They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan discuss the intricate world of dating, especially for those re-entering the scene after a long-term relationship, divorce, or loss. They address the fears and anxieties surrounding the prospect of finding love again, shedding light on the emotional baggage we often carry with us. Join Ciara and Richard as they tackle societal pressures, the dynamics of body confidence, and the importance of being open rather than desperate.

In this episode, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan dive into the complicated emotions of jealousy and envy—feelings we all experience but often hesitate to admit. They unpack the essential differences between jealousy, the fear of losing something you have, and envy, the desire for something you don’t. With insightful anecdotes, the duo sheds light on how these emotions stem from our early attachments and can manifest in various relationships, including friendships and family dynamics.

This week, Ciara and Richard tackle the pervasive issue of anxiety—truly the epidemic of our time. They dive into the layers of anxiety, discussing what it is, why we experience it, and how to manage it effectively. Learn about the normalcy of feeling anxious and the ways to challenge that internal monologue that often perpetuates distress. With practical insights and relatable anecdotes, the pair emphasizes the importance of understanding our thoughts, adopting resilience, and recognising when professional intervention might be necessary.

In this episode, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan dive deep into the complex world of people pleasing. They explore its roots, unraveling the neuroscience behind why so many of us struggle to say no, often at our own expense. As they discuss the damaging effects of this behavior—particularly for women in pivotal roles like the eldest daughter—they reveal how it leads to resentment and burnout. Discover practical strategies to reclaim your voice and prioritize your needs without guilt.

In this first ever episode - Ciara and Richard tackle the messy, sensitive and taboo topic of affairs.

A weekly podcast series presented by family doctor and broadcaster, Dr. Ciara Kelly & family psychotherapist and author, Dr. Richard Hogan. They Mess You Up is a straight-talking show that unpacks messy, everyday relationship and mental-health issues with a mix of clinical perspective, personal anecdotes and wry, no-nonsense banter. They cover topics from affairs, jealousy and people-pleasing to anxiety, parenting and dating after separation, with practical takeaways framed by the hosts’ professional experience. The show is a pragmatic guide to why people hurt each other - and themselves.