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Do you remember the first time you asked yourself if you were old? I was in 4th grade. I looked at myself in the mirror and thought— wow, look how much has changed. And in a year, I’ll be off to middle school. Where is the time going??

By 12 I was already contemplating mortality and the meaning of life, unsure but determined to make my one life count. With each passing year, I would bemoan the past and hang on to the good times, crafting scrapbooks and three-ring binders full of pictures taken of my friends, adding graphics and quotes clipped from my favorite magazines. I was too young for nostalgia yet knew the feeling deeply.

Not much has changed. In my twenties, I was desperately aware the expiration date on my carefree lifestyle was coming to a close and was about to really understand what a privilege it was to have that my free meal ticket and college tuition provided by my parents. Real life hit hard, as it is designed to, and my relationship with time soured. Time was a resource that was finite, much like my access to cash at 22, and while I could work my way out the building credit card debt, there was nothing I could do to regain the time slipping through my fingers.

Selfishly, this is why I wanted to tackle the topic of Age this month. I spent so much of my 34th year around the sun mentally preparing myself for turning 35, last year feels fuzzy and sadly, a bit unfulfilling if I’m being honest. So much of my dialogue was negative and self-pity. Things will never get easier with the kids. I’m too old to wear that. I’m too fat for this. I’ll never look as good as I did before kids. I’m invisible. My opinion doesn’t matter.

MY ADVICE ON TACKLING YOUR OWN AGEISM IS THIS:

• Give yourself permission to grow older.
• Give yourself the freedom of accepting what is real and what isn’t.
• Give yourself time to embrace the change what comes with being a dynamic being in this universe.
• Give yourself the gift of seeing the world for what it is, for the gift of having the peace of mind gives you more time and space to live fully, connect with others, and do work that is free from ego and the need to feel good about yourself. Because the only person who can give you that… is you.

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In the era of overnight billionaires like Kylie Jenners and Mark Zuckerbergs, it’s hard to not feel like we missed the memo. While we were busy trying to figure out how to apply for health insurance, these kids were building empires. 

We don’t begin our lives on the same starting block, not by a long shot, but that doesn’t mean we won’t reach the finish line. Accepting we’re not racing others helps. What’s even more powerful is realizing we’re not racing TIME, we’re challenging ourselves to change our relationship with work. 

While our journeys won’t look like the stories we read in magazines, it doesn’t mean they can’t be any less remarkable. 

Today we walk through the mental road blocks, setting expectations and intentions, and defining success while embarking on a career change.

If you've ever worried about what others will think or that you don't deserve a second change, this episode is for YOU. 

About the podcast: The Wit & Delight Podcast is hosted by founder Kate Arends. Each week we discuss where life and style intersect and how the choices we make (both big and small) can help us find empowerment, self-discovery, and beauty in unexpected places. 

Joe gets real on living inside the Wit & Delight Instagram feed, the decor decisions he loves and hates, and how we've learned to respect our different needs when it comes to living well at home. 

About the podcast: The Wit & Delight Podcast is hosted by founder Kate Arends. Each week we discuss where life and style intersect and how the choices we make (both big and small) can help us find empowerment, self-discovery, and beauty in unexpected places. 

We are SO HAPPY that you're here and we LOVE hearing from you! Our email address is [email protected] and you can find us on Instagram @witanddelight_.

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Can We Rewrite The Narrative For Growing Older As Women?

In this episode we talk about our March theme: aging. 

Aging is a taboo subject, one that we as women are reminded constantly of the rules from early on. You never ask a woman's age. Magazines, videos, entire industries are directed at women to prevent or reverse the aging process. It’s pretty crazy to think our value as women has an expiration date, and my heart aches thinking about all the women who had come before me whose vast wisdom and knowledge wasn’t passed on. 

So, how do we shift the dynamic and change the discussion on aging to be more positive? If we change our relationship with the idea of aging (removing the fear of the inevitable) can we really write our own narratives around how to age well? 

I started thinking about how my vision of the future would be different, had I not feared growing older. Growing into my skin, finding self-reliance, feeling the freedom of really, genuinely, not caring what anyone from high school thinks of me now, all those things seemed foreign to me way back when I thought 35 was “old.” Rather than fight aging at every turn, I want to do my best to embrace my journeys around the sun, no matter the number.  

This month we declare our own rules for anti-aging. It’s no longer about preventing age, but reinventing how you age. We celebrate every stage and age of womanhood through truth, humor, and candor.There are too many articles and voices out there telling women they are either “too old” or “too young” to be a value to contribute to society as a whole. If we are all both “too old” or “too young” is there a right age?

Whatever your age, you have wisdom and experience to share, and your voice heard.

We are SO HAPPY that you're here and we LOVE hearing from you! Our email address is [email protected] and you can find us on Instagram @witanddelight_.

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There could not have been a better time to record this episode!! I literally spent Monday sleeping on the sofa in our office, barely able to function. A couple days later, I'm at least able to move through life "normally".... because living with depression requires a new definition of normal. But that's not to say it can't be peaceful or joyful. 

This is episode takes a look at what dealing with depression looks like without letting it run your life. I hope you find it helpful in navigating your own journey, whether it is loving someone with depression or fighting for a more peaceful existence with your unique and beautiful brain.

We are SO HAPPY that you're here and we LOVE hearing from you! Our email address is [email protected] and you can find us on Instagram @witanddelight_.

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There are always two sides to every story, and more often than not, you’ve only heard my side. But what about the other half? Our new Two Sides to Every Story series will be a conversation that includes another point of view, in this instance my partner Joe’s voice. Joe and I sat down to talk about how have evolved as a couple, from when we first met six years ago this month. We sat down to record this the day after we returned from Grand Cayman, which concluded with an epic meltdown not from our kids, but ourselves. So we decided to start with the topic of kids and how our expectations and realities did or didn’t line up, where we stand with the change in our intimate relationship, and what true partnership means when you’re two parents with demanding careers and hobbies.

We love hearing from you! Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @witanddelight.