A few decades ago a study was conducted to see how many close friends the average American had that they could call in a crisis. The average answer was 3. But by 2004, the most common answer was 0.

Today we dive into an excerpt from the brilliant book “Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression” by Johann Hari

“We are often franker towards others than towards ourselves.” -Nietzsche

Honesty is not only a virtue, it’s a tool. Today we get into the usefulness of honesty and how it can improve our future.

We don’t say it but deep down we often secretly believe the devil is our friend. This sets us up for a cycle of impulse, diminishing pleasures and confusion. All based on one massive lie.

"I have been through many terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened."

-Mark Twain

Of all our destructive impulses perhaps the deepest is the desire to play god. This shows itself in many different ways but the most common way for me is worry. To worry is pretend to control.

Have you ever tried to improve your life just to find that part of your subconscious is undermining your efforts? Today we dive into a great piece by Psychology Today on the hidden rationality which underlies the destructive impulse of self sabotage and how we might overcome it.

“When men choose not to believe in God, they do not thereafter believe in nothing, they believe in anything.”

-G.K. Chesterton

As riots take over Kenosha WI, a 17 year old Kyle Rittenhouse took to the streets. Two narratives emerged which, in my opinion are both wrong.

“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.”

Break the cycle.

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It’s easy to feel trapped between our inner cynicism and baseless ideas of “self love”. But what if good really does exist? What if we can quiet the internal critic without living in denial?

The downsides of Loneliness are obvious. But there may also be a hidden blessing.