The Unlock Lab

This week’s episode of The Unlock Lab takes a look at how personal growth is the game-changer for unlocking those big professional wins and shifts you desire. Personal growth is all about focusing inward, responding to our triggers constructively, shifting our self-talk, and honoring what matters most. Showing up in the world with alchemized energy is what leads to breakthroughs in the professional goals we seek. In this episode I share real examples how small shifts in our actions and internal dialog can bring massive change.

Highlights:

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[00:03:37]

"I had to really get close to and understand what is it I really wanted, what were my limiting beliefs and what was possible if we chose to do this for ourselves."

[00:11:15]

"If you've been butting up against big resistance to one modality, then my invitation is to say, well, what feels a little bit better for you? What feels a little bit more accessible? What feels like a way in that maybe brings just a tinge of hope, enthusiasm, or optimism?"

[00:15:50]

"I want you to know you have it within you to trust yourself, to honor the whispers of what is it that really needs to be addressed right now? In order to get to where I want to be, in order to feel the way I want to feel, in order to end this year in a way that I can feel like I'm being my own best friend versus beating myself up over where I am."

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In this week’s episode of The Unlock Lab, I talk about how we can live our life (and not just certain times of year, or in the wake of major events) in the energy of gratitude and service. This is about practicing a healthy perspective on life, building habits that keep you steady, and spreading love through even the smallest acts of kindness. Whether it’s handling tough times (election, COVID, etc.) or learning to roll with what life throws at you, this episode is about acknowledging what is, while also choosing hope and abundance.

Highlights:

Quotables:

[00:03:59]

"In times like these, when things feel like they're on the downward spiral, we gotta take a step back and of course, process our feelings, process our emotions."

[00:15:05]

"Inner critics can come in and make us feel bad about our life, about our situations. This is where going back to the truth of what is present in your life, of what you are appreciative of, what you are thankful for, can be really helpful in not letting that those inner critics run the roost this week, or this month, or this season for that matter."

[00:27:55]

"We can be hopeful for a future that we're not sure how we're gonna get there. And we can also set an intention for ourselves and our actions and our thought patterns that will help us make that manifest."

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In this week’s episode of The Unlock Lab, I sit down with Marina Ganzarolli to talk about her amazing journey in transforming her career and creating real change. Marina, founder of the #MeToo Brazil Movement, shares how she left a secure public sector job to build a mission driven career supporting survivors of sexual violence and championing gender equity. We dig into the big risks she took to follow her purpose, the challenges and fears she powered through, and how she created a career on her own terms. Marina’s story is a lesson in the power of experimentation, resilience, and trusting our past successes to fuel new leaps. This conversation is a reminder that influencing change can start with simply listening and holding space for others.

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Marina [00:06:30]

"I am a survivor of sexual violence and I elaborated my trauma through helping other women. And I have been doing that for almost 20 years, two decades now. It's been 18 years of providing support to victims with no charge, as a volunteer work, as a civil work. And at that time I was already a specialist, an expert on the subject."

Tosca [00:40:50]

"I think people put a lot of pressure on themselves, that they have to create something new. And that when we just keep our eyes open and we see what's out there and where we can fill in the gaps and find connections in different arenas. Maybe it's different geographies or even different disciplines that we can put things together in new ways without having to recreate the wheel."

Marina [00:43:04]

"I think my special sauce is the ability to listen and to make people open themselves. I don't know really how, but apparently I inspire a lot of truth because people really share very traumatic, very personal, very sad, profound things about their lives with us."

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In this third and final part of the Influencing Change series on The Unlock Lab, I share some thoughts on common patterns that impact our ability to effectively influence change - like leaving too soon and overstaying our welcome. I also remind you that influence needs space and time and change is never on the timeline that we want. Let's also not forget the importance of celebrating every little win along the way. Tune in to learn how we can all show up, stay patient, and make the changes we’re aiming for, one step at a time.

Highlights:

Quotables:

[00:02:41]

"We are still going to participate in this world that we live in. At least that's my hope for you. My hope is that regardless of what's going on, that you continue to say, I'm here to Drive change."

[00:08:01]

"I can't put you in a pressure cooker and you pop out 30 minutes later and it's like, oh my God, I'm a whole new person. No, first of all, you don't need to be a whole new person. But you pick up what I'm putting down."

[00:16:52]

The next thing to do is to claim that you're powerful and to know that you're powerful and to activate your power, to say, you know what? I can change things for myself. I can make them better. I can make a new choice. I can try something new.

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Welcome to part two of my three part series on influencing change. It’s time to step up and get involved in our communities for the greater good. Tune in to find out why what you really want can be your north star for creating real, lasting change. I'll guide you through the vital balance between your heart and mind when it comes to making an impact. Grounding yourself is critical before you lift others up! Join me as we unpack these ideas and get ready to take action.

Highlights:

Quotables:

[00:03:02]

"We have to start with understanding the deepest layer of what it is that we want, because this is our compass. This is our compass for everything and what we tend to do is stay at the surface level of our desires."

[00:09:55]

"Influencing change is most powerful when you are open to that co creation process that I've been talking about. Being open is a journey because we tend to live in our heads, our society and our past experiences and our big T traumas and our little T traumas often lead us to live in our head."

[00:17:27]

"We have a tendency to make everything about ourselves and when we do that, influencing others is going to be a much harder because other people feel where your intentions are and where your heart is."

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In this episode of The Unlock Lab, I kick off part one of my three-part series on influencing change. Because we just all love and embrace change, right? HA! I talk about the dual nature of influence - how we can be strong agents of change but that we also have to recognize that we can’t control outcomes or how others respond. Join me as I explore how embracing our power and accepting uncertainty can help us create the meaningful changes we’re all after in our lives.

Highlights:

•We all have the power to influence change in our lives and surroundings.

•We can be strong agents of change, but we can't control others' actions.

•The path forward for creating a better tomorrow is to do it together.

Quotables:

[00:06:56]

"Part of what I want you to do is actually reflect on when have you influenced change for yourself and externally, who have you tried to influence to make a decision that you wanted them to make?"

[00:10:46]

"I think the way that we tend to go about it is we try to control change. We tend to wrap our arms around it because we are afraid of what change can bring, and instead we actually have to embrace the change and stand in our own power."

[00:14:14]

"Change is happening so fast and in every discipline that if we want to figure out what all this means and how do we use all this new technology, for good, the we have got to talk about it and collaborate on it, we've got to drink a lot of coffee together and look at things from different perspectives."

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In this episode of The Unlock Lab, I discuss how limiting beliefs impact our lives. I share personal stories about how I broke free from those doubts so that you can do the same thing. I also give you tips for silencing that inner critic that loves to drag us down. When you start to trust yourself and stay open to possibilities, amazing things can happen. So if you’re ready to shake off what’s been keeping you from shining, and step more fully into your power, this episode is for you!

Highlights:

Quotables:

[00:00:03]

"I know that there's so much freedom in following our true desires and stopping the self doubt, and disrupting the limiting beliefs, and building the muscle of our truth."

[00:02:47]

"Limiting beliefs come part and parcel with every inner critic that we have. But I just wanted to dive in a little bit deeper to help to see where you might have limiting beliefs that you didn't even realize. Limiting beliefs force us into boxes and they can prevent us from taking action. They limit our view."

[00:10:59]

"It is something you have to deeply embed in your bones to have self belief, but perhaps even bigger than that to have belief in something bigger than yourself."

[00:13:46]

"Working a job we tell ourselves all these things about what's possible and what's not, and part of it is self protection. Part of it is overwhelm and just contributing to our inaction, and actually contributing to our bias of not wanting to do the hard thing…to get over ourselves."

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In this week's episode of The Unlock Lab, I look back at what I've learned about being an entrepreneur for the past five years. In the beginning I wasn’t sure if I’d make it this far or WANT to still be my own boss! Whether you’re an entrepreneur or chasing success in any career, these lessons are for you. I talk about how personal growth always comes before those big professional breakthroughs, why it’s so important to block out the noise and trust your own path, and how investing in yourself before you feel ready is a game changer.

Highlights:

Quotables:

[00:00:03]:

"Part of shutting out the noise includes the comparison that we love to do when we're not sure if what we're doing are the right things. But when you're paving new pathways and carving your way of doing things into the world, the last thing that you should be doing is getting distracted by looking at what others are doing."

[00:13:26]:

"We tend to invest in everybody else before we invest in ourselves. So let's just make sure that we are making the best investment, which is always on ourselves, first and foremost. And if you're hesitating on something but your gut is like, I really know I need this and this is going to help me really get to the next level, then do the thing."

[00:15:59]:

"It's okay to make mistakes. It's okay. You're gonna waste some of your spend. And I think this is another way that we can be perfectionist. This is another way we can be hard on ourselves, telling ourselves we can't make any missteps. Trust in the process of building your own business, in the process of life in general."

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In this episode of The Unlock Lab, I’m sharing something really special with you - a replay of my interview on Kiera Doyle’s podcast, Meeting Your Magic. This was one of the most in-depth conversations I’ve had about inner critic work and how it plays such a huge role in getting out of our own way. Kiera is not just a close friend, but also an expert in human design and all things self-discovery. We talk about everything from moving from corporate life to running our own businesses, to the impact inner critics have had on us. It’s raw, real, and packed with insights on how understanding yourself can make all the difference in your journey. I’m so excited to share this with you!

MEETING YOUR MAGIC PODCAST Hosted by Kiera Doyle

Is your Inner Authority running the show or it is your Inner Critic?

In my maternity leave comeback episode, I'm joined by my dear friend, Tosca DiMatteo host of The Unlock Lab Podcast who is an expert on uncovering, and befriending our Inner Critics so we can live our BIG lives- the ones truly meant for us.

Episode Highlights:

Quotables:

[00:12:55]

TOSCA "I realized that there was something else I really wanted to do in the world. And that put me on the path of really helping people and teams and organizations to get to the next level, to do the transformation work, to find out what else is possible and unleash their potential."

[00:25:24]

TOSCA "How do we identify it is a really big first step of the process, deepening your awareness. We may think we know what we're saying to ourselves, but until we're actually paying attention to it over a period of time, and I usually say two weeks, definitely. Like a week of really documenting and externalizing, writing down literally, what are you saying to yourself that's not serving you?"

[00:49:30]

TOSCA "What I love about who you are and how you move in the world is you're like, I'm doing this work because I believe in myself, and there may be parts of myself that are scared about that, but I'm not waiting, you know, you're not waiting for some major life event to kick you in the pants. Like, you're willing to kick yourself in the pants and say, no, I'm not going to stay small."

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Let's talk about a particularly sneaky inner critic - the one that keeps telling us we are not an expert. It’s part of a whole trifecta of inner critics, right along with the one that’s pushing us to step out of our comfort zone, and the one whispering that we're not ready for what’s next. With limitless information out there at our fingertips, it’s easier than ever to feel like we don’t know enough to get started. Whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, sharing your opinion with family, or putting yourself out there in front of the world, this episode is all about calling out that inner voice and taking action. I’m not immune to this either - I share my own experiences with that “I’m not expert enough” critic and how to stop holding yourself back.

Episode Highlights:

Quotables:

[00:03]

"If you've been telling yourself a story that you're not enough, or whatever your story is about your journey to date, then it may be time to update that story so that you can redefine what an expert is or even decide. You know what? I actually don't even need to be an expert in order to put myself out there. Let's give them something to talk about."

[12:32]

"I'm often asked, so how did I get into transformation work? How is it that I'm able to do this? And how does one kind of prove that they can help people in transformation? And I'm not going to lie. When I used to get these questions, my inner critic used to come out loud and proud and start to wonder if what I really need to do is go back and get a degree in psychology or change management or other kinds of studies and modalities having to do with transformation."

[21:16]

"You have something to share. You have something that you think is valuable to other people. You may not know exactly who quite yet, but you know it in your bones. And if you know it in your bones, then I'm inviting you to take a leap of faith, to be willing to go to the edge of your comfort zone and take the next step."

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