desire

Regret: feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity).

Repeat: do (something) again, either once or a number of times.

Temptation + Gratification + Regret + Repeat = Insanity

Insanity: Albert Einstein famously said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”

1. Identify the pattern ~ The only way to correct a pattern is to identify it. I know this sounds simple, but as humans, we do not like to focus on our flaws, so you’re going to have to get brutally honest with yourself.

2. Identify the hole ~ What hole are you trying to fill with the repetitive bad behavior? It could be emotional, physical, psychological, or even a combination of all two or more.

3. Visualize the new outcome ~ Actually, close your eyes and see yourself making a better, more productive decision when the temptation arises. Tap into how you will feel at that moment. Remember that emotion so you can use it when it’s game time.

4. Be vulnerable with yourself ~ It’s ok, hell it’s necessary to tap into your feelings for this exercise to have its maximum value. Don’t beat yourself up because of your past behavior. Embrace it and then make the power move with a declaration that you deserve better for yourself.

5. Take off your mask ~ this process is going to require brutal honesty. You are going to see things as they are and not from the lens of the story you’ve created as a coping mechanism. This will be challenging, but it will also be a game-changing moment in your journey. See yourself, accept yourself, and love yourself for who you are and who you will become.

6. Celebrate your success ~ share your new awareness with your circle of success. Let them embrace the win with you. This will anchor the new behavior and help you cement the new neural pathway into your subconscious brain.