Threshold Moments

Today, I'm joined by Kate Northrup to talk about the threshold from ambitious, entrepreneurial women to becoming new moms.

In our conversation, Kate shares how her priorities shifted across that threshold, from big productions to small sacred community.

We also talk about the metaphorical winters in life - those times when ideas stop flowing. And we ask, how can we bundle ourselves up to relax into winter, instead of going into trauma physiology?

Finally, we go into her most recent successful and sustainable work of relaxed money.

Kate is highly intelligent, empathetic, kind, and has a great sense of humor. I know you'll love her as much as I do. Enjoy!

In this episode you'll learn:

• [08:50] How motherhood became a threshold.
• [14:34] Katy's winter season.
• [21:10] Our cover crops.
• [26:32] Setting up layers of postpartum support.
• [36:46] Moving to Miami.
• [44:54] Allowing ourselves to take space.
• [51:14] We are all one, similar, and nothing alike.
• [53:12] Relaxed Money.

Quotes

• "The most important thing in this transition was community." – Sarah Tacy [12:32]
• "Set up more help than you think you need." Kate Northrup and Sarah Jenks [29:03]
• "The abundance isn't what makes us feel safe or valuable or secure or expansive. What does make you feel expansive?" – Kate Northrup [61:38]

Connect with Kate:

• Website: theorigincompany.co

• Money, A Love Story by Kate Northrup

• Do Less by Kate Northrup

• The Origin Membership

Connect with Sarah:

• Website: sarahtacy.com
• 21 Days of Untapped Support https://sarahtacy.com/21-days/
• Lean for Nervous System Support: https://sarahtacy.com/lean/

Resources:

• Detox rejuvenation.

In this episode you'll learn:

• [01:43] Let's start with Spring.
• [03:12] The Summer of our lives.
• [06:25] Fall: Saying no and preparing for Winter.
• [09:32] Winter: The Fertile Void.
• [10:11] Having things to fall back on.
• [12:21] Leaning into the season.

Quotes

• "We are nature." - Sarah Tacy [04:21]
• "There was a before, and there will be an after." - Sarah Tacy [12:00]

Connect with Sarah:

• Website: sarahtacy.com
• 21 Days of Untapped Support https://sarahtacy.com/21-days/
• Lean for Nervous System Support: https://sarahtacy.com/lean/

Hello, everyone! Today, we bring you Ted King. We talk about Ted's journey into cycling, the genetics of a good cyclist, and lessons he has learned from his parents. Ted also gets into how he stays optimistic, the decision to go into retirement, and sipping on Maple Syrup.

Let's dive in!

Ted King took a fast track into pro cycling. Just three years post-college he was the number one ranked American in the North American Pro Circuit. He went on to race as a Professional World Tour cyclist for the next seven years (competing in the Tour de France twice).

Ted King is now an ambassador and competitor for the sport of gravel cycling. He hosts a pair of events with Rooted Vermont and King Challenge. He is the founder of Untapped Athletic Fuel, coaches a handful of cyclists, writes a popular blog, and is the Host of King of the Ride. Ted is on the board of organizations like Mountain Bike Afghanistan.

In this episode you'll learn:

• [04:54] A bit about Ted.
• [13:28] Why Ted decided to get into cycling.
• [17:04] What makes a good cyclist?
• [23:07] Ted's lessons from his dad.
• [26:03] Impressions from Ted's mom.
• [33:41] Did Ted ever not know the next step forward?
• [38:20] Living in other countries.
• [43:37] Ted's wild adventures with the Tour de France
• [48:55] Staying optimistic through injuries.
• [57:31] Ted's Vermont Maple Syrup.
• [65:37] Heading into retirement.
• [73:44] Keeping up the lifestyle after having kids.
• [76:49] Taking trips with the family.

Quotes

• "Some people are born in a way in which they're always looking for the opportunities." – Sarah Tacy [21:03]
• "It might be risky but go for it." – Ted King [25:36]
• "I don't live with regrets." – Ted King [54:15]
• "Luck is rewarded to hard workers." – Ted King [71:51]
• "Being out of your comfort zone is also a really good place to be." – Ted King [81:51]

Connect with Ted:

• Website: www.iamtedking.com.
• Facebook: Ted King.
• Twitter: @iamtedking.
• YouTube: Ted King.
• Instagram: @iamtedking.
• Strava: @iamtedking.
• Podcast: King of the Ride
• Blog: King of the Ride
• Maple Syrup: Untapped

Connect with Sarah:

• Website: sarahtacy.com
• 21 Days of Untapped Support https://sarahtacy.com/21-days/
• Lean for Nervous System Support: https://sarahtacy.com/lean/

Hello, everyone! Today, I will be talking about the power of curiosity, the possibilities from wondering, and manifestation. I also get into creating possibilities in the new year, how our words and thoughts make a difference, and clarity in non-attachment.

In this episode you'll learn:

• [00:56] What's interesting about reticular formation.
• [03:27] Staying curious.
• [08:19] "I wonder…"
• [11:14] Manifestation.
• [14:06] Our words and thoughts matter.
• [21:24] New year, new possibilities.

Quotes:

• "Just because we're curious about something, we might see it more often, even if it's always been there." – Sarah [04:51]
• "Show me or surprise and delight me." – Brigit Viksnins [07:39]
• "Asking the questions will allow us to see possibilities that we would never have seen before." - Sarah [09:20]
• "The clarity of our thoughts can have a huge impact." – Sarah [21:05]
• "The soul loves the space for curiosity." – Sarah [24:26]

Connect with Sarah:

• Website: sarahtacy.com
• 21 Days of Untapped Support https://sarahtacy.com/21-days/
• Lean for Nervous System Support: https://sarahtacy.com/lean/

Hello, everyone! Today, we bring you Amber Lilyestrom. We talk about the beauty of our past experiences, the importance of self-care, and practicing mindfulness. Amber also gets into the power of words, the celebration of slowing down, and we hear some profound thoughts from Amber's book, Paddle Home.

Let's dive in!

Amber Lilyestrom is a business mentor, branding expert, author, and speaker. Her work has been featured by Forbes, Entrepreneur, Mind Valley and Working Mother Magazine. She is the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast and author of Master Your Money Mind and Paddle Home.

Amber helps coaches & creatives help more people and make more money by changing the way they think and show up in their businesses. Her expertise as a branding coach supports her clients in positioning themselves as sought-after experts and thought leaders in their fields. Her transformational mindset work sets her apart in an industry focused on a strategy-first, inner-work-later approach.

Amber spent 10 years working in collegiate athletics marketing before launching her business. She managed the University of New Hampshire Wildcats brand, where she taught sports marketing and mentored student interns. She was recognized as one of the top sports marketing professionals in the nation before she left to launch her company in 2014.

In this episode you'll learn:

• [07:36] The beauty of the past.
• [17:13] Self-care.
• [30:49] Amber's fertility treatment.
• [35:01] The power of mindfulness.
• [40:15] Celebrating Slow.
• [49:08] Divine timing.
• [54:28] We're not alone.
• [57:27] Paddle Home.

Quotes:

• "There's great power behind being curious and asking the questions of the things that are unknown." [15:42] - Sarah Tacy
• "Self-care is the basis for communal care." [17:16] - Darden
• "We can practice loving others until we love ourselves." [20:22] - Danielle Laporte
• "You can't use the mirror if you're going to use the mirror as a weapon against yourself." [25:45] - Amber Lilyestrom
• "You need to take the time that you need to get there, and you'll get there on time." [47:35] - Amber Lilyestrom
• "If it's not going to matter in 5 years, then it doesn't have to matter now." [51:11] - Unknown

Connect with Amber:

• Website: www.amberlilyestrom.com
• Facebook: Amber Lilyestrom
• YouTube: Amber Lilyestrom
• LinkedIn: Amber Lilyestrom

Connect with Sarah:

• Website: sarahtacy.com
• 21 Days of Untapped Support: https://sarahtacy.com/21-days/
• Lean for Nervous System Support: https://sarahtacy.com/lean/

Resources:

• Into the Magic Shop by James Doty.
• Amber's Books

In this Mini Musings episode I share with you the map that inspired Threshold Moments. The Cycle of Awareness map was created by Don and Amba Stapleton PhD. I share this map at the beginning of most of my trainings because I find it highly orienting.

When I feel lost, this map helps me see where I've been, where I am and where I'm going. If only it could let me know how long I'll be in any one stage! Maybe grab an astrologer for that?

I hope this is as helpful to you as it is to me.

Peace and blessings,

Sarah

The Cycle of Awareness is usually drawn in a circle 🙂

1. 1. Normal: Every day life
   2. Challenge Interrupts Balance: This can be a split second in which life changes such as a diagnosis, an accident, or disruptive information. It can also be something that is incrementally changing so you don't notice the change. You may start to feel agitated in your every day life and you may not be able to pin point why. One morning you may look in the at your partner, your job or yourself and feel like you're looking at a stranger. You may feel a pull toward another life or a big leap even though it would mean destroying your current life structure. This is a Threshold.
   3. Confusion and Chaos: You try to live life as you did before but it's just not working. You try to flex your muscles to control outcomes, but your whole being feels out of alignment. You try using the tools you've always used but they're not working. This place is about max effort and with a negative return. This is the place the ego tries to block the soul's journey and cling on to what it knows.
   4. *The Fertile Void: This is the place of surrender. It's the dark night of the soul. It's the place in which you feel powerless and can't make sense of what's going on yet. Most people feel lost in this place. You can't see the silver lining yet. In the unknown so many outcomes are possible. *Fertile Void was coined by Gestalt therapist Fritz Perls.
   5. Inner Resources: Insight and Inspiration: You start to see possibilities that you could not see before. Because you have shed layers, because you have let go of old securities, because you've been wide open to signs and insights, you can see what wasn't visible before. You begin to gain more energy.
   6. Integration: You begin building a new life with your new understandings.
   7. Evolution into a New State of Being: You are now living a life that feels highly aligned with your soul. There's a sense of authenticity, maybe even pride for the journey it took to get here.
   8. Normal: Your evolved state becomes your normal state and inevitably the cycle begins again with new lessons and life experiences.

Connect with Sarah:

• Website: sarahtacy.com
• 21 Days of Untapped Support https://sarahtacy.com/21-days/
• Lean for Nervous System Support: https://sarahtacy.com/lean/

Hello, everyone! Today, we bring you Michael Leary. We talk about the earliest pivotal moments in his life, the importance of creating a North Star of where you want to go, and how to parent with past trauma. We also talk about morning rituals, getting enough sleep to start the day, and making small changes to achieve happiness.

Michael Leary is a husband, father, trainer, and dog-dad to Griff (the best dog in the world). Through his training, Michael allows others to live with purpose, joy, and satisfaction.

Drawing from his own dark past experiences, Michael is able to empathize and meet others where they're at in their journeys and help them to build the life that they desire.

In this episode you'll learn:

• [06:17] Michael's earliest pivotal moments.
• [16:28] Creating the North Star.
• [23:00] Looking at the bigger picture.
• [29:45] Parenting with past trauma.
• [44:38] Michael's morning ritual and sleep.
• [51:02] Taking bite-sized steps to happiness.

Quotes:

• "You can do hard things while being immensely kind to yourself." [19:43] - Michael Leary
• "If life's crumbling around you, it's a tall order to ask yourself to perform well in the gym." [23:18] - Michael Leary
• "The healing work is to know that it's okay to ask for help." [42:09] - Sarah Tacy
• "Nothing's really guaranteed." [56:03] - Michael Leary
• "The soul thrives on the unknown." [59:36] - Sarah Tacy

Connect with Michael:

• Website: www.michaelpleary.com
• Instagram: @michaelpleary
• LinkedIn: Michael Leary

Connect with Sarah:

• Website: sarahtacy.com
• 21 Days of Untapped Support https://sarahtacy.com/21-days/
• Lean for Nervous System Support: https://sarahtacy.com/lean/

Hello, welcome. I'm Sarah Tacy and this is Threshold Moments, a podcast where guests and I share stories about the process of updating into truer versions of ourselves. The path is unknown and the pull feels real. Together, we share our grief, laughter, love and life-saving tools. Join us.