Things We Don't Talk About

Things We Don't Talk About

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Things We Don't Talk About episodes

  • Don't Call Me a B*tch!

    If ever an episode needed a warning for explicit content, this one is it!! Michelle and Sarah dive deep into the complex world of the word "bitch," from its historical roots as a mere descriptor for a female dog to its evolution as a derogatory term and into its modern reclamation for female empowerment. What does it mean to call someone a "bitch" today? Is it ever acceptable, or does it always carry a negative connotation? Michelle and Sarah unpack the nuances of this controversial term.

    We would love to hear from you! Were we spot on or totally off base? Do you use the word bitch? Comment here or email us: [email protected]

    Sources:

    https://www.etymonline.com/word/bitch
    https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/184484/etymology-origin-behind-using-bitching-in-a-positive-sense#:~:text=bitching%20(adj.),in%20some%20inverted%20sense
    Meredith Brooks Song - Bitch 1997

    https://open.spotify.com/track/3i6qNxyVgIdUZTTi5m25EM?si=ruF_a4J1Q6GjpNSoXd2ePQ

    Netflix - History of Swear Words

    Lucille Bogan - Till the Cows Come Home (WARNING VERY EXPLICIT!)

    https://open.spotify.com/track/6lYqtOrLowtnslyKpyJQqe?si=qPkVKjeLSlmv9TvNBMCEWw

    Correction: In this episode Sarah says bitch is one of the 7 dirty words George Carlin recites you can't say on television. However, this is not one of the words. Nevertheless, bitch was not used on television until 1979 and is still regulated by the FCC's rules of obscenity.

    30 min
  • Dating Diaries: The Good, The Bad, and The Unspoken

    If you’ve ever said dating sucks, you are not alone! Michelle and Sarah talk about their dating misadventures, the struggles with navigating online profiles, and the often-unspoken pressures they face. From awkward first dates to the search for genuine connection, they explore the unspoken rules and emotional rollercoasters that come with trying to find partnership and connection.

    We would love to hear from you and your dating experiences! What do you think of the pitfalls and triumphs we shared? Were we spot on or totally off base? Comment here or email us: [email protected]

    Sources:

    Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie https://www.chimamanda.com/

    https://www.instagram.com/reel/CiA2E-DpAe6/?igsh=MTJybDlrbGgzNGpz

    36 min
  • Just Be Nice

    Just Be Nice - if you're a woman you’ve 100% heard this before. Michelle and Sarah talk about how being told to be nice limits women as well as all the rules we are taught from a young age but never talk about - rules shaped by misogyny and societal expectations. They share how these rules have impacted their lives and explore the “what ifs” of what life could’ve been if they hadn’t been so constrained.

    As always we would love to hear from you: email: [email protected]

    Sources:

    Untamed by Glennon Doyle https://momastery.com/

    Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie https://www.chimamanda.com/

    Athlete Ilona Maher https://www.instagram.com/ilonamaher

    Reel Sarah mentioned: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C9o2ocWMyic/?igsh=OW93cGJjdnR3ZGtm

    36 min
  • The Science of Finding the Light

    Last week we spoke about the practical strategies of finding calm, comfort, and inspiration amidst life’s challenges and the very difficult times we find ourselves in. This conversation left us wondering why and how these strategies work? So we delved into the science of it all, and now we're back to share the science with you. Find out why our favorite practices work.

    We're here for you. Reach out at [email protected]

    Sources:

    https://e360.yale.edu/features/ecopsychology-how-immersion-in-nature-benefits-your-health#:~:text=These%20studies%20have%20shown%20that,reduce%20anxiety%2C%20and%20improve%20mood
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/biophilia#:~:text=Biophilia%2C%20which%20literally%20translates%20to,such%20as%20animals%20and%20plants
    https://healthyline.com/pages/health-benefits-negative-ions#:~:text=One%20natural%20producer%20of%20negative,revitalized%20when%20after%20taking%20one
    https://www.physio-pedia.com/Vagus_Nerve#:~:text=gastrointestinal%20secretions.%20..-,Course,to%20the%20internal%20jugular%20vein
    https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-happens-to-your-body-during-the-fight-or-flight-response
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/shame#:~:text=Reviewed%20by%20Psychology%20Today%20Staff,or%20inadequate%20as%20a%20result
    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3505409/

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    31 min
  • How to Find the Light

    Welcome to this enlightening episode where we delve into the depths of finding calm, comfort, and inspiration amidst life’s challenges and the very difficult times we find ourselves in. This episode explores practical strategies and heartfelt stories that illuminate paths to personal growth and resilience. Whether you’re facing uncertainty, struggling with inner doubts, or simply seeking a spark of positivity, this conversation offers valuable tools to help you shine through adversity.

    We're here for you. Reach out at [email protected]

    Binaural Beats We Like:

    https://open.spotify.com/playlist/37i9dQZF1DWYILo9WhOOw6?si=LCrMF-AhQ4OfBH2Jp0y5fA&pi=u-HfRRmnkoQs-R

    https://open.spotify.com/playlist/37i9dQZF1DWSrtCzTmPimJ?si=vnjC1nCrSxOAlB7tMkLoHg&pi=u-X0Vs6oCTSnmq

    https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5L0pZc5oNutFxMY1xOss84?si=3QcQ02bXT9SpFjKb7zkCpw&pi=mn1V6kEoTeizE

    https://open.spotify.com/track/5G9VfdcCt9IMzzKnnaV24h?si=6TOAt-6NQ_SkeWWPEMvztw

    35 min
  • Is this Beauty Standard?

    What are beauty standards? How do they affect our minds, lives, finances, and wellbeing? Michelle and Sarah continue the conversation from last week moving from pretty to beauty standards.

    As always we would love to hear from you: email: [email protected]
    IG: @thingswedonttalkabt
    Sources:
    Tits Up by Sarah Thornton (https://www.sarah-thornton.com/)
    Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln, PhD

    Reel explaining the link between skinny beauty standards and feminist becoming a threat is by Ash Molloy

    https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8H8ZYeusJf/?igsh=azdveWRwMDRhazY3

    36 min
  • Pretty

    We've all been there. That moment when no matter what we do we just don't feel Pretty. This week Michelle and Sarah talk about Pretty. What is pretty? What makes us feel pretty or not pretty? Why is it even important?

    As always we would love to hear from you: email: [email protected]

    Correction: Cellulite cream was invented in 1968 NOT 1975 like I incorrectly stated in this episode.

    Sources:

    Taryn Delanie Smith @taryndelaniesmith The post Sarah referred to -

    https://www.instagram.com/p/C8n9XF0g5zy/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

    https://wahawkinsider.com/6471/opinion/what-does-it-mean-to-be-pretty/

    Tits Up by Sarah Thornton (https://www.sarah-thornton.com/)

    https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/what-is-cellulite-definition-fat-shaming-history

    42 min
  • Childfree???

    The real, honest, vulnerable conversations continue as Michelle and Sarah expand their conversation from last week on motherhood and turn to Sarah's questions about whether she should join the mom team or not. Join us and find out: will Sarah have a kid or remain childfree???

    Please share your thoughts on the motherhood vs childfree question: [email protected]

    Sources:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YIz9jZPzvo&list=PLsqDl9Mqyqxy5UXgvWGt59o953Ge4RJ44&index=2&t=188s
    https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2023/11/03/millennials-only-children/
    https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2021/11/19/growing-share-of-childless-adults-in-u-s-dont-expect-to-ever-have-children/?utm_content=buffer41cf7&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer
    https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/hestat/maternal-mortality/2022/maternal-mortality-rates-2022.pdf
    https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/01/24/parenting-in-america-today/

    40 min
  • MOTHERHOOD

    Michelle and Sarah have THE MOST HONEST conversation about motherhood. We don't talk about how becoming a mother radically changes your life. Join us for this most vulnerable look at what it means to be a mom. No sugarcoating here!

    Reach out to us at [email protected]

    Sources:

    https://www.babycenter.com/baby/crying-colic/what-to-do-when-your-baby-cries-for-no-reason_10320516
    https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/01/rising-child-care-cost.html
    https://www.dol.gov/newsroom/releases/wb/wb20230124
    https://www.mother.ly/state-of-motherhood/
    https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2021/05/17/upshot/women-workforce-employment-covid.html
    Invisible Women by Carolina Criado-Perez

    41 min
  • HELP!

    Michelle and Sarah talk about help. What is it? Why we need it? Why is it so hard to ask for?

    Need help or want to talk to us? Reach out:

    Sources:

    https://hbr.org/2023/07/why-its-so-hard-to-ask-for-help#:~:text=Some%20people%20won't%20ask,burden%20of%20their%20problems%20alone

    Invisible Women by Caroline Criado-Perez

    https://carolinecriadoperez.com/book/invisible-women/

    37 min

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