The Worthiness Mindset Podcast

Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! Hello again from Alaska! We're moving around and spending some time in Seward, and Homer. Today I want to talk about what to do when things don't go your way. When you have a vision that doesn't come to life. There have been so many things in my life that have not gone the way that I expected, in fact, nothing has gone the way I wanted it to. I don't think anything really does. It's not up to us. It's divine.

Even when things don't go as you picture, it doesn't mean anything other than, at this moment things didn't happen as you wanted. It could just be timing, or it could be your own growth or circumstances. Usually what happens is better than you ever dreamed, and the pivot flows. How are you going to continue to show up?

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Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! Hello from Alaska! It's sunny for the first time in a year, and I am living for it. I saw 4 orcas today, and it seems like everything is coming out to play in the sunshine! There is something so magical about Alaska, and really the reason why I decided to do retreats. I am now booking things for a summer 2024 Alaska retreat, I cannot wait.

Today I want to chat about brokenness, about needing to be fixed. It's hitting me really deeply lately, and I'm finding myself judging myself. We rush to fix ourselves and make so many things about us a problem. For me it's anxiety, but for you, it may be productivity or perfection. I continue to make myself wrong for having anxiety, beating it back with a stick. I'm making myself wrong for having something that has a reason for existing, anxiety will do me good in certain situations. There's nothing to fix, and there is nothing wrong with us. Anxiety, depression, and anything you experience are neutral, not good or bad.

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Hello and Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! We are in the middle of nowhere in Yukon, CA. It's absolutely beautiful. We were here last year, so it's really nice to come back on our way back to Alaska.

Today we'll be chatting about creating your own experiences. How many times have you listened to people's reactions or experiences and allowed them to affect your life or experience? We love going to coffee shops everywhere we go, and we usually will only go when they have a 4.5+ rating or more. There was one in Eugene, OR that was 4.5 that we almost didn't go to. We went, and I had an Olive Oil Latte, and it was my favorite latte I've ever had.

People often say that relationships are hard. but from my experience that isn't true. My relationship is not hard, nor do I feel the need to perpetuate that narrative. Instead of projecting that onto my relationship, I choose to have a relationship that takes work and effort but is not difficult.

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Hello and Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! We are in British Columbia! We drove 20 hours over Memorial Day weekend and saw 8 bears in 24 hours. It's absolutely beautiful! We are headed back to Alaska for the summer, and I couldn't be more excited about it! Exciting announcements around that to come!

Today our topic is quite important and also heavy. Generational healing. I had an epiphany moment with this recently, and I knew I had to share as I'm navigating. Coaching, therapy, somatic work, and anything challenging your past programming is generational healing. Most of the stories we tell ourselves come from past generations, the 'I'm not _____ enough' stories. We are not here to be perfect, you cannot regulate your nervous system all the time, and you can not be committed to healing all the time. You are not broken, and you don't need to be fixed. You have everything you need, and you can trust yourself in your own healing process… and! When you become aware of programming that you want/need to change, I want to give you permission to do so. This is literally changing generations. This is one of the most powerful things about my job, is helping parents to not repeat the cycles of their parents.

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Hello and Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! This week we are joined with a very special guest, and new friend, Emma Scott Lavin. Emma describes herself as a hopeless utopian with shiny object syndrome, herself the shiny object a fair amount of the time. Emma is an artist, a writer, and a transgender woman. In this episode, you'll find yourself absolutely stunned by her vulnerability and courage. I loved every moment of it.

I wanted Emma to be on the podcast because she really stands for inclusion and change in our society, but also because she's listened to the little voice inside that told her to do something that society says she shouldn't. She mentions that what inspires her to show up, is seeing others do the same. As a part of a grief ritual, Emma learned that not only are we supposed to cry in front of others but cry together. That true healing comes out of combined vulnerability.

You can find Emma, her art, and her writing here.

Hello and Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! We are so happy to be joined again by Helene-Jane (HJ) Groarke, a fellow worthy warrior! HJ is so full of joy, and I have such a blast with her on the podcast.

This week we're diving into worthiness and enjoying your life without learning. It doesn't need to be a difficult day to deserve self-care. Untying productivity from worth is such a goal of mine, and HJ speaks a lot about how our worth is tied to our bodies. Worth has nothing to do with body size or accomplishments. There is no value attached to either.

HJ helps her clients to unlearn the self-hatred, shame, and toxic gendered expectations created by our patriarchal society. She provides a feminist, anti-diet framework to guide you to get back in touch with yourself and what YOU want rather than what we've all been brought up to believe is the "right" way of living.

Find HJ on her website helenejanegcoaching.com or her Instagram @helenejanegroarke_coaching.

Hello and Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! Today I wanted to talk about being a multi-passionate and curious human being. In our society so often we are encouraged to follow rules and get caught up in perfection. You can only have one identity, and authority. I do believe that some of us have a thing, and focus, and some of us have many things we're interested in and love.

When I was in college I was a student-athlete, and often times athletes are just athletes. That wasn't me, I wanted to be involved and experience many things. From a young age, I realized that school and soccer weren't going to be my long-term plan, and I didn't want it to be my only identity. I've never wanted to be small, but the world wanted me to feel that way. I was often told that I needed to choose, to pick something, and to run with it. You do not need to devote your entire self to a single thing, what makes you most fulfilled, is not by focusing on that one thing. Instead, it's by maintaining all of the spokes in your wheel.

You are not only a mother, an entrepreneur, a student, and a wife. You are everything you want to be.

There are 6 spots remaining on my Oregon Coast PIVOT weekend. Join us here and come alive. Thank you, and have a beautiful rest of your day. I'll see you next week.

Hello Worthiness Warriors! Happy Thursday! I want to start today's episode by shouting out a couple of humans I've met in Eugene, Oregon. I'm so impressed with these humans, and so inspired.

Julie and Mark at The Community Cup, hope to bring people together and offer up their space at night for people to meet and do workshops. They support LGBTQIA+, Black Lives Matter, and many other communities by providing this space. They also keep their prices low on organic and local food they serve, because they believe that we all deserve healthy and affordable food.

Secondly, we are staying at this place called Dodeca Art Farm, which is a clean and sober art farm. We are doing a work trade to stay here, and it's so such an amazing place. I feel so seen and held, and I'm just so impressed.

Today I want to talk about which wolf wins. The answer to this? The wolf that you feed. Are you going to focus on what's going wrong, what you can't do, what isn't working, are you going to feed that wolf? Or are you going to focus on the evidence that you can, what's working, and what's right? Switch the narrative.

There are 8 spots remaining on my Oregon Coast PIVOT weekend. Join us here and come alive. Thank you, and have a beautiful rest of your day. I'll see you next week.

Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! Hello from Bend, Oregon in a beautiful national forest. The sun is FINALLY shining, and I explain what that does for my soul.

Today I want to talk about the pivot because I think we all have the opportunity to pivot. When something doesn't work out as we had hoped, we have the opportunity to see it as a failure, or we have the option to reimagine and pivot. I had a vision of what I wanted to create with my Oregon retreat, and unfortunately, that vision couldn't become a reality. However that vision doesn't need to be boxed in, it can expand, change and pivot. We don't need to box ourselves into black-or-white thinking. Most things are not either or, there is room for other options, the grey is an option. This is only keeping you stuck, in victimhood, without a solution. It's time to acknowledge when we are in black-or-white thinking.

That's when we realize there are many options.

Join me for round 2 of Do it Scared today! && If you want to work with me 1-on-1 with me click here. Join me at the next retreat on the Oregan Coast in May!! Thank you, and have a beautiful rest of your day. I'll see you next week.

Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! Hello from Eugene, OR. It has been rainy and cold, and an absolutely magical place. This past weekend I went to a festival alone. Robbie was out of town, and I had my first solo days in the van. It was so beautiful. It was the first time in a long time that I had alone time, and it reminded me how much I enjoy my own company. It was actually incredibly expansive and gave me the time to get out of my comfort zone.

Unless we give ourselves space and allow the fear to be present, we'll never be able to move through it. You are not the girl or boy that you once were, and it's time to give yourself that credit. You won't have the experience you once did, because you are no longer that person. You cannot repeat the same thing. Give yourself credit, and give yourself the space to confront what you are afraid of. Show yourself who you are.

If you want to work with me 1-on-1 with me click here. Join me at the next retreat on the Oregan Coast in May!! Thank you, and have a beautiful rest of your day. I'll see you next week.