The Thriving Introvert

Today I want to talk to you about what is possible – what is defined by the Cambridge dictionary as an unusual and mysterious event that is thought to have been caused by a God because it does not follow the usual laws of nature. Sit back or keep doing what you are doing and listen:)

What do you do in the waiting? You know when you are still expecting to get the result you want, the period where it doesn’t look like anything is happening. The waiting period can seem so long and hard. It could seem like there is no way out or you might be left wondering how it will all happen.

What are the habits we have formed in other to please people and get them to keep liking us, what effects do these habits have on us and what should we do instead?

How important is it not to do life alone even as an introvert? It feels straight forward to just face your job and busy yourself raising your kids and taking care of your immediate family. While that might be a priority for you, as human beings we were made to connect. We need human connection to thrive. Listen as I inspire you on this.

What do you do when you feel stuck? When you feel you have come to the end of yourself. Do you numb yourself so you don't think about it? Being stuck leads to a feeling of despair, and a constant state of despair can lead to hopelessness and depression. So what can you do instead?

Pain is a part of our human experience and it often saves us from more danger and becomes a symptom that signifies that something more might be happening. Time is needed to heal pain but the stories we tell ourselves regarding the situation can prolong the healing process. Here I talk about dirty pain and how to avoid it.

Today I want us to discuss comparison in the context of comparing people. When is it healthy and when does it pose an issue? Comparing has been engraved in our culture, it can be seen in our schools, our marriages, our work force and generally in life but how do you as a parent educate and talk to your child about comparison; and as an individual how do you see comparison. When is comparison healthy?

Do you wish that you can control everyone around you to make them do what you want? Or are you on the other end where you feel controlled by someone and you are wondering how to free yourself?  You might be thinking, my life would be a whole lot better if I could control everyone around me. Could it really make life easy for you to have that power over people? Today I want to share my thoughts about controlling others, and perhaps it will free you from being the controller or being controlled.

As a mum working full time, I was always on the move. The move to get to work by 7am, the move to handle all their extra activities after school, to get dinner ready and get them ready for bed. It made me pause and think? When I grow older, what would give me more joy? I knew my answer and then I said to myself - No More Rat Race! That was the beginning of my making conscious choices that I have never regretted. 

At one point in your life you must have said the phrase I don't have any friends, maybe when you were younger or even as a grown up. It might have been true or coming from experience, it might be the emotions of the moment that was speaking at that particular time. Whatever your story was I know that a lot of us struggle with making friends especially as introverts. So today I want to talk about how to make friends - I mean genuine friends, and the things to note about friendships.