The Transformational Leader

Blaming is your default state as a human. Blaming happens when you perceive something is wrong, and two things show up: The first is your behavior, and internally, you arrive at a point where they are wrong. If you see something wrong, you call it out. Listen to how the call-out culture works against its intentions and why blaming makes people defensive. You will also learn why Laissez-faire or bringing compassion also doesn't work. What should you do to create a breakthrough by impacting people and causing change and transformation, not just by calling people out?

It's the continuation of a much-needed retreat of Adam Quiney with her wife, Bay LeBlanc, now in the rainforest of Costa Rica! In this episode's highlight, they recalled how they started as a new couple. Adam and Bay recalled their experiences when they first met and became life partners. He was still in law school, and Bay graduated with her MBA with a lot of debt. All the hardships, trauma, and pain turned into healing! Listen as they share how getting a perfect partner creates an impact and transformation!

We all need a retreat after long, tiring days. In this episode, Adam Quiney and Bay LeBlanc share their experiences on their latest retreat in Costa Rica, specifically in the mountains of La Fortuna. It is always best to travel somewhere new and do work together. One of the benefits of traveling is you get to experience an adventure. Listen as they share their experiences from their first retreat before the pandemic up to now; and how it ended up amazing and transformative.

Are you responsible for how things went? The way we typically operate or relate to responsibility is that it is a fact. Whether you are responsible or not, there are problems with this approach. Some of the problems are that when responsibility is a fact, then taking responsibility for how things went becomes a fact-finding mission. As a leader, it diminishes your capacity to be responsible. It also lowers your ability to affect change. Listen as you will know more about the effects when your responsibility becomes a fact rather than being a stand here on The Transformational Leader by Adam Quiney.

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses a variety of topics such as talks his book, Who Do You Think You Are, with regards to your niche, and what to do when we know what to do, but can't seem to do it.

People say, "People will follow not what you say as a leader but what you do." I'm not saying it isn't accurate, but it's incomplete. It is more of, "People will follow not only what you do, but they will follow who you are underneath what you are doing." It is the art of modeling --- Modeling something is the act of showing people through your being and what you're doing. The art of modeling is beneficial not only for leaders but also for parents, friends, and other kinds of relationships. Listen as you discover what it means to be a model and why it is important.

What do you stand for? Do you stand for something safe, easy, and comfortable? Your stand supports you. It is why you go in a different direction. It might be somewhat comfortable, easy, fun, or safe. --- this is the nature of a stand. Leadership often works with your stand, and without a stand, you will turn into the so-called "default stand." Listen as you learn the definition of a "created stand" and the "default stand." It will help you to choose something that will move you from comfort to the path of breakthrough.

As a leader, you are either having people be attracted to you or you're enrolling them in something. The former will create fast yet short-term results while the latter will create long-term and lasting transformational results. In addition, while attraction feels good and appeals to your ego, it's actually enrolment that really causes people to want to travel forward with you. So how do you make sure you are enrolling people in something as opposed to merely attracting them? Why is leadership that goes beyond mere attraction important? Will discuss attraction versus enrolment in detail in today's episode so don't forget to join me!

Part of a leader's job is to be impeccable. Unfortunately, even some of the most brilliant leaders equate impeccability to perfection. And nothing can be further from the truth. On the contrary, impeccability does not mean you are perfect. In essence, it means you are responsible for your edges, you recognise them when they show up, and you address them accordingly. Of course, this is all better said than done. So why is impeccability as a leader challenging for many? And how should you address impeccability as a leader accordingly? I'll get into the nitty-gritty of impeccability in leadership so don't forget to join me!

On the surface, cults and leaderships can seem very similar. However, when examined closely, it's easy to see one couldn't be more different from the other. What's interesting is many cults often start out well-intentioned. Unfortunately, they often end up sinister because their leaders end up believing they have everything sorted and does not need anyone else to guide them. Truly powerful leaders however know that working with their own coaches and leaders is a non-negotiable aspect of their leadership. You'll be in for a really interesting discussion so don't forget to join me!