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There are times in life when we have to go through some very challenging moments and maybe we don’t know how to overcome those challenges. In part 2 of this episode, Jodi talks with our guest Hadassah Hazan, who shares her experience with TFMR (termination for medical reasons) of a wanted pregnancy. This enlightening episode can really help you or someone you know, to deal with those hard times and know that you are not alone.

About our Guest:
Hadassah Hazan is a coach and counselor, specializing in disordered eating, body image issues, addictions, and low self-esteem. Besides her private practice, she has worked for various organizations which support vulnerable and marginalized young people in both the UK and Israel. Hadassah lives in Jerusalem and is married with two children.

Show Notes:
2:49 Supporting someone going through infertility/miscarriage
"Predominantly just say to them, something like, Wow, that must be so hard for you, [...] you know, I'm so sorry you went through that... your truth I mean that's what you're thinking well that's tough..."

6:04 Hadassa's IVF experience and complications during her pregnancy
"She said to me, Look, I want you to go and eat something [...] sugary come back and I want to like just look up your baby again. So I'm in a candy bar and came back and the baby was moving which was really good, but she kept on looking at the brain, and she said, look, there seems to be some sort of fluid or something on the brain. I'm just the technician, I want you to come back and see a doctor."

13:17 Triploidy diagnosis and TFMR
"Thank God I went through this because if I just had like... she just gone. If I've just been pregnant one day and then not pregnant the next day, I would not have had the experience of being able to hold her. I can hold her and I could like pray over her and I could love her and talk to her, [...] and is everything that I needed to do."

15:58 Overcoming grief and depression
"...And there was so much sadness, I did trauma therapy I knew that I needed to talk about it I did therapy. Also, I reached out like I just innately knew I needed to talk about this with my friends and I allowed them to help me I allowed people to bring me food, and take care of me. And thank God, my mom was allowed into Israel."

20:17 What if you were dealing with depression alone?
"What happened with her was not related to my fertility stuff completely unrelated. It was bad luck, this genetic thing that happened to her, it's not anything to do with my genetics or my husband's genetics, it is very very rare bad luck, and the fact that I had already done all the IVF and all that kind of thing, it is just had nothing to do with each other."

27:47 Look out for yourself and reach out for help
"...if you're somebody who's going through something like I have and need more support, like firstly I can just be nonjudgmental for sure, but also again, I have a wellspring thank God, of amazing resources and like support networks and things to read and groups to join and all kind of things that I didn't know about until people told me about them..."

Support Links:
https://iwassupposedtohaveababy.org/organizations
https://iwassupposedtohaveababy.org/resources

Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Hadassah Hazan
Editor: Orlando Diaz

There are times in life when we have to go through some very challenging moments and maybe we don’t know how to overcome those challenges. In this episode, Jodi talks with our guest Hadassah Hazan, who shares with us some of the processes she went through and how she dealt with many difficulties trying to conceive a baby. This enlightening episode can really help you or someone you know, to deal with those hard times and know that you are not alone.

About our Guest:
Hadassah Hazan is a coach and counselor, specializing in disordered eating, body image issues, addictions, and low self-esteem. Besides her private practice, she has worked for various organizations which support vulnerable and marginalized young people in both the UK and Israel. Hadassah lives in Jerusalem and is married with two children.

Show Notes:
6:01 Hadassa's Introduction

10:00 Hadassah's infertility process and early treatment
" I was told that I might have difficulty conceiving, naturally, but again when you're like 20 or 21. It feels very abstract, and I thought no, that's not going to happen... it's fine, I'm gonna take these pills for, like, a few months, my periods are gonna come back, it's fine. [...] and it just really didn't click that it was like an actual thing"

15:17 What caused her condition?
"My condition is described [...] as anomalous; there's no reason for it. So sometimes it can be brought on by different traumas, and different like other medical conditions, there was no real reason why in my teen years, my system just stopped..."

16:00 Discussing her condition with her husband
"I actually had an appointment. I had a checkup to check my hormone levels, and I felt like it was a good time to tell him, he was really great about it [...] he said to me, like, can I come with you to the appointment because then maybe I can ask the doctor questions."

18:44  What is IUI (Intrauterine Insemination)?
"So I was injecting medication into myself, and I think I had pills as well at that point, and you go for blood tests and ultrasound several times a week, and then when they see that your follicles are big enough, they will make you ovulate with another injection, and then with IUI, they will inject your partner's sperm into you."

20:38 Going through a miscarriage
"So I went home and was just very sad [...] and I still haven't miscarried and so I went back to the hospital, and I was like, You need to give me a DNC, and I spent a day in the hospital and then just sent home and then eventually like two days later they said I could come back and I had a DNC, which is where they, you know, they put you to sleep and they remove, you know, miscarriage."

24:27 Hadassah's advice for people going through infertility/miscarriage
"In those moments when you're in the hospital and you just need to get things done, I guess my advice would be to try to be as brave as you can be. Don't leave until you have what you want, and what you want might be to see a doctor and to be checked again..."

29:31 Supporting someone going through infertility/miscarriage
"Predominantly just say to them, something like, Wow, that must be so hard for you, [...] you know, I'm so sorry you went through that... your truth I mean that's what you're thinking well that's tough..."

Support Links:
https://iwassupposedtohaveababy.org/organizations
https://iwassupposedtohaveababy.org/resources

Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Hadassah Hazan
Editor: Orlando Diaz

Today, Jodi speaks with Dr Robyn Koslowitz of Targeting Parenting. We all experience trauma at some point or another. Since an individual’s life experiences affect one’s current status, it is crucial to ensure that your parenting is stemming from an authentic place that does not carry too much baggage. Additionally, it is important to be on the lookout for the potential of your child’s emotions manifesting in negative ways and avoiding ways in which your parenting can lead to sensitive outcomes on behalf of your child(ren). 

About Our Guest:
Dr. Robyn Koslowitz is a clinical psychologist, parenting educator, and the host of the Post-Traumatic Parenting podcast. Dr. Koslowitz received her master’s degree in School Psychology from New York University in 2002, and her Ph.D. in School/Clinical Child Psychology from New York University in 2009. Dr. Koslowitz has been working as a licensed school psychologist since 2002, and as a licensed clinical psychologist since 2017 (NJ License # 5751). While at NYU, Dr. Koslowitz was privileged to serve as a research assistant to such prominent professors as Dr. Ester Buchholz (author of books on child psychotherapy); Dr. Carol Gilligan (whose book In A Different Voice revolutionized the psychology of women and adolescent girls) and Dr. Sandee McClowry (whose research on Temperament Based Teaching and Parenting pioneered empirically validated temperament based parenting programs).

Show Notes:
5:55: Childhood trauma and its effects on parenting
“Just because you've been traumatized by a childhood experience doesn't mean you had quote, unquote bad or abusive parents”

9:30: Advice to parents
“If you have the luxury to free yourself up to be a parent, meaning that if there is a trauma that you've never really dealt with, if there's an experience or something that's still bugging you that something that like you haven't fully gotten over, do what you can to deal with that experience, get yourself into a really healthy good place” 

14:30: Overcoming a behavioral tendency that may be stemming from trauma
“Journaling about it, thinking about it, perhaps getting therapy about it, reading the trauma literature, getting to sort of know the trauma world, and thinking it through … A lot of post traumatic parents come into therapy, thinking like ‘oh I came out of this unscathed, I had this really traumatic childhood, but I'm really fine' ”

17:40: Being aware of and supporting your child’s potential trauma
“It's our job to get in there, young, and foster that relationship as best we can. We want our kids to know things like: no matter what happens, no matter what trouble you get into, you can always come talk to me about it and I will hear you out” 

20:30 Toy-hacking
“When we play with someone else, our brains are actually in attunement. And research actually shows ... if a child plays with a parent, their brainwaves are in sync with each other” 

Post-Traumatic Parenting is both a podcast and social media community for parents who have ever asked themselves: How can I give my children a normal childhood, if mine was anything but? Or perhaps, our childhood was lovely, but through recent events their lives have left us reeling. After all, since Covid, we’re all Post-Traumatic Parents now! 

Dr. Koslowitz goes Live on Instagram every Monday night at 7PM EST, with Dr. K’s Story Club, and also goes live on Thursday nights at 9PM EST with Therapy Thursday.

Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Dr. Robyn Koslowitz
Editor: Matt Feiler

In this episode, Rachel Welfeld, relationship coach and emotional wound healer, talks with Jodi about addressing our children's challenging behaviors. This includes focusing on exploring how your own emotional wounds affect the way you relate to your child(ren). Rachel also provides practical strategies and tips regarding ways to deal with a child's challenging behavior so that calmness and harmony can be present within the home and family dynamic

Are you a mom with a dream? Maybe that dream is to be present with your children when they come home from school each day...Or maybe it's to start a business, write a book, run a marathon, or just plain get in shape! If you have a dream and want to gain some traction in a supportive community with a ton of accountability, Journey's is for you! Journeys Mentorship for Jewish Women is an 8 - week journey of self-love, radical possibility, and strategy that supports you in achieving your dreams!
Learn more at Journeys — Love. Adventure. Mom.

Show Notes:
6:30 Rachel's Definition of Geulah (Redemption)

7:42 How to Address Challenging Behaviors?
"So I would say when addressing challenging behaviors, there are two things, there's addressing the child in their challenging behavior, and there's addressing myself in the moment of the challenging behavior [...] I mean in the moments I succeed in doing it."

11:23 How does challenging behavior looks like in Rachel's experience
"What I do my best to do what I'm doing right when I'm not losing it, is to lay in bed with him at night and talk to him about what's going on for him [...] What do you think what's going on?"

13:55 The process to have an open relationship with your child
"First of all seeking what's a comfortable space for your child and you to have this conversation [...] where you just take them out and say I just wanted to talk to you..."

"This is gonna be about us talking in a loving way to each other [...] I really want to understand your heart more I don't know that if I've taken the time to understand your heart..."

17:28 Codewords to keep calm
“...Also, we have codewords that we make up during the safe time, sometimes they work sometimes they don't [...] there are some things that we agree on that will help calm him and we have some words that he can say to me…”

Connect with Rachel:
Email:[email protected]

Free Gift:
30 Minute Consult Call | Email Rachel to Sign up for Your Call at [email protected]

Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Rachel Welfeld
Editor: Orlando Diaz

Being able to properly define your boundary is a crucial step in growing one’s esteem, and empowerment. As moms we want to make sure that our children are protected and have the tools to defend themselves both physically and emotionally. Today, Jodi speaks with Jackie Hyman, the founder of Queenrise Power Training. Jackie shares her definitions of empowerment self defense and how her work ties in with helping other women find their inner strength.

Are you a mom with a dream? Maybe that dream is to be present with your children when they come home from school each day...Or maybe it's to start a business, write a book, run a marathon, or just plain get in shape! If you have a dream, and want to gain some traction in a supportive community with a ton of accountability, Journey's is for you! Journeys Mentorship for Jewish Women is an 8 - week journey of self love, radical possibility, and strategy that supports you in achieving your dreams!
Learn more at: Journeys — Love. Adventure. Mom.

About Our Guest:
Jackie Hyman creates safe spaces for women and teen girls to step in their full power, through self defense and fitness. She is a mother of three, brown belt in Kung Fu, senior Empowerment Self Defense instructor, co-founder and CEO of her own venture Queenrise Power Training, spreader of spiritual teachings about the Divine Feminine. Her flagship program Own Your Throne teaches women a method of self defense and empowerment that is rooted in self love and self trust.

Show Notes:
6:10: What made Jackie get into this type of work
“It was a certification, to be able to teach their method of self defense, which is called empowerment self defense, specifically geared towards women and girls, created by women for women and girls, so I didn't know what it was when I started it, but it blew my mind.” 

8:00: Jackie’s definition of Empowerment Self-Defense

9:10: Choices regarding using self defense /The 5 main pillars
“It's really about boundaries. And so it's about what is okay with me and what's not okay with me, and I get to decide that. And I have tools for when it's not okay with me.” 

14:20: Empath of Self Defense in other areas of one’s life
“That feeling can impact all areas of your life: in your standards for how people treat you, your standards for your life, the way you speak to your boss, the way you can just transform your relationships -- especially your relationship to yourself"

16:00: How Self Defense shows up in teenagers and how to equip your teen
“So while it's really scary to give your teen choices, and more freedom and more autonomy, I feel like it's really so important for them to already start practicing those things, because very soon, they're going to be autonomous women.”  

18:30: Advice to parents on working with their kids to develop a healthy development with themselves and their bodies
18:40 - 3 year olds
19:40 - 5-9 year olds
21:25 -12+ years old

22:40: Any care of the self is self defense
“I know we all really want our daughters to learn self defense, so important. But if you're feeling called to this as a woman, give it to yourself first.” 

Free Gift:
Jackie is offering you her 15 minute teen safety toolkit. Click here 

Connect with Jackie:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queenrisepower/
Insta: @queenrisepower

Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Jackie Hyman
Editor: Matthew Feiler

This week, Jodi speaks with Dr. Miriam Knoll. Dr. Miriam Knoll is a Physician and a Radiation Oncologist; she helps people who are battling cancer. In the episode, she talks about the “Work-life Balance and Mom Guilt.”  Whether you are working Mom, a stay at home mom, or a mama with a lot on your plate, this episode is for you!

About Our Guest:
Dr Miriam A. Knoll, MD, DABR is a board-certified radiation oncologist at Advanced Radiation Oncology Serves at Montefiore Nyack Hospital in New York. She serves as President of the Jewish Orthodox Women's Medical Association (JOWMA). Dr Knoll received her medical degree at New York University School of Medicine and completed her radiation oncology training at Mount Sinai Medical Center in NY. 

Dr. Knoll is a Forbes Healthcare contributor and writes for the American Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO) Connection and numerous other media outlets. She serves as an Associate Senior Editor of the American Society of Radiation Oncology (ASTRO)'s peer-reviewed journal, Advances in Radiation Oncology.

Show Notes:
4:31 Stepping Into Oncology
“… it fascinated me and I think this is so important, sometimes I’ll meet people who are doing things and I say how can you do that and the answer is because you love it, because it’s fascinating, because you enjoy it…”

8:21 Studying medicine and being a mom

9:35 Mimi’s perspective on Work-Life Integration
“We have intense pressure to do things, and yes there are societal norms, there are expectations, there are responsibilities… Those are all real, but they're also all in your head and it’s your decision of wanting to do something, not having to do something.”

14:23 Reframing the “have to” to “get to”
“… the fact that I was able to finish my training and finish school […] I have a lot of gratitude for that because, yes it was really really hard, but not everyone gets the opportunity to do it…”

17:25 Managing being a busy woman, mother and wife
“It’s about planning the things that you have to do with a reasonable amount of time that it takes to do…”

22:15 Being Conscious when Needing Help
“If you’re working, you need more help than the hours that you are working. You can’t just have help for the hours that you are missing […] you need help for the time that you are home too.”

24:22 Mom Guilt
“Sometimes it’s worry, sometimes it’s sadness, sometimes it’s jealousy. It’s not always guilt, Guilt implies you did something wrong…”

Connect with Miriam at:
Instagram: @Dr.Mimi.K
Twitter: @MKnoll_MD

Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Miriam Knoll
Editor: Orlando Diaz

Passover is a holiday to celebrate freedom. That is why in this episode Jodi talks about how freedom is present in our lives, how can we take advantage from all the freedom we have and not be afraid of all the possibilities and choices that this freedom comes with. Jodi will tell you how she sees freedom and some tips on how to overcome the fear of freedom to do, feel and think what you want, putting away all the stress or fear that does not let you be free.

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Connect with Jodi:
http://loveadventuremom.com/

Email Jodi at:
[email protected]

Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Editor: Orlando Diaz

There are many ways to improve you and your child’s immune system and keep it in balance. Today, Jodi speaks with Laureen Wallravin, a practicing nutritional therapy practitioner. From helping people nourish their bodies and souls, to working with children and caregivers affected by the opioid crisis and through raising her own grandchildren, Laureen gives tips that you can add to your own ‘parenting first aid kit.’ These tips are relevant for both you and your kids!

Are you a mom with a dream? Maybe that dream is to be present with your children when they come home from school each day...Or maybe it's to start a business, write a book, run a marathon, or just plain get in shape! If you have a dream, and want to gain some traction in a supportive community with a ton of accountability, Journey's is for you! Journeys Mentorship for Jewish Women is an 8 - week journey of self love, radical possibility, and strategy that supports you in achieving your dreams!
Learn more at: Journeys — Love. Adventure. Mom.

About Our Guest:
Laureen Wallravin is a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner specializing in functional nutrition. She is passionate about educating parents and caregivers about the importance of early nutrition intervention and the life-changing benefits it can have for a growing child. Her program Nourishing the Children of the Opioid Crisis focuses on how to optimize children's health through nutrition and lifestyle while also helping to support the grown-ups raising children so that they can be their most vital and keep up with their kiddos!

Show Notes:
5:50: Gut health
“70% of your immune system is in your gut” 

15:40: Digestion and food breakdown
“You're just letting the body, smell, and letting the senses, see the food in front of us, because that's when the digestive juices start happening.” 

“There are no races at the dinner table; no one's gonna be a winner in this race cause we are all gonna end up with a tummy ache.”

16:45: Fermented and Probiotics food (i.e. Yogurt, Sauerkraut, Kombucha)
“Usually when fat has been taken out of a product of a food, they've added some sort of sugar” 

18:40: Importance of veggies
“If you have a really hard time with your kids and vegetables. I'm not opposed to doing something like a green powder” 

21:10: Fruit and veggies Juices
“Every once in a while, you know my kids will get a lemonade, but I always ask whatever restaurant we're at: ‘can you please dilute that with half water.’ ”

22:25: Routines and sleep time
“But we really want to make sure they're getting their sleep because that's when our body heals, and that's when it grows; antibodies are boosted”

Connect with Laureen at:
Her website, Facebook, and YouTube

Laureen's Free Gift, Freebie: 10 Ways to Boost Your Child's Immune System:
https://www.dropbox.com/s/63s7vl81hs274ib/RF-Boost-Immunity-v2.pdf?dl=0

Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Laureen Wallravin
Editor: Matthew Feiler

Adina Soclof, a mom of four, Speech Therapist, author, and parenting expert guides us on how to prepare your kids for life. This is a loaded question, and Adina breaks it down simply. You will come away from this interview with the tools you need to help foster a solution-oriented outlook and approach in your home.

Show Notes:

3:10 How do we prepare kids for life?
"For me it was really important that my kids felt capable..."

5:12 Creating a healthy environment for children's emotions
"Teaching need to be done not in the heat of the moment"

7:22 Praising kids
"You don't want to use superlatives [...] you really want to give praise that is more descriptive"

9:38 Creating a family mission statement

10:33 Having a goal in mind as a parent
"We can't stop the temper tantrums [...] so we have to change the goal to teaching kids calming strategies"

12:30 Resources to handle a temper tantrum
"The most important part of a temper tantrum is seeing how they calm down"

Connect with Adina:
Website: https://parentingsimply.com/

Book on Amazon, Parenting Simply: Preparing Kids for Life.
Make sure to download Adina's FREE gift, Raising Resilient Responsible Kids

Are you a mom with a dream? Maybe that dream is to be present with your children when they come home from school each day...Or maybe it's to start a business, write a book, run a marathon, or just plain get in shape! If you have a dream, and want to gain some traction in a supportive community with a ton of accountability, Journey's is for you! Journeys Mentorship for Jewish Women is an 8 - week journey of self love, radical possibility, and strategy that supports you in achieving your dreams! Learn more here Journeys — Love. Adventure. Mom.

Here at Love.Adventure.Mom, we are always growing and doing our best to serve our clients.  You can help us immensely by taking 5 minutes to fill out the To (Mom) Life podcast survey. The information that we receive in this survey will allow us to continue to offer relevant episodes for you and the other mamas out there https://forms.gle/kNTFVYi6s14fSyHW7

Show Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Adina Soclof
Editor: Orlando Diaz

Stepping into motherhood often can be really challenging and sometimes we might want some help to know what to do and how to do it. Our guest, Avie Herman, is a Certified Postpartum & Infant Care Doula, Babywearing Consultant and Infant Feeding Specialist. She's the mother of 2 kids and lives in Toronto. "Why I really do this work is supporting Mothers"

Learn about Jodi's upcoming Journeys Program here:
Journeys — Love. Adventure. Mom.

Show Notes:
4:10 What does it mean to be a Postpartum Doula?
"I really view my role there to help support the entire family..."

5:46 How Avie started being a Doula
"I really wanted to walk alongside parents on their journey"

7:22 How long does Postpartum Doulas work with a family?
"...Is not really up to me to decide when postpartum ends for a family..." 

8:42 When to start thinking about hiring a postpartum doula as a parent?

9:33 What does the term Doula Means?
"Basically a Doula provides educational, emotional and physical support..."

12:57 How frequently does Doulas work with the family?
"... So you decide how many hours you want and then you figure out how you are going to configure it."

14:58 Night Feeding with Doulas

15:27 Difference Between a Doula and a Baby Nurse
"...I think of Postpartum Doulas as a little bit more holistic"

17:50 Who needs a Postpartum Doula?
"A lot of professionals [...] who you know want that extra care and support..."

19:25 Life as a mom with a Doula
"...I felt like she walked in and I instantly [...] felt so much calmer immediately..."

21:01 Biggest Challenges Doulas can help with
"...the intensity of transitioning to motherhood..."

21:25 "Prioritize yourself"

Here at Love.Adventure.Mom, we are always growing and doing our best to serve our clients.  You can help us immensely by taking 5 minutes to fill out the To (Mom) Life podcast survey. The information that we receive in this survey will allow us to continue to offer relevant episodes for you and the other mamas out there https://forms.gle/kNTFVYi6s14fSyHW7

Show Credits:
Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Avie Herman
Editor: Orlando Diaz