The Wright Conversations

James Rose (they/she) is a genderfluid actor, educator, & content artist based in New York City. James holds degrees from NYU in Music Theatre and Child & Adolescent Mental Health Studies, and their work on stage and screen ranges from "The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel" to leading roles in regional theaters across the country.

They are currently starring as Hedwig in Hedwig and the Angry Inch at Cardinal Stage - one of the first openly non-binary performers in history to take on this role. They co-starred in the indie film "Adelphe", which premiered at the prestigious Cannes Film Festival this year.

In response to the pervasive diet culture and body shaming of the entertainment industry, they also became a fat liberation-aligned personal trainer and trauma-informed Yoga teacher, specializing in accessible fitness that allows for all people make peace with movement and their bodies. They have taught in prisons, harm reduction shelters, domestic violence shelters, senior centers, gyms, and studios across the country.

James also serves as a Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion consultant for regional theaters, corporations, and the National Eating Disorder Association. They write about gender, queerness, trauma survivorship, mental health, their feelings, and their exes on Instagram & TikTok, where they reach an audience of over 350,000 people.

James values transparency, authenticity, and hopes their corner of the internet can be a place where we learn to love ourselves as fiercely as possible.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I am joined by James Rose, genderfluid actor, educator, and content artist. We talk about gender, sexuality, sex, and identity. James also talks about their lived experience with oppression, their coming out story, and using pronouns, and James gives three action steps for how you could support and get involved with trans communities.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [03:33] Hedwig and the Angry Inch.
• [06:55] Differentiating between sexuality and gender.
• [07:42] The difference between gender and sex.
• [09:21] Non-binary in gender.
• [11:35] Is non-binary considered trans?
• [13:31] James's experience with oppression.
• [26:50] Legislation against bodily autonomy.
• [29:47] James's coming out story.
• [39:22] Let's talk about pronouns.
• [47:26] James's three action steps.

Quotes:

• "Gender is based off of social factors, sex is based of of biological factors, both of them are human constructs that exist on non-binary spectrums." [08:51]
• "Regardless of where you are in the world, you absolutely interact with trans people. You just may not know it." [16:07]
• "When you do not have bodily autonomy, your mental health tanks." [23:13]
• "Gender discovery feels like being a welder and not having an instruction manual." [36:52]
• "Your pronouns are simply the way that you are to be referred to, respectfully, in space." [40:03]

Connect with James

Website: www.jamesissmiling.com

Instagram: @jamesissmiling

TikTok: @jamesissmiling

Twitter: @jamesissmiling

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Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I will be talking about the concept of a container, creating containers, and I'll be reading some of my clients thoughts about the use of containers in their lives. I'll also get into how, when, where, and why you should be creating containers.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [02:15] Finding answers.
• [05:57] Creating a container separate from the rest of life.
• [09:17] Setting the intention for a container.
• [11:39] The safe space.
• [13:38] Consent.
• [17:04] How to create containers in your life.
• [17:52] Your action item.

Quotes:

• "When we create a container for ourselves, we can then not have it spill over into the other parts of our lives." [08:16]
• "You get to create the agreements inside this container." [14:47]

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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Julia is a registered clinical counsellor, speaker, researcher, and she is overall passionate about helping others balance their lives and work through issues surrounding anxiety, depression, self-doubt, communication, relationships, and more.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I am joined by Julia Kristina, therapeutic coach, counsellor, speaker, and researcher. We talk about identifying, managing, and communicating emotions. Julia also talks about the importance of the communication request, shared meaning in relationships, and and get Julia's words of wisdom around emotions.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [04:02] A bit about Julia.
• [05:56] Identifying.
• [11:30] Changing the language around "I feel like" statements.
• [17:58] The complex side of identifying.
• [23:10] Shared meaning in relationships.
• [30:01] Managing emotions.
• [31:46] Communicating emotions.
• [37:10] The communication request.
• [41:07] Julia's words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "Emotional intelligence is the number one human skill we need, but we don't learn it." [07:36]
• "Pay attention to what's happening in your body and then imagine that experience as a colour." [16:19]
• "Managing our emotions is getting in charge of our thoughts." [30:10]
• "Stop before you speak. Take a moment, take a beat, take a breath, take a bath. Whatever it is you need to do." [41:15]

Connect with Julia

Website: https://juliakristina.com

LinkedIn: Julia Kristina

Facebook: Julia Counsellor

Twitter: @juliacounsellor

YouTube: Julia Kristina Counsellor

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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Amber Lilyestrom is a business mentor, branding expert, author and speaker. Her work has been featured by Forbes, Entrepreneur, Mind Valley and Working Mother Magazine. She is the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast and author of books Master Your Money Mind and Paddle Home. Amber helps coaches & creatives help more people and make more money by changing the way they think and show up in their businesses.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I am joined by Amber Lilyestrom, transformational branding strategist and business coach, author, and speaker. We talk about making peace with the past, the complexity of relationships, and intimacy. Amber also talks about client-relationships, the value of self-compassion, and get Amber's valuable advice to anyone struggling to make peace with their past.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [05:23] What it means to make peace with your past.
• [08:23] Picking apart the pieces.
• [11:59] From mantra to embodiment.
• [16:32] Making peace with past stuff.
• [26:10] Sharing important parts of ourselves.
• [29:43] The tricky side of client-relationships.
• [35:50] Where to start to make peace with your past.

Quotes:

• "No amount of remembering the better things will make the bad ones go away." [08:00]
• "I can't get to emotional intimacy in a safe way with others if I'm not willing to have it with myself." [26:49]
• "Every single day, we have the opportunity to be new." [36:23]
• "Self-compassion is the linchpin. It's the thing that is going to free you from the past." [40:35]

Connect with Amber

Website: https://www.amberlilyestrom.com

LinkedIn: Amber Lilyestrom

Facebook: Amber Lilyestrom

Instagram: Amber Lilyestrom

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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Christin is a somatic sex coach, whose work focuses on body-based trauma resolution and sexual empowerment. She is passionate about helping women and femmes access the full rapture of live through healing their nervous systems and reclaiming their voice, body, and power. She is also the creator and host of the Nothing Confidential podcast.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I am joined by Christin Henke, somatic sex coach, pleasure activist, and trauma nerd. We talk about dealing with dissonant experiences, masturbatory shame, and getting into a space of regulation and safety in the nervous system. Christin also talks about "leaving your body", how to self-assess, and get Christin's word of wisdom.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [07:32] Where do we start?
• [18:31] Having "both, and" dissonant experiences.
• [25:07] Masturbatory shame.
• [33:09] Getting to regulation and safety in the nervous system.
• [40:46] Using "leaving your body" in a positive way.
• [44:22] How to self-assess.
• [49:52] Christin's one tool.

Quotes:

• "Your body knows all of the factors that you can't actually process in the moment because you're overwhelmed." [20:23]
• "Masturbatory shame is my bread and butter." [25:58]
• "Sometimes working on things that are going to benefit your sex life are decidedly unsexy." [37:31]
• "Be all there, so that you're not getting whipped back and forth between the past and present." [54:59]

Connect with Christin

Website: https://www.christinhenke.com

Instagram: @christin.henke

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I will be sharing my journey into non-monogamy. I will be talking about my journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, exploring my sexuality, and the moment I was set free. I also look back at some of my diary entries, the experience of simply being myself, and now living my life without restrictions.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [04:30] Non-monogamy as an orientation.
• [07:27] June 18th, 2003.
• [14:45] Simply being myself.
• [16:30] Serial monogamy.
• [17:46] Committing to one food at a buffet.
• [18:38] Learning about non-monogamy.
• [19:26] My journey with Kyle.
• [21:40] Rereading my diary and setting myself free.
• [23:21] Becoming a four-person family.

Quotes:

• "In order to explore my sexuality and sexual orientation, I broke up with multiple people of multiple genders, simply because I thought I couldn't date more than one person at a time." [17:17]
• "I didn't learn what non-monogamy was until I was in a class called Relationship Therapy in my Masters Program." [18:43]
• "I set myself free" [22:18]

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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Hey everyone! Welcome to episode one of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I talk about how to talk about sex and other important topics with your partner(s). I will also give you the 6 ground rules for talking about sex, the 4 step framework that you can use to talk about sex, and highlight the importance of communication in all relationships.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [03:13] Why I chose today's topic: how to talk about sex and other topics with your partner(s)?
• [06:48] Let's define "sex."
• [08:05] The 6 ground rules for talking about sex.
• [13:07] The 4 step framework.

Quotes:

• "Our definition of sex moving forward is 'a meaningful experience of pleasure.'" [07:11]
• "Regardless of how long you've been together, a friendship and understanding of one's world is the foundation of every single romantic and sexual relationship." [08:50]
• "Shame has trouble existing where curiosity is." [09:33]
• "It's unrealistic to think that you and someone else are going to have the exact same turn-ons." [11:07]
• "You're responsible for your own emotions." [11:42]
• "Get consent first. It truly sets everyone involved in the conversation up for success." [14:17]
• "Conversations are emotional things, and it's important that we get consent for emotional things." [15:09]
• "When we can explain our feelings with context, we help other people understand us." [16:43]

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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