The Transformational Leader

Gaslighting is a super popular term these days. The essence of it originally came from a 1944 American psychological thriller movie "Gaslight."

The idea in this movie is that a woman marries her accompanist, and the husband slowly but surely starts to isolate her wife and convince her that she is crazy. In that way, the husband makes his wife doubt her own senses, and he can do whatever he wants to that woman.

There are different forms of gaslighting. Listen as you will learn the broad definition of gaslighting and how it is dangerous to your leadership.

Enjoy the show!

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses Integration, Isolation, Our fundamental Innocence, Learning to be receptive and sensitive to feedback, Stages of openness, and more!

There are lots of things happening in leadership. The first is that a leadership relationship is not an equal footing relationship. It happens for a few reasons: First, the person generally leading you in a corporate environment usually occupies a higher position on a hierarchy. So there's a lack of equal footing based on that.

But there's also a lack of equal footing in the energetics of a leader developing your leadership. Your job is to bring to your leader all the stuff that's not working so they can support you and help you create a breakthrough. When this relationship is structured, it is almost inevitable that you start to relate to the person above you as on a bit of a pedestal.

Listen to how this relationship can be very dangerous for your own development and create a breakthrough. Enjoy the show!

That is the most common complaint of people who have a leader or a coach.

Most untrained "coaches" are helping, fixing, and guiding you toward a path. They give you advice that does not empower you to discover your path in your wisdom. It has you become reliant on his advice.

It is important to distinguish that it is your default as a human. Holding space, not giving answers, and supporting people to find their wisdom, is unnatural.

Listen as you will know the reasons why it is happening, and how can you show up more powerfully. Enjoy the show!

When you take something new, you have the desire to make something happen, resistance shows up. If you try to wake up early in the morning, connect more openly with people, or meditate, all of these might drive up some of your resistance.

Transformation isn't something you can make happen on your own because we will continue to operate inside the circle that you operate in. Your thoughts, your being, without some external force pushing in, you cannot change it.

Listen to how resistance affects us in transformation, and know the distinction between unwilling and resistant. You will also learn about inertia, the laws of the universe, and more about resistance! Enjoy the show!

Transformation always starts with awareness. One of the most essential practices in transformational work is to notice the start that you do.

Most of the time, it is challenging to distinguish that you create a world designed to avoid what you don't want. Most of you are creating lives that are a function of what you don't want rather than lives that are a function of your hearts and desires.

Any time you notice yourself looking at what you don't want, flip that around and ask, "What do I want?" It will let your complaints guide you into the realm of requests and desires that will open things up for you. Listen and enjoy!

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses What is showing up vs. What you want, Completion, Coaching in a vacuum, 1-on-1 vs Group Work and more.

How did Adam Quinney get caught in "How?"

When your vision and mission have grown, there is a demand to do something. Looking for what's next is scary because there is the beauty of what is created and the fear that if you change something, you could screw up, and then you can't go back.

When you create a rough vision of good things to happen, you get that wide, open grassy field of possibility. Now, you start to look at, "Now what?." Then you get completely derailed from the "How."

The vision is too big to understand how to do it. It is super common, and you get caught tripped up in the magnitude of what you want to create and caught in the "How."

"How do you know you are not just getting addictive?" It is a common question for transformational coaching.

The pattern of addiction is one where you take or engage in something and gives you this momentary experience of feeling better and back down to your same baseline.

Getting high in transformational work like coaches or workshops is common because the experience it creates is often so powerful. But the problem is, when you are high, you are doing just half of the work.

Listen as you will know what getting high means, and what are the impacts of that! Enjoy the show!

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam is joined by special guest Ruth Arnott, a member of The Forge 2022 leadership team and the first registrant for the Forge 2024 (that's right, she's already registered for the year after this one), as they jam on challenges, difficulties, why we resist transformation and more.