But give rather the spirit of chastity, humility, patience, and love . . .
Ephrem asks God to take away four things: sloth, faintheartedness, lust of power, and idle talk. Then, he asks God to give four things: chastity, humility, patience, and love. Where the first four tore one down, the second four buildup, beginning with chastity.
Chastity is the positive counterpoint to sloth. Alexander Schmemman* says sloth "poisons the spiritual life at its very source."* It tears it down, breaking us into pieces. In contrast, chastity emphasizes wholeness. The Christian faith has always taught chastity, but for Ephrem, it is more than keeping sex within marriage.
Chastity is a commitment to wholeness. It results in a greater integration of thoughts and actions, mind and body, and soul and spirit. Christ restores wholeness so that we might flourish. Instead of asking God to take temptation from him, Ephrem asked God for the positive capability to survive it. In essence, we ask God, "Help me keep my promises to you, my spouse, my family, my community. Help me live an undivided life."
This brings us to Ephrem's second request: humility. Schmemann calls humility the "victory of truth in us."* Humility is knowing that we are neither perfect nor appalling. We may be sinful, but we are loved. We may be wounded, but we are being healed. With humility, we see ourselves as we really are, God’s beloved.
Pride makes us speak too highly of ourselves and think too little of ourselves. Humility isn’t humiliation but clarity. Stanley Hauerwas says,
We constantly try to start from somewhere other than where we are. Truthful living involves being at home with ourselves, not complacently, but patiently, recognizing that what we are today, at this moment, is sufficiently loved and valued.
The temptation to think we are more than we are is the obverse of thinking we are less than we are. In humility, we can see God’s love for us. We can accept that we have dignity and worth rooted in God’s creation and redemption.
Chastity and humility aren’t popular subjects among modern influencers, but without them, we are in trouble. Without chastity, our inner lives become so disorganized that chaos consumes us. Without humility, we cannot recognize how much we need God and how much God loves us. We cannot see things as they really are.
We’ll explore Ephrem’s last two requests next week—patience and love.
*Alexander Schmemann has written about the prayer of St. Ephrem in his book The Great Lent.