Hello, my fellow failures! Today I talk about my struggles and thoughts around what Brenè Brown talks about on the Tim Ferriss show pertaining to "letting go of your armor". We all have shields, walls, and armor that we walk around with that have saved us from pain and hurt in the past, but as we grow it tends to hold us back eventually. As we try to move on and be a better version of ourselves what we used to get us there no longer serves us. I have struggled with it and I know some others have too. 

Links: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wh5SUF0gPWQ&t=2194s

https://brenebrown.com/

https://tim.blog/

https://www.tofailgreatly.com/

My Youtube:

https://youtu.be/-Ic0L3kuyWA

Hello, my fellow failures! This episode has a special guest my friend and co-worker Louis Chavez. We get to talk about relationships, love, family, and the expectations that come with those as we get older. Louis is a great artist and all-around fun that I am glad to call my friend and thank him for being on my podcast. 

Links:

https://nukebeach.bigcartel.com/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GgBpyNsS-jU

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2958669/

Hello, my fellow failures!

I get asked all the time "Kiko, how did you become such an amazing failure? How did you effectively navigate away from solid advice and learn to listen to every wrong answer that comes into your head?" Well, mom, I would like you to know it wasn't just a quick fix or large leap to the cesspool of failing. I, unlike other people, chose on a daily basis to be or not to be a fuck up. Somedays I did worse than others which is kind of a win, but on most days I was average.

People who actually know what the fuck they are saying:

Making Better Decision Scholarly Articles

http://bit.ly/38nMq3Z

5 Tips for Better Decision Making | Psychology Today

http://bit.ly/2XkqjFl

The Mechanics of Choice – Association for Psychological Science – APS

http://bit.ly/3bkhqnj

Hello, my fellow failures!

You know when I was just a rookie fuck up I used to think I could just muscle my way through any issue. I thought that any pain and emotional hurt that I had could just be buried and pushed deep down in my stomach for later Kiko to deal with. The Kiko that had the money for a therapist or designer drugs. I knew that my mental health wasn't great (and that's underselling it), and that I would eventually have to literally pay for it. However, after years of avoidance and hair loss, I learned that the one thing that could have helped me the entire time was free of charge and could have been done almost anywhere (please don't do it while driving)- Mediation. So with that in mind and no formal training what so ever, I wanted to dedicate this episode and more like it to mindful meditation. Today's session will be a guided visual meditation that I didn't invent, but put my own spin on. Please enjoy!

People who know more than this fucking Padwan: 

Meditation and the Neuroscience of Consciousness-https://bit.ly/3882qH2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8rRzTtP7Tc

https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2018/04/harvard-researchers-study-how-mindfulness-may-change-the-brain-in-depressed-patients/

Hello, my fellow failures! 

Well, I think it's safe to say that I am in the position I am because I just didn't see things through. Although there can be an argument for the recession having a hand, I will take most of the blame because I never finished what I started. Have you had this problem? Have you seen that you too can't seem to finish? 

People who know what the fuck they are talking about: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creating-in-flow/201402/5-ways-finish-what-you-start-and-why-you-often-dont

https://medium.com/@Jude.M/read-this-if-you-struggle-with-finishing-things-you-start-a0fdaa83aa6a

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/254731324_Memory_for_incomplete_tasks_A_re-examination_of_the_Zeigarnik_effect

Hello, my fellow failures! 

You ever have something come up that just sucks? Doesn't matter how you feel about it no if, ands, or buts you are going to have to go through it and it just pisses you off? And no matter how hard you try it just ruins the mood until it's over with? I dealt with this same scenario over and over again until I finally figured out how to just let the shit go and not let my future pain affect my current happiness. 

People who know their shit: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201705/how-stop-worrying-about-things-you-cant-change

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6675025/

https://www.interaction-design.org/literature/article/the-illusion-of-control-you-are-your-worst-enemy

Hello, my fellow failures! 

I can honestly say that I have always waited until the last minute to do anything. I used to say that it was because that's when I best operated and had the most creative, but really, I was just a procrastinator.  And that went for health, fitness...relationships. I seemed to wait until I had no other choice and then I would do it. I thought it was working, but if I am being honest (and that's what this is all about) I knew it wasn't and still did it anyway. I needed to learn how to make new habits and break old ones before they were a problem. 

People who know what the fuck they are talking about: 

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Wander_Jager/publication/251477649_Breaking_'bad_habits'_a_dynamical_perspective_on_habit_formation_and_change/links/0deec53b4f882d03b0000000/Breaking-bad-habits-a-dynamical-perspective-on-habit-formation-and-change.pdf

https://elemental.medium.com/the-psychological-concepts-that-make-you-better-at-breaking-bad-habits-9b9b1a8227e9

https://addictions.psych.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/160/2019/01/CAR-Neurobiology-of-Craving-Current-Findings-and-New-Directions.pdf

Hello, my fellow failures! 

This is just a quick intro to the podcast where I explain what and why I am doing the podcast. Hope you enjoy it! 

Hello, my fellow failures! 

Today we are going to discuss the Kobyashi Meru. No, just kidding, but we are going to learn about the impossible tasks I was given as a child to keep me busy and give my parents some space away from me. And as it turns out it taught me a valuable lesson in coping with an impossible task and learning from defeat. 

People who know their shit:

https://www.brendanreid.com/blog-1/how-to-overcome-an-impossible-task

https://www.liquidplanner.com/blog/learn-failure-success-lessons-kobayashi-maru/

https://leadwithhonor.com/2011/03/20/leaders-you-cant-always-win-facing-the-no-win-scenario/

https://moz.com/learn/seo/dare-to-fail-how-the-best-lessons-come-in-the-form-of-defeat-mozcon-2014