In this week's episode, I am discussing childhood and developmental trauma.  Many of us may be wondering what is going on before we start our recovery journey.  Why we are experiencing persistent sadness that does not go away?  Have trouble with every relationship we are in?  Why it is so difficult to function daily?  Why I am angry and yelling at my kids constantly?  Why I can't set and adhere to boundaries?  Why am I drinking 2 bottles of wine daily to cope with my life?  Why do I eat every single time I feel anxiety or am triggered?  Why am I triggered all the freaking time?  Many of these issues will result from the trauma we may have experienced in our childhood, but maybe aren't associated with our childhood?  My mentor Bobbi Parish wrote some of the material that I am referencing in this podcast.  Bobbi is the executive director of  The International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaches (IAOTRC) and where I took my initial certification thru for Trauma Recovery Coaching. 

I do briefly discuss childhood sexual abuse so please keep that in mind before listening.  This show is to be used as a reference and resource, not as a replacement for professional help.  Many of the examples or experiences I shared in this podcast are of my own.  If you feel that you need assistance please feel free to reach out to me at [email protected] and I will connect you with the correct resources right away.  More information can also be found under the mental health resource section of my website at www.gracefulangel.ca.  

Here are the resources I shared in today's episode:

Article from Psychology Today in regards to Developmental trauma.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/expressive-trauma-integration/201808/what-is-developmental-trauma

ACES information and ACES Test

https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/

National Sexual Assult Hotline for Sexual Assult and Sexual Abuse Survivors 

https://rainn.org/

How PTSD can cause learning Disabilities/ADHD

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-ptsd-can-cause-learning-disabilities#1

Books about Developmental Trauma and CPTSD

Complex PTSD from Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker

https://www.amazon.ca/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD/dp/1492871842/ref=pd_bxgy_img_2/143-8454371-8932500?pd_rd_w=TkzJw&pf_rd_p=19eafb8a-881a-44bb-9725-85a79b8c53d4&pf_rd_r=VXQFT7QVZBV03R5GARV6&pd_rd_r=b5e08a5d-06cf-4213-9166-9de6c76162d5&pd_rd_wg=JaFM1&pd_rd_i=1492871842&psc=1

Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship by Laurence Heller PHD, and Aline LaPierre PHD 

Fear is often a trauma response that has begun for many of us in childhood.  Fear interferes with most trauma survivor's daily life.  It can be debilitating...it can present in many different ways.  Ignoring fear doesn't actually take care of the fear...it just perpetuates as it's a response that wants to be heard.  

Like many fear rules my life.  But it's a part of my journey that I am working on getting to the bottom of.  In today's episode, I share with you how fear shows up for me...how it affects me and what it can look like (as everyone is different).  As well as what I am doing to work with the fear part of myself that is keeping me stuck and immobilized. 

As I state in my episode, I am not a medical professional.  Any of the thoughts or experiences I have shared are my own.  If you have any concerns are in danger I advise you to reach out to seek professional help.  I can help guide you towards the resources that you may need.  

I have linked below some of the articles I shared and the book I shared in my episode.  My website is linked below as well in case you are interested in more resources on trauma and trauma recovery, or if you are interested in learning more about the work that I do and can help you with. 

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Thank you for listening!  If you have found this episode helpful let me know!  If you have something you would like covered as a podcast topic let me know...I enjoy hearing from you and WANT to hear from you.  

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Interested in trauma recovery resources or how you can work with me on your own trauma recovery and healing journey?  Please visit my website for more information:

www.gracefulangel.ca

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Articles I referenced in this pod:

 https://www.verywellmind.com/ptsd-and-the-fight-or-flight-response-2797642

https://www.verywellmind.com/ptsd-and-the-fight-or-flight-response-2797642

Book I referenced in this pod:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk

https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/0143127748/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=0143127748&linkCode=as2&tag=sunflowertrc1-20&linkId=c2bb2b7399c32c133d2b8e18102a04df

Today's topic is in regard to World Suicide Prevention Day (which was on September 10th) and mental health.  WARNING, topics discussed in this episode do discuss suicide and suicide ideation (so please keep this in mind if you experience triggers in regards to this subject before listening).  

My goal for today's podcast recording, is to let listener's know that it is ok to not be ok.  I am offering some insight into my own personal experiences with my own mental health struggles, and what I have done as I work thru a tough season.  As promised in my show, I have attached below some helpful resources for you if you are struggling and don't know where to start or who to reach out to.  Please do not use this as an alternative to therapy...they are only resources to help guide you in the right direction to healing and getting better.  :)

Here are some resources available to you (if you live in the Calgary area or are located in Canada) if you are experiencing a crisis: IF YOU ARE IN NEED OF IMMEDIATE HELP PLEASE DIAL 911 OR PROCEED TO YOUR NEAREST HOSPITAL ER!

In Calgary : The Distress Centre 403-266-HELP 

https://www.distresscentre.com/

In Calgary and Alberta: Access Mental Health 403-943-1500

https://www.albertahealthservices.ca/services/page11443.aspx

For Children, Teens experiencing mental health concerns and are in need of someone to talk to Kids Help Phone is a great resource

https://kidshelpphone.ca/

If. you are in need of immediate support for a mental health crisis and are feeling suicidal or having thoughts of suicide and need someone to talk to please reach out to Canada Suicide prevention and Support Hotline : 833-456-4566

https://www.crisisservicescanada.ca/en/

You can reach me at [email protected] or on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/perfectlyimperfectlifecoach

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