Tidbits from Liwei

I have somehow found the courage to move forward in a direction that I never in my life would have imagined I would do. I am in the final stages of establishing and registering my business in China and will soon have my business license! Eeek! I hope to bring life coaching to China – to guide people to come back to their hearts. It is very much needed. I am not sure if it will be successful or if it will go anywhere. But I don’t know unless I try right? If this venture fails, I will have no regrets for trying and if it succeeds, well then it’s something worth celebrating because it means I will have made a positive impact on Chinese culture and people. And that is worth pursuing.

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen their relationship with themselves and gently free themselves from unhelpful expectations, patterns, and fears so that they can have the life and relationships they desire. To learn more about my coaching series visit my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

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Healing isn’t about rushing to a destination where all wounds are healed, or where we’re a perfected version of ourselves. It’s about meeting ourselves where we are and accepting ourselves as we are, with all our imperfections, pain, and emotions. In this episode, I talk about myself navigating through heartbreak, lessons learned, meeting myself where I am, and keeping an open heart.

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen their relationship with themselves and gently free themselves from unhelpful expectations, patterns, and fears so that they can have the life and relationships they desire. To learn more about my coaching series visit my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

* Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy.

* Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei

Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com

My experience of dating a Chinese guy for the first time has been so different from my experiences of dating in the West. He was so wonderful and amazing in so many ways; yet, it was also heartbreaking in so many ways. Navigating a cross-cultural relationship has revealed the differences in dating norms, pace, and mindset in looking at the various factors considered when choosing a partner. Factors that are less emphasized in Western culture. Chinese culture, in particular, places a much stronger emphasis on adhering to certain family and societal expectations, which partly influenced our decision to part ways. This experience has deepened my compassion for those who may struggle to reconcile personal desires with family and cultural pressures. And strengthened my belief that it's time to move beyond outdated beliefs and practices—not just for ourselves, but for future generations as well. I envision a society where individuals have more freedom and support to choose for themselves what is truly best for their happiness, well-being, growth, and fulfillment.

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen their relationship with themselves and gently free themselves from unhelpful expectations, patterns, and fears so that they can have the life and relationships they desire. To learn more about my coaching series visit my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

* Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy.

* Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei

Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com

In our interactions with those close to us, whether we find ourselves calm or agitated is rarely because of someone else. Instead, these states often reveal something within ourselves that needs attention. Family members, romantic partners, or close friends can act as catalysts for our growth and healing, triggering responses that highlight areas where we need to look deeper.

It's natural for human beings to experience a range of emotions. Both calm and agitation play crucial roles – they are not opposites but part of the same spectrum of human experience. What's important is how we handle these states when they arise. By listening to your body and tuning into your intuition, you can learn to address your needs based on the present moment. 

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen their relationship with themselves and gently free themselves from unhelpful expectations, patterns, and fears so that they can have the life and relationships they desire. To learn more about my coaching series visit my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

* Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy.

* Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei

Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com

The crickets chirp day and night rejoicing that this summer heat is to their liking. Wuhan is unbearably hot, humid, crowded, and the traffic is terrible. It is nothing like the perfect place that I had envisioned with my reasoning mind that this is what I would come to love. Far from it. Yet quite unexpectedly, I’m crawling in love with being in China and with the people.

Happiness doesn’t come about when your reasoning mind convinces you that something is good. I’m discovering that true happiness is felt deeply in your body and heart even when it doesn’t make sense why it would be the case in your head. Soulful happiness happens when you are living in alignment with your heart. Doing so melts away all preconceived ideas of what brings you happiness that is coming from your ego. 

If you have a feeling that there might be more to life than what you’re experiencing, you might be at the cusp of thinking something in you or your life may need to change. Deep down inside, you might already know what it is. You may have thought about it a lot already. But for true change to occur, you must also take action. Perhaps you need extra support and accountability from someone who’s got your back to help you navigate through resistance and fear with gentleness and compassion. I have 2 spaces available for 1-on-1 coaching. If you are interested in working with me as your coach, please reach out to me or complete my pre-coaching questionnaire, and will be in touch with you. It would be a privilege for me to witness you and your journey. My pre-coaching questionnaire: https://alaliwei.com/precoaching-questionnaire

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen self-love and bridge intergenerational & cultural gaps, leaving them feeling more joyfully connected to themselves, to family, and to community, as well as empowered to live in greater alignment with their personal values and needs. Book a coaching series with me through my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

* Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy.

* Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei

Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com

Know that you’re not alone in facing rough patches even when you’re pursuing your biggest goals and dreams. We all go through bright sunny days and we all weather storms as part of the journey. When you pick yourself back up and keep going, it reaffirms that you still care a lot about your goal and dream. And it takes courage to go after something big and bold. It is worth all the steps, all the highs, and all the lows. And it’s easier to move forward when you know someone else has got your back.

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen self-love and bridge intergenerational & cultural gaps, leaving them feeling more joyfully connected to themselves, to family, and to community, as well as empowered to live in greater alignment with their personal values and needs. Book a coaching series with me through my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

* Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy.

* Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei

Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com

This is Purrmione. She is very curious, playful, and communicative. But she wasn’t this way when I first received her. But I gave her space to let her be. Little by little, she started to come out of her hiding place more often. It is so heart-warming seeing her feel safe to open up to me. Because now she gets to be the curious, sweet, and playful cat she was meant to be. And I have the privilege to witness and get to know her real self that she’s now showing to me.

Like animals, the most young and tender part of ourselves that may have closed up needs our gentle attention and care before it feels ready to open up and be curious to come out and play again. Holding space in this way is one of the best things we can do for ourselves and one another. Because we bloom when we are treated with the utmost gentleness, patience, encouragement, and warmth. It is also the best gift you can give to yourself.

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen self-love and bridge intergenerational & cultural gaps, leaving them feeling more joyfully connected to themselves, to family, and to community, as well as empowered to live in greater alignment with their personal values and needs. Book a coaching series with me through my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

* Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy.

* Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei

Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com

Big soul lessons can come from anywhere. 

My cousin, her friend, and I traveled through Inner Mongolia for almost 5 days. Our driver completely dispelled the judgments I had carried with me about people who live in China, showed me what matters the most to me in a relationship (not social status or money), and reminded me to stay in service from my heart and soul. He showed me that I don’t need to do anything big to make big changes. The smallest acts of pure kindness can have profound impacts. 

From the most unexpected corner of the world, a most ordinary human being has taught me lessons in the most simple, yet extraordinary way. He has been a teacher for my soul and I am humbled. I bow in deep gratitude and reverence to his beautiful soul. 

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen self-love and bridge intergenerational & cultural gaps, leaving them feeling more joyfully connected to themselves, to family, and to community, as well as empowered to live in greater alignment with their personal values and needs. Book a coaching series with me through my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

* Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy.

* Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei

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I’m here in Wuhan and China in general for an unknown period of time. It turns out I’m here to lay down some of the foundations of my life coaching business in China and spend more time living out here. The transition is uncomfortable but I'm happy and finding it in the most ordinary moments.

I invite you to also slow down and take your eyes off your screen to notice what is happening around you. Maybe it’s 2 friends walking down the street in conversation laughing together. It might not be obvious but happiness, joy, and connection can be found in the most ordinary everyday moments. Why not slow down and lift your eyes to the world around you to start to notice it?

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen self-love and bridge intergenerational & cultural gaps, leaving them feeling more joyfully connected to themselves, to family, and to community, as well as empowered to live in greater alignment with their personal values and needs. Book a coaching series with me through my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

* Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy.

* Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei

Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com

Where is play in our lives? Where and when do we get to be a child that gets to have fun, learn to laugh, learn to feel joy, learn to explore our interests, learn to discover, learn to create, and learn to be curious about more things than just what’s in the textbooks?

Play is vital to our well-being and integral to our self-love.  We are in a period of great change where we need to introduce more play into our routine, into the foundations of our culture, into our conversations, into our children’s lives. Play is the bedrock from which joy, curiosity, creativity, and innovation springs forth.

Here are ways you can support me and my work:

* I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asian millennials to deepen self-love and bridge intergenerational & cultural gaps, leaving them feeling more joyfully connected to themselves, to family, and to community, as well as empowered to live in greater alignment with their personal values and needs. Book a coaching series with me through my website: alaliwei.com

* If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing!

* Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy.

* Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei