Thee Uncommon Podcast

What are the typical responses? Skepticism. Amusement. Fear...

What about whole hearted support? 

To be sure, there are necessary questions to be asked, and a certain level of pragmatism to be exercised. But what if we leaned into supporting and encouraging our partner to shoot for the stars, to blaze their own Uncommon path? 

What if one of the best ways for us to love our spouses is to fully support and invest in their dreams? 

That was my conversation with Tyler and Tallis Strub. They are a couple who is walking their own Uncommon path in their marriage, as parents, in their work, and in casting victorious vision for their future! 

In this episode you will hear: 

They also share their 1 word they believe best describes the other person - you'll wanna hear that!

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What is the legacy you're creating today? 

It might be best to start with your definition of "legacy." Is the inheritance you leave behind to loved ones? Maybe it's starting a business, organization or charity that will endure beyond your living years. Maybe it's "ever green" content or art you create. 

When considering legacy it helps to think about the enduring impact you will leave with your life. 

And a major aspect of impact is relationships. What legacy will you leave as a spouse, a parent, a son or daughter, a friend, a boss or employee, etc.? 

In this episode I talk about just that with my guest Josh Terrell. Josh is a coach, a servant leader in his church and community, a husband, father, friend - and most importantly: a follow of Jesus. 

We get into Josh's background, both personally and vocationally, and look at the people who had a positive impact on him along the way. Today Josh is striving to have a similar positive impact on those he leads in his business, his home, and his community. 

We talk about the importance of stewardship - how to effectively manage the resources and relationships God has blessed us with. We also consider the question of "Who am I impacting on a daily basis?" and "How will my impact leave a legacy for generations to come?" 

In our day to day grind, it can be difficult to see how we are having a positive lasting impact on our co-workers, kids or neighbors. But the reality is that we can't even fathom the impact we can have on someone over the course of a lifetime - it's tremendous! 

So may we view each day as an opportunity to have a positive impact - even a smile or a kind word - and know that that impact can compound over time to create a life legacy! 

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Can resiliency only be gained through the gauntlet of unrelenting trials? Or, can resiliency be learned and cultivated by intentionally doing hard things? 

In this episode, Ryan sits speaks with Jonathan York with Resilient Man Project. 

Jonathan shares his story of overcoming addiction and cultivating resiliency through the many challenges he's faced in life. Jonathan tells about how he placed his faith in Jesus Christ while in prison, then later met the love of his wife, started a family, as well as a successful business. 

Today, Jonathan's mission is to share his story - as well as the stories of others - who have developed resiliency through their own trials. 

It's true that as we all navigate our own Uncommon paths, we too will need resiliency to overcome inevitable trials and setbacks. 

Be encouraged by James 1:2-4 which says, Count it all joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 

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We continue our conversation from pt 1, as we look at how to create SMART goals, reflect on our motives, and put effective systems in place to give us the best odds for success.

Download our FREE Goals System worksheet and start creating your own Uncommon goals today! 

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Is it by playing with them at the park? Taking them to their favorite restaurant? Buying them their favorite toy? 

While it's good to be aware of our kids' love languages, the research shows that the #1 way to build deep bonds with our kids is by helping them process their emotions in difficult situations. 

In this episode the men in our Fraternity discuss the importance of building deep bonds as fathers, and reflect on the do's and don'ts of helping our kids label their emotions. 

We also look at the analogy of "the sprinkler" i.e. times when our kids are surprised by negative circumstances, and are overwhelmed by emotion. 

You will learn about the 3 phases that our child's brain goes through during and after the sprinkler, and how to tactfully be a calming presence, allow them to cool off, and then provide logical feedback to help them process and grow. Doing so will create deep emotional bonds that will elevate our relationships with our kids for years to come! 

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What question are most people trying to answer when they set a goal? 
What am I trying to achieve? 

 But is this the right - or most important - question to ask? 

What if we reframed goal setting with the question: Who am I trying to become? 

 In this episode Phil & Ryan look at an Uncommon but effective approach to goal setting that focuses on 2 main aspects: 

By aligning our goals with our core values and attaching them to a greater vision of who we aspire to become, we can guard against feelings of burn out and let down, and ensure that we stay motivated for long term success and transformation. 

Download our FREE Goals System worksheet and start creating your own Uncommon goals today! 

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Part of the answer lies in the chemicals produced in our bodies, particularly the chemicals affectionately known as the "happy hormones." 

Chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and cortisol each have their own role in producing both short and long term happiness in our lives - as well as the lives of those around us. These chemicals affect our minds, our moods and our bodies. And there are a whole host of factors & situations that impact the production of these chemicals, including our diet, sleep, laugher, stress, pleasure, quality time with loved ones, and more! 

Understanding how these chemicals are produced, as well as their impact on our happiness, can empower us to consciously do things to produce good chemicals and avoid bad chemicals. 

This power will directly impact every area of our lives, including the deep bonds of meaningful relationships, our overall health & well being, our work performance, our decisions, and the vision we cast for our lives! 

If you've ever seen the movie Inside Out, just think of it as taking back the control panel from your emotions- you're in the driver's seat! 

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We sit down for a conversation with Tom & Chris - 2 of the participants in our MN Elevate Experience - to hear about the growth they've experienced since our weekend retreat. 

We've all experienced some version of the "summer camp high": you go to a weekend retreat, meet some awesome people, hear some inspirational speeches, and set some loft goals... only to return home to your routine and grind and forget all about the vision you were so excited about. 

Well, that's common

But because we're UNCOMMON, we not only provide amazing experiences, we also offer a community for you to continue to learn, implement and be held accountable to achieving your Uncommon vision for your life! And Tom and Chris are perfect examples of 2 men who've continued showing up, putting in the work, and adding a ton of value to our community. As you listen to their stories, don't you dare think, "Well that's fine & good for them, but I could never do that..." - hogwash! 

You can start on your own Uncommon journey today by getting off the sideline and into the game by signing up to join our community using the link below!

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When we understand that there are different chemicals at play in our own - as well as our spouse's - body and emotions, then we can begin the work towards producing the positive chemicals, and limiting the negative (harmful) chemicals. 

Did you know that there are some simple skills we can learn & practice that will actually decrease cortisol aka the "stress hormone," and increase oxytocin aka the "bonding chemical"? 

Skills like emotional labeling, active listening or mirroring, and resisting avoidance of tough subjects can each help us to increase oxytocin in our wives as well as ourselves, thereby deepening our bond of intimacy and trust. 

And fear not - if you struggle in this area (and who of us does not?), these skills can be learned; but it does take time and commitment! It's important to remember that we're playing the long game here. Our efforts won't often result in the instant gratification we experience from dopamine hits, but even better - we will build a strong foundation that deepens over time and helps us to create and sustain a truly Uncommon marriage! 

Check out the in love while parenting app, as well as the Human Improvement Project for all their video resources on EQ. 

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This is a question that most men can't answer. 

And this question - and its answer - highlight an important need for young men in our society. A need to understand what makes a true man, and how they can begin their transition from boyhood to manhood. 

In this episode, Ryan interviews Phil and his eldest son Beckham, following Beckham's 13th birthday and the Rite of Passage weekend that Phil organized for him. 

In this episode you will learn about some of the history of the rite of passage (ROP), including some of the more bizarre practices of various cultures around the world. 

Phil and Beckham will share about their weekend ROP, including how Phil planned it, who he invited, and what intentional activities and discussions they had with Beckham as they acknowledged his transition into manhood. 

Dads: know that you too can organize an unforgettable ROP for you son. There are great resources available, including the book Phil used, Milestones to Manhood. We also plan to offer and lead Rite of Passage retreats through Thee Uncommon in the near future -so stay tuned for that! 

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