This client story echoes the work of alleviating anxiety for so many who struggle with the world’s biggest mental health problem, and the special friend who helped her live (far more) of the time, in the present moment.

An estimated 275 million people suffer from  anxiety  disorders. That's approximately 4% of the  global  population. About 62% (or 170 million) of those suffering from  anxiety are female, compared with 105 million male sufferers.

The best cure for anxiety (Yes, I said ‘the best’!) and it also happens to be natural and free; is to return your focus into the present moment each time you feel anxious.

Metaphorically, death in a relationship occurs when one (or both) members are mistreated; where there is a lack of respect, honor, and honesty; when there is deception and lies; and when actions cause hurt and suffering whether one intends to hurt the other or not and without change, without remorse.

For this, there is no saving of a relationship. The relationship is already over.

When you have dishonesty, secrecy, lies, and deception; regardless of the reasons you tell yourself in order to make this okay, you actually build greater distance from your partner. You also create fragmentation from your authentic self.

Listen and find out what happens when a couple realize that they are no longer able to live in their untruths...

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In this episode, I share three immensely positive outcomes that have eternally imparted on us the opportunity for self-evolution, the need for greater autonomy and emotional well being; the freedoms that truly matter, and terms of endearment that we foster through our human shared experiences and love.

In listening, I hope that you feel uplifted and with a newfound sense of awe as you continue to look for and find the good in what this pandemic - one year later – has meant; the good that is within us; the good that reflects what more is to come; the good that results from change that was needed, necessary and now a strictly enforced part of our life; and of course, the good that we have not yet begun to see.

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At the time of release of this episode, it is almost one year to the day that the World Health Organization (WHO) confirmed the coronavirus as pandemic.

We are discussing a topic this is long overdue, that you may have already experienced; that we all need to shed more light upon so that you and others who are suffering in sadness and with depression can heal yourself.

In this interactive journey into what clinical depression is and how you can best help yourself, let me also present another theory: prolonged sadness and depression is also the result of a lack of love.

It now must be because of you. You must now learn to love yourself – 'for yourself' (and to integrate healthy self-care and self-love back into your life).

We’ll talk more about this as we go through the list: The 12 + 1 BONUS Best Solutions for Healing Depression - Naturally.

Beyond what you will integrate of this list into your life (hopefully most or all of it) I also highly recommend that you find a caring and loving therapist that can provide helpful guidance and support as you discover what it means to acknowledge your feelings and then to be willing to release them as you decide instead what you need to feel; and to be willing to do this for yourself.

We’re going to begin your self-assessment with the 'big list'; the official diagnostic and statistical manual (or DSM-5) and the criteria that your physician or psychiatrist would use to make an official diagnosis.

We begin here because this information is the Holy Grail for what constitutes a major depressive disorder (MDD) and it is also completely available in the public realm. It is important that you have the accurate means to self-assess.

Please join me for this valuable dive into what it means to heal yourself from depression.

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Self-honesty for my client meant learning how to rewire herself to acknowledge when she was feeling anxious rather than ignore and attempt to suppress the symptoms.

The plan we discussed was for her to pause whenever she noticed symptoms of anxiety including and especially, the pains in her stomach; and to intervene using one of the several techniques that we practiced together, to help her address the situation and the cause of her anxiety in a healthy and productive way.

One of the strategies was to determine if these intrusive thoughts were accurate and real or thoughts of worry that were unrealistic as she focused on a worst case scenario, or an untrue or irrational fear.

Honesty means that you have to look inward first; to examine the thoughts that you tell yourself because what you tell yourself, you believe.

It may take a bit of practice to re-write the thoughts that you tell yourself; but in the end it means that you are seeking self-honesty as a virtue and also an enlightened way of being which then makes it easier for you to “live your truth.”

Please use this link for a best practice to help you to challenge and change the thoughts you hold, so that your thoughts reflect what is accurate and true. This will help you to change how you feel, first as you ensure that your thoughts are based in truth.

https://www.dorothyratusny.com/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-cbt-to-challenge-and-change-your-thoughts-therapy-best-practices/

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The release of this episode on Valentine’s Day; a day in which the world is reminded of the significance of romantic love and the ideals for what it means to be in a relationship and to be ‘in love’.

For one of my clients who will for the first time in all of her 41 years, celebrate her Valentine’s Day in a love relationship and might I add, one that allows her to be all of herself and in the safety and security of trust that her partner will love her.

Her words echo the sentiment of so many: “I want to make a big deal of this.” We all aspire to love. It is what builds a beautiful and complete life. In the absence of love, of loving another, of loving our self, we wither; we succumb to loneliness, sadness; our mind and heart struggle to find meaning and fulfillment because love is the most powerful energy of the universe.

In this episode, I share the importance of love of yourself on a day inspired by love and at a time in which we are all being called to look beyond what we once put our energy and effort into, and to take stock of what is really important for the success, happiness and abundance that we all desire.

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

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My client was first diagnosed with bipolar disorder at 18. Bouts of depression cycling with longer periods of manic episodes that resulted in a six-week hospital stay.

Fast forward to present day. My support and our work in therapy, together with the foundational pillars of: sleep, exercise, healthy eating, and a balanced schedule which includes 'alone time' and meditation, are what allows this client to live and thrive in the world (with a successful career, the raising of two wonderful teenagers, and the love of a husband who adores her).

Many would say that she is a perfect example of how mental health requires ongoing support; of how important it is to have the love of family and friends; and to not feel judged.

Mental health is vital for living a happy and productive life. Many times my client has described how difficult it is for her to think clearly, to feel optimistic, and to be productive when she is in the throws of low affect. What so many of us take for granted; what we find easy and simple, becomes painfully difficult for her.

It is important to remember that you are not alone; that you can get help; you can call on your tribe to help get you through the difficult moments that seem to last an eternity whilst building on your strengths and your ability to help yourself; to persevere, to find what works best; and to live disciplined to the pillars that reinforce what it means to be healthy.

You can share your story so that others do not feel alone; so that you are reminded that your words can help.

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

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If you have ever wondered what a session of therapy could do for you; sit back and take in this message.

How does one identify, effectively all of the ways that therapy can be of help? How do we do this without embracing the experience itself when the idea of talking with someone can be overwhelming for some who don’t know where to begin, or how it can truly help?

TRUTH SERUM:  In the past, the stigma associated with mental health has been a deterrent to seeking therapy.

What we are witnessing now, in this turbulent time of ongoing change and uncertainty, and with millions of people all over the world, experiencing more alone time and isolation than in any other time during their life, the effects of prolonged stress and the lack of support of mental health strategies and skills needed to live a healthy and productive and happy life; make it important to have the best therapeutic practices that are accessible by all people and in all languages and as much as possible - affordable and or free.

REAL CLIENT STORIES:  When my client (who was), diagnosed with bipolar disorder at age 18, some 20 years later; is in a spell of low affect; when her cognitive ability is challenged; simple processing tasks are impeded.

It is more difficult for her to make decisions for example, and to feel motivated to complete daily tasks.

Her usual upbeat and larger than life personality becomes submersed in what is now a quiet and somber, depressed version of herself; one that lacks confidence, and is often tormented by thoughts of ‘being a burden’ to her loved ones.

Her words to me in these moments as well as when she is feeling ‘like herself’ and happy again, are substantial to us all. She reaffirms the simple truth: ‘Your mental health means everything’. She is right.

 

PRACTICAL WISDOM: Even after the majority of healing has been completed, therapy can continue to be a place where one experiences growth in other areas of one’s life; and hence the ripple effect of what it means to learn and discover more (about one’s self, including the different choices one may choose with greater understanding and perspective).

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You may want to use these questions as journal prompts if you already have a journal writing practice in place. These questions will help guide you to know yourself even better and to take the steps of positive change.

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

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A little disclaimer as we begin... What I am sharing is a belief that I hold and I share it to offer you something to consider. As you take in my answer, notice how it resonates with you. I hope that in listening, what I share can help you to arrive at your own best decisions and the outpouring of your inner wisdom.

This is the question that many of you have asked yourself others; perhaps a spiritual teacher, god, or what deity you believe in and pray to.

In asking these questions about life, I believe we all may arrive at an answer that reflects a mutually beneficial perspective that includes kindness, generosity, compassion and love.

You live as the fullest expression of yourself as you know yourself best and as you choose a path and a vocation that allows you to live this expression through what you do (each day) and in how you choose to share who and what you are as a manifestation of the divine.

Here’s a question for you.  "From where do you derive peace?"

There are many examples of why we need more peace in the world. Peace between countries and across nations, peace within our homeland; in our communities and amongst the people that we see and interact with daily; and of course peace with our loved ones. What is needed for all of this to exist is peace in and of your heart; to be the greatest expression of what you are.

You find peace in your heart. You find peace in your heart so that you can walk in peace regardless of what others may say or do. Here is a thought: the world is changing for the better. If you believe this then you will see this each time you look into the world; as you witness others; as you read and watch the news and as you find what is positive. From a state of peace, you become a voice for inciting positive change and for kindness.

You find peace first within you. Then, as you walk the planet in ways that illuminate peaceful measures, kind action, words of care, and presence of this moment for what this moment may offer and for what you demonstrate.

Peace originates within you; within each one of us. What if I suggested that peace is your inherent and natural state?

It is from where you make your best decisions. It is from where you hold a plan that is rooted in the certainty of your truth. A state of peace is from where you may easily do the right thing; (to live in the most honourable and incredible way). From a state of peace you are inspired to always seek more in the context of following a path of what your heart desires and for being willing to do this for yourself.

It is in what you do for yourself that allows you to exist in peace; and to not be easily stirred or roused out of this state.

“Live in the beauty of life adorned of your peaceful presence.” - dorothy ratusny

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