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In this episode, James breaks down eight of the most common mistakes men make — the ones that quietly drain their energy, limit connection, and stop them from living with purpose.

You’ll learn how to:

• Embrace vulnerability instead of carrying everything alone
• Build meaningful connection with yourself and others
• Stop attaching your worth to achievements and success
• Let go of perfection and find peace in progress
• Slow down, pause, and create presence
• Listen and understand instead of fixing
• Feel sadness so you can also experience joy
• Recognise when pleasure becomes distraction

These lessons aren’t about being perfect — they’re about being human.

Every man will make mistakes. The difference is whether you learn from them or repeat them.

Listen now and start doing the work.

Get in touch:

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Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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In this episode, James breaks down eight of the most common mistakes men make — the ones that quietly drain their energy, limit connection, and stop them from living with purpose.

You’ll learn how to:

• Embrace vulnerability instead of carrying everything alone
• Build meaningful connection with yourself and others
• Stop attaching your worth to achievements and success
• Let go of perfection and find peace in progress
• Slow down, pause, and create presence
• Listen and understand instead of fixing
• Feel sadness so you can also experience joy
• Recognise when pleasure becomes distraction

These lessons aren’t about being perfect — they’re about being human.

Every man will make mistakes. The difference is whether you learn from them or repeat them.

Listen now and start doing the work.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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This week James's share the 4 stages to manage your mindset when things don't go to plan.

Expect to learn:

How to manage disappointment

Why mental flexibility is so important  

What to do after the event 

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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This week James sits down to talk with Christian Lawal to talk about how to heal from a relationship ending.

They discuss:

How to make room for and manage difficult emotions

Importance of having good friends

Understanding your past and how it influences your present 

How to reflect and understand the good and negative parts of your previous relationships

Fears and insecurities 

Importance of being alone

Healing inside a relationship 

How to know if you're living in-line with your values

How to not repeat the same cycles 

The value of being deeply honest with yourself

Why doing the work on yourself will bring greater connection, peace, presence, and fulfilment to your life 

And much more

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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In this episode:

James explores why so many men feel emotionally heavy — even when life looks “fine” on the surface. He unpacks how stress, emotional suppression, and unspoken tension can build up over time, and shares how to start releasing that weight in practical, healthy ways.

You’ll learn:

• What “emotional load” really means and how it affects your body and mind.
• Why most men carry it without realising it.
• How to identify what’s weighing you down.
• The importance of awareness, acceptance, and communication.
• Why calm is the foundation for wisdom, growth, and stronger relationships. 

Takeaway:

When you acknowledge what you’re carrying — and stop carrying it in silence — the load gets lighter.

That’s how men build calm, resilience, and emotional strength.

Listen to this episode if you’re:

• Feeling tense, drained, or mentally heavy.
• Struggling to express how you feel.
• Ready to build emotional strength and connection.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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Most men want deeper connection — with their partner, kids, mates… even themselves.

But you can’t build quality connection with others if you’re disconnected from yourself.

Connection isn’t just about having people around.

It’s about presence, honesty, empathy, and shared experience.

It’s about slowing down enough to see yourself clearly — and showing up as that version of you with others.

Start by:

• Taking moments in your day to pause and breathe

• Noticing what you feel instead of avoiding it

• Being honest with yourself before being honest with others

• Listening to understand, not just to fix

• Investing in quality relationships, not quantity

• Setting boundaries that protect your energy

Connection with others begins with connection to yourself.

When you know who you are and what you value, you create the foundation for real, resilient relationships.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

Discounts:

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Most men train their bodies. Few train their minds.

Mental fitness is about more than “positive thinking.”

It’s the strength to face stress without breaking, to manage emotions instead of being controlled by them, and to keep moving forward when life gets heavy.

For men, it means:

• Showing up at work with clarity instead of burnout
• Being present with your family instead of distracted
• Bouncing back from setbacks instead of staying stuck

Like physical training, mental fitness takes reps. Awareness, resilience, recovery, connection — those are your weights and miles.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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Life will knock you down.

The question is — will you stay down, or will you rise again?

Bouncing back from adversity isn’t about pretending you’re fine or forcing yourself to “tough it out.”

It’s about building resilience, leaning into connection, and finding the lessons in the struggle.

In this episode of The Work, I share practical steps men can take to recover, rebuild, and come back stronger when life hits hard.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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Ever found yourself stuck — repeating the same unhelpful behaviours, not sure how to move forward?

As men, we’re quick to problem-solve. Quick to judge ourselves. Quick to push harder.

But without real understanding, we drift. We lose focus. We lack meaning.

This episode of The Work is your chance to pause and step back.

To explore your:

✅ Struggles

✅ Strengths

✅ Stories

✅ Values

✅ Emotions

✅ Health & Stress

✅ Purpose & Direction

Because when you understand yourself, you stop drifting — and start leading your life with clarity and resilience.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: [email protected]

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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