The Wildness with Tiff & Manda

How do you deal with homophobic tendencies whilst being queer? How do you ask to be spanked in bed? How do you deal with having feelings for your friend?

Fear not because The Wild Ones are here to help by tackling these questions on this episode of The Wildness, answering your burning questions so life doesn't show you flames.

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HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

How did the convo go from masturbation to having threesomes? Why wont Botho and Sibu be in a group event? How do you just FALL into a threesome? Why is Tiff trying to watch people have sex?

Also Manda flashes us in the studio.

Conferencing is also a mess. A whole mess.

The Wild Ones sat down with Botho Maruatona and Sibu Malunga.

A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life.

Follow Botho on IG: bkmaruatona and Sibu on IG: sibusiso_malunga

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Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge

HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Links to check out:

- 10 Ways To Have A Sexy, Intimate Threesome - https://www.refinery29.com/2017/02/141781/how-to-have-a-threesome-sex-tips

- 24 Threesome Tips From Women Who Have Had Them - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a46943/threesome-tips-from-women-who-have-had-them/

- Threesomes Part 1: Gettin' it on and poppin' - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mv2nA6WUnmQ&t=23s

What can white people do to be better? How do you navigate sexuality and being a gay Indian? Does Haji like sex during the day? Why was Manda a sad panda? Also Haji joined a cult. A whole cult.

The Wild Ones sat down with Haji, author of the awesome 'Sorry not Sorry experiences of a brown woman in a white South Africa', a book that explores the often maddening experience of moving through post-apartheid South Africa as a woman of colour. We chatted family, sexuality, writing, mental health, being with a white woman and also… sneakers. Jordans to be exact.

A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life.

Follow Haji on Twitter and Instagram: @sage_of_abusrd

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Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge

HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Links to check out:

Get the book on Kindle and paper back: https://www.amazon.com/Sorry-Not-Experiences-brown-Africa/dp/177609266X

Book Extract: Sorry, Not Sorry – experiences of a brown woman in a white South Africa - https://www.dailymaverick.co.za/article/2018-04-10-book-extract-sorry-not-sorry-experiences-of-a-brown-woman-in-a-white-south-africa/#.WvmUgYiFPIU

South Africans of colour don’t really write what we like says Haji Mohamed Dawjee says in her book Sorry Not Sorry: Experience of a brown woman- http://www.thedailyvox.co.za/haji-mohamed-dawjee-writes-what-she-likes-in-sorry-not-sorry-shaazia-ebrahim/

This week the Wild Ones have a sit down with an awesome guest to chat Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Masochism (BDSM). What’s in a name? Does all kink have to be called BDSM? Does it have to hurt? What the hell is a hard no and a soft yes? Also consent my people...C.O.N.S.E.N.T.

Grab your homies and a glass of wine and lets chat kink and BDSM.

A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life.

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Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge

Fadzai on Twitter @inorangemoom and Instagram: @vhunzemoto

HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Links to check out:

- 25 Facts About BDSM That You Won't Learn In "Fifty Shades Of Grey"- https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?utm_term=.fu5bK89Ed#.vnZ5PN92X

- How to Make Sex and Relationships Work When Only One of You Is Kinky - https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/avy9d4/how-to-make-sex-and-relationships-work-when-only-one-of-you-is-kinky

- What It’s Like to Be a Black Woman Into Kink - https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/3b4qkn/what-its-like-to-be-a-black-woman-into-kink

*Warning: this podcast had ALL the technical issues, we shall get our Skype game right.*

Through first-hand accounts, She Called Me Woman challenges us to rethink what it means to be a Nigerian ‘woman’, negotiating relationships, money, sexuality and freedom, identifying outside the gender binary, and the difficulties of achieving hopes and dreams under the constraints of societal expectations and legal terrorism.

“We decided to put together this collection of thirty narratives to correct the invisibility, the confusion, the caricaturising and the writing out of history.”

The book’s editors and creators were inspired by similar books such as Bareed Mista3jil by the organisation Meem about Lebanon; Facing the Mirror: Lesbian Writing from India edited by Ashwini Sukthankar; and Tommy Boys, Lesbian Men and Ancestral Wives: Female Same-Sex Practices in Africa edited by Ruth Morgan and Saskia Wierenga about Kenya, Namibia, South Africa, Swaziland, Tanzania and Uganda.

The Wild Ones, Tiff and Manda poured a glass and sat down to chat about Azeenarh Mohammed, one of the editors of the anthology and asked how exactly did they make a plan about this thang.

A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life.

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Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge

HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Links to check out:

The publishers, Cassava Republic speak on their works: https://www.cassavarepublic.biz/products/she-called-me-woman

She Called Me Woman on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/She-Called-Me-Woman-Nigerias/dp/1911115596

Ms Afropolitan chats on her site about the book: https://www.msafropolitan.com/2018/03/she-called-me-woman-cassava-republic.html

Brittle Paper Review of She Called Me Woman: https://brittlepaper.com/2018/03/review-cassava-republics-called-woman-queer-nigerian-women-speak-cisi-eze/

The editors of She Called me Woman speak https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ej24VOjaBgo&feature=youtu.be

What do you do when cheat on every woman I date with a man even though I hate the sex? Or you have now caught feelings for the married older woman you were having an affair with? And what do you do if you have a crush on your (potentially straight) roomate?

Fear not because The Wild Ones are here to help by tackling these questions on this episode of The Wildness, answering your burning questions so life doesnt show you flames.

A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life.

Follow The Wildness on Instagram IG: the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda

Amanda on Twitter: manda_hodge and Instagram: IG: manda_hodge

Fadzai on Twitter

HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Is Polyamory giving you stress? You're not the only one love. With tricky terms such as triads, truplets, primary partners and main partners, menamors and metamors, who can blame us for having a minor ‘system cannot compute’ moment? Also is it really just highkey cheating? Are there sister wives involved? Is it a tiny competition?

The Wild Ones, Tiff and Manda, sat down, threw back some wine and chatted Polyamory 101!

A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life.

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Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge

HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Links to check out:

- Polyamory 101: A Super-Sweet Beginners Guide- https://mytinysecrets.com/polyamory-101-a-super-sweet-beginners-guide/

- 8 Things to Consider in Polyamorous Dating Before Committing to Another Partner - https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/polyamorous-dating-consider/

- 5 Dangerous Mistakes I Made When I Started Practicing Polyamory - https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/09/mistakes-made-practicing-polyamory/

Is it about how much sex you have or is it how you DO the sex? Also what if you are having no sex? Or too much sex? How do you chat to your partner about the fact that you do not want to see them butt naked? Can tantric sex fix your relationship?

The Wild Ones, Tiff and Manda poured a glass and chatted about getting some from your significant other. Amanda was only turned down once for sex in 10 years. Once! That p***y must be flavoured.

A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life.

*Note in this podcast we still did not know what to call this vibe! The Wildness as a name clearly came later. Clearly. Still one of the original ones before it all became official’.*

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Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge

HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Links to check out:

- 5 Sex Topics You and Your Partner Must Discuss - https://www.essence.com/2012/01/09/5-sex-talks-you-and-your-partner-must-have

- You Need Help: Let’s Talk About (Having More) Sex - https://www.autostraddle.com/you-need-help-lets-talk-about-having-more-sex-159387/

- Pillow talk the key to good sex -http://holaafrica.org/pillow-talk-the-key-to-good-sex/

- 5 Great Tips to Make Talking with Your Partner About Sex Easier- https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/04/how-to-discuss-sexual-desires/

This one is a little of a throw back, the wildness BEFORE the wildness. This was how it all begun. The one where Tiff proposed and Manda said yes.

Do you have sex with other women? Do you use dental dams? Is there SUCH as thing as safe sex between two women? Should you go down on your partner when they menstruating? How do you eat ass safely? Can a lesbian have Aids? Also you can get gonorrhea of the eyes.

And we call you HOLAArites. Know this.

The Wild Ones, Tiff and Manda poured a glass and sat down to chat about safe sex, Amanda’s fear of gonorrhea, how we outchea drinking Moscato, chilling and having wine and making sure guests interview themselves.

A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life.

Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda

Amanda on Twitter and Instagram: @manda_hodge

HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter: @HOLAAfrica

Links to check out:

- HOLAAfrica safe sex and pleasure manual: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B9fxJySbT5pxYTlMdloxc1BEdjg/view?usp=drive_web

- 13 Tips For Women Having Safe Sex With Other Women - https://www.buzzfeed.com/skarlan/xx-things-women-need-to-remember-about-having-safe-sex-with?utm_term=.pnV7YZbj4D#.tkeavLnOqg

- Lesbian Safe Sex 101: The Doctor Is In (Also, the Cartoonist) (autostraddle) - https://www.autostraddle.com/safe-sex-for-lesbians-45382/

- On hot, safe lesbian sex- http://holaafrica.org/on-hot-safe-lesbian-sex/

The Wild Ones give advice on leaving a relationship, polygamy problems and going down on an ex girlfriend whilst not going down on your current one.

HOLAA in A Hot Spot, Answering your burning questions so life doesn’t show you flames!

The Wild Ones share some wisdom and answer questions that have been submitted via HOLAAfrica. Catch these answers on the Wildness as well as on the HOLAA site and YouTube channel.

Find Amanda on Twitter and Instagram: @manda_hodge and Tiffany on @tiffmugo and IG: kagsmugo

The Wildness is on instagram with the.wildness

Check out HOLAAfrica on:

Twitter: @HOLAAfrica

Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Instagram: insta_holaa

Sites:

HOLAA in A HotSpot on the HOLAAfrica website: http://holaafrica.org/category/holaa-in-a-hot-spot/