Let’s talk about friendship — the kind that stretches you, challenges you, and teaches you who you really are.

In this episode, I’m joined by my best friend Silvy Khoucasian — licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship coach, and one of the wisest people I know — for a deeply honest conversation about what it really takes to maintain friendship as an adult.

Silvy and I have been in a long-distance friendship for a few years now, and it hasn’t always been smooth. We’ve had to navigate mismatched expectations, boundaries, distance, emotional labor, and yes… the question of when to stay and when to let go.

We cover:

• Are tiered friendships helpful or harmful?
• What to do when one person is all-in and the other is casual
• How to set boundaries without ghosting or guilt
• The difference between emotional intimacy and emotional outsourcing
• Loyalty vs. self-abandonment
• When longevity isn’t the same as depth
• And how to keep a friendship alive across time zones and identity shifts

This isn’t just theory. This is real-life, lived experience between two women who’ve done the work — and are still doing it.

If you’ve ever struggled with outgrowing friends, feeling too needed (or not needed enough), or wondered how to stay rooted in your relationships without betraying yourself… this episode is for you.

Connect with Silvy:

👉 Attachment 101 course: grab it here
👉 Website: silvykhoucasian.com
👉 Instagram: @silvykhoucasian

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