What's actually our job as our kids grow? And what does it bring up in us when we look at our own lives at the same ages?
In this 45-minute episode, Meredith and Rebecca pick up where cycle breaking left off-- looking at the four-year-old and the eight-year-old through the lens of the Circle of Security. What does it mean to encourage our children to go out, and being there when they come back in?
Along the way: why the age you struggled with as a child might be the age that's hardest to parent. Bruce Perry's research on the regression that usually comes before a developmental leap. The difference between extrinsic memory and implicit somatic memory. Why an eight-year-old who seems advanced still cannot, generally, clean their own room. And why play doesn't have an expiration date for them, or for us as adults.
And the quiet truth underneath all of it: if you had a childhood, you came from a family. The patterns you inherited live in you whether you have kids or not. Looking at these ages is also an invitation to look back at your own experiences.
In the next episode, we go deeper into the inner landscape of the twelve-year-old.
"We get to start over each time. There will always be a new opportunity to make a different choice." — Meredith
Resource mentioned in this episode
Circle of Security can be found here: https://www.circleofsecurityinternational.com/pages/what-is-the-circle-of-security
Be curious. Be kind. Start with yourself.
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