The Vision-Driven Marriage

Annette and I discuss boundary issues in marriages and why they are important.


Annette helps Christian women rebuild a beautiful life after leaving a narcissistic relationship. But it’s more than that. Her heart and gentle spirit shine through in the café, where she provides not just comfy conversations but tailored coaching through The Beautiful Life Academy and specific support in overcoming trauma related to being in a Narcissistic Relationship in the Cinderella no more program.



You can also listen to Annette on her podcast NEVERNARC as she shares her wisdom and heart for those who want purpose, peace, and delight as they recover from the abuse of a narcissistic relationship.

Where to find Annette:
Home

 Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe
https://cafe.annettechesney.com/home

NeverNarc Podcast
https://nevernarc.buzzsprout.com/

Freeby Mentioned in the postroll: The Narc Encounter Spectrum Protect Yourself from Narcissistic Abuse https://annettechesney.com/overview/

Mentions:
American Association of Christian Counseling AACC.net


Where to find Doug and Leslie:
Home - Heart Call Ministries www.heartcallministries.org
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Doug and Leslie continue their discussion of the types of intimacies and help you recognize how to strengthen your marriage by expanding your understanding of intimacies.

Things Mentioned in this episode:
Podcast Episode #5

Rick and Nancy Kay Grace interview 

Free PDF with the 12 types of intimacies and descriptions: 

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‌Types of Intimacies mention in this episode:

Sexual intimacy includes flirting, sensuality, cuddling, play, touching, and arousing each other.

Emotional intimacy is the sharing of significant feelings. It’s foundational to the other types of intimacy.

Intellectual intimacy comes from sharing ideas and mind-stretching experiences together. For minds to connect, there has to be mutual respect for each other's intellectual capacities. A wide gap in capacities can make it harder to achieve.

Aesthetic intimacy is the sharing of experiences of beauty, through the enjoyment art, music, nature, gardens, or even food and drink together.

Creative intimacy is obtained through designing and making things together.

Recreational intimacy is engaging in play to enjoy time outside of work, to relieve stress, explore, relax, and exercise.

Work intimacy is the performing of tasks, including everyday ones: maintaining a home, raising a family, earning a living, and participating in the community. It’s deeply satisfying to plan and work with the support of a partner, and to share in the satisfaction of completing tasks.

Crisis intimacy comes about when a couple stands together through hardship, big and small. Sometimes the relationship itself is a test, when adversity or change throw it off balance for a while. Struggling together deepens bonds—crisis intimacy is the ability to say we’ve been through some really hard times together. And it’s made us stronger.

Commitment intimacy is the feeling of reciprocity that develops over time with shared dedication to a common goal.

Conflict intimacy comes from speaking up and facing differences in a respectful and helpful way.

Communication intimacy is honest, open, loving, proactive interaction.

Spiritual intimacy develops through sharing in the area of ultimate concerns, the meaning of life, and a relationship to the universe and God. It is stimulated and deepened through participation in a religious community, rituals, and traditions.

Credit: list of 12 intimacies Adapted by Alan Rutherford from The Intimate Marriage by Howard and Charlotte Clinebell (1970). 

Twelve types of intimacy — Alan Rutherford, LPC

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Doug and Leslie interpret the well-known types of intimacies and help you recognize how you can strengthen your marriage by expanding your understanding of intimacies.

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The interview with Rick & Nancy Kay Grace can be found here.

Types of Intimacies mention in this episode:

Sexual intimacy includes flirting, sensuality, cuddling, play, touching, and arousing each other.

Emotional intimacy is the sharing of significant feelings. It’s foundational to the other types of intimacy.

Intellectual intimacy comes from sharing ideas and mind-stretching experiences together. For minds to connect, there has to be mutual respect for each other's intellectual capacities. A wide gap in capacities can make it harder to achieve.

Aesthetic intimacy is the sharing of experiences of beauty, through the enjoyment art, music, nature, gardens, or even food and drink together.

Creative intimacy is obtained through designing and making things together.

Recreational intimacy is engaging in play to enjoy time outside of work, to relieve stress, explore, relax, and exercise.

Credit: list of 12 intimacies Adapted by Alan Rutherford from The Intimate Marriage by Howard and Charlotte Clinebell (1970). https://www.alanrutherfordlpc.com/resources/twelve-types-of-intimacy

Places Doug and Leslie mentioned in this episode:
Our San Antonio Missions Tour | National Historical Park (visitsanantonio.com)
https://www.visitsanantonio.com/missions/
Art Institute of Chicago | Choose Chicago https://www.choosechicago.com/listing/art-institute-of-chicago/

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Honor has been called the forgotten virtue, but if we take God’s word seriously, we are to outdo one another in giving honor (Romans 12:10). In this episode we share how to solidify your marriage by honoring your spouse. We breakdown specific ways to give honor in hopes that it will help you take steps to give your spouse honor.

If you’re interested in learning more about Affair-proofing your relations, you can take the quiz here: https://heartcallministries.org/n3gk

Link to Rick & Nancy Kay Grace’s interview: https://heartcallministries.org/podcast/intimacy-and-honor-with-rick-nancy-kay-grace/

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Revolutionize Your Marriage

Rick and Nancy Kay share with us four types of intimacy and a Bible verse that, when the concept is applied to your marriage, can revolutionize your relationship.

Rick and Nancy Kay Grace bring a wealth of encouragement and practical information wrapped in humor. We laughed, learned, and laughed some more as we conversed about intimacy in marriage. Rick and Nancy Kay spoke about 4 of 12 different key intimacies that are found in marriage and why the one that is often least obtained is the most important. They share from their 48 years of marriage and ministry the key to spiritual intimacy and where to find the Biblical principle that God so lovingly shares with us.

Rick and Nancy mention:

Five types of intimacy:

communication

emotional

intellectual

recreational

spiritual

Key Verse:

Romans 12:10

Rick and Nancy Kay Grace can be found at:

https://www.nancykaygrace.com/
https://www.instagram.com/nancykaygrace/
https://www.facebook.com/nancy.k.grace/
https://www.facebook.com/authornancykaygrace
https://twitter.com/nancykaygrace
https://www.facebook.com/rick.l.grace

Nancy's devotional "The Grace Impact"
 

RESOURCES THE GUEST MENTIONED DURING THE INTERVIEW

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: It’s Impossible To Be Spiritually Mature While Remaining Emotionally Immature


Couple's Prayer Guide

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Friendship is a special space in our personal lives and one that we should share with our spouse and so often we don't. Doug and Leslie share three tips to build friendship in marriage.

Have Honest Conversations
Trust God together
Serve others together


Praying with your spouse is a great way to build connection and help solidify your marriage.  Here is a link to the Free Guide: Praying With Your Spouse.

Mentioned in the episode:
Episode #6 Looking at Marriage Through a Biblical Lens, Interview with Rick & Nora Tatina

Episode # 5 Increasing Your Intimacy Through Prayer


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Doug and Leslie give you four Biblical principles to apply to your marriage, increasing unity as you go. They also discuss questions to ask yourself if you cannot apply these four Biblical principles.
The Four Principles

• be humble
• be gentle
• be patient
• be tolerant in love

Scripture Mentioned:
Ephesians 4:1 & 2 Therefore I, the prisoner in the Lord, urge you to live worthy of the calling you have received, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,

https://www.blueletterbible.org/csb/eph/4/1/s_1101001

Romans 12:10
Love one another deeply as brothers and sisters. Outdo one another in showing honor.
https://www.blueletterbible.org/csb/rom/12/10/s_1058010

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant, is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end.

https://www.blueletterbible.org/csb/1co/13/4-8/s_1075004


Self-check questions Mentioned:
Be humble:
Are you willing to submit your desires to God's purposes?
Are you willing to serve your spouse? Ask God to show you your reaction when you're treated like a servant.

Be gentle:
What is your first response when your spouse wrongs you?

Be patient:
Am I really willing to wait for the moving of God's spirit in the life of my spouse?

Be tolerant in love:
Am I truly ok with things my spouse does differently or do I insist on things being done my way?

Things Mentioned in the episode:
The Vision-Driven Marriage Interview with Nora and Rick Tatina
https://heartcallministries.org/podcast/looking-at-marriage-through-a-biblical-lens-with-rick-nora-tatina/


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Doug and Leslie discuss three simple ways to come together as one without losing your individual identity. 

Talking points: 
(1)Thinking of your spouse as more important than yourself
(2) Dreaming together
(3) Letting your callings complement each other.

Scripture mentioned:
Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves.

Proverbs 29:18  Without revelation, people run wild, but one who follows divine instruction will be happy.

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Looking at Marriage Through a Biblical Lens

Rick and Nora discuss how looking at marriage through a Biblical lens can strengthen your marriage. They give some great practical tips to strengthen your marriage in a Godly way.


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https://abidealways.com/
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Doug and Leslie discuss ways to increase your intimacy with your spouse through prayer.

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MidRoll Mention:
Get the Couple's Prayer Guide here

Doug and Leslie Mentioned:
The interview with Heather Erdmann, Author of The Mystery of Marriage, How to Love Your Spouse the Way Christ Loves the Church

Scripture Mentioned
Where two or more are gathered, Jesus is in the midst of them
Ephesians 1:18

Steps to increase your spiritual  intimacy through prayer:
Pick a topic ahead of time
Pray for something that happened during your day
Pray scripture for your spouse 
Example: Ephesians 1:18 and The Sermon On the Mount

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