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本期嘉宾：Nick

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1:06｜在洛杉矶的时尚公关体验

04:47｜进入时尚行业的起源

08:24｜时尚不是“穿Prada的女魔头”

13:55｜在LA工作后的好莱坞时尚滤镜碎了吗？

22:22｜时尚行业是女性和LGBTQ群体的行业吗？

24:25｜为什么要根据我的外表定义我是谁

32:53｜时尚=奢侈品？时尚是一种文化

36:50｜时尚文化是大众文化

40:51｜最喜欢的奢品品牌是？

42:17｜对于时尚业的一些期待

配乐

Eduardo Fernandez, English Chamber Orchestra,George Malcolm - Concerto for Lute, 2 Violins and Continuo in D major, RV 93：2. Largo

本期嘉宾：气气&豆豆

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1:49｜亲身体验的性别歧视

4:56｜传统男女家庭分工的悖论

7:37｜“国男”怎么就变成贬义词了

14:50｜男性和女性面对的世界都是不一样的

18:24｜试图理解的男性终究穿不上女性的“鞋”

26:33｜生活中的方头明们是一生精打细算的少年

37:10｜亲密关系中男性的主导权

42:03｜女性眼中的男性自信

48:19｜突然解开了之前提到过的女性主义困惑：提倡女性不做家庭主妇是道德的吗？

50:10｜理想中的男性：一个女的

配乐

Eduardo Fernandez, English Chamber Orchestra,George Malcolm - Concerto for Lute, 2 Violins and Continuo in D major, RV 93：2. Largo

本期嘉宾：

泥扣

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02:14｜天才钢琴生泥扣漫长被“PUA”的历史

12:27｜音乐专业是钱砸出来的

21:16｜钢琴家天生的起点已经远超出其他人一生的极限

26:57｜音专老师的“绝对权力”让人心情复杂

34:13｜曾老师、刘MJ，抖音上那些音乐学院的段子是真的吗？

39:34｜东亚教学法让东亚学生自洽了

48:19｜音乐是超脱语言的存在：希望大家多听好音乐

59:32｜被我录坏了的泥扣老师肖邦演奏 (sorry

配乐

伍佰 & China Blue - 再度重相逢

大貫妙子 - 若き日の望楼 （年轻时眺望的楼台）

Lana Del Rey - Take me home, Country Roads

張懸 - 藍天白雲

结尾钢琴片段

Chopin Nocturne No.9 in B Major, Op.32, No.1

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0:00-2:34｜有史以来人最多的开场

5:07-14:37｜第2期-夏树：改变是悲观的希望

14:38-22:15｜第3期-LSE女子聚会：爱是无解的命题

22:16-31:07｜第4期-郑姐：这是一个很低级的行业吗难道

31:08-35:06｜第5期-Michelle：我是自由勇敢留学生

35:07-40:32｜第6期-鸡翅：香港是一场潮湿的梦

40:33-48:53｜断层第一第7期-韬韬：我们没这么喜欢芭比

48:54-58:05｜在美Episodes：MBTI、活一天算一天；热爱与陈冠希&我们不断被塑造的月经。谢谢Charlie、DueDue，艾伦老师、葫芦可可和思思。

58:06-01:00:36｜7号一年后谢谢大家

01:00:37｜私心收藏能播的各花絮片段

配乐

早西 - 长颈鹿去动物园看长颈鹿

Victor Butzelaar - Blossom

Victor Butzelaar - The Bird

张悬 - 亲爱的

7号再次谢谢大家。

本期嘉宾：葫芦 可可 思思

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0:00-1:20｜好久不见的开场

1:21-6:14｜月经初潮故事和早期发育认知

6:15-13:29｜常伴我们的痛经、巨量出血和月经不调

13:30-17:25｜为了月经吃过的药：包括但不限于止疼片

17:26-20:28｜月经真的会带来生活困扰

20:29-22:17｜学生时期潦草的生理教育

22:18-27:08｜对新型卫生产品的“望而却步”

27:09-29:36｜亚洲人经期怎么有那么多做不了的事

29:37-36:27｜PMS（经前综合征）：暴饮暴食和极端无理由情绪化

36:28-45:09｜不同形态的月经羞耻

45:10-48:18｜卫生巾你再卖这么贵试试看

48:19-53:51｜拥有子宫我就得使用它吗

53:52-58:16｜有没有避孕措施，担惊受怕的还是女性

58:17-1:01:10｜7号的latest月经分享和结尾独白

1:01:11｜结尾阅读时间（《闭经记》）

配乐

祁紫檀 - 小城女孩

甜約翰 Sweet John - 后遗症

张悬 - Love, New Year.

结尾阅读片段

《闭经记》，伊藤比吕美

本期嘉宾：艾伦

小红书：@艾伦不想起名字

主播公众号：7号发言

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1:01-9:46｜Behind the scenes：我真的请来了陈冠希

9:59-15:17｜割裂的“热爱”：我们为什么会开始热爱一件事

15:18-19:50｜热爱与回报率

19:51-21:57｜发展passion成为事业的核心因素：命中注定的机遇

22:06-28:11｜skill比passion更重要吗

28:16-33:28｜passion的迷惑性：我们是不是在自欺欺人

33:37-37:37｜找到自己的热爱：放低期待，给自己更多机会

38:52-45:42｜没有passion好过addicted to it

45:43-46:47｜没有时间是被浪费的，它们为我不同维度的人生丰富了履历

46:56-51:43｜热爱是无法一较高下的奢侈品，找到了它就是你的宝藏

51:44-55:39｜passion是一趟公交车

56:04-59:56｜7号更长一些的结尾发言

1:00:12｜文章阅读时间

配乐

陈冠希 - 记得我吗

Bill Withers - Just The Two Of Us

张婉清 - 在意识里过一生

陈奕迅 - Shall We Talk (Tre Lune MMXIX)

结尾阅读片段

《候场》，李诞

本期嘉宾

美国传媒博士在读未来大放异彩但如今火烧眉毛赶due的 DueDue

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0:42-10:25｜为什么我们坚定地走上（或者不走上）这条学术道路——“我不后悔”

10:26-16:03｜人很难不陷入互相比较的境地

16:04-18:57｜人生是在围城之间进进出出

18:58-26:49｜坚定自己道路的信念由碰壁产生

26:50-33:01｜gap year让我们更明白自己要什么

33:02-36:15 | 机运是一种指引

36:16-41:53｜我如何define自己的成功（“你tm才商业性成功” cr. 孟京辉）

41:54-51:50｜成功的关键：别想着同时成为两种人，别想着永远只做一种人

51:58-56:09｜出于对现实的躲避，所以要读个phd吗？

56:10-57:57｜“追随自己的心，是会有好报的”

58:10-1:00:50｜结尾7号的sum up

1:01:01-｜DueDue给老朋友们的话，也正是我想说的

配乐

Coldplay - Viva La Vida

Coldplay - O

Coldplay - Don't Panic

Coldplay - Fix You

补充信息

林老师：林芬 （www.fenjlin.com）

ins: @lin.and.bai.studio

本期嘉宾：Charlie

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0:00-1:14｜激情Intro

1:15-3:21｜MBTI是从哪冒出来的

3:22-5:20｜我们没那么“ISFJ”了

5:21-22:47｜为I人发声：“关我什么事”和“关你什么事”

22:48-30:58｜T人和F人的巅峰对决

30:59-36:04｜P人的那些事，J人光听就已经焦虑了

36:05-40:26｜伦敦上学一年，我直接从大S变成大N

40:27-46:05｜请你随意标签化我

46:06-48:36｜我们的出厂设置会是什么MBTI

48:37-52:36｜Close：我不再寻找全部的、真实的自我

52:37-56:13｜结尾文章阅读时间：Authenticity Under Fire

配乐

Lvyan - Take Me Away

Jasing Rye - Cerf-volant

渡辺雅二 - Verdurous Mountains

结尾阅读片段

Scott Barry Kauffman, "Authenticity Under Fire,"Scientific American, 14 June 2019, https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/beautiful-minds/authenticity-under-fire/

Another thorny issue is measurement. Virtually all measures of authenticity involve self-report measures. However, people often do not know what they are really like or why they actually do what they do. So a test that asks people to report how authentic they are is unlikely to be a truly accurate measure of their authenticity.

Perhaps the thorniest issue of them all though is the entire notion of the real self. The humanistic psychotherapist Carl Rogers noted that many people who seek psychotherapy are plagued by the question: “Who am I, really?” While people spend so much time searching for their real self, the stark reality is that all of the aspects of your mind are part of you. It’s virtually impossible to think of any intentional behavior that does not reflect some genuine part of your psychological makeup, whether it’s your dispositions, attitudes, values or goals.

This creates a real problem for the scientific investigation of a concept such as authenticity. As Katrina Jongman-Sereno and Mark Leary conclude in their recent article “The Enigma of Being Yourself,”

“Given the complexity of people’s personalities, two seemingly incompatible actions might both be highly self-congruent. People are simply too complex, multifaceted and often conflicted for the concept of a unitary true self to be a useful standard for assessing authenticity, either in oneself or in others.”

So what is this true self that people are always talking about? Once you take a closer scientific examination, it seems that what people refer to as their “true self” really is just the aspects of themselves that make them feel the best about themselves. All around the world, people show an authenticity positivity bias: people include their most positive and moral qualities—such as kind, giving and honest—in their descriptions of their true self. People judge their positive behaviors as more authentic than their negative behaviors even when both behaviors are consistent with their personal characteristics and desires.

....

After all, I do believe there is within each of us best selves—aspects of who you are that are healthy, creative, and growth-oriented, and make you feel most connected to yourself and to others. I would argue that getting in touch with your best selves and intentionally actualizing your most creative, growth-oriented and potentialities is a much more worthy goal than spending your entire life trying to find your one true self. In my view, there is such a thing as healthy authenticity.

本期嘉宾：韬韬

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0:00-1:49｜7 号真诚的独白 opening

1:50-2:42｜在烧鸟店和大家打个招呼

2:43-20:42｜“这世界上能把女权主义 跟你分成二乘二矩阵的人屈指可数”

20:43-24:47｜我对激进女权主义的躲避出于躲避“男女对立”

24:48-26:17｜重要！支持女性我们最力所能及且行之有效的事是什么

26:18-33:17｜直男直女的友谊是可能的吗？

33:18-43:28｜女人可太难了：（中国）父权制下女权进退维谷的境地

43:29-48:28｜我们对芭比有一些严厉的评价

48:29-53:48｜如果还有下辈子，你愿意做女性还是男性？

53:49-55:19｜父权制最TOXIC 的产物之一：男性的占有欲

55:20-57:29｜男性为什么应该支持女权主义

57:30-1:02:46｜为什么我要找一个男人聊女性

1:02:47-1:04:54｜7 号更加真诚的独白 close

1:04:55-1:08:03｜结尾女权主义学术文章片段阅读时间（原文见shownote）

配乐

liana flores - rises the moon

大五度Major_Fifth - 秋日（ft. Junny@瀚海澜汐）

祁紫檀 - 女子力乐园（原曲+伴奏）

大野雄二 - Epilogue -Sunrise

结尾阅读片段

Lorde, A. (2021). Age, Race, Class, and Sex: Women Redefining Difference. In J. Arthur & A. Shapiro (Eds.),Campus Wars(1st ed., pp. 191–198). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9780429038556-22

By and large within the women's movement today, white women focus upon their oppression as women and ignore differences of race, sexual preference, class, and age. There is a pretense to a homogeneity of experience covered by the word sisterhood that does not in fact exist. （P192）

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But our future survival is predicated upon our ability to relate within equality. As women, we must root out internalized patterns of oppression within ourselves if we are to move beyond the most superficial aspects of social change. Now we must recognize differences among women who are our equals, neither inferior nor superior, and devise ways to use each others' difference to enrich our visions and our joint struggles. The future of our earth may depend upon the ability of all women to identify and develop new definitions of power and new patterns of relating across difference. The old definitions have not served us, nor the earth that supports us. The old patterns, no matter how cleverly rearranged to imitate progress, still condemn us to cosmetically altered repetitions of the same old exchanges, the same old guilt, hatred, recrimination, lamentation, and suspicion. For we have, built into all of us, old blueprints of expectation and response, old structures of oppression, and these must be altered at the same time as we alter the living conditions which are a result of those structures. For the master's tools will never dismantle the master's house. As Paulo Freire shows so well in The Pedagogy of the Oppressed, the true focus of revolutionary change is never merely the oppressive situations which we seek to escape, but that piece of the oppressor which is planted deep within each of us, and which knows only the oppressors' tactics, the oppressors'relationships. Change means growth, and growth can be painful. But we sharpen self-definition by exposing the self in work and struggle together with those whom we define as different from ourselves, although sharing the same goals. For Black and white, old and young, lesbian and heterosexual women alike, this can mean new paths to our survival.

We have chosen each other

and the edge of each others battles

the war is the same

if we lose

someday women's blood will congeal

upon a dead planet

if we win

there is no telling

we seek beyond history

for a new and more possible meeting.

（P198）

本期嘉宾：鸡翅

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本期没有收听地图。

同样地，没有独白结束语，也没有小诗阅读环节。

回国第二天，我和鸡翅只是像以前一样在歌和老街，学校的hi-bye桥下这样草率地开始了这期播客。没定好主题，没组织好语言，没选合适的场地。就像标题所说，这只是两个大学的好朋友在毕业两年后回到学校的一次夜聊记录。但出于种种原因，我们上次这样一起说话是在2019年的4月。

我们说了很多大学的东西，香港的东西；各自毕业后的变化，对自己的一些收获和思考。所以这期内容是非常自我的一期播客，和“不沉溺过往经历”的出发点背道而驰。我说不出我想表达的是什么，或者对听众来说能有什么信息上的、精神上的补充和帮助。或许我只是想任性地寻找更多聆听者。或者我只是想表达自己。

在这里我用了很多海浪的声音，是前一天我们在长洲岛录的，鸡翅说可以放在播客里很好听。音乐用的大部分是王家卫电影的原声带，cr《重庆森林》和《堕落天使》。最后树妮妮的那首歌，是我在香港除了《油尖旺金毛玲》听得最多的一首歌。“最後我亦要離開這裡”，是我默念过无数遍的话。

感激所有经历。感激相遇。

“我们讲个乐呵儿，大家听得开心。”

配乐

陈勋奇-残酷仙境节奏

陈勋奇-Flying Pickets

Serrini樹妮妮 - 其实我...(Shit I cried版)