This Human Life

Paul is joined on this episode by Vanesha Patel to talk about her search for purpose in a conversation about following your dreams, not being a people-pleaser or following their opinions while remaining kind and much more.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• I’ve realised in the last couple of years that I need to be true to myself and do what I truly want to do, not what others’ perceptions of what I should be doing.
• Sometimes you feel like your purpose is this one thing in life and you have to pursue it, and to a point it is. But as your journey through life, different things at different points in our life are our purpose at that time, depending on your priorities at that time. Perhaps ask: “What’s my purpose at the moment?”
• I’m my worst critic. You can have 100 people telling you around you saying you’re this, that or the other and all positive, but you’ll still find one thing about yourself, at least, that you haven’t done correctly and you can go down a rabbit hole of this didn’t go right, I didn’t say this, I should have done that. It’s perfectly fine to take a step back sometimes to get back on an upward trajectory.
• You are where you’re meant to be right now. Lean into your difficulties, I know it’s hard but we’ve all got the solutions in our heads, we’ve all got ample enough knowledge, it’s whether we’re ready to deal with them.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Having the ability to dream is a gift, that’s what gets us going and gives us a drive and purpose..’

‘A lot of people are so focussed on the long term that they aren’t enjoying the journey and aren’t looking at how far they’ve come.’

‘It’s OK to not be winning all the time, it’s OK to stop and have a reset, take some time out to figure out what it is that makes you happy, what do you really want. What is right for you, ultimately, will find you.’

‘Also, you don’t have to always help people who seem to need it. They don’t always want help, so just let them know you’re there for them when they need you.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
• World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Contributing Significantly To World Peace…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected]

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/

On this episode guest host Bob Conlin interviews Paul about the World Game-Changers project and his deep sense of care and concern for all living things as well as his experience of relationships throughout his life, what he’s learned and what wisdom he would like to share.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• With hindsight and learning, the most challenging relationship I ever had was with myself. From an early age I was led to believe I was useless, pathetic, no one would ever love me, I was a waste of space, better off dead. This came from my step father over 6 torturous years. I developed self-hatred in my formative years and spend most of my life fighting against myself.
• The love of womankind has been so powerful in my life, initially in the form of two matriarchs – my mother and my grandmother, and then later in what the outside world would term ‘romantic relationships’. I still had deep, deep deserved issues and I battled alcohol addiction for many many years, but one of the things that kept my head above water was knowing that I was so special in these beautiful, divine feminine worlds. That for me is just mind-blowing.
• My mother gave what she didn’t have and I learned that model and used it in later life, even if I was a mess, if anyone needed help it was like a sobering effect and I’d sort it for them. I had to unlearn that when I became a coach. It's not our role to fix, guide and support by all means, it’s not my job to fix.
• When I was younger, the love in my heart only extended to women, kids and animals. Men were like a magnet to me and I just wanted to fight them. My understanding was that all men were drunk wife-beaters because I saw that directly in my own world, but it was rife in the community around me, being in a rough, inner-city area of Nottingham. It was somehow normal, but I sort of knew it wasn’t.

BEST MOMENTS

‘In darkness the real focus of light shines brightest in the darkest.’

‘The best relationship is where I am now, and I say this in the humblest of ways, but I’m in love with myself. For the first time in my life I can truly say I don’t need a romantic relationship.’

‘You follow your heart. For the longest time I followed my head, but that was based on fear and survival.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
• World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUEST

Bob is a Life, Love and Leadership champion, author, coach, trainer, husband, father, and a professional certified coach with the International Coach Federation.

His philosophy is that we are in relationship to everything and the top three opportunities for growth exist in self, loving others, and career. As a relationship coach, he’s doing the work that he was meant to do, in order to fulfil his life purpose.

As the author of the forthcoming book ‘Why Your Relationships Suck: How to Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart’ – and as a devoted student of the relationship development he preaches – Bob enjoys a rewarding and fuller life being a husband, coach, leader, musician, and traveller. He and his family were featured in Episode 3 of CBS’s “The Greatest #AtHome Videos” in August 2020.

Website: www.conlincoaching.com

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Contributing Significantly Towards World Peace…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected]

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/

Paul is joined by Lisa Ma, to talk about the crucial question that we all face at certain times of life: how do we change the world, and how do we do it together?

As Paul and Lisa discuss, this process must begin with a period of self-reflection, and must continue with tapping into the natural need within us all to make positive, impactful change.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• If we all take time to reflect upon who we truly are, and why we are here, the the coming together of people will happen naturally. We are all inbuilt with an innate need to make this world a better place.
• Adversity in life should serve as a wake up call. It can act as the spark that spurs us on to do great deeds, and transform our path entirely.
• We need fear in order to keep us away from what can be negative. The important thing is to embrace love over fear, and never let fear guide our actions.
• When we all sing in perfect harmony, and from our hearts, it becomes a symphony of one song. This is why music resonates with us on a deeper level. This is the foundational concept of the universe.

BEST MOMENTS

'It's about activating remembrance about who we are and why we are here'

'The journey is a choice between fear and love'

'It's about going with the flow and tuning in to our higher selves'

'It is in darkness that light shines'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)

World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Developing World Game-Changers…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected] 

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/ 

Paul is joined on this episode by returning guest Rosemary Cunningham to talk about another subject close to her heart: Soulful leaders, something Paul will be exploring on the podcast in the future.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

I work with heart-centred business owners, these people aren’t led by financial gain despite it being a necessary part of business, their first motivator is to make a difference.

We all have different motivators and they often come from when we were small and being taught about money and worth. You can be taught that if you’re not good you don’t get what you want and if you ask for it you’ll probably get rejected which, as an empath, can be very very painful. That can make asking for what we want all the way down the line in life – from asking for a wage increase to asking for money back that you lent someone – very challenging.

Certain aspect of money archetypes, which are aspects of you, can be fighting each other; one of them wants to keep it really close and not spend it, the other may want to take some risks. It can almost be like you’re having an internal battle about what’s right, what’s doable, what’s acceptable and what’s safe.

Soulful leadership is listening to people, hearing their concerns, treating people with kindness, consideration, allowing people to have their say and be heard and leading the way from a heart place where the first motivation is service rather than holding onto your piece of the pie so nobody else can have any. Women will give more money from their earning into their community, charity and will support people that are up and coming more than men. Men can be soulful leaders as well, but it’s predominantly a divine feminine energy.

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘We’re rewriting all the rules around business at the moment.’

‘I’m most effective in my business when I tune into my soul for guidance.’

‘The idea of scarcity and sufficiency is also a very powerful one and this goes back to the Adam Smith economics which our economy is based on: A country only made enough money to match how much gold it had, the Gold Standard, which bears no relation to what happens now at all. But the training still teaches that.’

‘People are waking up all over the place desperate to change systems like banking and bit by bit they will.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)

World Game-Changers Group

 

ABOUT THE GUEST

Rosemary Cunningham’s first career was nursing, but she had problems with her hands which meant it couldn’t be her full time career.

She founded her own complementary therapy business in 1993 where she helps women who want to find their passion and purpose and create a business that brings all of themselves into one pot. She’s a healer, a business and money coach, a nurse, she can be very grounded and extremely spiritual too.

Rosemary has always loved her work but it has been very challenging. Her mission now is to help her clients find a much easier path. Business can be fun, light and even easy… it’s all about mindset.

Recently, Rosemary studied brain training and conscious creation and this is part of her coaching. She helps her clients find new ways of thinking and speaking to create a very different reality, the one they really want, not the one they think they deserve or have been taught is for them.

She left her part time nursing job in 1999 to run the business full time and now works with women who really want to make a difference.

Websites: http://www.rosemarycunningham.co.uk/ and https://womenwinningonline.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rosemarycunningham/?originalSubdomain=uk

Email: [email protected]

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Developing World Game-Changers…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected]

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bob Conlin takes the reins on this episode for the fifth of his regular podcasts focused on relationships. On this episode Bob talks about what he sees are red flags in relationships be they familial or of course romantic relationships.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Red flags are significant issues in relationships and they can be around specific characteristics of a person, a situation of what’s going on in a relationship, which is what I’m focussing on here.
• There’s a notion of the four horsemen of the apocalypse – I’m not a scholar, but they’re bad. The metaphor used for relationships describes specific communication styles that predict the end of a relationship. The four horsemen are: Criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. If these methods of communication are present in your relationship, your relationship will end.
• You don’t have to have all four of these to have a solid predictor that the relationship’s going to end, but even a little bit of all or a couple of them should really give you pause to take a look and think we need help, or we have an opportunity to get support. I’ve seen it so many times where couples present this way and a lot of those relationships don’t last.
• Antidotes: The antidote to criticism is to take some ownership and start with “I” statements, really owning your feelings about it, this takes the pressure off them and starts to put it back on you. The antidote to contempt is to remind yourself of your partner’s positive qualities and find some gratitude for who they are and what they do and learn to appreciate them. The antidote to defensiveness is real simple: Take responsibility, accept your partner’s perspective and apologise for any wrongdoing. The antidote to stonewalling is you need to get back into your body and calm down, it’s a real fight or flight situation, remove yourself from the situation in a kind and loving way: “I’m shutting down/getting triggered by this conversation, I just need 20 minutes of alone time, can I go and get that?”

BEST MOMENTS

‘Criticising your partner is different to giving a critique or voicing a complaint, it’s really like you’re attacking them, how they are, their way of being. You might be using terms such as “always” and “never”.’

‘Contempt is to treat others with disrespect or you’re mocking them. If you notice you’re talking about or to your partner in a contemptuous way, you’ve lost respect for them and you’re attacking their character.’

‘Defensiveness is most common where there’s been a breakdown and you can’t elevate above the. Weeds of what’s going on and connect to the actual issue is. If you are in a conversation and you feel like you need to defend yourself or not be able to take responsibility, or blame is deflected onto you.’

‘Stonewalling is exactly what it sounds like. In a discussion you shut down or stop having a discussion and walk away, that can be hard because nothing happens after that. If you’re on the receiving end of that, what’s that like for your partner?’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)

World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUEST

Bob is a Life, Love and Leadership champion, author, coach, trainer, husband, father, and a professional certified coach with the International Coach Federation.

His philosophy is that we are in relationship to everything and the top three opportunities for growth exist in self, loving others, and career. As a relationship coach, he’s doing the work that he was meant to do, in order to fulfil his life purpose.

As the author of the forthcoming book ‘Why Your Relationships Suck: How to Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart’ – and as a devoted student of the relationship development he preaches – Bob enjoys a rewarding and fuller life being a husband, coach, leader, musician, and traveller. He and his family were featured in Episode 3 of CBS’s “The Greatest #AtHome Videos” in August 2020.

Website: www.conlincoaching.com

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Contributing Significantly To World Peace…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected]

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/

Paul is joined on this episode by returning guest Arif Gilany who is taking the host’s seat this time, asking questions of Paul including all about his life’s journey from abused and broken boy to founder of the World Game-Changers project, as well as some big questions such as what is wealth? How important is networking? How important is reading? And much more...

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• “I am very happy with me”, that makes you extremely wealthy. So many people automatically assume that the word ‘wealth’ has got one meaning; financial, that being wealthy means you must be a multi-millionaire. But, what I’ve come to understand in my life’s journey is no one thing ever stands alone. My definition of wealth is a holistic one, yes it can bring in the financial element, but it also brings in the social status, the respect of others, self-respect, happiness, warmth, and love for me is the true measure of wealth, not what you’ve got in the bank.
• Be true to yourself, find your passion, find your purpose. You usually find this very very close to something that lights your heart up. If you like playing sports, get involved in sports. Your heart is your best indicator to where your future lies. Your heart will not lie to you, your head will try to trick you, your heart will not.
• Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed individuals can change the world, indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has – once we have that quote in our mindset, that change starts within us first.
• I believe we get to a stage of our lives where we naturally attract the people we’re meant to attract, in whatever capacity that is: A live partner, a soul mate, a twin flame, a business associate, the labels are irrelevant, it’s about that love, that energy, that connection that’s there and we emit that as individuals and we attract what we’re meant to attract.

BEST MOMENTS

‘When society asks questions, they’re always looking for that silver bullet, that one thing: What is the answer. From my experience there’s never THE answer.’

‘How long does one want to take learning lessons? If you’ve got a mentor, they will guide you very very quickly. Get yourself a good mentor, it saves so much time and fear-driven existence.’

‘We can either let life happen through us, where we take the learning from the experience and let it pass, or life happens to us and that’s a recipe for being a victim.’

‘I’m in the moment day-by-day, I’m in the process, following my own intuition and I know that I’ll deliver.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
• World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUEST

Arif Gilany is an entrepreneur and business consultant with superb interpersonal, team building, negotiating and multilingual skills. He is also the author of the book The Ministry of Miracles, a book that aims to bring hope to other people. 

He began his career at Fedex Corporation In Toronto, Canada, travelling across North America to manage various teams for peak performance and production. In 2006, using these skills, he built the third largest organisation within a top financial company in Canada. In 2013 he founded The Camel Company of Canada and in 2018 expanded operations internationally managing teams in North America, the Middle East and Asia. Currently he is a business development advisor, contract negotiator and senior adviser at Aral Energy. 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC70uB11Z0_zxLaCQLgP_2_Q 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/The-Ministry-of-Miracles-Gilany-Leadership-Academy-of-Achievement-110308307872245/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/arif-gilany_love-and-compassion-are-necessities-not-activity-6882610192068968448-iwZw/  

Instagram: @arif_gilany_official

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Contributing Significantly To World Peace…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected]

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/

Bob Conlin takes the reins on this episode for the fourth of his regular podcasts focussed on relationships. In this episode Bob talks about relationship goals and how often this is a missed opportunity, that a lot of couples simply don’t have relationship goals. Why is that and how do we set a relationship goal?

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Typically, around the beginning of each year you set goals, those can be new years resolutions, specific results you want to accomplish in the year. It could even be in the next month or week. But, we don’t tend to do this for our marriages or relationships, we don’t even think about it – not to get married by a certain date, more about intentional conversations about the relationship and our experiences and outcomes.
• My first goal was to meet my wife. I hadn’t met her yet, but my coach brought up the notion of creating a project around meeting my perfect woman, the outcome I wanted. I got to work and was very clear on the woman I wanted to meet: Her physical characteristics, who she was in the world, the experience I wanted to have with her (loved, safe, connected, a partner, that I wanted to be the best version of myself for her and me). Then I transformed them into a goal: I want to meet this woman by this time, which is weird because we don’t enter into these things with this kind of plan usually, but it happened.
• For folks that are already in relationships, we don’t often set goals because of the notion that we’re in a relationship and it’s happened, we’re committed, we don’t feel like we need to or have to set goals. Start looking at what’s the experience that you want to have in your relationship? (more connection, intimacy, laughter, play, excitement and adventure?) That can be the goal, by October 2022 I want to have ‘x’ amount of joy in my relationship. Then you’ve got to get to work, to get to that amount of joy what do you need to do? (More dates, more time together? More time apart?) 
• If you’re in a relationship with someone who’s also committed to an experience or specific outcome from the relationship it’s a lot more fun, exciting, connected and you get to feel like you’re working towards a common outcome. You can also call your partner forward and ask how it’s going, where you’re lacking or where you’re doing really well and celebrate it.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Most of us set goals around our career, health and wellbeing, our money but when it comes to our relationships we don’t do that. Why not?’

‘We’re so convinced that things will happen when they happen or if it’s meant to be it will be, but what if you can be 100% in control of this person that I meet and create the circumstances and scenarios in my life that this person will show up into?’

‘When you think about your relationship as a partnership, what do you want to tangibly achieve with this other human being that I’m choosing to love and be in a relationship with?’

‘Go set some relationship goals!’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)

World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUEST

Bob is a Life, Love and Leadership champion, author, coach, trainer, husband, father, and a professional certified coach with the International Coach Federation.

His philosophy is that we are in relationship to everything and the top three opportunities for growth exist in self, loving others, and career. As a relationship coach, he’s doing the work that he was meant to do, in order to fulfil his life purpose.

As the author of the forthcoming book ‘Why Your Relationships Suck: How to Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart’ – and as a devoted student of the relationship development he preaches – Bob enjoys a rewarding and fuller life being a husband, coach, leader, musician, and traveller. He and his family were featured in Episode 3 of CBS’s “The Greatest #AtHome Videos” in August 2020.

Website: www.conlincoaching.com

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Co-Creating New Life Stories…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected]

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/

Paul in joined on this episode by returning guest Lyn Smith to talk about the differences between the titles ‘life-partners’, ‘soulmates’, ‘twin-flames’, etc and de-mystifying this trilogy of terms.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• We all have masculine and feminine energy, it’s just that usually your more dominant core energy is the energy you resonate with and it’s not necessarily gender-specific – though for most people it is.  It’s the energies and specifically the polarisation of the masculine and feminine energies that create attraction.
• Most people can probably relate to having had a few soulmate relationships.  These aren’t necessarily romantic relationships, but if they are, they’ve found a strong connection and attraction in that relationship.  The twin-flame relationship takes that one step further and is based on the concept that the twin-flames are one soul that’s been divided into two, one with the more dominant core masculine energy and one with the more dominant core feminine energy.  A twin-flame relationship is about being in union to create something phenomenal for the greater good.
• There comes a point, in your personal development journey, where you just let go of everything and trust in the Divine Higher Power calling by listening to the guidance of that little intuitive voice, rather than setting your own goals and working to achieve them.

BEST MOMENTS

‘A twin-flame relationship is not a relationship for relationship’s sake, but specifically is a soul-calling where you’re here for a Divine purpose as a couple – a power couple that are operating at the highest levels of vibration to be an example not only for others to follow, but to aspire to be.’

‘Free will does play a part in it if you decide not to sign up for fulfilling that soul contract.’

‘It isn’t an overnight journey; it takes a while to get to the stage where you can let go and trust in the divine higher power to guide you.  There will be ego thoughts, worries and doubts where you question yourself.  But you will get evidence that this is what you’re meant to be doing and that you’re on the right path.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)

• World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUEST

Lyn is a world-renowned and respected Relationship Transformation Expert and author of the #1 best-selling book, ‘The Cupid’s Bow Technique’.

She shares her skills with women who have experienced some degree of hurt/trauma/heartbreak at the hands of men, who don’t currently have healthy, fulfilling relationships to understand themselves (and men) and attractor create healthy lasting love, passion, intimacy and fulfilment in their personal relationships going forward.

Website: www.hearts-entwined.com

Email: [email protected]

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Contributing Significantly To World Peace…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected]

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/

Bob Conlin takes the reins on this episode for the third of his regular podcasts focussed on relationships. In this episode Bob talks about something that comes up quite often in his sessions as a relationship coach – that one person needs help for the future of their relationship and the other thinks there’s no problem.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• It’s staggering how often it comes up that one person in a relationship says “we need help” and the other says “no we don’t, everything’s fine, you need help, you’re the problem”. Straight away you can see that there are two totally different perceptions of what’s happening in that relationship. There’s a breakdown in what’s going on in the relationship and what their experiences are. How do you go from there as a couple?
• I look at relationships as having three parts or entities: One individual, the other individual and what those two individuals create, which is the relationship. If you look at it as an equation where A says “we have a problem” and B says “no we don’t”, C is still going to be impacted.
• I ask the person who thinks everything is fine: “How can it be fine if your partner says it’s not? How do you dismiss their perception and experience and think that everything is fine in the relationship?”. It’s scary to confront and look at your relationship, especially when there’s some conflict/breakdowns/“problems” in it.
• If you’re the one who thinks they need help and your partner says it’s fine, you need to have that conversation and ask how can it be fine if that’s the case? Reframe it as you see more opportunity for ‘us’ and the ways we get to love each other rather than saying there’s a problem and things need to change. Stand for what you want in the relationship and that you want support. For the ones who think their relationship is fine, really take a look, is it truly fine? Do you feel loved, seen and heard? Are you having fun? Are you having intimate moments? Are you excited to see your partner? If the answer to any of those questions is no, is it really fine? Use it as an opportunity.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Nine times out of ten (maybe more), the person seeking support is the female identified person in the relationship, and the person saying everything is fine is the male identified individual.’

‘I think as a way of staying in our comfort zone/burying our head in the sand and hoping things will work themselves out, we say that everything’s fine or deflect and project that the problem is actually you not me or the relationship. It’s actually a pivotal opportunity for a couple to come together and be vulnerable and honestly take an inventory of their relationship.’

‘Put your victim mindset in the back seat for a while and actually look at what’s the opportunity for both of you, what do you want, are you both truly happy and how do we get there?’

‘I talk to so many couples who just settle and think it’s OK to come home and not feel connected to the person you’re supposed to be committed to and loving, or feel unseen, unheard or misunderstood by the person you’re supposed to be in a committed relationship with. You have to return to love.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
• World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUEST

Bob is a Life, Love and Leadership champion, author, coach, trainer, husband, father, and a professional certified coach with the International Coach Federation.

His philosophy is that we are in relationship to everything and the top three opportunities for growth exist in self, loving others, and career. As a relationship coach, he’s doing the work that he was meant to do, in order to fulfil his life purpose.

As the author of the forthcoming book ‘Why Your Relationships Suck: How to Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart’ – and as a devoted student of the relationship development he preaches – Bob enjoys a rewarding and fuller life being a husband, coach, leader, musician, and traveller. He and his family were featured in Episode 3 of CBS’s “The Greatest #AtHome Videos” in August 2020.

Website: www.conlincoaching.com

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Contributing Significantly To World Peace…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected]

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/

Paul and Punit Bhatia continue their two-part episode about creating impact, after the pair of them have spent quite a bit of time recently creating a book. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• A belief is what you believe in, and you have total control over what you believe. If you have total control over your beliefs, you can have total control over your life. 
• Wherever you are right now, whatever you’re doing; believe yourself to be an accountant and look around and see what you see. If you do that you’ll start to see the price of the objects around you and perhaps start to think of them as money/valuable/having emotional value. That little shift in belief changed the way you look at things around you. What you believe has a huge impact on the way you see things.
• Every one of us wants certainty: “I can have things”. As soon as that is fulfilled we want a little bit of uncertainty as well: Excitement, the opportunity not to know things and be open to surprise elements. We also want to be significant: “I am capable and can create impact”, there is also a need to love: to feel appreciated and feel loved. We also need to feel connected. While we do all this together, we want to grow and contribute to the world. It always starts with a low level need and then it evolves. You can’t contribute to society until your basic human needs are not met, as soon as they are met you want the next one and then the next one.
• The first step in anything is mastering yourself, mastering your emotions, mastering your beliefs, mastering your needs, mastering your fear and then learning to change, moving from you to outside. Once you do that the core of your philosophy, your belief system, what you believe in and how you think about life, what is your philosophy in life then you are ready to make an impact.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Belief is what drives a person.’

‘You should be open to changing your beliefs from time to time. You need to look at if your beliefs are serving you to get to where you want to be – if they do, fine. If not, it’s time to reflect, refresh, realign, reorient and recreate your beliefs.’

‘Everything that happens in your life is driven by the order of your values. You have to be aware of what your values are and why you favour or disfavour certain activities in your life. What are the values you need if you want to make a change?’

‘Forgiveness and gratitude are important to create impact. To create impact you need to take action. To take action you need to have a solid platform from which you are launching yourself. If you hold grudges and are ungrateful you don’t have a solid foundation because deep inside you there is not enough conviction. So, you need to let go and forgive everything that has happened in your life, the good, and especially the bad and the ugly.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
• World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUEST

Punit is an avid thinker, serial author and coach who is fascinated by how we as humans act and find joy in life. He believes in thinking, believing, and acting in a coherent manner for consistent and desired results.

Punit has developed an ABC For Joy Of Life. According to him, incorporating this ABC as your life philosophy will greatly enhance the quality and fulfilment you derive from your daily life.

Punit is also identified as a privacy and sourcing consultant in the corporate world for his training, coaching, and consulting work. He hosts The FIT4PRIVACY Podcast. The names of his upcoming books are “AI & Privacy – How To Find Balance?” and “ABC For Joy Of Life”.

Contact Punit at: [email protected] 

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Co-Creating New Life Stories…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: [email protected]

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/