The Visible Man Podcast

By Jeffrey Hoffman

Our mission is to connect men in need, create a visible network of advocates, and train key men in existing social networks to provide a foundation of support.

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How many episodes does The Visible Man Podcast have?

The podcast currently has 58 episodes available.

The Visible Man Podcast episodes:

November 15, 2021VM Live! 11-05-21 - Our Greatest Fears (Special Extended-Length Episode)
On this special extended-length episode, the boys dig deep and discuss their greatest fears.

Links:
DONATE TO AND/OR JOIN THE OFFICIAL VM MOVEMBER TEAM: https://us.movember.com/team/2398989

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone

AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers

NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home

Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC

VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/
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1h 20min
November 07, 2021VM Live! 10-22-21 - What We Wish We Had Known
On this episode of VM Live, the guys discuss what they wish they had known about life, love, and everything in between.
DONATE TO AND/OR JOIN THE OFFICIAL VM MOVEMBER TEAM: https://us.movember.com/team/2398989

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone

AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers

NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home

Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC

VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/
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56min
October 24, 2021Men and Domestic Violence
Jeff chats with Lisa Nolan the Director of Prevention Education for the Willow Domestic Violence Center in Rochester New York.
This conversation may be triggering to some and as a reminder, it is for educational purposes only and not medical or legal advice. If you need medical or legal advice, please seek help from the appropriate medical or legal professional.
Notes
What is the language we should be using when discussing domestic violence?

The different perspectives on men and domestic violence

How do we stop domestic violence?

What is domestic violence and what does it look like?

The signs of domestic violence

Does domestic violence happen outside of sexual relationships?

How the Britney Spears situation shows us what domestic violence in the family can look like

What are the outward signs of domestic violence?

What is gaslighting?

Are abusers aware that they are abusing?

Abuse versus anger management issues

Why do people abuse? Where does it come from?

How Lisa’s experience as a campus judge for a college opened her eyes to the reality of domestic violence

Men’s versus women’s experiences with domestic violence

What hurdles do male sexual abuse survivors face?

Domestic Violence in the LGBTQIA community

How do people end up in abusive relationships?

Why are abusive relationships hard to leave?

Audience Q&A

What we can do to help
Links
Willow Domestic Violence Center: http://willowcenterny.org/

The National Domestic Violence Hotline: http://thehotline.org/

Rape Abuse & Incest National Network: http://rainn.org/
The CDC
Fast Facts about DV: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/index.html

Information on Adverse Childhood Experiences: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces

The Power and Control Wheel: https://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/2019-08/Gender%20Neutral%20Power%20Control%20Wheel.pdf

Brene Brown’s RSA Short: Empathy: https://brenebrown.com/videos/rsa-short-empathy/

DONATE TO AND/OR JOIN THE OFFICIAL VM MOVEMBER TEAM: https://us.movember.com/team/2398989

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone

AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers

NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home

Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC

VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/
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47min
October 21, 2021VM Live - 10-15-21 - VM Then, Now, and What's to Come
The boys reflect on what brought them to Visible Man, what's kept them there, and what they hope to see it become in the future.
Experience with VM and how it impacts you personally
Importance of connection when going through life stuff

Easier to open up online with people you don’t know, less judgment

Open, honest, real vulnerability

Ability to discuss personal issues from a man’s perspective
Looking forward, what would you like to see VM become?
Local, regional, worldwide focus

Grow large enough to need VM chapters in different cities

Help save lives

Several hundred members active in chats

Planning in person VM meetups

Bridge the gap in the conversation between going through stuff and going to therapy

Spread the word, spread the mission

Increase content creation and distribution (incorporate video, social media, etc)

Identify specific traits - what is a Visible Man?

Skills training to acquire specific traits of a Visible Man
Links
Visible Man - Movember Team 2021- Join the team or donate

The Positive Effects of Running on Mental Health - PubMed

Seasonal Depression (SAD): Symptoms and Causes

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone

AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers

NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home

Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC

VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/

Topics
Highs and lows of the week

Season change and less daylight sucks

Separation and divorce

Drinking

Suicidal ideation

Job loss and family stress

Vulnerability

Be visible

Create connection

Looking for validation in different places
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54min
October 16, 2021No Stigmas - A Conversation with Jacob Moore
On this episode of the Visible Man podcast, Jeff sits down with suicide-loss survivor, speaker, author, founder of No Stigmas, and creator of the 5 Bridges to wellness Jacob Moore to discuss mental health, relationships, wellness, and everything in between.
This episode contains discussions about suicide and losing people to suicide so it may be triggering to some individuals.
Just a quick reminder, This episode is educational in nature and not medical advice. If you need medical advice, please seek out the appropriate medical professional.
Notes:
How you see yourself versus how the world sees you

How 5 Bridges to Wellness came to be

How a good relationship can really help you grow

Making it safe for other people to open up while not forgetting our own boundaries, needs, etc

Why every couple should go to couple’s therapy.

How Jacob divorced a girl before having their first date and then ended up marrying her

Why peer support networks matter

The first bridge - bond and why we need to diversify your bonds

How do you figure out what you need?

Figuring out the difference between want and need

Masculine and feminine energy and how those energies affect our mental health

The importance of giving within your own capacity

Audience Q&A
Links:
NoStigmas https://www.nostigmas.org/

5 Bridges Wellness https://www.the5bridges.com/|

https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-with-drs-john-and-julie-gottman-on-what-makes-love-last/

https://lewishowes.com/podcast/devon-franklin-relationships-love-and-lust/

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone

AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers

NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home

Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC

VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/
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54min
October 12, 2021VM Live! 10-08-21 - A Visible Woman on Visible Man
Intern and Visible Woman, Steph Ketty takes the reins and discusses some of the topics brought up on past episodes of VM Live with regular hosts Jeff and Jack.
Notes:
How Steph found VM

Childhood foods: city chicken, warm tuna, bologna tacos

Parents aren’t out to do a bad job raising kids

You’re an adult when you’re able to see your parents as humans

When is your first memory feeling unsafe?

How was sex talked about at home

How are you raising your kids

Religious upbringing

Sexual assault

Having to figure out sex and consent on your own

Feeling unsafe around men

Therapy

Sexual identity

Marriage

Infidelity

Changing truths
Links:
I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape by Robin Warshaw: https://www.amazon.com/Never-Called-Rape-Recognizing-Acquaintance/dp/0060925728

Adios Barbie: https://www.adiosbarbie.com/

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone

AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers

NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home

Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC

VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/
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51min
October 04, 2021VM Live! 10-01-21 - The Problem with Protective Orders
When most people think about protective orders, they assume the orders are being placed on a man, but that's not always the case. In this episode of VM Live, Adro discusses why he had to get protective orders, how difficult it was to do so, and why even though he did nothing wrong, his life went under the microscope.
Links:
VM Live! 08-26-21 - Adro's Addiction: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/VM-Live--08-26-21---Adros-Addiction-e16hpu0
Therapy Is... Magic: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/Therapy-Is----Magic-e181jij
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone

AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers

NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home

Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC

VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/
News Theme by Kevin MacLeod is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Artist: http://incompetech.com/
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57min
September 29, 2021Therapy Is... Magic
Have you been to therapy recently?
A goal we have at VM is to make men’s mental health a dinner table topic and one of the ways we can do that is by demystifying and destigmatizing the practice of going to therapy.
We, men, are notorious for our ability to avoid seeking help and almost equally notorious for our ability to come up with excuses for not doing so. When it comes to therapy, most of it is based on fear. Fear of looking (or actually being) weak, fear of looking (or actually being) broken, fear of the process itself. The reasons for our fears are almost as numerous as our excuses. Fellas, it’s time we make a change.
In her debut book, ‘Therapy is…Magic: An essential guide to the ups, downs and life-changing experiences of talking therapy’ trainee psychotherapist, award-winning mental health advocate, artist and author, Jo Love reveals everything you’ve wanted to know but been too scared to ask about the world of therapy. This is a passionate and unflinchingly honest account of Jo’s own mental health journey and an essential read for those curious about or considering entering therapy. Written from the unique perspective of a person in therapy, the book provides a rarely heard voice in the mental wellness space. With the help of experts including her own therapist, Jo opens a rare window into the secretive world of therapy, unpicking the magical powers that enabled her to find her voice, grow her resilience and ultimately save herself from her own mind.
Jeff sat down with Jo and discussed how therapy is indeed, magic.
This podcast is educational in nature and not medical advice. If you need medical advice, please seek out the appropriate medical professional.
Links:
Order Jo’s Book: https://www.bookdepository.com/Therapy-is-Magic-Jo-Love/9781529348439
Jo’s Website: https://www.jolove.co.uk/

Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jo__love__/

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone

AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers

NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home

Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC

VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/
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55min
September 26, 2021VM Live! 09-24-21 - Adventures on Tinder
The gang gets welcomes intern/dating expert Steph back onto the show for the long-awaited results of Admin Bob’s Tinder Experiment.
Notes:
Bob’s Tinder results

Why didn’t Bob get the results he hoped for?

Do pictures or bio matter more on a dating profile?

Tinder for women versus tinder for men

Tinder versus hitting on people in person

Tinder versus more mature dating sites

Are party lines still a thing?

Double standards and why they probably aren’t always that bad

The new plan to get Bob a date

How to be a proper wingman
Links:
VM Live! 08-19-21 - Admin Bob Gets on Tinder: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/VM-Live--08-19-21---Admin-Bob-Gets-on-Tinder-e167v3l
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/
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55min
September 22, 2021VM Live! 09-17-21 - Emotional Safety
Are men taught to hide their emotions or are they just born that way? Is humor helpful or a disguise? When men do express emotions, do they do it right? On this episode of VM Live the boys explore all of this and more as they open up about opening up.
Notes:
Hipster suspenders

Jeff is dressing outside his comfort zone

Emotional safety

Growing up learning “boys don’t cry”

Crying in kids sports

Hats

Does society actually allow men to be vulnerable

Humor and sarcasm as defense mechanisms

Chandler without the laugh track

“My friends that I cry with” and people we cannot be open with

Stable safe spaces

Suppressed emotions

Modeling behavior for our kids

The three movies men are allowed to cry at

Learning we must be strong for others at a young age

Vulnerability in the transmasculine experience

Nature vs nurture

Jeff’s lifehack

Asking: how do you want me to respond?
Links:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone

AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers

NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home

Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC

VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/
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55min

FAQs about The Visible Man Podcast:

How many episodes does The Visible Man Podcast have?

The podcast currently has 58 episodes available.