Time-A-Rita With Senorita

I never tripped over who left cause those are the ones who I know were never down to finding a resolution for their trauma. They just wanted to be connected through trauma bonds. I done learned my lesson. I rather be solo than stressing and trying to play cards that I wasn't dealt with. Everyone who I no longer dealt with showed me their true colors in not only their actions but their words. I'm not joining nobody else's circus nor fighting nobody else's battles.

Now, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't misunderstood since my adolescence. I was the who was speaking yet being spoken over with a voice so soft. I was ridiculed for my beauty by those who felt less than and was intimidated by my deameanor . Even those who would chase me down for my attention turned out to be phony , narcissistic , abusive , and the grimiest of them all.

Many people are oblivious to mental illnesses and how it doesn't take much for some people to snap. You never know how close some people are to their breaking point. It definitely isn't easy sticking besides someone who deals with mental illnesses. It's basically like they have a war in their mind , and they can't find peace. It can be numerous things from losing a loved one , career , abuse , etc, that can cause problems and people to spiral out of control.

My faith is what has kept me. Destiny has always taken me where it was meant to. I literally helped heal and mold so many individuals when they were at their lowest. I got to the point where I said I will no longer allow people to treat me like an option, some for Now & Later. I'm not a dumpster for them to drain the joy , love , peace , and sanity out of me. We moved on accordingly. It took so many years for me to comprehend the message that God was trying to tell me. I never was much of a people person to begin with , but when you're kept to yourself, people in the mix tend to navigate toward you. When their energy doesn't align with your aura, you have to start doing the subtracting. If you allow yourself to be consumed by other people's problems , you will not have anything left to give to yourself. You will be so full of drama and baggage.

Once African Americans begin to stick together, we will be a force to be reckoned. We can not excel when we are our own worse enemies. We can not progress with a crab in a bucket mentality. It really doesn't matter what other ethnic groups think as long as we all know our worth. We all have to share this planet , so we may as well live in unity , peace , and spread love and joy like pixie dust.

May you be the love you always craved in this chaotic society. I always knew that I was born to create and spread love like a wildfire. Everything that the Devil thought could break me only made me stronger and more equipped to withstand any obstacle life has thrown at me. I am protected from my head down to my feet.

I may be biased , but I hope my children focus on themselves and their goals. It's not a crime to be single and live your best life. It's better than being manipulated and walked all over like a doormat. I know firsthand that people are disappointing. You should always ask people straightforward what they want from you. If they can not be honest , that's red flag number one. If their family dismiss their toxic behavior and attitude , then that's toxic trait number two. If their friends know that they're physically , verbally , mentally , emotionally , or financially abusive , then there's all you need to know. You have to know that you're a queen , and you don't ever have to settle. You have to know that you're a king , and you don't have to be in the "market," as they say to experience genuine love and connections.

Believe in yourself even if you don't have a support system. There will always be people ready to project their own insecurities onto you. You can't let it deter your path to success. You really have to know your worth , and stop surrounding yourself around people who partake in foolishness. Life will pass you by.

I learned early on what it was like to be manipulated. I won't go into detail , but you really have to know that you are worthy of the love and praise that you give others. It was not easy watching firsthand growing up how narcissistic some people can be. Some people will drain you , but it will only work if you allow it. You have to know how to use reverse psychology. It is one way you won't be taken advantage of. Another is to never ever have your bank account connected nor lend money to people cause of some sob story , because too often will people do some grimey things for money. Lastly , a wise woman once told me not to tell the person you are dating everything about you and your loved ones. You never really know peoples' intentions even if there are YEARS behind the relationship and friendship. Please instill these things into your children. They could be taken advantage of, too. In the world that we live in, you are not unlikely to deal with these things.

I started my podcast during the pandemic. I hope this message reaches who needs to reach. Don't be afraid to be your authentic self. Once you own your power, you will definitely rise above the drama , chaos , negativity , etc. You won't be programmed nor remain stagnant.