That cycle of procrastinating right before a big move? The sudden spiral into self-doubt? The way you ghost your own momentum the second things start going well?

That’s not laziness. That’s self-protection disguised as sabotage.

Here’s the truth nobody talks about: your brain is hardwired to keep you safe—not successful. So when you get close to the dream, your nervous system slams the brakes. Not because you're weak... but because it doesn't feel safe to expand.

In this episode, Brooke unpacks the gritty truth about what’s really happening when you “get in your own way”—and how to build the inner safety to stop repeating the same sabotage loop over and over again.

You’ll learn: — Why your fear of being seen is driving your perfectionism — How unhealed parts of you are secretly running your life — What to do when your system says "hell no" to the thing you say you want

This episode is your permission slip to stop calling yourself lazy—and start tending to the part of you that’s just scared.

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

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That urgent energy behind every decision?

The need to control every detail? The tension in the room the second you speak?

That’s not leadership. That’s your trauma response running the show—and it’s costing you everything.

In this episode, we unpack the hidden ways trauma shows up in leadership and quietly erodes trust, innovation, and team dynamics. You’ll learn:

• Why “high standards” are often trauma in disguise

• How anxiety and urgency shut down your team’s creativity

• The neuroscience behind cognitive freeze and performance pressure

• Three powerful shifts that move you from reactivity to intentional leadership

Plus, hear the real story of how one leader transformed her team’s productivity by 40%—not by grinding harder, but by healing the patterns driving her chaos.

Your trauma response isn’t your fault. But as a leader, healing it is your responsibility.

Ready to stop leading scared and start leading from your power?

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

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FREE Perfectionism Detox Masterclass: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/perfectionism-detox 

Unstuck & Unstoppable Masterclass: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/unstuck-and-unstoppable

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Let’s talk about the thing so many ambitious women secretly struggle with but rarely say out loud: perfectionism is making you sick—mentally, emotionally, and even physically.

In this powerful solo episode, I’m pulling the curtain back on why perfectionism isn’t just exhausting...it’s toxic.

We’ll unpack how this “perform to be loved” pattern hijacks your nervous system, feeds stress-induced inflammation, and robs you of joy, creativity, and presence.

You'll hear:

• The moment I realized motherhood had become a pressure cooker of impossible expectations

• How perfectionism manifests in your biology (hello cortisol!)

• Three soul-deep tools to move this poison out of your body and your identity

• Why nervous system regulation, parts work, and frequency alignment are your golden keys to freedom

• Real talk on postpartum struggles, invisible mental loads, and why the modern mom is suffocating under societal “shoulds”

You don’t need to do more to be enough. You already are. Let’s break the cycle—and feel good again.

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

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FREE Perfectionism Detox Masterclass: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/perfectionism-detox 

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Get Unstuck: 5 Therapeutic Steps to Take Aligned Action: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/get-unstuck

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What if your perfectionism isn’t about being your best — but about fearing you're not enough?

In this raw and soul-deep conversation with Aneta Ardelian Kuzma, we unpack the possibility that perfectionism isn’t just a mental loop — it’s spiritual rebellion.

Aneta shares the divine download that led to her next book, the verse that flipped my brain inside out (“God saw all that He made… and it was very good”), and the real reason so many high-achieving women are exhausted, anxious, and still never feeling like they’re “there.”

We explore:

• Why “very good” might be your new mantra

• The connection between perfectionism and fear

• How faith literally rewires your brain

• What opens up when you stop striving and start receiving

This isn’t about religion. This is about remembering who the hell you are.

Reflection to take with you: If you believed you were already good — without proving or performing — what would you stop doing? What would you finally allow yourself to receive?

Connect with Aneta:

Website: akuzmagroup.com

Instagram: @anetakuzmacoaching

LinkedIn: Aneta Ardelian Kuzma

Podcast: Live with the Width of Your Life

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

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Hot flashes, brain fog, anxiety, mood swings... and somehow you're still expected to run the household, show up for work, and remember which damn day field trip forms are due. Midlife isn’t a crisis—it’s a full-blown metamorphosis. And no, you're not the only one spiraling. This conversation is a permission slip to stop chasing a perfect diagnosis and start meeting yourself with radical grace. If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Is this hormones, ADHD, or am I just finally losing it?" — this one's for you. You’re not broken. You’re just waking up.

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

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What if the way you’re getting dressed is keeping you stuck?

In this powerful and style-forward conversation, I’m joined by Ellie Steinbrink — branding expert, stylist for women entrepreneurs, and founder of Style Decoded. Together, we explore the emotional weight of what we wear, how our closets reflect outdated beliefs, and why dressing from the inside out is one of the boldest moves you can make.

We dive into:

• The hidden connection between burnout and what’s in your closet

• How your style may be rooted in old identities and limiting beliefs

• Why confidence is an inside-out game

• And how to start dressing like the woman you’re becoming

About Ellie: Ellie Steinbrink is a branding expert and stylist for women entrepreneurs. At the intersection of psychology, style, and personal branding, she empowers women to take bold action—and look amazing while doing it. She started her business, Style Decoded, to help women define and embody a magnetic personal style that encourages them to color outside the lines in their lives and businesses. Learn more at EllieSteinbrink.com.

Grab Ellie’s free Style Mindset Reset worksheet https://elliesteinbrink.myflodesk.com/stylemindset

Website: https://elliesteinbrink.myflodesk.com/ Follow Ellie on Instagram: @style.decodedConnect with Ellie on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elliesteinbrink/

Listen now, and tag us when you wear something that feels like you again.

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

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Joy after death? Hell yes. Grief isn’t just about losing a person—it’s about losing a version of yourself, a role, a rhythm, a dream.

If you've been feeling exhausted, disconnected, or unsure of who you even are anymore... you might be grieving. And no one told you.

In this episode, Brooke Jean sits down with grief specialist, intuitive coach, and creative healer Marta Napoleone Mazzoni for a raw and unfiltered conversation about the kind of grief high-achieving women carry in silence. From identity loss to emotional burnout, Marta shares how grief cracked her open—and how joy, creativity, and play became her lifelines.

This isn’t about getting over it.It’s about feeling it all and choosing to live anyway.

You’ll hear about:

• Why grief isn't always about death (and what else it includes)

• How perfectionism blocks emotional healing

• The hidden grief of identity shifts, motherhood, and burnout

• Why joy and sorrow are not opposites—they're companions

• Tools to move grief through the body instead of storing it

• How to feel more whole, present, and alive after loss

This is your permission slip to feel it all—and still dance.

Connect with Marta:

Website: https://www.martaonthemove.com Instagram: @movingforwardwithmarta Podcast: Move with Marta

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

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FREE Perfectionism Detox Masterclass:  https://www.brookejeanllc.com/perfectionism-detox 

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Recorded live on social media, this raw and real episode is your wake-up call. Brooke Jean breaks down the real reason you’re so damn tired—and spoiler alert: it’s not just your schedule. It’s the people-pleasing. The overgiving. The “yes” when you meant “hell no.” And that exhausting performance of trying to be the perfect mom, wife, leader, or human.

In this conversation, Brooke calls BS on the idea that self-care is selfish. She shares how living inauthentically and doing things out of obligation is robbing women of their energy, creativity, and vitality—and offers a radically refreshing take on how to reclaim your life force from the inside out.

Whether you're burnt out, fed up, or just craving a full-body YES kind of life, this episode will remind you: You don’t need more energy. You need less bullshit.

 What You'll Learn:

Why self-care is a power move, not a luxury

How societal conditioning keeps women trapped in overgiving cyclesThe energetic cost of being someone you’re not.

How to identify and plug your energy leaks.

Grounding tools to recharge through the body and Earth.

Why truth is the highest frequency—yes, even higher than love.

How to become magnetic AF by living in alignment.

Listen now if you're ready to:

✔ Stop living for everyone else ✔ Call your energy back ✔ Show up from overflow, not depletion ✔ Say “no” without guilt ✔ Remember who TF you are

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

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FREE Perfectionism Detox Masterclass: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/perfectionism-detox 

Unstuck & Unstoppable Masterclass: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/unstuck-and-unstoppable

FREE Immediate Calm Down Kit:

https://brookejean03.activehosted.com/f/7

Get Unstuck: 5 Therapeutic Steps to Take Aligned Action: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/get-unstuck

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Keywords: energy, self-care, authenticity, women empowerment, personal development, mental health, creativity, vitality, energy management, personal responsibility

What if the boldest decision you ever made… was the one no one understood?

In this solo episode of The Unperfected Pod, Brooke Jean opens up about the defining decision she made at 21 — becoming a mom. From being a party-loving college student at CU Boulder to raising her son Camden with intention and grit, Brooke shares a deeply personal story of transformation. She walks us through that unexpected pregnancy moment, how it shifted her entire life, and the 21-year journey of making good on her promise to her son.

With tears, laughter, and full-circle triumphs, Brooke celebrates not just Camden’s graduation but the unwavering commitment it took to support him through college — financially, emotionally, and spiritually. This is a moving reminder that sometimes, the most unconventional decisions become the foundation for our most extraordinary lives.

Tag a mama who's breaking molds and paving her own path.

Highlights

00:00 - 02:40 The Power of Your Own Path

• Trusting your intuition even when it’s misunderstood.
• Living authentically outside the box.
• Embracing the unpopular decision.
• Defining patience through real-life choices.
• Introduction to the full-circle motherhood moment.

02:41 - 08:00 College Days & First Love

• Party girl life at CU Boulder.
• Early signs of self-exploration and potential.
• Shifting academic interests and major changes.
• The story of meeting George at Old Chicago.
• A surprising prom date and summer romance.

08:01 - 13:19 The Life-Changing Moment

• The unexpected pregnancy revelation.
• Emotional support from family and friends.
• A decision made in the hallway.
• Committing to motherhood at 21.
• Choosing intuition over logic.

13:20 - 17:24 A Promise Made, A Promise Kept

• Vowing to give her son an extraordinary life.
• Financial sacrifices and goals for college.
• Paying tuition while running a business.
• Final college payment: a symbolic milestone.
• Honoring a 21-year-long commitment.

17:25 - 21:28 Breaking the Mold & Making It Work

• Defying traditional parenting norms.
• Choosing career and co-parenting over convenience.
• Starting a business and growing a family.
• Honoring what motherhood looks like for YOU.
• Redefining success through intention and action.

21:29 - 28:04 Full Circle Reflections & Life Lessons

• Celebrating the long game.
• The value of patience and perseverance.
• Learning from the hard and messy moments.
• Living in alignment with your vision.
• Encouragement for moms to trust their path.
• Conclusion.

Tweetable Quotes: 

 “I decided I was going to have this baby. I was going to be a mom, and everything in my life was about to change.” — Brooke Jean

 “I did what I said I was going to do. I defied the odds.” — Brooke Jean

“We do not have to be what people tell us we are.” — Brooke Jean

 “Some things are worth waiting for… I stayed the path.” — Brooke Jean

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

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FREE Immediate Calm Down Kit: https://brookejean03.activehosted.com/f/7

Get Unstuck: 5 Therapeutic Steps to Take Aligned Action: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/get-unstuck

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How do you stay true to yourself while redefining motherhood?

In this enlightening episode of the unPerfected Podcast, Brooke Jean interviews Stephanie Konter-O'Hara, LPC, ACS. Stephanie is passionate about making space in the world for everyone to be themselves and live in the most connected and authentic way that they can. She is a Mom, Podcaster (Redefining US), Licensed Mental Health Therapist, Group Practice Owner of WellMinded Counseling and author of the workbook Becoming Mommy. She truly loves to help people explore their relationships with themselves and believes that we should all surround ourselves with more opportunities to connect with our village.  

Brooke and Stephanie dive deep into topics that are often glossed over — from the intrusive thoughts of postpartum OCD to the inner conflict between independence and connection. The conversation is both validating and inspirational, offering tools, mindset shifts, and healing reminders to all mothers walking this wild and beautiful path. Whether you’re a new mom, a seasoned parent, or someone exploring their own evolution, this episode is packed with nuggets that will hit you right in the heart.

Tag a mom who needs this, and don’t forget to rate & review the show. Let’s spread the light!

Highlights

05:23 - 08:31 Becoming Mommy: Creating the Workbook

• Inspired by Stephanie’s postpartum transformation.
• Honoring identity shifts in early motherhood.
• Tools for tuning out external opinions.
• Designing a workbook rooted in values.
• Encouraging moms to define their own team and village.

08:32 - 16:27 Identity Shift: Balancing Independence and Connection

• Core values in conflict: independence vs. connection.
• Leadership, solitude, and creative fulfillment.
• Embracing both autonomy and teamwork.
• Learning to honor duality without guilt.
• Accepting motherhood as a dynamic, evolving identity.

16:28 - 28:44 Postpartum Realities & Reclaiming Trust

• The mental health toll of perfectionist parenting.
• Postpartum OCD and irrational fears.
• Over-researching and the Dr. Google trap.
• Trusting maternal instincts through real-life moments.
• Moving from anxiety to grounded self-belief.

28:45 - 32:12 Rewriting the Definition of Success in Motherhood

• Letting go of comparison and performance metrics.
• Why other moms’ goals don’t have to be yours.
• Identifying what lights you up as a parent.
• Parenting through emotional intelligence.
• Using your superpower as your parenting anchor.

32:13 - 42:22 The Beauty of Diverse Motherhood Paths

• Celebrating different values across families.
• Boundaries around outside opinions and mom-shaming.
• Sisterhood and curiosity over criticism.
• Parenting without labeling or judgment.
• Letting authenticity guide your motherhood journey.

42:23 - 51:10 Personal Evolution: Business, Boundaries & Fulfillment

• Rediscovering personal ambitions through motherhood.
• Evolving from therapist to author and speaker.
• Delegating and outsourcing to protect your energy.
• Honoring joy and alignment in professional life.
• Releasing roles that no longer serve you.
• Conclusion.

Tweetable Quotes: 

 "I thought I had to be the only one. That was like available. And I had some irrational thoughts around that." — Stephanie Konter O'Hara

"Once I figured out my conflicting values, I was like, holy shit. No wonder why I'm all over the place." — Stephanie Konter O'Hara

"You can't use the same measuring stick of success at work or school now that you're a mom."

"I don't need to be the one holding all the hats — I can focus on what brings me fulfillment." — Stephanie Konter O'Hara

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes.” — Stephanie Konter O'Hara

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FREE Perfectionism Detox Masterclass: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/perfectionism-detox

Unstuck & Unstoppable Masterclass: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/unstuck-and-unstoppable

FREE Immediate Calm Down Kit: https://brookejean03.activehosted.com/f/7

Get Unstuck: 5 Therapeutic Steps to Take Aligned Action: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/get-unstuck

You can connect with Stephanie Konter O'Hara through her:

Website: https://wellmindedcounseling.com/redefining-us-podcast Stephanie's workbook: https://a.co/d/b462dWn

Instagram: @wellmindedcounseling Facebook: Well Minded Counseling

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