The Unlock Lab

By Tosca DiMatteo

You hold the key to unlocking what is stuck in your career, and your business. The unseen will come to light so you can discover how you might be getting in your own way of success and transformation.... more

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The podcast currently has 82 episodes available.

The Unlock Lab episodes:

February 27, 2024 Ep. 11 Rejection is Protection
In this episode, I talk about how important it is to know the truth about rejection as we pursue what’s next. Hint: It’s not about you. We have to remember that we are dealing with broken systems and not make rejection mean something that it’s not. We have to give ourselves permission to grieve and also understand the stories we are telling ourselves. Tune in to view rejection differently and get tips for how to bounce back stronger.

02:46 Why Rejection is So Hard
04:49 The Broken System
09:29 Shifting Your Energy: The Key to Overcoming
Rejection
14:26 Practical Steps to Shift Your Vibe
22:26 The Power of Narrative: Defining Your Own
Reality
24:23 Keep Moving Forward

Links and Resources:
Tosca’s Website
Get in Touch with Tosca

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“Some questions to ask yourself as it relates to your energetic vibe is: Are you showing up to interviews in resentment? Are you hitting submit on applications while you're in resentment and in a bad mood? Are you unattached to the outcomes or are you grasping on to like control of what the result will be from these conversations, interviews and these applications? Are you operating out of desperation or out of a pure desire? Are you open to possibilities or are you only seeing one pathway to landing an opportunity?”

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“Have you been playing by somebody else's rules or are you honoring what works for you and what your superpowers actually are? When we're playing our game, we're going to win. When we're playing other people's games, it's a heck of a lot harder. So whatever that question means to you, run with it and explore it.”

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“It doesn't matter how many times you fall down, it matters how many times you get up. So I'm here cheering you on to keep on getting up. Keep on putting yourself out there. Keep on trusting that Divine timing is at play and it's going to work out for you. Rejection is protection. If it didn't work out, it means it wasn't for you. I also believe that what's meant for you won't pass you by. So trust in that. Trust that there's something bigger out there looking out for you. And your path is your path. Enjoy it as much as you can. Find the levity in it wherever you can. Give yourself permission to laugh and have fun and let me know how it's going.”
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February 20, 2024Ep. 10 All Access: Overcoming Networking Anxiety
On this SPECIAL episode of The Unlock Lab, Tosca answers a question from a listener from Miami, Florida regarding how to address her anxiety around networking. Tune in to this TOSCA ALL ACCESS episode for strategies on how to meeting new people more enjoyable for YOU.
Audience Question Submission:
"I want to start networking more with other leaders in m industry, but I find the
thought of walking up to strangers and introducing myself totally paralyzing.
How can I go about making introductions for myself that won't make me look
incredibly awkward?"
Episode Recap:
How are past experiencing impacting you today?

Is your inner critic getting in the way?

What reframe is helpful?

Identify your networking intent and success metrics?

Ask yourself what feels good about the process of meeting new people

Move from your head to your heart space

Ground yourself before entering the room

Reward yourself after your networking experience

You are ALWAYS equal to everyone in the room

Just be you

Links and Resources:
Tosca’s Website
Get in Touch with Tosca

{14:42} “Your only job is to be yourself, period. You are an equal to everyone in the rooms that you walk into. I don't care about title. I don't care about status. I don't care about where you live. I don't care about the car you have. When you can walk into a room and know in your heart of hearts, we are all the same. We are all people. Nobody is better than. Nobody is less than me. I think that will help you in showing up in your most authentic, beautiful way without putting the pressure on yourself that you're supposed to be anything other than who you are in that very moment.”

{16:00} “By moving through these uncomfortable feelings, by going deep and understanding what is this fear, what is underneath the feeling of meeting new people… you will come out the other side with a brighter light and more opportunities in front of you than you could imagine. Because when you wanna go all in in your life, going all in means putting yourself in situations that will serve you, that might also be uncomfortable. So get out there. My friends get out there, let the world see you shine your light. Be awkward. Be brave. Be beautiful. Be feisty. Be outrageous. Whatever it is, just be you.”

To submit a question for a future ALL ACCESS episode, email
your questions to: ⁠[email protected]⁠ or submit anonymously ⁠here⁠.

Theme song created by: https://adriandimatteo.com/
Additional music:
"Chill Wave" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
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February 13, 2024 Ep. 9 How To Be Your Own Best Friend
Becoming your own best friend is about consistently showing up for yourself and committing to a journey of self-love. You deserve to be treated with care and compassion, both by yourself and by the people around you. Listen to this episode to learn some practical steps you can take to start becoming your own best friend, and to find out how this journey will make you a better, more fulfilled leader!

Highlights:
●     Becoming your own best friend is a journey (0:53)
●     Treat yourself as you would want your best friend to treat you (3:25)
●     Not everyone deserves your energy! (5:40)
●     Focus on steps that get you closer to the things you want (8:32)
●     Mistakes are lessons, so don’t beat yourself up for them (10:28)
●     Don’t be afraid to lean on your support system (12:10)
●     Take time to feel grateful for what you have and who you are (13:57)
●     To be a great leader, you need to first find contentment within yourself (15:04)

Links and Resources:
Tosca’s Website
Get in Touch with Tosca

3:32 - 4:13 “Treat yourself well. Treat yourself as you would want your best friend to treat you. And it may sound cliche, y’all, but buy yourself flowers. I used to wait for somebody to buy me flowers, until I realized, ‘I can buy them my damn self. And they bring me a lot of joy. And I realized, you know what, I can give this to myself. I can celebrate myself. I can honor what lights me up. And that’s just one simple thing that you can do to build the practice of loving yourself.”

15:27 - 16:15 “I firmly believe that being a great leader and finding fulfillment in your career and in your life starts with finding fulfillment within yourself, for exactly who you are in every given moment. Because then you can be, not only in non-judgment of yourself and
of your past, but it enables you to have and hold more space for other people and where they’re at. And there is no greater gift than being able to hold space for other people’s potential and what other people are going through. So being your own best friend is quite a ripple effect for the world, and that’s why this work is so stinking powerful.”
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February 06, 2024Ep. 8 Are You Going All In?
What does it mean to actually GO ALL IN, in your career, business and in life? Hint: It’s not about the 24/7 grind. It’s about committing to yourself in all the ways that feel good, new and especially uncomfortable. It’s that squirm in your chair kind of feeling. Tune in to find out how much further you can go with your commitments than you ever imagined.

Are you ready to address your inner critics once and for all? Book an exploratory call: www.toscadimatteo.com/contact
In this episode, I discuss:
What going all in looks like

People, organizations and leaders leave potential on the table

Resourcing your initiatives / goals in a playing-big way

Are we doing all the things that honor our biggest goals?

Going all in on yourself

Invest more in your future than in your past

My crazy story of how I went all in, in 2023

Deeply trusting and honoring your truth – and not giving up even when you’re tested

What do you have to stop and start doing differently to achieve your goals?

Evaluate your giving and receiving flow. Are you stopping your blessings?

Take people with you on the ride

Be bold in the meeting room to pressure test priorities

Take inventory – to redirect if necessary where this year is heading for you

Going all in is truly living

For my blog on this topic visit: https://toscadimatteo.com/inner-transformation/all-in/
TOSCA ALL ACCESS
I will answer YOUR tough questions on my podcast! Email
your questions: ⁠[email protected]⁠ or submit anonymously ⁠here⁠.
FIND ME HERE
www.toscadimatteo.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/toscadimatteo/
www.instagram.com/toscadimatteo

BOOK & BLOG
www.toscadimatteo.com/book (Culture Impact: Strategies to Create World-changing Workplaces)
www.toscadimatteo.com/blog

Are you looking for more content like this – with tips on how to put your career on a new trajectory? Sign up for my newsletter here: www.toscadimatteo.com/optin
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January 30, 2024Ep. 7 Inner Critics 101
The foundation of the work I do is in supporting people to shift their relationship with their inner critics. This work is fundamental to getting out of our own way in all areas of our life. In this episode you can learn more about what they are, and what’s possible when we 'take out the garbage' that's in our head.

Are you ready to address your inner critics once and for all? Book an exploratory call: www.toscadimatteo.com/contact

In this episode, I discuss:
What are inner critics and what do they
sound like?

Why inner critic work can unleash your potential

Inner critic work is also in service of creating stronger relationships

I’m not a mindset coach… what I do is much deeper

How inner critics keep us from receiving the love we desire so deeply
TOSCA ALL ACCESS
I will answer YOUR tough questions on my podcast! Email your questions: ⁠[email protected]⁠ or submit anonymously ⁠here⁠.
FIND ME HERE
www.toscadimatteo.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/toscadimatteo/
www.instagram.com/toscadimatteo
BOOK & BLOG
www.toscadimatteo.com/book
(Culture Impact: Strategies to Create World-changing Workplaces)
www.toscadimatteo.com/blog

Are you looking for more content like this – with tips on how to stop living in constant tension? Sign up for my newsletter here: www.toscadimatteo.com/optin
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28min
January 16, 2024Ep. 6 When Your World Gets Rocked
SHOW NOTES
What do you do when life blows up in your face? These are tough moments to handle and in this episode I share some tools to add to your toolbox as well as perspective on how these can be huge opportunities to uplevel your life.

Are you ready to address your inner critics once and for all? Book an exploratory call.

In this episode, I discuss:
What kinds of things cause our world to turn upside down?

Tips for coming back to center

Why the breakdown comes before the breakthrough
TOSCA ALL ACCESS
I will answer YOUR tough questions on my podcast! Email your questions: ⁠[email protected]⁠ or submit anonymously ⁠here⁠.
FIND ME HERE:
Website
Blog
LinkedIn
Instagram
Co-Authored Book: ⁠Culture Impact: Strategies for World-changing Workplaces⁠

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29min
January 09, 2024Ep. 5 When Nothing Feels New
We have been conditioned to think that the new year is when we are supposed to feel energized, be clear in our goals and running at full steam. This is often the furthest from reality for those experiencing the heart of the winter months. Tune in to feel validated in however you are feeling right now, and for some tips on how to start the year with grace and ease!
Areyou ready to get support in getting your new year off to a healthy, inspiring
start? Book an exploratory call.
In this episode, I discuss:
New Year’s doesn’t always feel brand new

Conditioning around how we are supposed to feel in January

How we add suffering on top of suffering

Check in with yourself as a leader as well as your team

Don’t bite off more than you can chew
TOSCA ALL ACCESS
I will answer YOUR tough questions on my podcast! Email your questions: ⁠[email protected]⁠ or submit anonymously ⁠here⁠.
FIND ME HERE:
Website
Blog
LinkedIn
Instagram
Co-Authored Book: ⁠Culture Impact: Strategies for World-changing Workplaces⁠

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17min
December 19, 2023Ep. 4 What's Celebration Got To Do With It?
Celebrating our wins is an important part of the process of quieting our inner critics. It’s also a leadership tool for positive reinforcement. There are often deep-seeded reasons why we struggle with more frequent and meaningful celebration. Tune in for how you can get better at this practice of celebrating, even in times when so many are suffering.

Are you ready to address the underlying blocks to celebrating yourself, or your
team’s wins? Book an exploratory call.
In this episode, I discuss:
How culture, our upbringing, and past experiences impacts when and how we celebrate

The role that jealousy plays

Positive reinforcement is so important with the teams we lead

Celebration is the resistance and the revolution

Inner critics get in the way BIG TIME

Celebrating with others is incredibly powerful

A practice of receiving

“Thank you, I receive that”

What are your blocks to celebration

What we focus on, grows
TOSCA ALL ACCESS
I will answer YOUR tough questions
on my podcast! Email your questions: ⁠[email protected]⁠ or submit anonymously ⁠here⁠.
FIND ME HERE:
Website
Blog
LinkedIn
Instagram
Co-Authored Book: ⁠Culture Impact: Strategies for World-changing Workplaces⁠

Are you hungry for more content around personal and organizational transformation? Sign up for my newsletter here.
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20min
December 12, 2023Ep. 3 In Due Time: Unhooking From The Pressure
Are you feeling pressure around time and timelines? At a potent time for reflection, it can also be a hotbed for our inner critics to tell us that ‘we didn’t do enough’. I share many stories and tools for supporting yourself so that you stop beating yourself up and start celebrating.

Are you ready for support to embrace your success and stop beating yourself up? Book an exploratory call.

In this episode, I discuss:
You are not in control

Trusting the process – what does that mean anyway?

Eliminate the timeline

No magic bullets

Finding clarity

Divine timing

Celebrate

TOSCA ALL ACCESS
I will answer YOUR tough questions on my podcast! Email your questions: ⁠[email protected]⁠ or submit anonymously ⁠here⁠.

FIND ME HERE:
Website
Blog
LinkedIn
Instagram
Co-Authored Book: ⁠Culture Impact: Strategies for World-changing Workplaces⁠

If you are hungry for more content around personal and organizational
transformation? Sign up for my newsletter here.
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24min
December 05, 2023Ep. 2 Dismantling Your Walls of Self-Protection
Healthy boundaries and destructive walls are two different things, and this episode helps you understand the difference.

Tips to take down your walls:
Release the Pain

Separate Fact from Fiction

Imagine the Possibilities

Pass the Baton From Your Head to Your Heart

Have Honest Conversations

Take Small Risks
TOSCA ALL ACCESS
I will answer YOUR tough questions on my podcast! Email your questions: ⁠[email protected]⁠ or
submit anonymously ⁠here⁠, and stay tuned for support in getting unstuck.

FIND ME HERE:
Work with me: ⁠https://toscadimatteo.com/⁠
Blog: ⁠https://toscadimatteo.com/blog/⁠
Co-Authored Book: ⁠Culture Impact: Strategies for World-changing Workplaces⁠
LinkedIn: ⁠toscadimatteo⁠
Instagram: ⁠@toscadimatteo
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36min

FAQs about The Unlock Lab:

How many episodes does The Unlock Lab have?

The podcast currently has 82 episodes available.