In this episode of Thuli Talks, we unpack the relationship and self-help advice that was sold to us as empowerment but quietly taught us avoidance, emotional dishonesty, and fear of vulnerability.

We were told to ghost instead of communicate.

To act unbothered instead of being honest.

To play hard to get instead of showing genuine interest.

But was it confidence… or self-protection dressed up as power?

This episode is for the people who are tired of performing indifference, tired of pretending they don’t care, and ready to unlearn survival habits that sabotaged real connection.

In this deeply personal and vulnerable episode of Thuli Talks, I open up about the quiet fear many of us carry but rarely name the fear of repeating old patterns after healing.

This isn’t about ignorance.

It’s about awareness.

It’s about knowing better… and still feeling scared you might fall back.

I share raw personal stories about overstaying in relationships and friendships, shrinking myself to belong, choosing familiar pain over unfamiliar peace, and learning that healing doesn’t mean temptation disappears it means you finally pause before repeating cycles.

This episode is also a reminder that environment matters. You can pray, journal, fast, and grow but staying in spaces that constantly trigger survival mode can slowly kill what God placed inside of you.

We talk about:

• Why familiar pain feels safer than unknown peace
• How old patterns sneak back in disguised as loneliness and nostalgia
• The spiritual roots of cycles and emotional agreements
• The loneliness that comes with choosing differently
• Breaking self-abandonment and protecting your future self
• Faith, discernment, boundaries, and obedience over comfort

If you’ve ever thought:

• “What if I end up back there again?”
• “What if I heal but still choose the same people?”
• “What if my environment pulls me back?”

This episode is for you.

You are not weak for being cautious.

You are not behind for moving slowly.

You are learning how to protect what God put in you and that takes courage.

🤍 Welcome to Thuli Talks where healing is honest, growth is uncomfortable, and peace is non-negotiable.

Dear Diary…

This episode is me sitting with my thoughts out loud. No filters. No pretty conclusions. Just honesty.

We’re talking about the things I didn’t say, the feelings I avoided, the versions of myself I had to grieve, and the lessons I learned the hard way. This isn’t advice-heavy or perfectly wrapped — it’s a heart check.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying too much, changing quietly, or healing in silence… this episode is for you.

Welcome into my diary.

This is not a light episode. This is a funeral, a confession, a release, and a rebirth.In this final episode of the year, Thuli reflects on the versions of herself that didn’t survive the year — the girl who over-loved, overtrusted, overextended, and over-explained. From failed plans and heartbreaks to burnout and silent battles, this episode dives deep into the grief of outgrowing yourself, the weight of unmet expectations, and the courage it takes to let go without shame.

This is for anyone who:

• Didn’t become who they thought they would this year
• Lost relationships, dreams, energy, or themselves
• Feels proud and broken at the same time
• Is stepping into the new year with scars but also with wisdom

This is not a recap — it’s a reckoning.

Healing doesn’t come with perfect timing. Sometimes you’re healing in silence, alone with your thoughts and your wounds. Other times, you’re healing in a relationship — with someone watching every breakdown, every trigger, and every breakthrough. In this deeply honest episode, we unpack the real differences between healing single and healing with a partner.

We explore the freedom and loneliness of healing alone, the intimacy and pressure of healing in a relationship, and the emotional weight of growing while being seen. This is a raw conversation about triggers, vulnerability, attachment, accountability, emotional safety, and learning how to love without bleeding on each other.

Whether you’re navigating healing by yourself or while loving someone, this episode reminds you that there is no “better” way to heal — only the way that meets you where you are. Healing is messy. Healing is personal. Healing is sacred. And no matter the season, you deserve grace while you grow.

In this two-part, soul-stretching episode of Thuli Talks, Thuli opens her heart wide to explore one of the most misunderstood truths about love: real love is not supposed to hurt. But sometimes, when you grow up surviving chaos, you confuse struggle for loyalty, pain for passion, and turbulence for intensity.

Thuli takes you on a deeply personal journey — one where she admits something many of us are scared to say out loud:
“I was so used to toxic, inconsistent, painful love… that I didn’t know how to receive safe love. I didn’t know how to trust softness.”

💗 PART 1: Romantic Love — Choosing Softness Over Survival

In this first half, Thuli reflects on how her past shaped her definition of love, how normalised struggle became, and how her heart was trained to brace for impact instead of receiving care. She shares how her current relationship gently challenged her wounds, offering her something she never had before: safe love, consistent love, learning love, soft love.

She speaks about:

• mistaking chaos for chemistry
• confusing anxiety for connection
• why peace felt unfamiliar
• and how her partner’s presence helped her grow, heal, and redefine what love should feel like

This isn’t a fairy tale — it’s a testimony. A reminder that soft love is real, safe love is possible, and you deserve love that doesn’t require you to shrink, bleed, or fight to be chosen.

🤝 PART 2: Friendships — When Community Becomes Either Soft or Struggle Love

Love isn’t only romantic, and Thuli goes deeper by exploring friendships — the ones that felt like home, and the ones that drained her soul. She opens up about:

• friendships that were built on trauma bonding
• friendships that expected emotional labour but never gave it back
• friendships that equated loyalty with suffering
• and the power of friendships that feel soft, safe, and honest

She reflects on how friendship breakups can hurt more than romantic ones, how we outgrow even the people we love, and how choosing soft love also means choosing friendships that don’t drain your spirit.

💬 A Conversation for Anyone Relearning Love

This two-part episode gently guides listeners through:

• how to recognise when love has become struggle
• how to embrace healthy relationships without sabotaging them
• how to stop romanticising pain
• how to choose softness again and again
• and how to create a life where love doesn’t feel like survival

Filled with personal stories, emotional honesty, scriptural grounding, and gentle encouragement, this episode is for anyone healing from toxic patterns, learning to trust again, or rediscovering themselves in soft spaces.

💖 Final Message

This episode is an invitation — to release struggle love, accept safe love, nurture soft friendships, and remember:
Love will stretch you, but it should never break you.
Love will challenge you, but it should never consume you.
Love should make you better — not smaller.

Welcome to Thuli Talks. Let’s talk about when love shouldn’t hurt.

Have you ever felt like you don’t even recognize yourself anymore? Like the person you once were—full of dreams, joy, and energy—has been buried under heartbreak, stress, or life’s endless expectations? In this episode of Thuli Talks, we go deep into the raw and real feelings of losing touch with yourself. I share personal stories, spiritual reflections, and practical ways to start reconnecting with the real you, even when it feels like that person is lost forever. If you’ve been feeling empty, stuck, or unsure of who you are, this episode is for you—a safe space to sit with your feelings, heal the cracks, and take your first steps toward finding yourself again.

n this deeply introspective episode of Thuli Talks, Thuli unpacks the heavy and often unspoken reality of church trauma—the pain that comes not from God, but from the people and systems meant to represent Him. She explores how spiritual manipulation, judgment, and hypocrisy can wound the soul more deeply than the world ever could, leaving believers questioning their faith, identity, and belonging. Through honest storytelling and gentle spiritual reflection, Thuli speaks to those who’ve been shamed for their struggles, silenced for their questions, or exiled for being human. This episode invites listeners to separate faith from institution, God from guilt, and reminds us that healing doesn’t mean walking away from God—it means finding Him again, free from the walls that once confined Him.

n this raw and soul-stirring episode of Thuli Talks, Thuli dives into the emotional paradox of praying for something that’s hurting you—when your heart still longs for the very thing that’s breaking it. From toxic relationships to unfulfilled dreams, she explores the tension between faith, desire, and surrender, and how we often confuse holding on with hope. With heartfelt honesty, personal stories, and spiritual reflection, Thuli unpacks what it means to love something that God may be asking you to let go of. This episode is a reminder that sometimes divine love looks like unanswered prayers—and that letting go doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you’ve finally chosen peace over pain.

In this deeply vulnerable episode of Thuli Talks, we explore the quiet ache of grief that doesn’t expire—the kind that lingers long after the world expects you to have “moved on.” Thuli opens up about the hidden waves of loss that resurface in unexpected moments, the pressure to appear healed, and the sacred truth that some wounds are not meant to fully disappear. Through personal reflection, heartfelt storytelling, and spiritual insight, this episode reminds us that grief is not a timeline—it’s a love that changed form. Sometimes, healing isn’t about forgetting, but learning how to live with the memory in peace.