The Zainab Kanu Show

By Empowering Motherless Daughter

Hi and welcome to The Zainab Kanu Show.....all things trauma, healing, fashion, and beauty.

Where we empower motherless daughters to change, grow, and heal through case study.

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April 29, 2019EP 17: THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF CARE
What is self-care?
Practicing self care will remind you and others around you that you matter. It’s like sending a message to the world with out speaking. How you treat you, is how others are going to treat you too. When you prioritize your self care, you are prioritizing your mental health. A lack of self care means that you are not mentally well.
When you prioritize your self care, you are prioritizing your mental health

Examples of Self-care?
Managing your time. When yo don’t know what to do with your time, other people will gobble up your time for you. Meaning, when you don’t manage your time well, other people will manage your time for you.

Sleep

Prioritizing your meals

Making time for friends

Listening to your body

Shaving /hygiene

Nourishing your skin

Pampering yourself

Removing yourself from bad situations
Benefits of Self-care:
Improves your physical, emotional, and mental health

It makes you a better person in life and someone to be around

A healthy work life balance

Stress management

Start living and stop existing
CTA:
Take a break when you need to

Listen to your body

Meditate

Light jogging

Choose who you spend time with

Eat green daily

Avoid emotional eating

Learn to say no

Stop over thinking

Laugh daily

Give yourself a little upgrade

Stop letting the little things get to you
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29min
April 23, 2019EP 16: Difficulty maintaining friendships with other females!!!
Information is from Bustle and Better-help.
Growing up with a toxic or emotionally absent mother affected how I loved and the type of friend I was to others.
Some of the things motherless daughters experience in a friendship are:
lack of boundaries

people pleasing

lack of validation

feeling like you are not good enough

guilt for wanting more

co-dependency

withholding affection

passive aggressive behaviors

hypersensitivity

high tolerance for poor treatment from others

emotional care taking

feeling competitive with other women

self-sabotage

being overly rigid and dominating

Tips for being a good friend:
be real

be honest

take an interest in the details of your friends life by being a good listener

make time for your friend

keep their secrets

encourage your friend

be loyal

be willing to work through conflict

look out for them.
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29min
April 16, 2019 EP 15: Are you struggling with a ”NO CONTACT”?
A NO CONTACT IS FOR YOU! IT IS ALL ABOUT YOUR WELLBEING. It is to remove the abuser or toxic person from your life. Shahida Arabi said it best, “a no contact is the key that locks out that person from ever entering our hearts, mind, and spirit in any palpable way again” This means you are not in contact via phone, emails, texts, and all social media platform. What to do before establishing a No contact: self development, therapeutic resolution, and low contact. How do you maintain a “No contact: is by blocking the toxic person or parent, engaging in a pleasurable and self-developing activities, and reading books about “no Contact” to gain knowledge. Www.willieverbegoodenough.com. Mental health administrative 1800-662-4357. Crisis hot line 1800-273-8255. Www.reddit.com
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24min
April 12, 2019EP 14 : Is therapy a safe place? W/Stacy Wright
The amazing Stacy Wright will be discuss the importance of therapy, why should you go see a therapist, what credential should you look for in a therapist, what techniques does the therapist use, and signs of a bad therapist?
Credentials to look for:
Licensed professional counselor masters degree in counseling or psychology

Social worker or a licensed social worker

Verify a therapist credentials on the department of consumer affairs website for your state Or read about the therapist on their website or online directory
Techniques of approaches of a therapist:
Cognitive-based therapy

Mindfulness-based

Stress reduction

Acceptance therapy

Commitment Therapy
When you decide on a therapist:
Email the therapist with some questions or ask for a 15 minutes phone call for screening if the therapist is right for you. you should be sharing a bit about your situation and asking how they can help you. This is to let them know what your goal is for therapy. Think about how you feel during the interaction with your therapist.

A good therapist demonstrates good boundaries and keeps the relationship professional at all times. Signs of a bad therapist: The therapist is talking more than you The therapist is interrupting you often Any inappropriate behaviors such as sexual gesture the therapist has violated your confidentiality
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50min
April 02, 2019 EP 13: SIGSN OF A TOXIC FRIENDSHIP for a motherless daughter.
A friendship is a state of mutual trust and support between two people: sigs of a toxic friend: lack of loyalty, lack of support, unwillingness to be happy for you, they are disrespectful, competitive, they lie, they give unsolicited advice, they are negative, they want you to compromise on your values, they ghost you, and they give you backhanded compliments.
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27min
March 25, 2019 EP 12: How to Deal with an Emotionally Absent Mother
An emotionally absent mother is not fully present to the emotional.life of the child. This could be due to depression, exhaustion, or numbness. Many of these mothers were severely under mothered themselves and have no idea what a close parent-child relationship looks like. Emotionally absent mothers are doing the outer things they think a mother should do, but have no clue how very big the job of mothering is. Some of the things i use to feel and do are identity crisis, difficulty with change, low self worth, anger, extreme sensitivity to rejection, perfectionist, a lair, difficulty setting boundaries, self conscious, self-criticizing , blaming myself for my mother’s actions, continuously asking for forgiveness to fix relationships, thinking i was bad, upset for feeling joy, and trusting others as well as myself.
1. Examine how you feel before and after interacting with your mother.
2. Let yourself feel Everything - do not run from your pain, take the time to understand what you are feeling.
3. Don’t blame yourself for your mother’s action.
4. Forgive yourself 5. Cut her off/set clear boundaries
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24min
March 17, 2019 EP 11: HOW TO DEAL WITH A JEALOUS/ENVIOUS MOTHER.
Are you struggling with your jealous mother? Is she jealous of your success, hostile when you achieve, and does she sees you as a threat? Is she happy when you have low self-worth? Does your mom always tries to steal the spot light from you? Acts bored when you share big news? Girl, you are in a toxic relationship with your mother!!!!
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13min
March 11, 2019 EP 10: How to deal with a Narcissistic Mother
1. Set boundaries. 2. Journal and therapy. 3. Forgive yourself 4. Listen to your inner voice. 5. Be patient with yourself
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8min
March 04, 2019 EP 9: How to deal with a Controlling mom
A controlling mom is not an easy mom to have around. At first they start of caring, giving you ideas, and then, they want to have an input in every and all decision. Making you feel inadequate,as if you can’t do anything without them. This is not a healthy relationship. It is okay for moms to give advice and mentor ship when solicited. It is not okay for your mom to second guess you all the time.
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9min
February 25, 2019 EP 8: Steps on how to deal with an angry mom
An angry mom is someone in a constant state of anger, causing the child to always walk on egg shells. First thing to do is: Acknowledge your mom’s anger is not your fault. Second: power move and walk away. Third: establish clear boundaries. Fourth: girl, learn to appreciate you. Remember, you are not in control of anyone’s life but your own.
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6min

FAQs about The Zainab Kanu Show:

How many episodes does The Zainab Kanu Show have?

The podcast currently has 47 episodes available.