Hello, my fellow failures! 

In this pod we discuss my inability to let go of hate and anger. I used to think it was something that I controlled, but it wasn't. Don't let hate consume you. Don't let your emotions get the best of you. Don't think that it's only a one-way handshake. 

People who actually know their shit: 

http://psychmatters.co.za/newsletters/hatred-hurts

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/letting-go-of-anger_n_6438072#:~:text=Holding%20onto%20anger%20could%20hurt%20your%20heart.&text=A%20study%20published%20by%20the,Men's%20Health%20reported%20in%202013.

https://www.mindful.org/give-up-the-grudge/

https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/12-steps-to-overcoming-bitterness.htm

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCx9z_STKi6rZdff7l54QVVw

Hello, my fellow failures! 

In this pod we get to talk about my struggle, struggling made things way worse. Yes, there are hardships and bad times, but compounding that with negative thought doesn't help it and in fact, can make it worse. 

People who know their shit: 

http://www.wanterfall.com/Wf7Anatomy3.htm

https://www.nami.org/Personal-Stories/Depression-is-Like-Going-Down-the-Rabbit-Hole

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-addiction-connection/201506/the-deep-dark-hole-depression

https://meteoreducation.com/how-does-thinking-positive-thoughts-affect-neuroplasticity/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lCE4BygCUtw&feature=emb_logo

Hello, my fellow failures! 

This time on the pod I talk about my lack of direction and how that lead me to my current state (which is nowhere), how I recognized it, how I have overcome it, and how I am using my fear for me now.  

People who know their shit: 

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/13-steps-stick-the-life-changes-you-want-make.html

http://www.bombchelle.com/2012/planning-pitfalls/

https://thedecisionlab.com/insights/health/might-not-sticking-plans/

https://www.ted.com/talks/ari_wallach_3_ways_to_plan_for_the_very_long_term?language=en

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzW2iKd-ITM 

Hello, my fellow failures! 

In this podcast, we (for once there is we) talk about perfectionism. How it has affected us, what it means to us, and why we should let it go. My guest is none other than my amazing and loving wife. She happily agreed to be on the pod and is still willing to stay with me after, so please enjoy. 

People who know more than we do: 

 https://www.apa.org/monitor/nov03/manyfaces

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1877042811019045#:~:text=The%20results%20indicate%20that%20significant,and%20positive%20and%20negative%20perfectionism.&text=On%20the%20other%20hand%2C%20Insecure,positively%20associated%20with%20negative%20perfectionism.

https://bltblog.fhlfoundation.org/2010/07/14/dark-side-of-perfectionism-revealed-by-attachment-theory/

Hello, My fellow failures! Hangovers are a part of life, right? No. Look I love a drink or two like any other person, but always consider what alcohol is taking from you as it gives you "relief". This isn't a moral high ground story. I still drink, but I am not an obsessive drinker. My body eventually figured out how to tell me that I was being stupid and showed me.  Alcohol steals happiness form the next day. So choose how much time you are willing to lose to that vice. 

People Who actually know what the fuck they are talking about: 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4065474/

https://pbswisconsin.org/watch/university-place/university-place-worlds-second-most-popular-drug/?&utm_source=email&utm_medium=social-media&utm_campaign=addtoany

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6826824/

What's up my fellow failures! Sometimes you just have to reach deep down inside yourself and let whatever is bothering you go. It's tough so sometimes you just have to tell yourself to Let It The Fuck Go to get over it. So when ever you need to or feel the desire, listen to this and LTFG with the rest of your fellow failures. 

Warning- I think I accidentally went for the world record of F-Bombs in a single podcast. 

People who actually know what the fuck they are talking about: 

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/317916073_The_Psychology_of_Letting_Go

https://youtu.be/nirKw3mWB3I

Hello, my fellow failures! Are you constantly putting others before you? Are you obsessively doing things for others? Stop. Stop breaking your back for those who would not do the same for you. Stop avoiding yourself. Helping others is always good, but helping those who wouldn't help themselves or you only leads to more pain. So stop!

People who actually know what the fuck they are talking about:

https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0151588

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201304/can-men-and-women-be-just-friends

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBoOEbwgStw 

What's up my fellow failures! On any journey, there are ups and downs. Even with self-improvement, there are times you aren't the happiness you want to be. And that is ok! You don't always have to be happy or thankful. Yes, find something to be happy and thankful about, but you don't have to force it. Being happy and loving yourself isn't about denial or squashing the bad things, it's about learning the balance between good and bad because they will always be there. 

People who actually know what the fuck they are talking about:

https://www.psychalive.org/should-you-feel-or-flee-your-emotions/

https://pro.psychcentral.com/the-five-types-of-avoidance/#:~:text=Cognitive%20avoidance,that%20feel%20unpleasant%20or%20overwhelming.

https://youtu.be/EKy19WzkPxE

Short cut of full episode about fear getting in the way of your dreams.

People who know what they are talking about:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3595162/

https://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/appi.ajp.2016.16030353

https://youtu.be/ZidGozDhOjg

What type of momentum are you using? Negativity, Complaining, and Positivity have different types of momentum. Is it holding you back? Is it keeping you anchored? Or does it propel you forward? Choose your momentum wisely.

People who know what they are talking about:

https://linktr.ee/Failgreatly

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inviting-monkey-tea/201904/negative-thinking-dangerous-addiction

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_X0mgOOSpLU

http://selfdeterminationtheory.org/SDT/documents/2000_RyanDeci_IntExtDefs.pdf

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-path-passionate-happiness/201911/five-questions-help-you-let-go