In this episode, we discuss how to cultivate friendships as an adult - the fears that may go into making new friends & how to overcome them by being ourselves, staying open & trusting in the magical powers of quantum physics (also known as – the law of attraction.)
We discuss the wavy line of balance between too much hibernation & over socialization.
We distinguish the difference between time spent alone checking out in avoidant patterns vs. creating quality time with ourselves where we are doing activities that really ignite our spirit.
We talk about releasing shame when we do go into those times of more avoidant patterns with ourselves – checking out through food, tv, mindless scrolling & so on & so forth..
And we discuss how to open ourselves to having more compassion for ourselves & our process. Kelli shares her story of what it’s been like finding friends in a newly sober lifestyle in her new city of London & Bailey talks about her journey moving from a drinking lifestyle to completely changing her lifestyle to align with her internal growth. We discuss the deaths & rebirths that come up along this ever-changing, ever-evolving & expansive journey into really knowing ourselves.
We discuss prioritizing our spiritual, mental, & physical health by getting into alignment in the mornings before we go out into the world.
We talk about the importance of filling our own cup first, making new friends as an adult & disconnecting from the social world around us when we need to take time out for ourselves. We talk about how to create quality time with ourselves over time spent checking out or in avoidant patterns. We also talk about how to release any shame around those kinds of patterns.
We explore the parts of ourselves that want to go inward & retreat from socialization and also dive into the parts of ourselves that are craving connection more than ever before. We talk about ways to cultivate connection in our lives during a time when it may not be the most obvious thing. We explore new ways of finding connections & creating friendships in our lives. And then for those of us who are feeling like we need to tune out of the social noise in our world, we discuss what that can look like & how to start tuning down the social engagements to relax into the hibernations of winter.
1:22 Intention Setting: Be Where Your Feet Are
4:15 Taking Responsibility For Our Own Centeredness
7: 30 Craving Social Connection and/or Seasonal Introversion
9:15 Cultivating Balance Between Inward & Outward Connection
11:20 Life Stages of Going Out & Making Friends
16:20 Unhealthy Alone Time VS. Quality Time
17:00 How to Cultivate Friendships as an Adult
21:11 Our Relationship With Ourselves When We’re Alone
23:11 Bailey’s Share on Unconscious Habits + Shame Spirals
27:46 Benefits of Starting the Day off Grounded + Connected
33:31 What Helps Through Seasonal Depression
34:00 Acknowledging Hormonal Rhythms
38:56 Cultivating Friendships + Prioritizing Social Interaction
51:48 Old Friendships, New Friends & Bailey’s Journey with Alcohol
59:14 Vulnerability to Allow the Love to Come In
101:00 Winter is the Time for Death: Cocooning & Releasing What We Want to Keep
102:36 The Stories We Tell Ourselves & How They Limit Us
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Bailey Amber: @baileyamber
