The Time of the Black Jaguar

[Teal Swan] You have to be 100% present with it. What you're really wanting is presence from someone who can really feel and see you. Boundaries only become extreme when there's resistance to them.

[Teal Swan] What we label as "Borderline" is one of the very most horribly painful conditions possible in life. After a scenario in my life over a few years that felt incredibly gaslighting and an escalation of incredibly unbearable internal experiences in intense isolation (unable to stop the re-traumatization of abandonment), whatever vulnerability I had to this was ripped open. Because I developed this so recently and under so much self-awareness, I am very aware that this is not part of my identity. That doesn't make it easy to heal from. Hell no. But I do know that it is possible. I would want other people who suffer from this to not feel so ashamed of it.

You're not avoiding the killing. You're able to make misery comfortable.

It's a novel. There's no way to give a 2 min answer to this.

[Teal Swan] + RELATIONSHIPS ARE ABSOLUTELY THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN LIFE.

[Teal Swan] All beings in a dysfunctional family unit are narcissistic. The way the family operates makes it impossible to get out of that.

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You learned not to portray your emotions externally. You've got to see that you have that split. You've done it to such a degree that it's become subconscious. You've got to create a cohesion between these two parts of you.

[Teal Swan] Most of us are in a place where we get even more narcissistic around suicidal people. You do have to join the very painful realities of where these people are.

As a man, how do you express emotions? Which ones can you express and which ones you can't show?