The Trust & Thrust Podcast

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Hello Fellow Perverts!

I solved a 10 YEAR KINK MYSTERY with the help of a friend.

Also * ANNOUNCING * I’m doing a hedonistic, lesbionic, utterly Fem-Dominant, gorgeous, winter Niagara getaway with a Domme friend in early February 🎁❄️ very limited availability, regulars prioritzied, apply via our websites if you’re down to 🤡

Also, I fully failed to mentio…

Hello Fellow Perverts!

In this very special episode, I’m joined by fellow Pro Domme, Siren Thorn! We sit down and chat about lots of different subjects after a lovely duo session.

xo Bastienne

PS. if the video doesn’t work for you here in the substack app, try this one. If you’re just looking for audio, enjoy the one below :)

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Hello Fellow Perverts!

It’s summer time and the living’s easy, especially if you’re strapped into my German medical bondage! Check it out on YouTube here. Bondage fans - rejoice! Not for the faint of heart or for the faint of… fart 💨😎

I’ve also been enjoying a lovely influx of ABDL sessions these last few months. One of which actually led to a fun, new role play which I detail here in my latest blog post, “Special Eddie.” It’s a kinky tale of age regression and remedial diapering.

Check out The Wedgie Board on Patreon! I started this project last summer after getting quite a few audio role play requests on my OnlyFans. I post a new, 5 minute role play scene every Wednesday. It’s super fun and if you’re into wedgies, you should definitely check it out.

Also, peek behind the paywall curtain here on substack. Join my private podcast by clicking the button at the bottom of this page. $7/month gives you access to over 130 episodes all about my experiences in professional BDSM. This fall marks my TENTH YEAR ANNIVERSARY as a kink provider! I’ve got a unique perspective and lots to say so you should definitely join and peruse the archive.

My latest episode “Hot Gossip: The Toronto BDSM Scene” is an honest recounting of all the sex clubs, kink classes and pro dungeon experiences I’ve had through the years. The good, bad and the ugly. It’s my way of demystifying this very intimidating world.

Don’t forget about my lovely FemDom clips! All available on my links page here. Lastly, if you’re interested in becoming my submissive, you can apply here.

Stay kinky!

xo Bastienne

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Hello Fellow Perverts!

A subby recently told me something to the effect of - “even though you warned me over and over that it was coming, my feelings were still hurt and I almost didn’t come back to see you.” When I heard that I knew I wanted to document my real life failed D/s relationships of 2023.

Communication breakdown is real. BDSM is not a sterile …

Christmas is one of the most high pressure and depressing times of the year for a lot of people. There’s financial and familial expectations that easily turn the whole season into a massive bummer. As a person who was raised as an atheist, I’ve actually never celebrated Christmas until the last few years.

In 2018, I decided to reclaim Christmas morning by renting out Studio Ludus, a dungeon in North York for the entire day starting at 8am. It was a big risk and had the potential to be a total flop but, hey, in for a penny, in for a pound (pun intended). It ended up being a jam packed day of kinky fun and every year I now look forward to this surprising rush of bookings!

I open my schedule way up starting on December 23rd and host throughout the holidays until New Year’s Eve. Christmas morning starts at 8am and is currently still open, so if you’re interested, jump on it!

If you’re familiar with my style, you know that I’m very precious about my schedule, demanding that people book in advance and I offer limited spots throughout the month that generally fill up quickly. This week of the year is my one exception. I loosen the reigns a bit and allow for more flexibility and last minute shenanigans.

If you’re a new client and interested in booking, you have to submit to my vetting process which starts with my booking application that you can purchase here. It costs $10 and takes about 1-3 days to complete depending on how quickly you respond to each step. I’ll try to expedite these requests and keep a closer eye on my email over the next few weeks though. You can also apply now, get pre-approved then snag dates last minute if you’re free type deal.

I’m also offering reduced texting rates on SextPanther (yes, I’m back) and on OnlyFans until the 31st! So incoming messages are reduced from $5/message to $3/message just for the next few weeks. If you’ve been wanting to chat with me on either platform, now is definitely the time! Check out the links here.

Last but not least, this is a great time to come in because, as some of you know, I recently redecorated The Wiggle Room! Updated pics available here. You’ve got to experience the extreme, Segufix, medical bondage system I got from Germany! Plus the new, moving bondage bed, the medical bondage chair, classic smotherbox and brand new, heavy duty, fucking machine!

Hope to see you over the holidays, stay kinky in the meantime ;)

xo Bastienne

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Hello Fellow Perverts!

Hope you're staying kinky and cute and there’s something currently in your boot(ie). Things are changing at The Wiggle Room, slowly but surely including a new room being accessible in the next few months. In this episode, I talk about Americans and have a revelation about respect that kind of runs through the whole episode.

I’m looking for fart, ballbusting and wedgie subs!

I’m also doing lots of audio customs on OnlyFans which has led to me starting a new, wedgie focused podcast on Patreon called THE WEDGIE BOARD. If you’re currently wearing tighty whities…. you know what to do.

I talk about the copy kittens again and a new podcast I’m obsessed with called "Ransofar with Blake”. I approve of every one except episode 21.

I’m visiting Calgary again this winter! I’m figuring out OnlyFans (finally) after a year of shaking my proverbial boobies over there. I’m adding mugs to my online shop (soon) and lots more chitty chatty ;)

Here’s the tweet I talk about in the ep 💋

Thanks so much for subscribing, check out bastienne.ca/links and see what else tickles your fancy!

Until next month, stay kinky!

xo Bastienne

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Hello Fellow Perverts!

I’ve returned with more revelations! This episode is all about healthy compartmentalization versus destructive secrecy in kink (and in life). There’s a LOT of mental homework to keep up with as an adult with any level of responsibility - I think it’s fair to say, we all get overwhelmed and lost at times. We get stuck in ruts, deal …

WHOOP WHOOP! 🥳 This is my 100TH - FREAKING - EPISODE!

As I giant dork for podcasts, please allow me to indulge in my longest ramble yet! A big nerdy, meta trip down podcast lane. In this episode I talk about why I started this podcast, my parasocial proclivities and, of course, a run down of my most listened to episodes here on substack from the last 2 years. The top 10 countdown starts at around 30 minutes in and the links below all refer to posts that are behind the paywall so if you’re not subscribed to the paid podcast - go join right now!

TOP 10 MOST LISTENED TO EPISODES: 

#1: What I Expect of You in a Session

#2: It's Me, Peggy Fundy! (How-To Get Pegged)

#3: Interview with Aspasia The Great!

#4: What is Lifestyle FemDom?

#5: Cocks with ADHD

#6: Let’s Talk About Money, Honey!

#7: Every Day is Taco Tuesday

#8: Attack of the Copy Kittens

#9: Put the FUN in Erectile DysFUNction

#10: The Truth About “Real” Dommes & subs!

This podcast has evolved into one of my favourite outlets and over the last two years I’ve covered some subjects that are super interesting and important to me. In the audio, I also go over my top 10 favourite episodes on here. These are the ones that I liked creating the most, whether it be an indulgent rant or an anxiety inducing declaration, I’ve gotten a lot off my chest via this platform so here’s the favourites that I mention in the audio: #10: RANT: FemDom for People Who Hate FemDom, #9: BDSM Love Story, #8: Smothering & Service Topping, #7: The Gayest Fetishes of All, #6: Escape From the Man Haters Club, #5: I Keep The Wolf From The Door, #4: Next Level Submission, #3: Attack of the Copy Kittens, #2: Behind the Curtain and #1: A Funhouse Called Control.

Now after all this podcast talk, I would be remise if I didn’t list a bunch of my favourites so, in no particular order, here’s some of my favourite podcasts: Matt and Shane’s Secret Podcast, We Might Be Drunk, Answers with Joe, RISK, Secret Keepers Club, The Tim Dillon Show, IDKAT with Jim Jefferies, Stuff Island, Off Menu, Tea Time, YMH, Guys We Fucked, My Favorite Murder, Tiger Belly, Whiskey Ginger, HoneyDew, Tuesdays with Stories, Ten Minute Pod, Congratulations, Conan, Marc Maron, This Bitch, Fascinating Horror and a million more ;)

Thanks for subscribing - I’ll ramble at you again next Tuesday!

xo Bastienne

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Aspasia is back! We recorded this right after a duo session that involved a thoroughly abused piñata! We talk about our shared love of using humour in kink and the internet’s affect on negotiation. We discuss active submission and the effort that goes into giving up control. There’s some expectation management talk about not getting ahead of yourself (and ourselves!) while planning a session, having a flexible approach and not taking yourself too seriously while still having achievable goals in scenes.

During our chat, I have a revelation about high protocol sessions and their ability to deconstruct consent in a session. We cover the difficulty of trying to communicate with people who are in subspace and navigating the myriad of ways we interface with other people’s expectations, be it verbal or non-verbal. We also talk about hot oatmeal, unorthodox dick peels and some slime brainstorming for future WAM sessions.

It’s always so fun hosting scenes with Aspasia the Great and picking her (very knowledgable brain) afterwards. Keep your eyes peeled for Aspasia’s upcoming substack and check out her website, Aspasia.ca. If you’re interested in a experiencing a duo, you can book through her site or mine, Bastienne.ca. Here’s all Aspasia’s internet places:

Website: Aspasia.ca

Substack Newsletter: AspasiaTheGreat.substack.com

Twitter: @AspasiaTheGreat

Clips4Sale: Villa Aspasia

SextPanther: Aspasia The Great

WishList: Aspasia’s Side Quests

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Stay kinky and I’ll chat at you again next Tuesday! :)

xo Bastienne

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In the audio, I simply introduce Aspasia as my domination duo partner but she is so much more! Professional, experienced, Toronto Dominatrix, creative kinkster, sadist and ravenous lover of the absurd. Aspasia is fist deep into life. She started as a professional Domme in 2005 and she has a wild and wondrous collection of stories to show for it.

We talk about our shared history as ‘golden latte’ providers. She talks about her extensive, creative, (subtle and consensual) public play experiences. We talk about leaving ads in phone booths, selling clips on DVDS and the theory of where kinks start.

As a fan of Aspasia’s work, I had to indulge my inner fangirl and make a list of my favourite scenes of hers. Not only did I get to hear the stories firsthand but I also get to share them here with you guys and it’s just such a treat! A few of the scenes we talk about are: Grapefruit Girlfriends, The Tale of 10 Markers, Mustard Mistress, Rancid Pink Lemonade, The Garfield Trio, The Great Canadian Ass Kicking and The Red Green Scene.

We also talk about using aromatherapy as an energy management device in scenes, favourite scents, using mint in corporal scenes, the realities of using trees and nature in scenes and the golden age of wackiness. We talk about the architecture school’s exhibit, extended scenes, popcorn pits, kiddie pools full of spaghetti, BUTTernut squash dildos, a duo stunt teaser, duct tape corsets, Canadian domination style, April Showers, easter *butt* egg hunt, “Bunny Beats, Eats and Treats” and of course, Aspasia’s most recent fixation - NUTMEG!

Although Aspasia boasts a plethora of experiences both inside and outside of kink, I think the coolest thing about her is her genuinely down-to-earth, playful, inclusive approach. Although she has every right to hold herself above others with her incredible resume, she simply chooses not to. It isn’t until you start asking questions that you realize the depth of her knowledge and passion for BDSM and FemDom. Aspasia happily shares her past experiences while simultaneously staying focused on the day ahead of her and the kinky adventures that it brings. Just so damn refreshing and cool.

Aspasia offers safe, multi-sensory, immersive, submissive experiences to all genders and all experience levels from a private dungeon in Toronto. Check out all her internet things below.

Website: Aspasia.ca

Substack Newsletter: AspasiaTheGreat.substack.com

Twitter: @AspasiaTheGreat

Clips4Sale: Villa Aspasia

SextPanther: Aspasia The Great

WishList: Aspasia’s Side Quests

Thanks for listening - I’ll C U Next Tuesday!

xo Bastienne ;)

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